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For mums 2 be after M/C ... PART 5!

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hewlettsdaughter · 10/11/2003 21:36

Hi there. I was just wondering how everyone is - Ghosty, Hilary, Bogwoppit and anybody else who is pregnant after a previous miscarriage. There seems to have been a lot of sad news re pregnancies on mumsnet recently. On the one hand, I feel like I don't want to parade being pregnant in front of those who have had an m/c - on the other hand, we need to show that there are some positive stories out there!
I am 16 weeks tomorrow. Feeling ok, over the nausea I felt from about week 7 to week 12 or 13.

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Angeliz · 03/05/2004 23:28

bunny2, great news
Bet you are so happy tonight+
Hana, hope you're feeling a bit better tonight+

jellycat, thanks for that. I am NOT going to test early again as feel like i've been through the wringer these last few days and i would not have even known otherwise!(Still feel a bit of a fraud feeling upset if you see what i mean as i'm not even sure it was there!!)

It's very hard emotionally all this ttc isn't it? DP and i have said we're going wait a month as we're getting too stressed !

bunny2 · 03/05/2004 23:30

Angeliz, you have every right to be upset. To you, there was the beginnings of the baby and you have lost all the hope invested in it. Be kind to yourself and look forward to the next cycle of trying.

Angeliz · 03/05/2004 23:34

thanks bunny+

DelGirl · 04/05/2004 01:10

great news bunny2 - well done

gothicmama · 04/05/2004 01:12

Good news Bunny

ermentrude · 04/05/2004 01:13

Fantastic news Bunny - good luck with the rest of your pregnancy
I am still lurking.......

Jezebel · 04/05/2004 01:25

So pleased for you Bunny. I hope to have first scan Fri when I will be 6 weeks and 6 days. Nerve wracking isn't it? hana- lots of love and positive energy/ I think you and me are very similar in our histories and close in our dates.

jellycat · 04/05/2004 02:50

Wonderful news bunny .

hana, sorry you're Mum's response was so negative . I wonder if she's really worried about you actually - since you say she's normally positive about things. Is there anyone else you know who might understand and be supportive? Post on here as much as you need to. I have felt guilty too over the past few weeks about not giving ds as much attention as usual, because I've been feeling tired and grotty etc. Try to remember, you are doing your best in difficult circumstances and you can't do any better than that.

Angeliz - I think it's perfectly understandable that you're upset. As bunny says, you have effectively suffered a loss. ttc is stressful, that's for sure! If you decide to give it a rest for a month you might get pg like I did!! (we had originally agreed not to try that month but I was persuaded )

Good luck for Friday, Jezebel.

miracleabie · 04/05/2004 14:05

bunny2- thatis brilliant news hang on in there.

hana- so sorry about neg reaction from mum, mine is not dis-similar. perhaps they are just worried about us.
angelz- i feel weepy too. bound too considering all hormones, people reacting in unpredictable ways and having to be responsible. god knows how we are not on the vodkas and donuts by 11am.

bunny2 · 04/05/2004 22:54

Hi everyone. Thanks for your messages

Hana, how are you today?

BigBird · 05/05/2004 12:37

Hey Bunny - glad things are going so well for you.

Hana - hope you are ok. Things will get better....

hana · 05/05/2004 20:40

well still incredibly tired and feel awfully sick which I'm taking as all good signs...and need to realize that I just need to take this pregnancy one day at a time and not look too far down the road. I see everyone else on this board having positive scans and news, etc and just feel that I want that too, and get scared that I won't. GP was filling out details about my history this afternoon, and came to the part of what preg is this - it's my fifth....
I dont remember feeling this tired or sick in October when I m/c, so I'm seeing that as a positive too.
Hubby is on way home early tonight, so really excited about that. Making supper too for a change!

eyelash · 05/05/2004 21:27

Bunny2 - sorry I haven't posted earlier but brilliant news. Are you feeling more positive.

Hana - sorry to hear you are going through it at the moment.

Hope everybody else is well.

bunny2 · 05/05/2004 22:22

Hana, have a nice evening tonight. It does get a bit better as you progress, it really does. Having said that, I still panic and am worrying myself stupid over late miscarriage now.

BigBird, how are you? Any symptoms yet?

Hi Eyelash, yes I feel a bit more positive but not completely. Ds pointed to a picture of a bay yesterday and said he wanted a baby brother. I was so tempted to tell him I am pg but bit my tongue. I'll wait till I am past 12 weeks before telling him.

bunny2 · 05/05/2004 22:23

he pointed to a picture of a baby.

Jezebel · 05/05/2004 23:25

Han, said we sounded identical, this is my fifth pregnancy nad (hopefully) second baby. Best wishes,

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hewlettsdaughter · 05/05/2004 23:36

Hi, just popping in to say good luck to you all - bunny, hana and everyone else. Before I had dd I didn't go through the kind of experiences some of you have but my two early m/cs did make me view my pregnancy differently. Taking each day as it comes is the only advice I can offer. Thinking of you all...

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bunny2 · 06/05/2004 00:03

Hi HD, how is it going? Are you coping well? Thanks for thinking of us here. I was reading your book again today, I have become quite supersticious about posting it back to you just in case I need it again. I must have read it form cover to cover a dozen times. When I get to 12wks I shall post it to you and hopefully by doing that I can let go of the past and move on!

Quackers · 06/05/2004 00:10

Hello all, there's lots to catch up on here, so apologies if I leave anyone out today as we just got back from a short break.
Bunny, I'm so glad you got a 'scantastic'result! What a word! We'll have to remember that one! You;ve got the worse one over with now. xxx
Delgirl, I am so sorry again that this has not worked out and that you have had an awful lot to deal with with the loss of your DH too, you sound such a lovely person and it;s always lovely people that these things happen to.
Angeliz, have to agree with Bunny, it was probably a chemical pgcy that you experienced and the tiny embryo didn't quite implant properly in the womb. The book Bunny and I refer to gives a figure of about 50% of pgcies ending like this and the majority of women never even knowing they were pg and assuming a slightly late period. They are so much more common now as tests are more sensitive and it is none the less very sad to experience. Hope it works out for you next time xx
Hana, hiya, I do hope things are ok with you. You are at the worst stage and it feels like forever but we're all rooting for you. The urge to get this bit over is overwhelming I know and I felt as though it took over too for a long time. It's still an obsession isn't it long after you have conceived which you think is hardest bit. For some it is, for me is has always been keeping them. I really hope we can all prove that we get the end result regardless of how many losses we have all suffered.

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hewlettsdaughter · 06/05/2004 00:10

Bunny, I don't need it. Please keep it, or pass it on to someone else when you are ready

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bunny2 · 06/05/2004 00:12

Hi Quacks, how was CP? Did you have a lovely time? How are you feeling now? You sound happy.

bunny2 · 06/05/2004 00:14

HD, that is really kind of you. If you are sure you dont want it back, do you mind if I offer it on here to anyone who needs it? I'll do a new thread and see if there are any takers.

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hewlettsdaughter · 06/05/2004 00:23

No probs bunny. Hi Quacks - hope you are ok!

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Quackers · 06/05/2004 02:15

Hi HD!!! How is that gorgeous girl of yours?? Bunny, great thanx! Busy though! Nice of you to offer to let others use the book. Maybe it could be the Mumsnet loan book following m/c and just keep passing it round. It's such a help isn;t it. Night night for now!xx

miracleabie · 07/05/2004 13:09

tested negative this morning.