Late May 2012 Bambinos- 2nd trimester thread- less pumping, more bumping

[CrackersandCheese]

Here we are ladies- a lovely new home for us all- filled with good vibes.

Link to 1st trimester thread 1st trimester

Finally caught up on OBEM, but had to mute all the screamy bits as usual. I too am hoping to channel my energies into some kind of calm focus, but who knows what will happen on the day.

My bump isn't really getting much bigger, but I feel like it's getting lumpier -- it's like there's a bag of animated spanners in there!

Oh, and I also wanted to say to Angelyaz that my thoughts are with you and your brother. I really hope that he has all possible care and love surrounding him. You sound like a great sister to have.

Thank you Veronica, my brother continues to fight on, but it looks like he is losing his energy. We continue to wait and hope for a peaceful end for him.

My bump is also much more active, more like a bag full of kittens I think! I've been very achy today, kind of like period pains or constipation pains, plus a bit of back ache. Luckily it completely goes if I sit or lie still, so I am taking the hint after a day of cleaning the kitchen! I had my first braxton hicks this morning, well first one I've been aware of anyway. If only they stayed as painless...

Morning all...fell off the thread again...oops...I've been avoiding OBEM as am happy to stay a bit 'in the dark' re. what happens with others as don't want to set my mind on something that may prove unrealistic for me IYSWIM

Had a long chat with my MIL last night who was asking what I'd bought so far (which is quite a bit as there's been some great offers in the sales and I'm a bit of a perfectionist so like to choose things myself) and she then said 'hope you've not bought a changing mat' which of course I have because it matches the decor (and I spent ages choosing it) well, she's bought one as well so now I will have two...wondering what else she's bought without actually asking what I would like, colours, styles, brands etc etc?! Trying to be v gracious and calm and not be upset at her generosity it's just that I have a list of things that I'd love for people to buy for the nursery and would be so much more useful...ho hum...guess I'm probably sounding v ungrateful which I don't want to but this is DC1 and I'm really enjoying choosing things!!

Sorry for me me post...hope everyone's doing ok?

angel glad your DB is hanging in there, must be such a tough situation!
dozey how is your DD? How are you doing?

Right...should get back to work but will catch up again later...

PS my bump also v hyperactive kicking and moving around...and bump seems to be getting BIG too...wodering just how big it will get as I'm only 22 weeks tomorrow Have also been having backache, particularly at night and also still having lots of 'bowel management' fun

Blue totally get where you're coming from! Haven't had it yet, but did with our wedding until we started giving jobs out . I really don't think they mean to stomp all over everything with their size nines, but they desperately want to be involved with the first dgc.
With the wedding we found that rather than waiting for people to ask what they could do (which they never did - they just helpfully went ahead and did stuff which a) didn't need doing or b) we didn't want lol) we asked them tactfully if they would be able to do this or help out with that. It worked much better that way.
Also have to say (maybe it's cos my mum knows me much better) but really only had this issue with DH's family - including cousins! - mine let me know that if I needed help then I only had to ask as they were totally gagging to do stuff but didn't want to trample!

I guess it's a really fine line for them between not wanting to interfere but also not wanting to appear dosinterested.

On a separate note (TMI alert!!) has anyone had what I've heard referred to as "rough sex ligament pain" yet? I've had it really badly today for the first time, and it literally feels like I'm bruised from having been at it all night (and really, I haven't been!) particularly when standing or walking.
It's slowly got worse throughout the day and is now in the tops of my thighs as well.
Anyone had this particular gem yet?

Baby has been quite active today - especially on the train this morning!

Xxx

Hi All,

BlueCrane - DD is good thank you, still has days (like today) where she a bit tearful - which makes me tearful, which then makes her worse) Its so strange because she is such a happy all the time, its just gone a bit pear-shaped since DP has gone from time to time. most days she's fab, but when she has a day where its a combination of over-tiredness, and missing her Daddy. and also obviously sensing when i'm upset and hormonal.

So yeah, today was filled with tears, tantrums, more tears and just both of us being so tired! And I snapped at her in the car as I couldn't pull over and she got herself into a state that i have never seen her do, i just shouted "please stop"! and then she got more upset - feel like a TERRIBLE mum but then after he nap she was fresh as a daisy really - I wasn't!

