September 2012 anyone?

[ViolaCrayola]

Is there anyone around who has just found out that they are pregnant and are due in Sept?
I know it's very early days but I thought maybe I could get the ball rolling...
I'm due around Sept 4th I think, with DC2, feeling very happy if a bit nervous :)

Spuddy, your h has serious issues wrt his fetish as you put it. It sounds like sex addiction to me whereby he cannot get past the fantasies.

I definitely think you should also post in Relationship board as well because there are some seriously wise people on there.

I'm really sorry you feel so alone and that he is being a total twat in general. He does sound detached and that really needs to be addresses before your baby arrives.

I wish you lots of luck and strength.

Any day filled with waves of nausea. It's tedious. I had forgotten how hard the first tri can be and with 3 other dcs - I am gritting my teeth!

Thank you all, I hope you are doing well and coping with all the stresses - i honestly don't know how people deal with pregnancies and another child, let alone 3 winky

DP seems to have calmed down a bit. He is not usually like this about his fetishes - as i said it is something we incorporate and i am fine with. But when he gets stressed he does retreat to something, albeit fetishes, work, other hobbies etc and he has a tendency to fixate. He was looking at his book in front of me because he knows i am fine with the concept - just sometimes the timing can be less than sensitive!

He has been spoiled with housework and now he is expected to do stuff and i think he is kicking against it. We had more of a calm talk and told him he needed to do better. I taught him how to make scrambled egg for me and he is now washing up and cleaning the kitchen.

He does have these blips occasionally tho.

Sorry to hear about that scare iph def need to stay as relaxed as possible.

Well done with the training for snack making spuddy sounds like its about time!

We've decamped to my parents house today so that they can play with dd and we can sleep, luckily that's win-win! I have had headaches the last couple of days, dd has only just recovered from week long gastric bug and is celebrating it seems by being awake all the time.

spuddy you obviously understand him despite the fact you shouldn't have to point out the bleedin obvious all the time! I hope all the comments on here are helping you deal with things.

iph it sounds like you're getting back to normal and you're doing the right thing taking it easy, nice chilled out wkend

Is anyone else eating constantly? I've read that small and often is good for ms but I don't think I've got proper ms yet, just slightly queasy now and again so don't know if I'm just imagining it and using it as an excuse to give in to scoffing every hour!

Just had my mum and dad round for a cuppa (and cake of course, any excuse) with my 1yr old niece, first grandchild. We're telling them on my dad's bday on Thursday they'll hopefully have a second in 7&half months, can't wait to see their faces!

Hope everyone having a good wkend xx

any advice on tests, am 41 and really nervous

Well, for all those feeling queasy, I've just tried this - much cheaper in Asda! - and it appears to have given me some relief. Long may it last!

kellzi when I got my appointment with midwife confirmed in post, they sent me 2 booklets all about the tests, they're really good, one's a general nhs one so hopefully you'll get that. Explains all the different tests and your options. There's info here www.nhs.uk/Planners/pregnancycareplanner/Pages/Antenatalhome.aspx
I'm 37 next month and also concerned but think all you can do is find out as much info so you know what to expect/what your choices are for further tests.

thank you dorita x

Sorry to hear people having a rough time of it.

Went to tell my dad today (and tend the grave).
Not having him here is beginning to hurt more acutely now (kind of like how it hurt when I first lost him - not that long ago)
Popped in on bf parents before getting on the train back and realised that 'the baby' will only have his family. And will never get to meet my dad. Got teary on the train back. Poor woman opposite kept looking at me, looking like she wanted to say something.
BF is back at uni, revising and so I'm back home - not being able to talk all this though with him.
Apart from tender boobs and feeling hungry all the time, I still don't feel pregnant.

Updated list (hopefully with everyone on it)

