Pregnancy post mc: Totally Grads Part 10!

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Emoo congratulations!!! That's amazing news!!!

velvet hoping miniv stays put for another week!

I just have a quick question for ladies further on, been through it before, already popped. I know this has been asked before but.... A friend of mine has been in touch to see if I want to have a bit of a 'pregnancy/baby' pamper weekend with her, and 2 other close friends, one due the day after me. Basically would consist of baby shopping, possibly a treatment, lots of non-alcohol cocktails and cake! Problem is we are looking mid-late Oct earliest to pull this together so I'll be at least 36wks if not 37 and it would be in London as I'm the only one in the north. That's a 2 1/2 hr train journey plus 45mins to the station this end, plus about another hr on the tube/train at the other end. Plus waiting around. I expect we'd all be saying in her 2bed fiat, so no doubt futon sharing too! so, my question is, too much so late on? DH is worried and doesn't really want me going such distances after 35 weeks. He's obv worried about early labour, and I'm also thinking about just generally how much will it take it out of me. I'm also a little about it all as I suggested something a couple of months ago and was greeted with a rather disinterested reaction so let the idea go. It seems it's now a good idea because my other updiffed friend wants to visit with her DP and dp's ds, whom my friend doesn't get on with, so I think she's suggesting this as it seems like a better alternative to having them stay, which does pee me off slightly! But I also don't want to cut my own nose off.

Collie I don't think I'd want to go, it just sounds too knackering. Also how uncomfy will the accomodation be? hopefully you'll have a proper bed. But then again, the thought of London just tires me out now since I've moved away. I've got a girlie night out on 17th and that's only in Edinburgh, 20 mins away but I'm disinclined to go. Supposed to be the cocktails and spa treatment thingy. But you may feel differently to me, each pregnancy is different. Last time I was happily commuting on the tube until a week before I popped, this time I feel like I've been hit by a truck, maybe I'm just getting old!

Huge congrats emoo - fab news!!!

velvet will be hoping miniV stays put until it's convenient!

hairy if I haven't already said - fantastic that everything's going so well

collie I don't think I'd go tbh, sounds like a hassle to get there and might be uncomfortable (I wouldn't particularly fancy futon-sharing at that stage!). I've provisionally arranged to make a last trip to my parents at 35 weeks (3.5 hour drive) but may drive myself or get train depending on what's more comfortable, or my dad has offered to pick me up if I want, and it's completely open to being cancelled if I feel it's too much. I definitely wouldn't want to have to commit to something for definite. Similarly, we might visit MIL at 36 weeks (only 1.5 hours away) but will be day trip only, not staying as she has no spare bedroom at present and I don't think my back will put up with sleeping on floor or her massively uncomfortable sofa bed! Of course if it in any way looks like baby might come early I will be staying put here regardless!

I am finally starting to prepare here, spent yesterday hauling everything out the spare room and sorting it out with my mum (it was a general dumping ground and there were boxes in there that hadn't been unpacked since we moved in 5 years ago!) while my dad started painting it pink for dd. Once she's in there her little bedroom will be painted yellow and transformed back into the nursery - eek!! Will be lovely (if scary!) when done but the house looks like a complete tip at the minute! DS, who has by far the largest bedroom, is not liking all the change and is terrified we're going to make him swap too!!

emoo congratulations on the arrival of your little girl. so pleased for you.

collie have to admit i'm not sure, what would put me off would be the train (if unlikely to get a seat) and being squished on the underground. how uncomfortable are you feeling now? i think it'd be nice but would prefer a stay in a hotel on the outskirts (bit cheaper) so you know you'd get a good night sleep. could you go the night before and stay at a hotel? (if you want to go at all) if you don't want to go don't feel you're cutting your nose off, they decided to do it so late and you're the only one so far away.

Hello Ladies

Feels like I've been away for ages... A couple of weeks I think. Quite out of character (big hugs to all of you that PMed or asked after me). I just went through a bit of a weird "insular phase". Not sure if I'm freaking out slightly about the impending arrival of Little Boy (yes, I am excited too) or whether I've just been self-absorbed with a few goings on... Thankfully all is well with Little One.

I've missed loads - way, way too much to read back on right now so apologies for the impersonal post. A huge hug and congrats to the ladies that have all given birth - totally heartwarming.