I am getting lots of braxton hicks, very frequently. had this with DD too. and the past 3 days I have felt so unbelievably tired - the kind of tiredness you can't shake off with a nap, or early night - frustrating. Missing DP SOOOO much it hurts. seeing him Wednesday. Doesn't make it any easier though. I spoke to him earlier on the phone and just the sound of his voice makes me feel calmer.

Sorry for MEMEME post once again. just feeling so low since DP has been gone, and I dont like to admit to our family that i have tough days (i know they know i do) but i want to not be thought of as someone who can't cope. especially by my loved one. silly really. its a lot to understand....

Baby is moving lots, probably why i'm feeling more tired. and i feel bigger. but everyone dont seem to see what i see....

anyway. i will stop boring you all.

How are you all?

PS: I think I may have succeeded in finding pregnancy yoga classes, starting in mid-feb 80.00 for 8 sessions. including a package with DVD x

Has anyone else got a tiny bump? I'm 21+4 and I just about have a bump. Only people who know me and what I usually look like have said that I look a 'little bit' pregnant. Strangers wouldn't notice.

I'm worried that I'm not getting big enough, and that I'm maybe not putting on enough weight. I've just reached the 10lb weight gain, but I'm still in size 8 jeans. My family say that can't tell where the weight has gone on.

I just hope that she's got enough room in there. I think I sound really daft haha x

She might just be tucked up nicely, DD was in me, I was measuring 4 weeks behind towards the end, they said no bigger than 6lb - she came out 8lb9!
I was still in my size 8 clothes, and i did put on weight, but she literally must have been in a hollow part of me lol with her i was 9st6, then the day before i had her was 11st5! but couldnt see where?!

This time, I started off at 8st 5 pre pregnancy, at 16weeks i was 9st5, now at 23weeks i am 10st. but its all baby. im still in my clothes.

The body is an amazing thing :)

My bump's just appeared and has become huge in the space of 2 weeks. LO seems to like positioning his/herself right across the top of my stomach which is really annoying when it comes to be being able to breathe comfortably. I swear I look like I'm 7 months gone from time to time, especially for most of the last 24 hours until about 2 hours ago when LO decided to move back down my stomach (thank god - I can breathe again!!). Last night I had a meeting and one of my mate gave me a lift home after - he insisted on turning off the main road and driving me the extra 25 yards to my front door. I asked if I'd started waddling that much considering it's only been 2 weeks since he last gave me a lift home.

BlueCrane - in my case, DP's mum and my mum have both started the shopping nice & early (DP's mum's 6th DGC & my mum's 1st GDC). DP's mum staked her claim to buying the cot by the time I was 3 months, and when I told my mum, she got really upset because she'd been redundant for about a year until 15 months ago and her new job pays her less than the old one so "I won't be able to help out as much as I could" and then insisted on buying the pram. I did point out to her that DP's mum is nearly 300 miles away, and she's only a 15min walk from my front door so my mum's going to be on babysitting duties...

wommer and enfy this will be DGC5 for MIL and DGC2 for my Mum...DH says it's just different personalities as my Mum would check exactly what I wanted before getting anything whereas MIL wants to choose what she's buying for her DGC IYSWIM. My PIL also staked an early claim to buying the cot, which I've not told my Mum about as she's not got much cash at the moment so don't want her to feel bad plus she's flying half way around the world to come and be with me for 2 months which is costly enough! The PIL's are coming to stay in a couple of weeks so I'll get to see what MIL's bought then, and I can hopefully show her what I've got and carefully demonstrate my preferences for styles etc etc.

dozey hang in there!!

hippie my bump seemed pretty small but has suddenly (last week or so) taken on a life of it's own, I'm 22 weeks today. I'm sure it starts showing at different times with different people though! I was reading on babycentre that beany could be up to 28cm long already though my boss caught me with a ruler held over my bump yesterday afternoon trying to figure out how something that size would fit

angel just ordered that group 1-2-3 car seat you mentioned - it's v v reduced in Mothercare and my friend and her DC's are coming on the train to stay for the weekend so that means I have one less car seat to try and borrow and then it can be stored in the loft until we need it again! How is your brother?

Right...must go and get some hot chocolate...I neeeed choclolate, or cake, or both in fact would be nice...seem to have developed an insatiable sweet tooth!!!

