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For mums 2 be after M/C ... PART 5!

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hewlettsdaughter · 10/11/2003 21:36

Hi there. I was just wondering how everyone is - Ghosty, Hilary, Bogwoppit and anybody else who is pregnant after a previous miscarriage. There seems to have been a lot of sad news re pregnancies on mumsnet recently. On the one hand, I feel like I don't want to parade being pregnant in front of those who have had an m/c - on the other hand, we need to show that there are some positive stories out there!
I am 16 weeks tomorrow. Feeling ok, over the nausea I felt from about week 7 to week 12 or 13.

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Tex111 · 06/07/2004 19:59

Canadianmom, I can't imagine how you must be feeling now but I'm glad that you were able to see your babies and say goodbye properly. It's wonderful that you're able to talk about it, which I'm sure will help the healing process, and you sound as if you are coping well. I'm thinking of you and hoping that you get all the love and support you need right now. You've been so incredibly brave.

Quackers · 07/07/2004 00:13

Just wanted to say I thought the way you described what has happened touched me and I just wanted to wish you a speedy recovery physically. Hope you manage to post as we've all had some great support for our losses on here and it really does help. I knew I could just log on and there would be a freindly and understanding ear here all the time {{{{{}}}}}

hana · 07/07/2004 18:58

Canadianmom, I can only echo what everyone else has said. If something so awful can also be dignified, that's something to hold onto.
love hana

JonahB · 17/07/2004 18:56

Can I join into this group? I was on the "due in feb 05" thread. I went for my 10 week scan yesterday, and very sadly, the foetus had died at 7 1/2 weeks. I had actually had a scan the week before as I was worried about some bleeding, but the scan had shown a healthy heartbeat, so I thought everything was okay. They gave me a D&C the same day, at my request.

At the moment, feeling very low and crying a lot. It's a great comfort to read about everyone else's story on this thread, and that there are others in my position. None of my friends have had a m/s, so that other than my wonderful DH, who is a rock of support, I've got no one else really to talk to about it. I'm so scared about trying again, in case I have another missed miscarriage. They told me I could try straight after my next period, but i'm terrified of a repeat of this. Is this normal? Sorry to rant at you all. It's probably all you need, but it does seem to be slightly helping....

JonahB · 17/07/2004 18:57

Sorry, should have put this on my first message.

Canadianmom, my heart is going out to you at the moment.....I'm so sorry to read your news.

bunny2 · 17/07/2004 20:59

JonahB, so sorry to hear your news. Unfortunately the only people who really understand are those that have miscarried too. I waited for 6 months after my 1st miscarriage before I was ready to try again, after my second m/c I waited 3 months as I was aware of time passing by. I think it is important to wait until you feel ready, whether it is weeks or months, whatever is right for you.

Re a m/c happening again, yes it does mar every subsequent pregnancy but statistically you are pretty unlikely to suffer 2 in a row. I was one of the unlucky ones, I think it is aroud 3% of women will have 2 miscarriages whereas around 25% will have one. So the odds are stacked in your favour, it probably wont happen again.

Keep offloading here, I did and it really helped.

Canadianmom · 17/07/2004 21:07

JonahB I am sorry that you have to join this thread... As Hana and Bunny pointed out to me, any ranting and all questions are very welcome here. That's what mumsnet is for (and why we have all rely on each others' experience). You must be heartbroken and it is completely natural to feel afraid of trying again. Was this your first pregnancy? How are you feeling physically? Please feel free to post as much or as little as you find helpful.

Canadianmom · 17/07/2004 21:08

Sorry...Too hard to proof-read with eyes full of tears. I am so sorry for your loss.

