Due in August Thread - Part 3

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Part 2 was getting full so take a biscuit from my trolley, have a cuppa and put your feet up!

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My brothers flat is for sale....

Scottish I'm reading up a wee bit on hypnobirthing for this time round. Hadn't heard of it when I had DS.

Not sure if there's anywhere near where I live (Belfast) that would do a course, but I might see if the big libraries have books or CDs to borrow.

Basically last time I just prayed, prayed, and prayed some more! Some people scream and shout in labour, but when I'm in any pain I sort of turn in on myself and get quiet, IYSWIM. That's the way I was in labour, as well as being totally stoned off my face on gas & air which helped lots

I looked into hypnobirthing but it's very expensive and there is no one near me.

The yoga class I am doing is also Active Birthing, which is similar lines in the taking control bit...

I've got a hypnobirthing book a friend lent me and from reading it it would seem the methods are fairly similar and actually quite vague, I suppose so it applies to everyone. I've not read it all yet so just got to the breathing bit (will let you know what that's like once read) but up til now it's mostly been positive stories/history about normal intervention and drug free birth. Then it did talk about replacing medical/negative terms with neutral/positive ones like they call contractions surges etc. But for the actual what you do in labour bit it seems mostly to be a combination of correct breathing and muscle relaxation, similar to in hypnotherapy cds. A lot of it actually seems to be aimed at stopping you feeling stressed/ pre-empting a bad experience before you do labour. Would be good for someone who was specifically worried about it or had a previously bad experience.

All in all it seems a lot of it is stressing that being tense in labour is not going to help push a baby out, and the way to not be tense is not to expect it to be hard/painful, and to relax muscles and breathe in a relaxed way.

Friend lent me a cd too. She said she had been to a hypnobirthing session and it was not good, but the book/cd were useful. Mind you she had a rather rapid induction so don't know how much time she had to breathe in any specific way!!

My sister did some hypobirthing before she had her first DC and it was great she said. Mind, her labour was super fast, she needed no drugs/epidural and baby popped out, so there might be something to it. My sister also tiny so not necessarily an easy thing to start with, but she was grand. My best friend is also a hypobirthing teacher (in London) who does sessions. If anyone is interested, I can message you her details. Am biased, but she is amazing and does some great things. I don't know really how much she charges, but she can also do things oveer the phone too I think but best to check. I'm very open minded to lots of cds/relaxing techniques. When I was doing my IVF used a very good ipod app by Andrew Johnson a lot to relax, also Zita West.

And on that soothing note, am off for nice shower! Happy Wednesday all (am 19 weeks today hurrah). x

oh thanks all - from what i have heard so far you are right it is about helping you not stress and I think what I gather, is that it is helps you to go wtih your body to get the baby out - rather than turn up, and just give yourself over to the medics if you see what i mean - if you go with your own body - will be less stressful (honestly thought - havent read a bit about it yet so thats just what i picked up from friends) but they rave about it and dont have a bad word to say about labour.
mrs miggins - i would love your friends details - funny if it was same girl my friend had in london who she raves about. i am near glasgow and have googled and got the details of 2 nurses here who do it but havent contacted as yet...
yes, happy wednesday everyone - i have been awake since 415am (why does that happen? i cant even feel any kicking yet so not sure!!!) but have pregancy yoga to stay awake for tongiht - ill be asleep the whole class :)
xx

This morning before work DH was digging something out of the attic and I got him to bring down some boxes of 0-3 month clothes from when DS was a tote.

Soooo cute and soooo tiny! I can't believe my strapping toddler used to fit into those tiny clothes!

I am going to sort out what is neutral and put it in drawers and keep the 'boys' clothes in a box. I know August is a long way away, but I like looking at baby clothes, and I like being organised and knowing what I need and don't need bought.

Just thought I'd let you ladies know, am sure you are fascinated

msmilvo Sorry if this seems a bit presumptuous, but are you just advertising or are you due in August too?

Needlescutie, great minds think alike!
I have only got as far as browsing the site, but hypnobirthing does seem to be available in Belfast.