Hi all, I haven't posted for a while but all is still ok with me. It's my birthday today and some of the kids at work guessed I was 26 so I'm feeling quite chuffed (32 really!!) I've got quite a big bump - it's really obvious but I'm fortunate that I don't have to worry about hiding it for any reason. I'm not sure how much weight I've actually put on - there was only a 5lb difference between my weight at the beginning of September and at the beginning of Jan so I must have lost some in the middle somwehere!
My parents are sorting out moving back to this country at the moment so they haven't bought anything but they've said they'll give us some money. DPIL have said the same which is probably best as it means we can spend it on what we want and they won't feel that its a competition (hopefully!).
I'm off out for a nice dinner for my birthday .

Evening all, Hippieshake I'm 24 weeks today and feel HUGE! Everyone's different though, depends how good your tummy muscles are, height, what number DC it is etc. Most people on my floor at work have commented on my tummy the last week or so, as it seems I've suddenly gone from just looking a bit on the chubby side to definitely preggers! There's no hiding it anyway and I can officially no longer get into any pre-mat clothes except knickers, cardigans (as they're open at the front) and one stretchy jersey dress. Just have to stop myself from buying more crazily expensive mat clothes and convince myself that I have a capsule wardrobe and that's all I need . I did buy a new coat, but went for a £12 job from sports word that's 3 sizes bigger than I usually am as resent forking out more than that! :o

Bluecrane completely understand how awkward it must be for you with your MIL, I think Wommer's suggestion of being a bit more assertive and giving a list, or like you said running through what you've got and casually saying "but I'd really like to get the xxxx to match it, but can't at the moment" to plant ideas in her head is a good plan. On the baby stuff front, I'm (in a funny way) fortunate that we rarely see my MIL as she's in Ireland and DH doesn't exactly speak to get on with her (FIL died when DH was 4), plus she lives off benefits and is not quite all there, so wouldn't occur to her to get anything (if she even knows we're having a baby - didn't meet her until 4 years after we got married!). My mum did mutter something about buying a pram a while back, but I think she changed her mind when I told her how much they cost! Plus she knows I'll just get what I want, and she's just bought a load of wool to knit for DGC8 (sister - due April) and DGC9 (ours) so that's her contribution (she does make beautiful things so I'm not complaining!).

Wommer I've got random pain as well, not the rough sex type, although did have stabbing pains in my labia some weeks ago (apparently due to ligaments) but muscles around my tummy feel pulled and when I walk it's a bit sore where my leg muscles meet the bottom of my hips like I've sat cross legged on a hard floor for too long. Plus there's feeling like I'm going to get cramp in my legs at any given second (and did at 4.30 am last night which was then end of my night's sleep. Hope it's not too painful now though, I find a nice warm bath can often ease the aches and pains. Go to your GP if it gets too bad though, don't suffer in silence.

Sorry for the massive post but have been on laptop instead of phone, so easier to type! Toodle-oo!

Thanks for the responses everyone :) I'm feeling much better about it now. I have a MW appointment on 14th Feb, so I'm sure if I was too small she'd tell me then.

We have the opposite problem with my MIL. She's extremely well off but hasn't offer to help us out at all. Meanwhile my parents and sisters have been buying us loads of things. Saying that though, MIL is not remotely interested in the baby at all. Never mind :)

BlueCrane my brother continues to hang in there, bless him. He is on maximum dose of morphine, and is starting to get a bad chest, so I keep expecting that phone call every day now. Ooh cool you go the car seat! If you want to put it in the reclined position, make sure you initially install it like that and leave it that way, as the thought of taking it out and putting it in again is too tiring when pg!! The recline is nice and gently too, enough to let little one sleep comfortably but not so much that they are staring at the ceiling if they are awake!!

Dozey right there with you re the tiredness. I basically slept all Sunday night, had a 3 hour nap Monday, slept all Monday night then all day Tuesday! Luckily I am back on nights this week, so sleeping during the day is ok!!

lobba happy birthday!! Hope you had a lovely meal out!

My bump appeared to grow hugely over the weekend! I have finally got to the stage where people may actually ask if I am pregnant, rather than just thinking I am putting on weight! Funny though, I weighed myself today and have lost 1lb!! Certainly not a problem what with being overweight anyway, and I'm not dieting, just eating healthily! Obviously pregnancy agrees with me!