Now apologies for me, me, me nature of this post but I've got heaps to catch up on so will post a personalised post later...

Firstly, BigMac - is it you that has so warmly welcomed Steve the Stretchmark? Well I have two and a third one appearing. I was totally gutted . They appeared over night. I even got the GP to verify that they are stretchmarks.

I am sure there has been loads of talk on shopping but that is my key focus at the mo. Q - what do babies sleep in? Just a sleepsuit? Have done most of it now but need to have another JL burst next weekend (using friend's discount card). Any tips on a good baby bouncer things (the chair thing) and activity mat?

I also read that there is a FB page... can I join you? Shall I PM you, Collie?

Has anyone at the 32 week stage packed their hospital bag yet?

My NCT classes are in full flow. The climax of it all was in last week's class when we are all grouped having a discussion about labout positions while drinking tea. The course leader stood up and said "right, I need a bloke to volunteer... which one of you is happy to demonstrate a normal vaginal delivery for all of us?" Was the most hilarious moment ever. All 8 blokes suddenly shrunk into their teacups desperately avoiding eye contact. Thankfully I just have three classes left - they've dragged on for weeks.

Getting v tired but I guess that's normal. Collie - did you get your M&Ps furniture? My delivery arrives on Monday. Am v excited.

Anyways - will read back. Missed you all honestly and sorry for the silence....

Off to Whitstable today to catch some sun and eat some calamari with chips in paper!

wb Lara my hospital bag is still only sort of packed, I started it at around 32 weeks I think.

collie I definitly would not be up for all that travelling! I'm done in after walking around our very small local shopping centre yesterday. And I couldn't even consider trying to sleep on anything apart from a big comfy bed.

Woohoo emoo - many congrats on your dd. Had to at you apologising for queue jumping. Anyone else fancy taking over from irene? Hope you're doing ok and find the baton when you need it!

So sorry to hear your news tunnocks - hope you and DH are holding up as well as can be expected.

Good to see you back lara - I was beginning to wonder.... and definitely no to the hospital bag. Still have loooooads to get for wiwjunior - we have the furniture, the bugaboo, some nipple cream and that's about it so far! How has it been working from home?

WE had a similar day yesterday izzy - we'd been using the nursery as a bit of a dumping ground and have managed to sort some space now and rearranged spare room furniture and even hung up some pics!

Fingers tightly crossed that miniv stays firmly in place until DH is back velvet and no repeat of silly contractions!

Not much else to report from here - 2 weeks left at work but still of cep being able to count the hours down! Annoyingly, I'm actually really enjoying my job at the mo - I think that as people know I'm going, they're finally seeing the value of what I do.... sigh.....

Magnums for all given your glorious weather!

Hi all
Just a quick one from me to say collie I prob wouldn't if I were you. Was up there yesterday (albeit it was scorching hot and won't be in a couple of weeks). Was exhausted quickly, dazed by all the people (and I used to live there and live in a city now), protective of bump, irritated by everyone et etc etc :) and when I got home to my bed it was the biggest relief last night. And I still have cankles now. :( And I'm only 31+5

Back on later, I'm sat like Homer Simpson in my vest and pants enjoying the cool air

((hugs)) to all, especially tunnockd
xx

Morning!

Emoo congratulations on your speedy and safe arrival. Glad you're both home safe and well now xx

Tunnocks so sorry to hear about your sil. Take care of yourself and remember that a good cry will not harm baby T ((()))'s xx

lara lovely to see you back, hope all is well x

collie I wouldn't personally, and I'm a London gal. The place just wears me out now though! Plus the train journey, and being so far away from home so far along would freak me out.

wiw I don't know how you've coped with the heat out there.... I'm basically just a puddle on the floor.

bigmac I compared my belly & boobs to Budha this morning, and dh said more like Homer Simpson...... git .

I'm fed up with this hot weather now! Nice to wear my comfy slobby maxi dresses all day though. Got tonnes of washing done though, although you can now imagine my ironing pile mountain!

Saw doc on Friday as I spoke to mw's and although I didn't need to be signed back on to work she wanted me to be due to crutches/office upstairs/loo's downstairs scenario, plus I can't take my cocodamol if I'm doing anything as it spaces me out so I'd be in pain most of the time. The doc signed me off for another 2 weeks, boss is going to go spare!