Needles faints and needs smelling salts<

woops thanks for that link, interesting. Almost died when I saw it costs £350, DH would have a fit if I suggested it. I suppose it's worth it to some people, but I really don't think we could justify shelling out that much for a course like that.

Will try to borrow a CD/book on the topic from Central library or see if I can find anything online.

To be honest, praying lots helped me last time and I actually wasn't that freaked out being in labour. A bit scared as I had a bad tear last time and my MW has been scaring me a bit telling me about possible complications that could happen this time. Will try to speak to the hospital consultant sometime around my 20 week scan-closer to my 34 week scan.

The hypnobirthing stuff looks intresting, I might take a look into that. Needles i'm encouraged by your comments about labour, too.

Thanks west, but I can't open the link - feel free to message me though. :)

I've been thinking about hypnobirthing as well. It never occured to me before but I have a friend who had a little boy last year who can't sing its praises highly enough.

It was her first baby and she was induced but her son was bright and alert and out after after 1hr 9min with only a few puffs on gas and air she also says that her baby is instantly calmed by the cd even now which is great at bed time! She also recommended babycentre.co.uk's hypnobirthing group.

I've had a look into it and there is a 12 session course near me that is £180 and includes the text book, rainbow relaxation CD, folder full of information etc and 3 more complimentary CDs.

It sounds great but money is so tight with moving and saving for the baby that I am not sure I can really justify nearly £200 on it. I mean, it may be lifechanging and make my birthing experience a really wonderful experience or it may make no difference!

A tough one!

Hi all,

Sc0ttish, have sent you a PM. See what you think.

Had a NIGHTMARE today with my MIL. Was meant to be meeting her for a nice lunch and ended up in tears, neither of us eating and generally all hideous. I think I've mentioned before that she can be difficult, but this was terrible. I've not yet spoken to DH (god knows what his reaction will be) but it ain't great. All basically to do with money and how she thinks we're not happy with our lot (we are). We're just very concious that we have a LO coming along and my job seems to be drying up. Agh. She's a very difficult person and I don't know what to do about it, but really don't need that kind of stress right now. And she ruined my lunch. Hell really is other people. Apart from that, got home to find a cake sale on at school, so not all bad .

MrsMiggins I completely sympathesize!
My MIL is very difficult too but luckily my DH has stood by me and not taken her side and we ended up not seeing them for months - after trying to repair the relationship, we're now on better terms and I don't get to hear her opinions anymore! Phew as it was on a different planet :)

Just have half a cake slice and feeling a nice sugary buzz

Ooops, typo! I had half a slice of cake! yum

mrs miggins thanks for the mail - i definately want to look into the hypno birthing - i too also heard that thing about the cds being soothing for baby afterwards too whcih may be handy!
sorry to hear about your MIL - thats awful - dont think your DH will be best pleased with her! isnt money such a horrid subject + the cause of so many problems!

im missing yoga tongiht as just too tired and off to bed shortly!

xx

Hi all! V interesting reading all your hypno birth info, definitely going to look into it. How are people finding pregnancy yoga? I start tomorrow and v looking forward to it- done normal yoga before and loved it so hoping this will be as relaxing.

Feeling a bit more settled in the new house now though so wish we could buy rather than rent, as there's loads I'd do to the place. Still it's got the room we need....started window shopping for prams etc which is exciting and got a few bits at NCT nearly new sale at weekend- great bargains but a bit of a scramble to get stuff!!!

Excitingly think I'm starting to feel baby now- had lots if 'flutters' now and then which a friend says sounds like baby, so cool! Cannot wait for 20 week scan a week Friday, really want to see the little bean again!

Anyway have a lovely evening all, I'm sadly excited about the start of the apprentice!

G xx 18+5

Thanks all for nice thoughts. Hda few more tears on phone with my Mum who was appalled and DH was v cross. Eeeek, not sure what the repercussions of this will be.

