For mums 2 be after M/C ... PART 5!

[hewlettsdaughter]

Hi there. I was just wondering how everyone is - Ghosty, Hilary, Bogwoppit and anybody else who is pregnant after a previous miscarriage. There seems to have been a lot of sad news re pregnancies on mumsnet recently. On the one hand, I feel like I don't want to parade being pregnant in front of those who have had an m/c - on the other hand, we need to show that there are some positive stories out there!
I am 16 weeks tomorrow. Feeling ok, over the nausea I felt from about week 7 to week 12 or 13.

bunny, have you managed to get hold of some of the calamine aqueous cream? I thought it was much better than the lotion. The best stuff we found was 4% calamine.

Hi gingernut, unfortunately ds wont let me put anything at all on his skin. He is really low, very uncomfortable and unhappy, poor thing. He is sleeping with me so I get no sleep at all with all his scratching and crying.

Bleeding again this is getting silly now. I cant keep rushing up to the EPU for a scan, think they are fed up with me. Ijust wish my body would be nice and stop this bleeding. Scan on Wednesday which I am dreading, I am going to ask the doctor to check for the nasal bone (cant see it on my other scan pics). If it is not there, something is wrong for certain. I wish this pregnancy was over one way or the other, it is relentlessly stressful.

Oh bunny2...I am so sorry to read that you are continuing to have trouble. You have already endured so much that it just doesn't seem reasonable. I really hope that your ds stops itching soon and that you have some peace about your unborn. Try and relax and take things one day at a time. (Yeah right! Like who do I think I am?!?!) Wish I could be more helpful.

Hi Canadiamom, I do feel a bit sorry for myself at the moment. Hopefully Wednesadays scan will put my mind at rest. How are you? And when is your scan?

bunny2
See due in Dec for the long version...I have NOT even heard from the midwives despite having been referred over 2 weeks ago... Life in the big city, I suppose!

Hi bunny...sorry you're feeling bad again. Hopefully you'll start to feel the baby move soon and then you'll have that reassurance. How is your ds? Good luck for the scan tomorrow. I was trying to see the nasal bone when we went, but I am hopeless at identifying things on ultrasound and anyway, the baby didn't want to play ball and was facing us most of the time.

I'm feeling really anxious and down. Test results might be back by Friday. In the meantime, I am lying awake at night feeling this little one wriggling and not being able to believe that I still might lose it. I was hoping to be able to tell lots of people our good news and now I feel I can't, despite the fact that everyone must be guessing because my belly is starting to stick out so much.

Hope everybody is well.

bunny2, sorry to hear you are having a stressful pregnancy, good luck with the scan tomorrow. On the cpox front, my ds has just had it and I found putting biarcarbonate of soda in his bath water (about 2-3 tablespooons) really helped with the itching and I also gave him piriton syrup which reduced the redness and eased his discomfort.

thanks bluestar . Ds has just had a long bath with bicarb in it so hopefully he will have a comfortable night (3 nights on the trot I've hardly slept).

gingernut, I wish I could reassure you that all will be ok, but if you are anything like me it'll fall on deaf ears anyway. Feeling the baby kicking must be wonderful, hope I get some kicks soon. It is highly unlikely that you will lose a baby so late on, we are both out of the danger period. I'll let you know if they locate a nasal bone tomorrow.

Hiya, been away for a few days and just catching up here. Bunny, I really hope DS gets better soon. I remember it with DD, she still has the scars 2 yrs later, they must suffer so much with it. Good luck for the scan tommorow too, be thinking of you.
Canadianmom, hope you get some attention soon!

bunny, apparently the highest risk time for slapped cheek is between 9 and 16 weeks . My head says not to worry because there's nothing I can do about it but I can't stop! At least I am not feeling ill so I don't think I've got it yet, but I have another week and a half to go before the end of the incubation period (and then ds might have caught it on the same day, or his other little friend who was also there and goes to the same nursery).

You must be very tired. I am sure your ds will be getting better soon, it's usually only for a few days that they are really miserable, IME.

hi Quacks, good to have you back, been anywhere nice?

gingernut, I am sure it will all be ok but I understand why you are worrying. Will you be able to ring up for the blood results?

Yes, I am going to ring them on Friday which is about the earliest they expect them to be back. They said 7-10 days.

How is your ds doing?

Hiya, just been accross Bunny to get some bits from IKEA and have a couple of days out - was so hot though, not the best for walking round but was good anyway! How did your scan go??? Is everything ok? Hope you manage to post. xxx How is DS today, did you manage to get any more sleep last night?
Gingernut, (funny not calling you Jelly!) how are you? Hope everything will be ok xxxxxx

Hi Quacks, I am fine thanks. No sign of slapped cheek yet, just keeping my fingers crossed. Belly is expanding rapidly and I have only 2 pairs of trousers to wear (my maternity stuff is mainly winter weight and anyway seems so huge). How long have you got to go now?

bunny, posted to you on the Nov thread but hope all was well on the scan.

hello, well my scan was a waste of time really. It was with my consultant who has been scanning me fortnightly. The babys head is measuring 14.1 weeks which is right on target but I couldnt get more info than that. I was hoping he would conform there was a nasal bone but he couldnt, he is a fertility specialist not a sonographer and the equipment he uses isnt particularly modern so there was no way we would be able to locate this nasal bone. The clarity just wasnt there and he lacked the specialism to be able to find it anyway. So, feel a bit p*ssed off but have actually kept things in perspective - the chances are high that everything is fine and I have to hold on to that thought.

