Pregnancy post mc: Totally Grads Part 10!

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Congratuations Tunnocks Unfortunately we weren't twins with our actual dates in the end!

Well as for me, LO is still cooking nicely away. Turns out the contractions were probably caused bby my bout of D&V. All quietened down Wednesday afternoon. Spoke to my MW yesterday morning who was pissed oof with the MW at the birthing centre for telling me I'd probably be back in a few hours. My Mw said with my cervix still long she shouldn't have said that! Had what I thought was a case of food poisoning today, just bottom end not top but MW thinks that could be my body clearing out for onset of labour! So had another check up this avo with my MW, she did a home visit which was lovely. She examined me and gave me another sweep. Said that the cervix was much shorter and it could all kick off again over the weekend. So could be third time lucky. Although I'm not going anywhere this time until I'm practically crawling around on my hands and knees begging for it to come out!
Sorry for the crap catch up [hsad]

tunnocks wow speedy! Tonnes of congratulations x lovely name too.

bigmac time to pack your bag maybe, just in case. Probably won't be needed but better to be safe. Might start thinking about it myself at some point!

hiya biscuits welcome!

stitch I wish I was so organised. Can't seem to get myself into gear at all. It seems like so far away but I know 7 weeks could go really fast if I don't get sorted soon.

Yay finished work for a week today. Then just 4 weeks when I go back or maybe 3 (am thinking it might want to stop before 38 weeks!)

Terrible backache at the moment. Almost constant when I sit down- in any position. It's just in one spot near my bra line. DP's tried massaging it but it hurts so much (and admittedly I make such a fuss ) that he gives up! What with that and constant heartburn I got about 2 hours sleep last night. Should have logged on and joined the other insomniacs

onions good luck for over the weekend

Just a quickie to say good luck onions and thank you stitch for your excellent list work :)

Bag is half packed ladies - just maternity pads and some pjs that I'm happy to show in public to get

Have lovely weekends - mother bigmac is coming tomorrow for an overnight stay
Xx

mac make sure you get very long and fat maternity pads - much kinder on the swollen fanjo! I've found the wilko own make ones best and also their breast pads which can also be used as pads for holding your stitches when having a poo (tmi!!)

velvet top tip, thanks! (also made me choke on breakfast number 2 of the day :) )

morning ladies. hope all are ok. i have now spent the week cooking and freezing, and would be happy to never cook another meal again. However, i have cottage pies, chicken pies, beef pies, mince pies, lasagne, chicken chasseur, chicken casserole, pork hock stuff and bolognese. (i think that's everything). i have been on my feet for so long this week have been getting aches in my side and my back is killing, but settles for next day so don't think anything imminent yet.

izzy i would definately go, my first week off (was 35 wks) i spent driving from fareham - cullompton-sidmouth-taunton-sherbourne back to fareham. the first 4 places were within 3 days. That was just me and ds.

Ds has his grommet op on friday, has anyone here had experience of their child having this op? i know it's done hundreds of times a week (but not on my baby) i'm rather worried that i'll go into labour on friday and i won't be there for ds.

oh and i had to laugh yesterday my mil asked me what the plans were for ds when labour starts, i said my mum's coming over the day before, and if it starts suddenly before then i'll call her. Mil says about dh leaving me to take ds over to hers to come back to me. hmmm do i choose to stay at home in comfort with dh next to me while i wait for my mother to come over (admittedly about 1.5 hrs) or do i stay on my own (not sure if she meant here or at hosp) for an hour or so while dh takes ds to hers. A) nice of her to put herself out she does actually drive, b) i don't want ds to think baby's coming and i'm being shoved out of the way. c) i want him to stay at his home, with his bed and with his toys.

Oh and i got the guilt trip, he's never slept at mine in all the 3 years. (he's only slept at my folks once without us) so i spoke to dh and said he could stay on the 4th Nov, assuming i haven't gone into labour. Dh called mil and spoke to her and she just kept coming up with problems, such as but he'll have just had his op, (a week before). i was so close to just saying well bloomin forget it then.

oops a long one of complaining, sorry ladies.