Thanks ladies for your advice re the trip to London. The overwhelming feeling seems to be no, and tbh the more I thought about it yesterday the more I didn't want to go, so it doesn't suprise me. I think if it was up here it would have been lovely, but the distance is just impractical. So I've told her no, and annoyingly it's become even clearer that she only suggested to avoid having our other friends dp stay, rather than because it was something that would have just been nice to do, which upsets me slightly-nothing like that to make you feel special! Anyway, moan over.

izzy and wiw how did the nursery clearing go yesterday?ours is still very much a dumping ground and will be for another couple of weeks. Off to Ikea at some point this week to get new wardrobe for our bedroom so even more crap will be piled into spare room! I wonder if the spare room will ever resemble a nursery?!!

Lara so lovely to hear from you, was starting to worry you maybe had another secret mn meet up and this tine they did turn out to be pervy strange bloke who had kidnapped you!! Sorry you've been feeling out of sorts, I hope you are feeling better. You know we are always here for you if you need to have a wibble!!!

lara we ordered our cot last week and picked it up in store - I'd read so many horror stories of m&p deliveries taking months that it was just easier as we have a store less than 30 mins away. It's still flat packed though.

Ps, I'll pm you lara re bookface group!

velvet how are things with you? When does dh go?

harassed glad to hear you've been signed off again. (well not glad that you need to be, but glad your not going in when not fit enough). Sod your arsehole boss! Does that mean you'll be off now until mat leave?

It's a gray day today which I'm about. Have litterally been melting at work and spent yesterday in a stock room on a beginers sewing class (yes I needed teaching how to use a machine ) so sweltered then to! Had plan to enjoy it today though and have last day of lounging in the sun in the city watching the world go by, drinking a few mocktails!! But the rain has called it off!! Booo!!! At least I'll be cooler at work next week!

Pup had fun last night kicking me in the ribs! I swear it felt like he was lying straight, head down, feet up!!! Strechmark Steve hadn't made an appearance (yet) on my stomach, but I have a few on my thighs and love handles!

I totally agree with the others, Collie and think you've made the right choice. I am a Londoner and I am struggling with the pace. In fact, I was a real lightweight yesterday. We went to Whitstable for a few hours and walked by the beach, had sme fish and chips etc. Anyways - it exhausted me. I slept in the car on the way home, was in bed at 8.30pm and have struggled to get the energy together to do anything today. Poor DH planned a nice morning for us at Battersea Park but I don't have the energy. Anyone else feeling this rubbish?

Collie - you did the right thing picking up your furniture. We've been waiting for so long.

Harassed - please don't feel guilty. You have to put your health first. Screw the office I'd say...

Wiw - good to hear from you too. I thought you'd told me when we met you were stopping work at the start of the summer? Maybe I got the wrong end of the stick.. Thanks for asking about my working from home. It's fab. Feels like mat leave has kind of started already. It's amazing - when you stop being there, they start forgetting about you!

Huge congratulations to emoo, hope everything else is ok too.

Big waves to everyone else. I'm struggling with the heat so I have no idea how you're all coping.

Lara I'm feeling pretty rubbish too, everything tires me out tbh. Plus my cocodamol space me out!! Have to try timing them around things or just cope with paracetamol.

collie I don't know how long I'll be off tbh. Doc said he generally ends up signing people off for the rest of their preg, but not sure we can afford it tbh! I get 8 weeks paid a year, and will have taken nearly 6wks when the next fortnight ends.

A little winge: Dh went off for a nap earlier because "he was exhausted"!!!! That was after he'd been out most of the morning leaving with me dd sort out & occupy. Now he's training and I've got to get madam to do her reading, put her to bed, put sheets on our bed and sort out school uniform ............

COngratulations emoo! lovely news :)

A mememe and a bit of advice needed.

I had a full on week last week at work and have had a very busy weekend (fun stuff but a bit too much - I seem to have tiredness creeping back again in first trimester style). I had the flu jab at my MW appt last Thursday and I feel a bit on the crappy side and, like all of us, I'm not sleeping that well and I'm so hot. I'm thinking of calling in sick tomorrow to give myself a chance to recoup and shake off this icky feeling but feel guilty because of my weekend of seeing people. I haven't taken any sick time this pregnancy apart from when I had bed rest at 17weeks. I know I'm not at deaths door, but I'm not being a workshy fop am I? Or am I?