Shame about that bunny, although nice to know that everything is OK though, even if you are still bleeding.

bunny2 Sorry to hear that you were not satisfied with the scan. I wish that things had gone much better.
I continue to feel rather discouraged as I am increasingly worried that I will discover that there is no heartbeat by the time I manage to get a scan date. I still feel horribly nauseated and tired which is a good thing but can't get rid of the 'feeling' that something has gone wrong. I hate not knowing and feeling like I don't know where to ask for answers. Makes me dreadfully homesick on top of everything else.

Canadianmom, that's very much how I felt...even though I had pg symptoms I wasn't sure I felt pg enough, IYSWIM! So I sympathise. I would try ringing them again about the scan. I was worried about mine too but the date eventually came through, although I think it's worth you checking (can you ring the hospital direct?). I was going to ring them the day my letter arrived. As well as the 12 week scan (which was done at 13 weeks), I also had an early scan, at 8.5 weeks, which we paid for.

Canadianmom, do you have an Early Pregnancy Unit near you at the local hospital? They should be able to scan you immediately. Mine have scanned me a few times because of my miscarriage history. I have also gone to the maternity unit at the hospital and asked a midwife to listen for the heartbeat. They have been really obliging. If you explain about your fears and your miscarriage surely someone will offer you the reassurance you need. I would ring the doctors surgery and ask to speak to someone, exagerate why you are worried if need be but get someone to offer you a scan or a check-up of some kind. If the doctors surgery is no good, try the Early Preg Unit if you have one. If not then ring the maternity ward. Surely one of those people can scan or listen for the hb. Good luck.

Today has been the most positive day of my pregnancy so far. I have really let go of my fears and am beginning to enjoy being pregnant.

Hiya, Bunny you sound much better today after the disappointment of the unproductive scan yesterday. You are really coming along well! Over 14 weeks now, you'll soon be feeling baby and getting a lovely big bump. Talking of which, can hardly sit at keyboard properly, it's cramped. People keep saying I bet you can;t wait for it to be over, but I love it. Despite the discomfort and not being able to drink like a fish, I do love being pg. Just hate the first few weeks when it's just so touch and go. I do sympathise so much Canadianmom. It feels like only yesterday I was at 6 weeks and bleeding thinking that was my third m/c in a row and then there was a little heartbeat. I was convinced that was it, but you just never know. Do try and get a scan to put your mind at rest.
What a day we've had though. Had visitors but took DD for her 3 yr check up. Seems she has a heart murmur. Don;t know to what extent so they are going to do an ECG and an ultrasound of her heart to hopefully rule out a serious one. Hopefully will be just one that she can live with. She also has fluid in her ears - wondered why she couldn;t hear me! Bless her, makes me a bit emotional, but hormones make it worse!
Anyway, enough of me! Hope you all get some nice weather this weekend!!

Hey Quacks, I know what you mean - I love being pregnant and am already planning another one! I really love it but miss having a good drink once in a while. Only 6 months to go, my bottle of champagne is waiting! Ds had a heart murmut, I think heart problems conjure up such a scarey vision and I was so upset. He had an ultrasound and ECG and it was found to be nothing important at all. Pls try not to worry too mcuh, they are apparently very common.

bunny2 glad everything is ok can't believe only 6months to go well done you

Hi everyone. Quacks, glad you're feeling good. I have a heart murmur too - mine is benign (i.e. my heart functions normally, or so they tell me!) and it's never affected me in any way. Hope your dd is OK, but it's good that it's been picked up early (I didn't know till I was 14). My ds is also a bit deaf at the moment, due to a really bad ear infection. He seems to be improving now though, and I'm taking him back next week for a check. We seem to be virtually living at the doctor's surgery at the moment.

I phoned to see if my blood test results were back, but they haven't received them yet (although the good news is that they've received the results of the booking bloods the midwife took and everything is OK there). No sign of me getting slapped cheek yet, although I suddenly came up in a rash on my arm this afternoon. Decided it was most likely eczema and put some hydrocortisone on it and it's calmed right down so I think my diagnosis was probably right (after an initial panic).

bunny, I'm feeling a bit more relaxed too, for some reason. I think I'm just all worried out and haven't the energy for any more fretting.

We're going away for a few days over the weekend so I probably won't be posting much till next week. Hope you all enjoy the Bank Holiday!

Oh thanks for that! Mum also tried to tell me it's usually ok, but obviously you just want your child to be ok too. Just took me by surprise. Most do turn out to be one that they can live with and have no symtoms so I appreciate both of you saying it's nothing to worry about!
Gingernut, hopefully they will come today then? Sounds like you'll be absolutely fine though doesn;t it. Glad you;re settling down too. It's a shame if we're deprived of enjoying the whole pgcy. I'm going to my last aquanatal this am. Sad really cos it;s been so good. I'll keep swimming but doing it with other pg women is so nice!
Hana, how are you, haven;t heard from u for a little while?

Hi everyone! It's been quiet on here recently. How are you all doing? Hana, you must be about 12 weeks pg by now - how are you feeling? Hope the sickness is easing off a bit at least.

Quackers - has your dd had her ECG yet?

Hope everyone else is well.

I am still waiting for my parvovirus blood test results (slapped cheek) but I am now out of the incubation period and I haven't been unwell so it looks like I escaped! I think the blood test results must have been lost or something. The receptionist at my surgery said she would mention it to one of the GPs to see if the results should be chased up, but I haven't heard anything yet. I have my 16 week antenatal appointment with m/w on Thurs so I'll mention it then. I'd like to know since I still have 4.5 weeks to go till I would be out of danger if I caught it, and obviously it's going round the area.