AmandinePoulain EDD 01/09/12
TalithaG EDD 01/09/12
Suzet79 EDD 01/09/12
Bakeroo EDD 01/09/12
Rightontime 25 DC3 EDD 01/09/12 Oxfordshire
Caitycat EDD 01/09/12
Kellzi EDD 01/09/12
Pearshaped EDD 01/09/12
Loup23 32 DC1 EDD 01/09/12 Hampshire
Rusulka 30 DC1 EDD 02/09/12 Dartford?
Trillian79 EDD 02/09/12
Spuddybean EDD 02/09/12
Malymoo EDD 02/09/12
Signet2012 EDD 02/09/12
Ninamu EDD 02/09/12
Davidsmom EDD 03/09/12?
Hotcupofteaplease 30 DC2 EDD 03/09/12 Liverpool Womens Hospital
Loooopy EDD 03/09/12
Poppyjen EDD 03/09/12
Fatsamsgrandslam EDD 03/09/12
Saxony EDD 03-04/09/12
ViolaCrayola EDD 04/09/12
MillontheFloss EDD 04/09/2012
Slartibartfast0 EDD 04/09/12
Dorita75 36 (37 next month) EDD 04/09/12
Iph EDD 06/09/12
Ponyclubmum EDD 06/09/12
Whatevertheweather EDD 06/09/12
PGreen 35 EDD 06-07/09/12
Mummyfirsttime EDD 05-07/09/12
SweetBabyJebus 31 DC3 EDD 07/09/2012 possibly Darent Valley
MrsHerculePoirot EDD 07/09/12
Sketti EDD 07/09/12
Atlastadragon EDD 07/09/12
EthelredOnAGoodDay 33 DC2 EDD 08/09/12 York
Choedron EDD 08/09/12
Plumsieinaonesie 34 DC4 EDD 08/09/12 Wiltshire
Winkywinkola 40, EDD 09/09/12, Hertfordshire, home birth
Wintermymble DC1 EDD 09/09/12 Scotland
Alienontheisland EDD 09/09/12
Loopyhasanotherbean 35 DC2 EDD 3/9/12 poss (10/9/12) Hinchingbrook
Cosykins EDD 10/09/12
CustardL EDD 10/09/12
EastBeast EDD 10/09/12
TinkerMaloo 35 DC3 EDD 10/09/12 Basingstoke
AhsokaTano EDD 12/09/12
Macaroons 31 DC1 EDD 5-13/9 somewhere in London
Waitingforstork EDD 13/09/12
flipflopper EDD 13/09/12
Fruitloop EDD 14/09/12
Jakeyesqwellthisisnew 22 DC1 EDD 15/09/12
MediumOrchid EDD 16/09/12
Littlecherublegs DC1 EDD 17/09/12
TheDetective 27 DC2 EDD 17/09/12 Home birth, Wigan
MadMonkeys DC2 EDD 17/09/12
Lurkingmurking DC2 EDD 18/09/12
ahhhhhpushit (27) DC2 EDD 19/09/12
Methe DC3 EDD 19/9/12

Hi Kellzi,

I am 42 so your not old to me

I am unexpectedly pregnant with my 3rd DC and had the first 2 at 38 and 39 so had some "testing" with mine including Nuchal scans and with my last an amnio.

Is that the type of testing you mean?

I would like to consider invasive tests again this time but am not so sure about them now I have actually seen the little jellybean and its heartbeat (early scan)

Hi Jakey,

I still dont feel pregnant apart from the sore boobs and hunger. Didnt know I was pregnant with my first DC til at least 7 weeks though as periods bit erratic and thought my sore boobs was AF on its way. So keep reminding myself that I didnt have symptoms until at least then with previous DC's.

Keep prodding my boobs in the mornings to reassure myself!

Hi all, sorry to read about ongoing concerns IPH, hope it is all ok.

Welcome to Kellzi

And hope things get better over the next few days spuddy. I know this isn't the relationship thread so won't bore you all with woes of that but I've had an awful week with "D"H which has culminated in a huge row last night, most of today and afternoon apart and a lot of tears on my part - I'm no worrying that at 7+1 (or 7+4 from LMP) that the "stress" might effect the baby - I know I should calm down etc but does anyone have experience of this, have you had major stresses but gone off to have a healthy baby.... the stress of worrying is making it worse....

Hope everyone is having good weekends x

Hi All, hope the sickness and sore boobs are subsiding - my boobs are so sore at the moment i cant sleep on my front which is driving me mad as i usually do roll over and settle like that.

Thank you for all the support. I didn't realise i wasn't supposed to talk about relationships on a pregnancy thread so apologies for going on. (i forget about separate threads for separate subjects - i tend to just treat it like rl and let the conversation go wherever it takes me - so sorry about that).

Anyway things are much better and have settled down with DP. He has just taken me out for pizza and cinema followed by a goey chocolate and banana crepe. mmmm

loup sorry to hear you have had troubles with your DH - i hope you manage to sort it out.

jakey i'm sorry about your dad - i hope you have some lovely memories to share with your dc about their grandfather.

Have a nice weekend everyone. :)

Have spotted today, just a bit on loo roll and not enough to fill a sanitary pad. Also had period-like cramps. No MS today but have been quite hungry and still have sore boobs. Doctors appointment Tuesday. Please tell me this is normal and I've not mc'd this is my first pregnancy.

Loup23 I'm sorry you're having such a stressful time. Don't know if this is helpful but my mom had a lot of stress (dad is an emotional abuser/controlling) and both me and sis were healthy babies. I weighed 9lbs! She did have trouble producing milk though which she believes was down to stress. But main point is we were okay.

spuddybean these threads are for talking about whatever you want to talk about. Our old antenatal one still exists, even though they are all 14 months old now, and we talk about anything that is going on in our lives, what we've bought lately for our DC's, what we've watched on tv, and over xmas there was a lot of talk about kitchenaid stuff (crazily expensive kitchen gadgets that were on the great british bake off and heaps of other shows lately!)

i hope things stay happier between you and your DP.

