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For mums 2 be after M/C ... PART 5!

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hewlettsdaughter · 10/11/2003 21:36

Hi there. I was just wondering how everyone is - Ghosty, Hilary, Bogwoppit and anybody else who is pregnant after a previous miscarriage. There seems to have been a lot of sad news re pregnancies on mumsnet recently. On the one hand, I feel like I don't want to parade being pregnant in front of those who have had an m/c - on the other hand, we need to show that there are some positive stories out there!
I am 16 weeks tomorrow. Feeling ok, over the nausea I felt from about week 7 to week 12 or 13.

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Azure · 20/04/2004 19:31

Brunhilda / Jezebel many congratulations . I was wondering if you were going to appear on the TTC thread, but sounds like you had no need!

BigBird · 20/04/2004 19:41

hey you lot ! I've only just found this thread ! It's great to see all the familiar names ! Glad everything is going so well for you all. Good luck with everything !

Jezebel · 20/04/2004 23:09

Thank you all so much. I am thinking of you all and thinking of Fisil.

gothicmama · 20/04/2004 23:27

Congrates to you all I am going ttc I feel inspired by you all , thank you

bunny2 · 20/04/2004 23:39

Gothicmama. I'm really pleased you have decided to start ttc again. The ttc board is fab. Will you try temping? I found it really useful.

gothicmama · 20/04/2004 23:44

Did you I may try it this time last time it did not work to well I think I was a bit to disorganised will go and try ttc threads now Thank you for your support

fisil · 21/04/2004 00:04

Thanks for thinking of me Jezebel, and congratulations. And congratulations to you too bunny - I didn't realise you were "in the club" - that is such good news and the scan sounds fab, nothing like what my poor little mite looked like at 7 weeks!

We are giving it a rest for now. We are focussing on our careers - something that we feel we have control over!

This has been a bit of a down week. Yesterday should have been my 12 week scan & nuchal fold, after which we would have told everyone. And to top it all I came on, and everytime I felt period pains, changed my pad, whatever, I couldn't help feeling rotten, thinking "I didn't want this, I didn't plan this, I was planning on no periods til October thank you very much." I also burst into tears in Mothercare because they had a dress so perfect that I could have worn it to both weddings I'm going to in September! But the job hunt is exciting, and I signed up today for a web construction course.

gothicmama · 21/04/2004 00:05

Fisil sending you big hugs

bunny2 · 21/04/2004 00:59

Fisil, hugs from me too. Are you changing career? It will be good to have something else to focus on. It is so hard when landmarks and anniversaries are reached though. Look after yourself and come back to the ttc board when you are ready. XX

gothicmama, I did temping and charting ,fertility friend is a good website for advice and free software. It became a total obsession but I did get pg second month of charting. In the first month I noticed a huge dip in temps just before the ov temp rise so I was able to schedule loads of shagging for just the right moment on the following month. It worked! Before charting I was assuming I ov'd around day 14 or 15 on clomid but charting showed me it was more like day 17 so this was an important find for me. I really recommend it.

jellycat · 21/04/2004 01:27

Hello fisil, best of luck with the job hunting. I can completely understand how you're feeling at the moment. When I was pg for the first time I had planned to tell a lot of people by writing a note in their Christmas cards (I would have been 4 or 5 months by then). But I had a m/c and when it came to writing the cards that year I was so tearful - I didn't feel I had anything nice to write about at all. It was just a cruel reminder, like your AF arriving this week has been for you. We too left it a little while before trying again. Sending you a big hug.

Hello BigBird!

How are you today bunny?

bunny2 · 21/04/2004 11:38

Hi Jellycat, Im ok thanks, still a nervous wreck though. How are you?

gothicmama · 21/04/2004 12:15

Thank you for the info Bunny2 it is really nice of you Iam going to visit the site now. how are you feeling now -

bunny2 · 21/04/2004 20:12

Good luck gothicmama, looking forward to hearing how you are getting on and to seeing you on this thread soon.

jellycat · 22/04/2004 00:31

Hi bunny. I am fine thanks. Some days I feel hopeful and others I don't! TBH I know it is going to be a horrible shock if it turns out things aren't OK because although I've tried not to allow myself to think they will be I've also not really faced up to the possibility that there's something wrong, IYSWIM. When I think about the scan on Tuesday, I feel sick with fear. But most of the time I have managed to push everything to the back of my mind and just get on with things. It's been a lot easier since I booked the scan actually. It has made me feel as though at least there's a definite time by which I should know more and until that time it's not worth thinking too much about it (so, basically, I'm in denial I suppose!).

