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For mums 2 be after M/C ... PART 5!

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hewlettsdaughter · 10/11/2003 21:36

Hi there. I was just wondering how everyone is - Ghosty, Hilary, Bogwoppit and anybody else who is pregnant after a previous miscarriage. There seems to have been a lot of sad news re pregnancies on mumsnet recently. On the one hand, I feel like I don't want to parade being pregnant in front of those who have had an m/c - on the other hand, we need to show that there are some positive stories out there!
I am 16 weeks tomorrow. Feeling ok, over the nausea I felt from about week 7 to week 12 or 13.

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jellycat · 25/04/2004 16:41

PS thanks bunny!

bunny2 · 25/04/2004 22:30

Miracleabie, good luck, I have my fingers crossed for some happy news from you. One of my good friends has ivf twins .

hana · 25/04/2004 23:01

jellycat, such wonderful news about your little one! There seems to be a run of good news lately - I'll take that as a good sign!

I'm going to see my doctor next week when I'll be 6 weeks and then ask for a scan at 8 weeks. That sounds like the best plan for me I think.

miracleabie - fingers crossed for you for the next little while, the wait must be a very difficult one, I hope it goes quickly and you get a positive at the end of it!

Jezebel · 25/04/2004 23:39

Good luck miracleabie. Keep us posted!

eyelash · 26/04/2004 00:17

Brilliant news jellycat. You must be so relieved

Welcome miracleabie - this must be such a stressful time for you. Best of luck.

Anyway - had a bit of spotting overnight and although not too worried I rang the hospital this morning. They said to come in for a quick check. I thought they would just check my cervix and baby's heartbeat but top consultant took me away for a scan. Absolutely delighted I saw baby again and best of all there was no mistaking it was a big strapping boy. So 3 ds's for me - I feel very priviledged and delighted and haven't stopped grinning all day. I personally love knowing the sex as I can picture the baby more and feel we can properly call him 'he' and give him a name.

Also turns out I have the most horrendous thrush which she felt contributed to my discomfort and spotting so a date with a pessary for me tonight.

Hello to everybody else.

Quackers · 26/04/2004 00:43

Great news JC!!!!!! You too Eyelash!!! Good luck mircaleabie, hope this cycle is good news for you and hope you get tons of support from Mumsnet!

bunny2 · 26/04/2004 11:46

Wow, Eyelash, that is wonderful . I am so pleased the spotting turned out to be nothing, it's awful though isnt it, when you see some blood? My aunt has 3 boys and they are lovely, they are all grown up now and away at uni or working but they adore their Mum and are great fun to be around.

eyelash · 26/04/2004 19:57

But all that testosterone!

miracleabie · 27/04/2004 14:08

thanks for all the support evryone.Feels very isolated at the moment, a bit like everyone is holding their breath.

bunny2 · 27/04/2004 14:27

You have week b4 you can test? It will drag I'm sure. Fingers crossed for you.

miracleabie · 27/04/2004 15:35

Thanks bunny2- yeh can't test til 2nd May. seems like years away at the moment as pain in abdomen is preventing me from driving. Feel very can't can't can't just now and just terrified not only about the test but the wait afterwards. This is our last chance at IVF as the money has run out and we have used our NHS goes. It is ridicuous how much we have hung on this go. But thats the situation.

DelGirl · 27/04/2004 21:19

hi - am new to this site (joined yesterday). Just wanted to wish Miracleabie loads of luck.....and everyone else too. My 2 week wait was over yesterday and am pregnant after 4th iui. 3rd attempt was initially successful but resulted in m/c at 11 weeks. I am trying to be positive as can't face going through it again (though would, of course). Am widowed and there isn't much sperm left so....and going through early menopause too.... ho hum, c'est la vie.

Keep well everyone and think positive thoughts

beansprout · 27/04/2004 22:01

Delgirl and Miracleabie - absolutely everything crossed for you both.

Quackers · 27/04/2004 22:35

Tons of luck then Delgirl, you;ll get tons of support on Mumsnet. Hope your pgcy goes smoothly though, odds are with you! miracleabie, you too, it;s a long wait to test, well feels like it anyway. Keep us posted on your progress!

bunny2 · 28/04/2004 00:16

Delgirl, congratulations, you are over the firsr hurdle! Good luck over the coming weeks.

Miracleabie, as this is your last go, I have everything crossed even tighter for you

jellycat · 28/04/2004 01:14

Hello everyone. Yes, we are very relieved about the scan. I am still a bit anxious because I know we are by no means home and dry but at least I know we have a good chance. I have my booking-in appointment next week and then I should get a 12 week scan date through.

