found out its a girl, am a bit sad...everyone is a bit down

[mamaesi]

I just found out I am having another girl and feel down about it. Every single family member kept saying 'hope its a boy' and I know my husband wanted a son too. In fact so did I...

I know its silly, but I feel like I have let people down...and someone already said "oh shame, bet you wanted a boy"

And my husband has already said he doesnt want any more than 2 children...even though I kinda do...so this was my only chance for a son and now its over. Has anyone else felt this way? How did you get over it?

please help me talk some sense into my mind

[usualsuspect]

Carolinelou ...you are very annoying,please stop

[usualsuspect]

Have the school holidays started?

[nunnie]

I too am dyslexic and I am actually finding it very offensive that you are using this as an excuse to be rude to people. Yes I agree spelling isn't really the issue here, but people correcting your spelling surely by now should be flying over your head? I have had this all my life and have never taken offence by someone correcting me an dif I am honest I have without letting them know of course taken on board their correction how else am I suppose to learn?
Dyselxia does not give you a backing for being rude.

[CotesduRhone]

working9 I know what you mean - and yet that whole picture is one that's based on your experience with your own mum, whereas of course there isn't a guarantee in the world (hope this doesn't sound mean ) that a relationship you had with a daughter would be in any way the same as yours with your mum. You might not even like each other!

So I guess what I'm saying is, this is ALL about the dissonance between what we fantasise about the world being like, and how it is in reality. OP, I think when you're dealing with an abstract 'baby' as opposed to your own brilliant daughter, it's easier to get hung up on stuff like this. That'll all change. And it's also why I'd never have a gender scan, personally, I think it allows people like your family to weigh in like massive twats.

Carolinelou, you are not adding much to the discussion, are you.

[AmazingBouncingFerret]

Bye bye CarolineLou. Goodluck in trying to conceive and hope you have more fun on NetMums.

[Kayzr]

Can you stop and think of the OP? She is feeling a bit down about the fact everyone is disappointed about the sex of her baby. I'm sure she doesn't need this on her thread.

Also CarolineLou don't start making personal comments about someone looks or I will start reporting you too. There is no need for it!!

[CarolineLou]

pregnant ** oops another wrong spelling hahahaha!! So that little dig really didnt hurt :)

[AmazingBouncingFerret]

Oh well congrats you must be so pleased, especially so after the previous miscarriages.

And don't worry Kayzr, I'm not fat so it doesnt bother me, confuses me, but hey ho!

[Kayzr]

I looked at her pictures actually and I think she looks lovely!! And even if she weighs 50 stone its got fuck all to do with you or the context of this thread!!!

[nunnie]

Caroline when you have to be so rude and personal you really are scraping in barrel and it is best to walk away.

[CotesduRhone]

CarolineLou, you really are behaving in a vile manner, you'd want to take a look at your behaviour.

[scottishmummy]

proof how of you can geta mn debacle any ole thread
and the odd you is all cunts too
nice

[exoticfruits]

I found it most refreshing-the first thread on MN, that I have seen, where someone is disappointed to be having a girl-it redresses the balance of the many who are disappointed to have boys.
I found it best to be open minded and then you are not disappointed-once they are here you wouldn't go back anyway.

[scottishmummy]

congratulations on pg. you will feel different as it progresses and you get that emotional attachment of scans,antenatal appts etc

[Oeisha]

You could always go with my brother's line in response:
"Are you telling me you think I should abort my baby as it's a girl?!"
...that'll shut people up.
You're allowed to feel dissapointed. As startail said, you imagined one thing, now you'll adjust. Just think of all the fun you can have ganging up on DH as a female collective...

[Oeisha]

Oh and congrats! :)

[issynoko]

Cheer up. She might be a chirpy sterotypical lesbian and you can buy her lumberjack shirts, a crew cut and do some wrestling. Or call her Pop and not tell anyone she's a girl for years.

[pink4ever]

While I think caroline has been out of line with her personal comments I think the way she was hounded on this thread for expressing her opinion is deplorable. Also to pick up on someones spelling mistakes and use it to attack them -dont you have anything better to do with your time?
The op was asking for help to talk some sense into her-reminding her of how damn lucky she is to have a healthy baby is a perfectly valid way to do that IMO.
Op-tell your family to feck the feck off and then some. Also tell your dh if he doesnt want more than 2 dcs then he better make an appointment for a vasectomy sharpish.

[Millie26]

I agree you are allowed to be disappointed.

Having a baby is all about a fantasy until you are holding it in your arms and maybe you love the idea of a little boy even though you have know idea when it would be like either way.

It's just where you're 'at' right now.

When you are trying to conceive you are pissed off at people who moan about having children.

When you have a miscarriage you are pissed off at people who have abortions.

When you eventually have one baby but you want two, you envy those who seem to effortlessly have a small brood.

When you want a boy and it's a girl, it's just a bit...disappointing.

That's ok. You will definitely not care one jot when you've been through the agony of labour and your DD is cradling her little sister in her arms.

Anyway, the scan might be wrong. My BFs little boy Jack turned out to be a very girly Evie. That was annoying when they'd painted the nursery blue...