Oh, and I'm papping myself about NCT starting tomorrow evening. Ridiculous.

Big hugs to all others who are feeling much crappier than me [guilty face]

Emoo congratulations on the birth of your little girl!

collie I think it's a good thing your meet up was cancelled. It's a long way to be away from home if anything was to happen early. A different hospital or a long journey home would be really stressful I'd imagine.

lara glad you're back. Bit of your day at the seaside-sounds lovely.

tunnocks sorry to hear your sad news. Hope you're ok.

harrassed feeling the buddha myself. Not helped by dp's 'hilarious' kneeling in front of me the other day in worship! He thinks he's so funny!

My heartburn is seriously bad at the moment-anything I eat sets it off even water. Definitely can't eat chocolate anymore-totally horrendous! The doc has prescribed me some gaviscon advanced and ranitidine for if gets any worse. Hopefully it'll help.

Mil is also being horrendous at the moment. She has all dp's money from sale of his house in a high interest account (under pretense of giving it back with interest after a year) That was two years ago and she basically is refusing to give it back. Very stressful and dp is useless at standing up to her- which is why she has the money in the first place! He managed to persuade her to give £600 towards baby stuff and she had the cheek to ask for the change back! Considering she has over 10 thousand of his we were pretty pissed off! I know i sound really selfish but anything would help so much now. And dp is so annoying because he just will not stand up to her!

Sorry for the me me me rant and oversharing! Just a bit fed up this weekend

Have a good week everyone xx

Emoo congratulations to you and your little girl. I'm glad to hear you are all safe and well and at home now.

I've been a bit out of touch, am trying not to spend too much time on computer in order to sort out all the normal life admin I keep putting off, so this will be another short post from me (but I have been lurking)

Collie the whole spa thing sounds a bit unthoughtful, think you're right to back out.

Minnie I'm at your MIL and DP's money. That's outrageous.

Bigmac if by taking a day off, you'll be more productive for the rest of the week then it makes sense.

Izzy and WiW We have also had some room re-arranging this weekend. DD now in her "new" room so she has lots of time to adjust and doesn't feel kicked out by the popsicle. Actually it's the nicest room in the house and I'm rather jealous.
Big squeeze for Tunnocks*

Irene enjoy having the baton
hairy that's great news that things are going well.

Have started NCT ante-natal yoga and it's fab. Some yoga but mostly it's about lying under a blanket relaxing and then drinking tea and eating biscuits
Waves to all

mac I hope you've had the day off today, it's true that you'll be more productive for the rest of the week that way.

minnie MIL situation sounds very annoying - you need that money and you don't want to have to keep asking her for it!

freezing yoga with cake sounds good!

hope everyone else is good - yay for fully cooked for a couple of people (tunnocks and irene for yesterday I think?)

DH has just left for the airport so I'm sitting here in tears :(, have had to hold it together til he was gone as he feels incredibly guilty and knows that there is no way he'd make it back in time if I went into labour.

Ah velvet really feel for you lady, I hope that miniv stays put and that your DH is back in what feels like no time. I hope that having a good old cry has made you feel a little bit better-do you have much planned for while he's away?

doo I really don't know what to do for the best! I don't want to do too much in case it gets things started but I don't want to sit around either. I've offered to mark some year 10 tests for work so that should keep me occupied for a bit this week.

Oh velvet poor you. Like doo I hope miniv stays firmly in place. Marking the tests sounds like a good plan, are there any friends nearby who could come over to spend time with you? Family?
x

Morning all!

I have been lurking but I'm sorry if I miss any news. Massive congrats to Emoo and Mamap on your news, brilliant!

Tunnocks, I'm so sorry about your SIL, will be really thinking of you today.

Collie You would have had my major respect at going to London at that point. I can see what you mean about feeling non-special though - we shall have to have another northern meet up to compensate

Irene at hiding the baton

Oh Velvet, big hugs. FX all's quiet for the week, will be keeping my legs crossed for you!