And loup23 ditto for you and your DH.

And missuswife hope its just normal pregnancy spotting. if you are in any doubt, you could always contact your hospital, they should have an early pregnancy unit?

(and having led a sheltered life, am still wondering what sort of fetish Spuddybean 's DP has )

Well, I'm still here which us good and have v sore boobs and a sniffly cold as far as symptoms go so I'm feeling positive that this one won't end in a MMC.

I saw the doc on Friday and put myself on the midwife's list so I'll probably see her in 4 weeks or so.

I'm wondering if any of you have told your work that you're pregnant yet ? I ideally wouldn't until 12 weeks and after the first scan but the doc advised me to see occupational health at work ASAP as I am exposed to xray on a reg basis (albeit wearing lead). I think I may book a private scan at 7 or 8 weeks to check everything is normal then speak to my manager. I'm 5+4 today so it's only really a couple of weeks.

Hope all is well for everyone else.

Loup23 sorry to hear about problems with your so. When u was pregnant before it was such a time of adjustment for us. We had also recently moved, so were doing up house, dh was in a stressful all hours job, I changed jobs and mine was quite stressful too, I also had a 20 mile comute. We had several fairly major, horrid fights during pg and because of how he was behaving I even considered not wanting to bring dc up in his negativity, and thought through my options of taking us away from him. Luckily we did have some good people around us supporting both of us, and I really valued (and still do) time with my friends. I just made a decision to not have to put up with him, so I would just let him strop off or walk away if he raised bus voice, and told him that his behaviour wasn't acceptable.

Gradually he has changed. He had a course or counselling this year to deal with some of his issues (from childhood etc) and as a result he has more tools to deal with things. Which he needed cue enter a demanding newborn. So basically my pg was quite a hard time, however getting a few things sorted then has been the making or us as a family, arguemnnts now end quickly and don't get raised most of the time. Also despite stress dd is a really calm baby on general and most of the time lives in a peacful house. She is a really secure baby despite us :)

Thank you for your advice three loopy and missus, I am feeling less stressed today and hoping it stays that way - because I was in such a state yesterday I only managed a piece of toast all day and woke up at 445 this morning absolutely starving, so really need to focus on the bean and hopefully the other stuff will sort itself out!

spuddy glad P is making amends, long may it continue.

Sorry to hear about the spotting missus hopefully it is nothing sinister, you will see on this thread there are a couple of ladies who have had bleeding but it has turned out ok - hope the dr can refer you on Tuesday.

Ashoka i haven't told my work yet and don't want to tell them until the last moment as I am in a v male dominated city firm where the mention of pg means you are immediately invisible! BUT there are no health issues for me, if there are for you then I would perhaps think about mentioning it.

Waves to everyone else and hopes you are enjoying the weekend, Monday tomorrow..... are there scans coming up this week for anyone? x

Loup i think you must concentrate on the little blueberry (according to my book that is the size of it at 7 weeks) and try to get some healthy food and rest for both of you.

three i'm so glad it worked out for you - it seems sometimes things have to hit a nadir to start getting better.

I woke at about 6am starving and DP went and got me some toast and mango juice which was nice and i then slept till 11. I am pulling 12/14 hour sleeping shifts and still waking tired!

missus I hope the spotting is just the normal pregnancy terrifying stuff, i know it's really common. I've had no spotting but lots of cramping.

I am off to the stroke clinic tomo for tests and i think after that i will tell work i'm pregnant. I wouldn't normally till 12 weeks, but i have just been so ill i think they should know.

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend.

Hi davidsmom, those are the tests, I had my other children so young, they did not even feature. Is it a blood test and scan that gives you your odds, and only if they are bad a amnio or cvs?

Yup, it seems I will be Sept 2012 too. I don't have periods so have NO idea what due date it is!! Just did a test today; excited but scared!!!

Congratulations holls2000, welcome to the thread. Is it your first pg?

Have been with my parents thus weekend, haven't told them. Using dd's.recent illness as an excuse for why am feeling so wiped out! Dh is getting impatient about not being able to share it. He feels that its lying not to tell anyone who asks him how he's doing that we're expecting, hmmn. Aparently he gets asked 'all the time' I just feel that more people should mind their own bloody buisness until advised otherwise!.I mean we didn't even mention to anyone that we were thinking about trying!

Hi everyone,
I've been following this thread for a couple of weeks now and have decided to join. New to mumsnet too so if I make any mistakes, please correct me! I'm also due 2nd September. I already have a DS who is 11 so with the age gap this feels like the first time around again! Its been so reassuring to hear that lots of you are feeling similar emotions to me...constantly touching breasts etc to check that they are still sore!