Onions hope it kicks off for you. I've not seen a midwife for a couple of weeks so don't know the state of my cervix. Feel like this pregnancy could go on forever. My next appointment for a sweep isn't until Friday, can't wait that long. I'm feeling so big and overblown I just want this baby out! So this morning I've been frantically cleaning and moving about and on all fours but now my feet have swollen so much I'm having to put them up. How on earth do you get labour going naturally. Last time I was induced so didn't manage it. I feel a week overdue even though due date isn't until tomorrow.

Sorry for the moaning.

[Waves to everyone and leaves one of the many boxes of chocolates that guests seem to be bringing at the moment]

irene sorry you're so uncomfortable at the moment. fx that bubs will start moving soon. they suggest sex and long walks. (although not necessarily at the same time.)

Cep yeah right, if they think I'll be having sex they've got another think coming! There has to be another way! Walking/waddling isn't so bad.

izzy did you decided what you'll do re half term. Think I'd say go too. You're still early enough to go and not worry too much and dm offer to collect you is a good one. A break will be good for you.

bigmac is your bag packed??

Interesting bigmac and hils being partly engaged!! Do you feel any different? I've been wondering if pup has started to engage. He definately feels lower- bit more room by ribs, much more pressure on non-existent bladder!! Also his movements feel different- kind of bumpier, less wriggly, and I keep getting a horrid sensation low down on my right sometimes when he moves, like joints clicking !!

milky how was your parentcraft class?

stich lovely to hear from you, good luck for tomorrows scan- what time?

irene and hotnspicy sorry you've still got no movement, hoping things get going for you both soon. I have to say I'm dreading going over!

cep go ahead and have a moan, sounds typical of many mils!!!

We're nearly half way through operation nursery. Most of the painting is done- don't you hate painting from colour to White, it takes a million coats! Glossing today and hopefully cot up monday! I'm really excited! I may have to post a picture of the room finished on fb as I'm really proud
of it already but we've picked a name and it's a feature on the wall so I can't share it with anyone in rl as the name is top secret!!!

Can't believe I don't have to get up for work tomorrow!! Although clearly that doesn't mean lying in!!!

ooh irene nipple twiddling is supposed to be good at starting things off. when i had my breastfeeding thing the other week, she suggested twiddling them.

sorry collie meant to say yay for mat leave, you'll soon enjoy it.

onions Hope everything gets started soon!!

minnie sorry about your backache - do you use cushions to support your lower back when you sit down? I remember getting pain like that last time, and the cushions seemed to help.

irene I am closely watching you!! I was induced last time too. My body showed NO sign of letting go of DD, so really want to know how to get labour started naturally too! I tried sex, nipple twiddling, walking, raspberry leaf tea (from weeks 38-42) but nothing worked...Hoping this time is different!

collie How exciting! Hope you enjoy putting the cot up and doing those final touches! Also, hope you enjoy your ML!

Parentcraft was good yesterday, alot of stuff was a good reminder. This time I actually got to see what the epidural I had in my back last time looked like [shocked]....Then I got to see what the head moniter they inserted up me to get to DD's head looked like [shocked] - I can't believe during labour they told me it was a "clip" that would "pinch" DD's head to measure her heart rate. Well yesterday I saw this "clip", and how it worked. It was basically a PIN going through the skin on DD's head. [shocked]. That left me a bit shaken seeing as I have needle phobia! DH looked a bit shocked too though!

Also the MW told me the chances of me being induced again is slightly higher, as my body may not be able to start naturally by itself , but that if I do go into labour naturally, then not to hang about at home, as it will progress in half the time.

I was a bit at she spent all her time talking about breast feeding, and didn't give any advice about bottle feeding - They did this last time too though. I was lucky I had Dsis who knew about bottles and formula and went out to get us some in an emergency, but I think all those women sitting there yesterday were being painted a pretty picture about how easy bfing is, when it is really hard to get a grasp of straightaway for some women.

Hope everyone is enjoying their Sunday!

Oh and cep, I hope your DS's operation goes well, and hopefully you'll be able to be with him when it happens.

milky thankyou, i'll probably talk myself into labour. i started the raspberryleaf tea at 34 wks last time, this time i've started at 32 wks building up every 2 weeks, so for 2 weeks it was 1 a day then for 2 wks 2 a day etc up till next thursday i'll start 4 a day. i also ate quite a lot of pineapple, although found out afterwards that the actual amount you'd need to do anything was a heck of a lot, so probably won't have any this time.