Canadianmom · 17/07/2004 21:12

Bunny, you are AMAZING! Somehow you always manage to post shortly after someone really needs support and you manage to say the right things. How do you do it?
Thanks.
P.S. I am alway checking the Due in Dec thread and feel so happy that you and Hana are still expecting and hanging in there. You are both very brave and compassionate.

gothicmama · 17/07/2004 21:16

Jonah B so sorry I find having a private memory service in my head helped I had multiple mc's before my dd and you must allow yourself time to cope in the best way for you although it hurts and you may be the only person who can truely understand how you feel., take the time you need and again so sorry and hugs

hana · 19/07/2004 08:20

JonahB, so sorry to hear about losing your baby. It's so devestating and with no one else around who has experienced a m/c, even harder. I too was the only one I knew who had had a m/c a few years ago. I didn't know about this webiste then, I certainly wish I had of. I waited 3 months after my first m/c (became pregnant 3 months later) and have a nearly 3 year old dd. After my next loss we started trying right away (after 1 cycle) and it was about the same length of time again when I became pregnant. I did have another m/c and waited a little longer to start trying, it was just too hard. I am pregnant again now - nearly 18 weeks - and I still can't quite believe it. You begin to think you'll never be pregnant again let alone make it past 12 weeks. I wish you all the luck in the world -you'll know when you are ready to start trying again, and when you do, we'll all be here to help you get through it all.
Look after yourself right now and we're here NOW too......
hana
x

Canadianmom, how are you doing? Is your memorial service tomorrow? I hope it's lovely and not too difficult for everyone
x

bunny2 · 19/07/2004 17:05

Canadianmom, thanks for your lovely words. How are you? I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.

JonahB · 24/07/2004 10:00

Bunny2, Hana and Canadian Mom, thank you so much for your suppport. It's really comforting to know that other people understand, and also that 2 of you are due in Dec. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you both.
This was my 1st pregnancy. Physically, i'm not too bad. Getting the odd period pain symptom,and still bleeding, but my dr and hosp tell me that's normal for the 1st 2 weeks.
My DH are of on holiday to Venice tomorrow for a week. We are both looking forward to it so much - a well needed break for both of us. Hope you all have a good week.

bunny2 · 24/07/2004 21:36

Jonah, have a wonderful break, I loved Venice, it is a beautiful place. We'll still be here when you get back.

Quackers · 28/07/2004 08:40

Thought I'd bump up this thread and say hello!
Hope you are all doing well and enjoying your pgcies!!!!
I'm 40 +1 today and now feeling every hour! I've got a well engaged head and lots of very strong BH's, so just waiting for the real start of labour! Last possible day will be next Thurs as I'll be induced then, which doesn;t bother me at all as DD was induced and it was fine and very short. Be nice if I had that again!
Take care all! xxxx

gingernut · 28/07/2004 09:01

Hi Quackers! (Haven't you had that baby yet????!). Not long to go now then. Hope everything goes well. I am nearly 23 weeks now - doesn't the time whizz past after a while.

I haven't been on here for ages so just wanted to say sorry to Jonah about your loss. Hope you had a good break and that you return feeling refreshed.

Canadianmom, I'm glad you had the opportunity to have a service for your twins. How are you getting on now?

I wish you both well with trying agan or whatever you decide to do. gingernut xx

bunny2 · 28/07/2004 18:56

Quacks, I logged on to look for your birth announcement! I am so excited for you. Bxxx

DelGirl · 11/08/2004 17:48

Hello, here i am again.

Well, I was going to leave it for a while but MN has got the better of me. Tested twice, couldn't wait for today and tested early on Monday and again today and both times have had a BFP . A bit nervous but laid back at the same time if that's possible. It hasn't quite sunk in yet. That's 5 cycles of IUI, 3 pg in a row, last 2 ended in m/c, 1st at 11 weeks and 2nd at 5, but NOT this one!!! Am due April 20th. 1st scan on September 6th.

bundle · 11/08/2004 17:51

delgirl, that's brilliant news, fingers crossed for you, x

DelGirl · 11/08/2004 18:03

Thanks Bundle

bundle · 11/08/2004 18:07

bunny2 · 11/08/2004 18:42

DelGirl, that is wondeful. I'll keep my fingers tighly crossed for you over the coming weeks. Congratulations.

DelGirl · 11/08/2004 19:01

Thanks Bunny2, how are things with you? I would read the thread but i'm just so tired that I'd fall asleep half way through . BTW have you seen the Dorset meet-up thread?

bunny2 · 12/08/2004 08:24

Hi DelGrl, I'm fine thanks and yes, I've left a message on the meetup thread. I am 25 wks now and time is flying by!

hana · 12/08/2004 13:57

fantastic news Delgirl!! YOu sound really really positive........I'll send some more your way! Best of luck for a healthy pregnancy!

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