Anyway, I know you'll never be able to feel you can relax but maybe that's the only way through this - there's nothing you can do except wait, so in the meantime, try to focus on other things - easier said than done I know.

Hope you have a good weekend!

jellycat xx.

Quackers · 22/04/2004 16:26

It's really hard jellycat, this bit, it does get a bit easier, although you never stop worrying, once the first scans are done, you start to build your confidence back up again.
Gothicmama, glad you got some inspiration! I too got pg using FF, first month. I used OPKs and temp'd, which is an amazing way to see what's going on and maximising chances of conceiving! You only have a 20% chance each month of trying, but FF gives you about 25% or so, if used properly. Take advantage of their free first month of VIP services!
Bunny, you sound brighter!!
Fisil, good to hear from you, hugs {{{{}}}}
BB. thanks for your thoughts!!!!! Hope all is well!!

bunny2 · 23/04/2004 18:49

God, Im bleeding again. No matter how normal it is it still frightens the hell out of me. Bugger it, shall ring the EPU in the morning.

jellycat · 23/04/2004 19:53

bunny . Keeping everything crossed and thinking of you xxx

Quackers · 23/04/2004 21:32

Oh Bunny this must be so frustrating. If it's any comfort, my friend who is same stage of pgcy as you has had on and off spotting/bleeding the whole time and has had scans (she also has had m/c's) and she is fine. Pls take care xxx

bunny2 · 23/04/2004 21:39

thanks JC and Quacks. It was only a spot on the toilet paper, nothing since but I am still pretty worried. I keep telling myself how common spotting in pg is but it doesnt help. bugger.

Jezebel · 23/04/2004 23:25

Bunny, big hugs {{{}}I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

Quackers · 24/04/2004 01:28

Of course it will worry you, because of what it has meant in previous pgcies. You have been absolutley fine so far this time and I'm really optimistic for you. I can only say that you have such a fab EPU!! They are so good seeing you, thank God you have them. let us know how you get on. xxxx

bunny2 · 24/04/2004 10:53

thanks ladies. Glad I have you, dh is being a tosser so I feel a bit alone over all this. I know he is terrified I'll lose this one too but he just wants to put his head in the sand. He showed no concern or sympathy while I was upset about the bleeding last night and I ended up throwing my wedding ring at him and telling him to drop dead. I've ignored him since despite his best efforts to be nice. I just want to cry, I cant do this without his support.

40 minutes till the EPU opens

hana · 24/04/2004 11:11

oh bunny....hope everything is ok...men are tricky aren't they? DH doesn't want to talk about me being pregnant at all......was really pleased when I told him but since then he's just avoiding it -
it's a good sign that the bleeding has stopped , so that's one positive thing. And like Quacks said, the bleeding is terribly common. Not that this will alleviate your anxiety, but hope you feel a tiny bit reassured.
will check back later,
hana

eyelash · 24/04/2004 11:40

bunny2 - hope you get the reassurance you need this morning. Can you get them to check for a cervical erosion? I have this and up to a few weeks ago had spots of blood or bloody mucus every week or so. It was never checked for in previous successful pregnancies but was possibly the cause of my bleeding. Fingers crossed for you.

Hana - so excited you are pregnant and due in December. I remember you posting a few months ago about how difficult it would be to have a due in 2004 baby - well done. Now the difficult bit!

I am now nearly 17 weeks and must say the worries are still the same. Assume it will be the same until past the 24 week stage.

beansprout · 24/04/2004 12:24

Hi Bunny - best wishes to you, hope it goes ok today xx