Hi everyone hope you've all had a lovely weekend it's a been a bit mental here dd had a bug and we've been fitting a kitchen, I just waanted to asak you all to keep everything crossed for my little sister and her baby girls, she isa havaing contractionsa and her waters are leaking, she's only 25 weeks and has been put on bed rest at hospital and given antibiotics and steroids but now its just a case of wait and see I'm feeling rather useless but if any of u would mind sending out poasitive thoughts or praaying or anything I'd be very greAtful, I'm not ususally a religiouas persaon but I'd try an
ything right now xxx

layla i hope your dd is feeling better now. sending buckets and buckets of fx positive thoughts for your sister.

meant to say happy dd for yesterday irene, hope things have gotten moving now.

and happy dd for today spicy onions don't forget to twiddle those nips.

Sorry to hear about your sister layla-sending all the positivity i have for a happy outcome for her and your family. I hope she is getting the most excellent care x

Milky that's really useful info about the risk of being induced again - Pip's 4 weeks old, and there is no way I'm considering doing this again yet but I find myself having questions about what my options are for next time.

Now we're on the other side, I also wish that everything hadn't been so BF focused. In the end, we've ended up doing everything the NCT is anti: induction/epidural/c-section and formula feeding. And although our course was fairly good, I didn't feel fully prepared for any of these, and would have liked far more information about these and also reassurance that its not being a wimp to take the drugs, and if a baby simply won't latch, with all the will in the world, FF is a far better option than a baby who's weight is plummeting and who has gone grey and floppy. Sorry, am still a bit grumpy at some of the NCT party lines...

Layla - thoughts and prayers with your sister, and fingers are firmly crossed for her.

Good luck Irene and Onions, sending baby eviction vibes

Thanks cep just spoke to her and she said she got the test mixed up and her waters arent broken, shes still having contractions but labour isnt progressing, she's having more steroids later incase the contractionsa get worse and shes trying not to move because moving brings them on, she is not usaually very good at staying still as she's normally running around after 2 year old ds so I just hope she stays sane [hsmile]
Good luck irene and onions I hope good things are happening for you x

Thanks doo and daisy I totally agree with you re feeding info, when I had dd I was asked by midwife what will you do if she awont bfeed at home ai said ill give her formula, midwife went mad and I found myself wondering if it really was my choice how I fed my baby! Ofcourse it is my choice and just like dd ill know what aworks best for me and baby when he gets here as long as they are healthy it should be noone elses business weather its breast or bottle, it makes me aso mad how pushy they are because you end up feeling a total faailure if it doesn't work out and you don't know what to do next wich surely is worse than offering info on bottle feeding juast incase, it makes no sense to me x

Quick update - scan all good this morning. Everything as it should be and team pink which dh is delighted about

layla I'm saying a prayer for your sister and hoping baby stays put a bit longer - that must be so scary x

daisy sorry you feel a bit let down by the whole pressure/information thing. I had a very idealised idea of how it would be first time round, then in fact I was induced and gave up bf after 10 days . I felt tons of pressure and guilt and felt the mws were completely unsupportive and just continued to pile the pressure on re bf when I was clearly not coping and at the end if my tether. I will say that things are easier second time round, you will find that you are more confident in your choices for a start and also mws are less likely to pressurise and guilt trip you. Actually I did get the completely natural birth with dc2 (which was great) but I was far more prepared for the fact that I couldn't necessarily control how things went and so much more relaxed about the whole thing. Also, dd ended up being ff too and I didn't waste my time feeling guilty about it this time; ff really worked for us, she was a healthy very contented baby and we bonded really well without all the trauma of ds's first ten days!!

That's not to say I got everything right, and I will try bf again this time and hope it works, but if it doesn't I know it's not the end of the world. My point is, please don't stress about the next time, my experience is that it will be easier because you are more realistic about how things may go and more confident to trust your own instincts, whatever the mws or nct might be telling you!