Bigmac hope you've taken the day off - all pregnancy and no time off sick? Major respect!

All seems well here, feel far better after the section than I ever thought possible, I just have to remember to take it easy. I may need to manage my parents better though - they've come up to 'help' for a few days but spent yesterday cuddling Pip whilst I had to sort lunch, and hold their hands through the few jobs I asked them to do. I eventually went to bed and sulked.

Oh and OH produced a classic this morning - he came in as I was changing Pip's nappy and wanted to take over/give her lots of cuddles as he "hadn't seen her all night". Because he's still in the spare room and slept through her creating at 1am this morning

Thanks for advice re today. I have taken the day off and feel better already for the extra lie in this morning.

harassed how have things gone with your boss? Sounds like dh owes you some hours!

minnie that sounds incredibly difficult with your mil.

Hey lara!

freezing I'm still hemming and hawwing about preggers yoga. Need to pull my finger out if I'm going to do it...

Two updates from Camp Bigmac:

1. Last night, sat on the sofa (in Buddha/Homer style) I watched my belly button go almost completely inside out as I was kicked from the inside. I've only got a little bit left now . The bit that was inside and is now outside is all soft and weird.
2. I'm sorry to report that Steve the Stretch was joined by two friends at some point between Friday night and Sunday morning. The horror. I look like I've been attacked by an over-enthusiastic cat. They remain unnamed.

Another hug for tunnocks xx

Oh daisy... sounds like you and OH need to swap bedrooms for a bit :)

velvet I really feel for you too. I?d have definitely gone home and cried too- well done for holding it together for him before he went. I?d hate DH to be away at this point just because I?m so tired and need his support, let alone having the additional worry of something starting up! Marking sounds like a good way to keep your mind occupied. Maybe a couple of lunches out with some friends, not to far away? A good DVD box set? Hoping miniv is well behaved this next week and stays firmly put!

daisy grr at your parents! And OH, what a sod! He needs a reality check to! Its hard I bet, as they think you get to spend time with them all the time, but its not fair that everyone else gets the fun time and you get lumbered with smelly bums and midnight feeds!

lara I truly feel terrible too. My sewing course completely took it our of me on Saturday and I could barely muster the energy to make some tea and watch the xfactor. Did bugger all yesterday too and I?m still shattered. Sleeping is better, although very restless!

bigmac I too am impressed that you?ve not had any sick leave at all in your pregnancy! Especially during all those sleepless nights I don?t think anyone would judge an 8 month pregnant women having a day off to recoup. Good luck with your ante natel classes. My nhs ones are surprisingly good and more enjoyable than the NCT ones. The NCT one was proberly more comprehensive but the social side of it was really rubbish (and was the only reason we paid for them) and everyone was a bit serious! They are all really nice and friendly on my NHS ones and thankfully they also organise a reunion post birth so I?m looking forward to that, as I?m not expecting much to materialise from my NCT group.

DH had a major panic last night. I?ve been feeling generally ?off? for a few days, had some sickness and as I?ve mentioned before I?ve had loose stools (sorry tmi) for a week or so. I?ve also started to get period pains and mid-upper back ache on and off. I?ve also had this weird tightening pain just below my ribs. I just put this down to the baby putting pressure up there, but when I googled it, it sounds a lot like contracts/Braxton hicks ? although my bh used to be just a tightening of the belly. Anyway, we had just sat down for a drink in a village pub we were exploring and I relayed all this to dh and he had to get up and go for a walk, before coming back and asking pup (yes talking to my belly in a pub) to please not come yet, as he?s not ready!! Lol. I?m not sure what?s going on to be honest. I have to admit I?ve become a bit paranoid since velvet posted about her pre labour, but I expect its just my bh really kicking in. I just don?t even know if that?s what they are! Either way, its blooming uncomfy!

Oh collie - is it possible to have a chat with your MW? I would have no clue either what was going on and MrB would have the same reaction if it helps?

I've heard from a few people that when their NCT classes were a bit off, the bumps and babies (?) stuff after birth has been really good for meeting buddies. Same as you, it's the only reason we paid for them. I am trying not to put too much pressure on myself to make friends, but by god I want them!!!

Must get off my butt and do something now. I've been sucked into internet shopping and This Morning. Cliche? Moi?