PurpleOne's DD1 edd 28/5/12 20 week scan 10/1/12

Hi all,

Sorry to hear about the aches and pains! My tummy just feels really tight and I need to get measured for some non-underwire bras as my normal bras are too small and starting to rub on my tummy! I think I have put on heaps of weight over the weekend too, I didnt put on much last week, but seem to have ballooned over the last few days for some reason.

My work finally got back to me about maternity leave and were actually super nice about it! 5 months full pay, 2 months half pay and 2 months stat!! I couldnt believe it! I am so stoked! Also got a bonus this month so we have added that towards our wedding fund and have set the date for the 3rd of March. So happy.

Happy birthday lobba :)

angel sorry to hear that your brother isn't getting any better. Hope you are OK.

blue my famiy are all on Oz so I dont have any issues with them buying me unwanted stuff thank goodness, I am a bit of an organisation freak too so would hate something that clashed with my nursery colours! My mum is buying me a pram (which I chose) so thats really nice of her though.

xxxx

alex fab news on your mat leave and pay that's an excellent offer!! Def get yourself measured for some non-wired bra's...I have been in them since part way through the first trimester and must say they are much more comfrtable than I expected, though think I am going to have to get some more now as noticed this morning that they seem to be getting tight again DH thinks the ever growing boobs thing is great but I'm not quite so sure now that we're heading for 34DD or 34E cups I quite liked being a 32D!

Still trying to work out what I'm going to wear to a wedding we've got on Saturday...all my suitable items would be better for a summer wedding rather than one in January where the weather is grey and miserable! Also will be seeing several friends from uni that I've not seen for several years so would like to look fairly decent iyswim.

Oh, and has anyone else been getting super hot feet and them feeling as though they're starting to swell a bit...was hoping to avoid this potential side effect but have my shoes off under my desk and it's a struggle to get them back on when I need to get up generally for another trip to the loo

Right...back to work...

But first...Happy Birthday lobba and welcome to purple

Ah fab news Alex, that must really have made your day (year!). Happy birthday lobba, welcome purple. Angel, it must be very hard expecting for the call. I send my thoughts your way every time I see this thread. Dozey, I hope you had a lovely meeting with your DP today.

My bump seems to have popped out humungously this week (like Enfyshedd!). I have had to go out and buy maternity tops and some bump bands to cover the gaping gap under my normal ones. In some ways I'm not doing that well with all my feelings on it. DH says I look good and does everything to help, but I don't feel pretty. Getting dressed is a bit of an ordeal, and I usually quite enjoy it. I find it quite embarrassing somehow to be getting bigger, and I wish I was eating more sensibly. I don't think of myself as super body conscious, but I'm usually slim and I think I have taken that for granted in ways I wasn't previously aware of. I am also becoming aware that I don't particularly like people looking at me, and I suddenly feel like there's something to look at which is only going to splurge out more and more. I don't think I have any really serious problem, I'm just a bit surprised by the negative side to my reactions to it all.

Thanks.

Visit went well, (after the biggest mess up. They are so stupid and never get anything right, So I had to go alone without DD and my Dad. so gutting as my Dad is off on holiday tomorrow. and they've also messed up tomorrows but we're going again anyway so its ok.) and not to mention them messing the system up while i was there, EARLY,and they knocked 30mins (precious time) off the visit. :(

BUT.. it was lovely seeing DP. nice to be just us too for an hour. DD will be going to tomorrow, and I felt SO LOST without her. she was with her aunty and cousins so she was happy.

DP felt bump whilst it was doing numerous braxton hicks, and he couldnt believe how strong/tight they were already. (23+3 currently)

He's heard that once he's at open, he will be allowed home day release within a months time. then back to work. then home the day before the EDD. (16.5 weeks and counting.....)

How is everyone? I feel like baby is having a growth spurt. maybe why i'm so tired....