Eyelash, glad everything turned out OK!

Hello DelGirl, and welcome to the thread. I suppose you are going to have some early scans? Fingers crossed for you anyway.

How are you doing bunny? When is your next scan? In answer to your query about the date, it was 24th Nov.

bunny2 · 28/04/2004 11:56

Ooh, the day b4 me! I have my booking appt Monday and a 10 wk scan Wednesday. As both mcs happened @ 9 wksish, I am absolutely dreading the 10 wk scan. It is the one where I am expecting bad news.

miracleabie · 28/04/2004 13:09

welcome delgirl-so sorry that you have had such a terrible time and congrats about postive test.I know only too well that it's grounds for a celebration that you feel you can't have.
I completely felt like cracking up yesterday - like I'm going mad cooped up in the house with ages to wait.So glad I have other mumsnutters.

gothicmama · 28/04/2004 13:20

Bunny2 positive thoughts and good luck

DelGirl · 28/04/2004 21:28

thanks everyone for their kind wishes. I wish everyone could be positive for me (mumsnetters excluded from this) - don't know about anyone else but i've had mixed reactions from people I work closely with. I understand their concern but wish they could just congratulate me and be done with it and not make me feel as if it could happen again at any time, which of course it could,but we don't need reminding of it do we? Anyway, sorry to rant, not a great first impression but consider it hormone induced

Miracleabie - I know how you feel - the 2 week wait is excruciating isn't it. I was ok the 1st 8-9 days but then just on tenterhooks the whole time - drove myself mad. Now, only another 35 + weeks to go. Can't wait, really can't wait.

Babbled on for long enough and off for another nap - i'm shattered. Oh, first scan is on May 17th at 7.5 weeks, scary.

bunny2 · 29/04/2004 01:54

Hi gm, thanks, how are you? Are you on the ttc boards yet?

miracleabie · 01/05/2004 18:40

Delgirl are you there? Just wanted you to know that there is someone here to listen when you want.Just feel so sorry for you at the moment. I hope you have some really good friends who can listen ( and not just hand out advice)If not please come and talk to us here.

DelGirl · 01/05/2004 19:05

Hi miracleabie - yes, i've been reading various threads today. Just feel quite numb and haven't actually 'talked' to anyone since Saturday. I'm a bit like that, tend to shut myself away as I did when my DH died. Not a good thing, I know but this site has been and will be a help. Already thinking about the next treatment which I should be able to start in about 3 weeks but it concerns me that I should want to move on sdo quickly and block this one out. Might it come and slap me in the face later on do you think? Running out of time so don't want to hang about and just want to get my remaining treatments over and move on one way or another. Have been trying for 3 years now and there has to be an end to it at some stage or another. Sorry, babbling on now but it is nice to know there are people who understand.

jellycat · 01/05/2004 19:54

Hello everyone.

DelGirl, good to see you're still around. wrt trying again, only you can know if you want to go ahead immediately. We left it for a bit after my m/c but only because that was the advice at the time (this seems to have changed since). I was really frustrated by this and felt much better once we'd started trying again (although still anxious, of course). I don't think it's a case of blocking out your recent experience - you are never going to forget, you just can't.

bunny, how did your booking appointment go? Good luck for the scan on Wednesday. I know this is going to be a nerve-wracking week for you so try to take each day at a time. Will be thinking of you.

bunny2 · 01/05/2004 23:30

Hi Jellycat, how are you? Thanks for remembering . Today was the day my baby was due so I have been quite down, and Saturday was the day my first miscarried baby should have been 2. Cant help thinking I should be here with three children today. To top it all some drunken bum drove into our car at the weekend and wrote it off. Anyway, on a brighter note my booking appt was lovely, it was with the same midwife I had last time and she is really nice. Still cr*pping it over the scan on Wednesday, it is the one where I expect bad news and am DREADING IT more with every passing minute.

DelGirl, I started trying for baby #2 3 years ago when ds was 1 (he is 4 in a fortnights time). During those 3 years I have done endless pg tests, consulted different doctors, been diagnosed with ovulatory problems and given clomid, got pregnant 3 times, miscarried twice and spent literally hundreds of hours fretting. It completely takes over and 3 years is such a long time to invest so much emotion and hope. I feel quite exhauseted by it. I imagine you feel the same. If the unthinkable happens and I lose this one too, I think I might quit, I cant go on forever, it is too soul-destroying. I hope you can find the strength for one more try.