However, I've just got back in fro the school play of Oklahoma. Nothing more cheery than a bunch of ten year olds trying not to giggle and put on American accents. Brilliant evening and now off for bubble bath with my new posh lavender stuff. Hurrah. Night all, and thanks for sypathy

mrsm sorry your mil is a 'mare. But really pleased you heard the heartbeat

So news this end: can no longer see my feet when standing upright and looking down, gp said there were white blood cells in my urine, someone at work said 'oh didn't realise you were pg just thought you were putting on weight' grrrr !!!

Have also concluded am a terrible patent as in 3 days dd (16 mo) has managed to burn her hand and fall over on her face and cut her lip

poppy I feel your pain! We're thinking of renting our two bed out and renting a three bed for a few years before hitting the 'burbs. Looked up a few three bed flats / houses on our street and they're £650 k + which is waaaaaay out of our budget

Hope your bath was nice MrsM, what an awful lunch for you! :(

House prices in London are crazy Angel, which is why we need to move. The flat above us (on two floors) in central london sold last year for 935k [shocked] [shocked], that is ridiculous! I'm hoping our mortgage will be much less than the extortionate amount of rent we're paying atm. hey ho.

Is everyone ticking over nicely at the moment?

Hope those with sickness are starting to feel better now?

I can still see my toes, but I think as baby is lying across me my bump is a funny shape. And some days it's bigger than others.

Who has the next scan? (am excited on your behalf! :))

I feel in a bit of limbo, as no MW appt until mid May. I'm not sure what to expect between now and then. Off for a and a .

I clearly need to work on my smilies -

Hello all,

Am passing on some spring love to you. Flowers are flowering, sun is super sunny, lambs are baa-ing. tis beautiful here today and I don't give a toss about my insane MIL! Spoke to my DM and DDad last night and today who gave some good advice. So feel very zen about it all and letting it wash over me. The way I see it, she's not worth stressing about.

BTW, Arran Aromatics Lavender bubble bath is lovely. Am off to London on Sat with DH for niece's christening and I can't bloody wait. I still miss London a lot, but love it in t'countryside too, especially today when it can't be beaten. Spending a few day there afterwards and plan to do some nice baby shopping, see some friends and generally chill a bit.

Hope everyone is well today; I get my anomaly scan in a week and am so excited! Will be stunned if DH is right and the baby is a girl! Have a good afternoon, x

Sorry about your mil mrsmiggins. Mine ils are a bit of a horror too and to really make it worse, sil is thinking of putting an offer in on the house next door to us :( It would just be awful and has really put me in a mood all week.
On a lighter note, I also have my scan a week today and have the whole week off work next week :)

I have had the most awful sciatica today - Surely at 19+5 it's too early for these complaints??? It could have something to do with waitressing though I suppose.

Right, off to finish the dinner. Think I have earnt a nice long bubble bath myself later :)

Hi all

Ugh I'm sorry your MIL is like that miggins but glad you are feeling better about it. Sorry if this is too personal but when did you move to Scotland, or move back... or something? :) I used to live quite far down south lanarkshire (where I grew up) so I'm totally envying your description of countryside love... sigh...

Oh god much sympathy vino (or is it empathy? whichever one is the one where you haven't gone through it yourself but feel bad) on in-laws next door. Luckily (after a bumpy start) I get on okay with my MIL who tends now to keep her nose out unless asked, but still couldn't imgaine them living near us, let alone next door!

I'm really keen on moving but have decided to take back the flat, so to speak. It's been awfully communist feeling since we got it ready for viewings and feels so sparse and clinical. I decided today to plant up some violas and pansies for the window ledges and being out in the sun and fresh air has made me come over all happy and rested :D Feels like I'm doing good for baby too, unlike rushing about scotland on megabuses (ughhh) or spending all day in rooms with no windows!

Also for all who have cats... here is a wee tip I just discovered and it is very good. Basically I saw this rubber cat hair removal thing in pets at home, was expensive so didn't buy but it was like a rubber ended window squeegee. So I took our one at home to the carpet and sofa covers etc and it really was good at lifting the hair. You have to put your back into it a bit but hey good exercise and actually takes the hair away unlike hoovering.

My scan is on Monday yaaaay! No sex-finding-out but will be brilliant to see the wee girl/guy that is kicking me already feel really attached to this wee person ... so soppy.

(19+4)