Thoughts are with you Angel

Aargh!!! Just found a load of stretch marks on my boobs not sure why I'm shocked they've been on some crazy growth spurt but I hadn't thought to check them before...just been keeping an eye on bump! And I'm going to have to go and buy more new bras...which I know I mentioned earlier as well so I guess the stretch marks are to be expected with the growth

dozey sorry to hear about the mess up with visiting times but glad you got some you time with your DP and get to see him again tomorrow too!

angel the waiting for the phone to ring must be awful, so sorry.

veronica I also feel quite 'on show' with lots of people suddenly feeling it's their right to be able to comment on the size of my bump...but it almost feels as though it's suddenly the accepted norm to comment on the size of the rest of me as well iyswim, like you're suddenly open to comment if that makes sense, and it is quite disconcerting! I can't say that I feel 'good' or happy in a lot of my maternity clothes though I do have a couple of favourites and know I feel so so much more confident when I have those on...also dread getting ready for work each morning and wondering what I'll be able to wear each day though so know how you're feeling! Plus i'm not eating very sensibly at the moment either as am just so hungry all the time and am craving cakes and chocolate and more cake!!!

Right...time for bed...sleep well all!

Thank you all for your kind thoughts. It's starting to get to me big time now, the waiting. I just want my bro's suffering to be over, and, somewhat selfishly, mine and my family's suffering too.

On a brighter note, I only have 9 and half weeks left at work! I'm finishing at 32 weeks as I am taking annual leave prior to maternity leave. I do enjoy my job, but oh how I am looking forward to getting everything just right in the house! I've found some fabulous wall 'decals' for the nursery, and am desperate to buy them but I am trying to stop myself from ordering them until I can at least get in the soon-to-be-nursery without tripping over boxes and bags! I've got a man who sells blinds coming over tomorrow to measure up for blackout blinds - I'm really looking forward to choosing the fabric!!

dozey sorry your visit was cut short, but yay on seeing DP again tomorrow! And great news that he will be home before the EDD, even if it is cutting it a bit fine!

veronica I can't imagine how it feels to have been slim and to see your body changing so much - of course you will have conflicting feelings, so sending big hugs from here! I have always been 'well padded' so am really chuffed that there is finally an excuse for it. When we're all 40+ weeks gone and waddling I'm sure we'll all feel as fed up as each other!

bluecrane I was so hoping the stretch marks would pass me by, until I caught sight of a lovely silver one above my arse! My mum had 9 pregnancies and doesn't have a stretchmark on her, so fingers crossed I'll have taken after her a little bit!

Last nightshift tomorrow, then back on days from Monday next week. I am dreading the first couple of shifts back - it always feels like wading through treacle. Still good practice for a newborn.

How is everyone else doing?

I remember that feeling Bluecrane , I naturally have tiny boobs and went up to about a C/Dish... and they just appeared line after line, I think I have 4small ones on each boob. I got a couple of small ones around my belly button with DD, So I hope that they don't stretch on top... my bump with DD was literally ALL BUMP. and you could not tell from the back, i think this one is the same. I just carry all on front i think. I know it differs 2nd time around where your body is use to it (i think this one is slightly lower) but I just feel bigger......? but no one else can see it?

I can't wait to hit the 30week mark then its countdown :)

Braxton hicks are strong, and baby is moving lots, kicking and punching lots, DP felt it today for the first time at the visit - he was made up :)

Its crazy, even though we didnt find out with DD, I had a gut feeling that she was a girl, this time around........I really can't decide, or have a gut feeling?? hmmm Love that we're having another surprise though

Is any other 2nd timer feeling bigger earlier?

Hi everyone, I've not been on here for a while, we moved house last week.. nighmare! but it's over now. Missed my pregnant bubbies on here.

Angel, it must be so difficult for you and all the family, my thoughts are with you. Like everyone else I seem to have balooned in the last week and struggling to find clothes to fit. Came to work in jeans this mornng!!! nothing else was comfortable. Going to have to shop at the weekend. Have to admit this would have been my idea of a great weekend before but not now.. ah well this little one will be worth it. Had my scan on Monday was AMAZING!! Feels so real now if that makes any sense.
Just wondering what peoples thoughts on ante-natal classes are? I'm thinking of doing one with NCT, it's private and costs about £240. Wondering aswell if ignorance could be bliss?? All advice welcome.
Have a great Friday all :-)

i am on my fourth time round and i am smaller than ever but was smaller before I started too. Having read about all your tiny bumps I feel like I am huge, but am smaller than I was with two and three. Number one is definitely smaller than two or further pregnancies! Your body remembers it. Having had three DS's I was definitely in mat clothes at 12 weeks with ds2&3 as having anything on my stomach made it hurt, yet this time my bump is so high I am still wearing normal clothes at 23+1. So, each baby different, but think also depends on your stomach muscles before you started.