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I'm so angry!!!!!

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sarahmia · 02/07/2011 23:25

My mother has just announced that she wants to go to Scotland 10 days after I'm due, 3 days after she breaks up from school. For a week. Then 2 weeks later go on holiday for 10 days to Israel. When I said I was kinda relying on her help a bit especially since dd1 is on school holidays, my sister agreed with me and then my mum went off on one about how she has a life too and she needs a break etc etc. I'm so angry I basically just told her that I don't want her here and she should go. Oh how I do love to cut my nose off to spite my face.
Am I being hormonally unfair???

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iMemoo · 02/07/2011 23:27

You are being a bit unfair.

Chynah · 02/07/2011 23:29

Yes. Sorry but your mum is entitled to do whstever she wants whenever. Dealing with 2 kids is no big deal and something you are going to have to get used to (unless you expect your mum to hold your hand until they're 16)

ssd · 02/07/2011 23:33

oh grow up and get on with it

some of us actually manage looking after our kids without expecting our mums to drop everything for us, you should try it

it sounds like your mums got your number, good on her

MmeLindor. · 02/07/2011 23:35

Sorry but yes, you are being a bit unfair.

But are you worried about not coping? Or pissed off that if you are late she might miss the birth?

LynetteScavo · 02/07/2011 23:35

You are being hormonally unfair.

But I can see why you would be a bit put out (the same thing happened to me) but being angry is a bit extreme.

Wafflepuss · 02/07/2011 23:35

Good for your Mum. Can't imagine why she'd keep wanting to get far, far away...

BehindLockNumberNine · 02/07/2011 23:38

You are being unfair (and hormonal)

My mum lives abroad (well, no, she is at home, I am the one who moved away) and there is no way she would be at the birth etc. I coped.

I think you expecting her to be there is not on. Lovely if she wants to, but no biggie if she has other plans.

Original poster

sarahmia · 02/07/2011 23:58

Well, thanks for that barrage of abuse. Definitely warranted. Think that'll be the last time I come on here.

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iMemoo · 03/07/2011 00:01

Abuse? I thought we were quite polite. And you did ask!!!!

Your hormones are getting the better of you dear

MmeLindor. · 03/07/2011 00:02

Sarah
There were a couple of slightly harsh comments but most posters answered your question, "Am i being unfair".

Are you worried that you won't cope? Does your mum often help?

mumatron · 03/07/2011 00:05

you're expecting your mum to put her plans on hold because you are choosing to have another baby?

grow up.

ssd · 03/07/2011 00:05

op, i repeat, grow up

iMemoo · 03/07/2011 00:07

Some of us have no help at all. Not even when on dc3 and having had a CS.

ssd · 03/07/2011 00:07

just re read your op, i feel really sorry for your mum

startail · 03/07/2011 00:13

Assuming you have a DP/DH and he isn't in the forces or similar, then you are being unfair.
Sorry those of us with distant, infirm or deceased, parents get a bit pissed off with people who expect theirs to drop everything to help out.

Reality · 03/07/2011 00:13

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JarethTheGoblinKing · 03/07/2011 00:20

Wow.. you lot are brutal!

KaraJS · 03/07/2011 00:44

Think this lot are being abit unfair! Also maybe you are being abit unfair to your mother, maybe she well help out abit before she goes away

CarolineLou · 03/07/2011 00:56

Wow, I think some replies were a little harsh!!!! I think I'll be very creful what I ask on here as it seems there are unwritten rules

KaraJS · 03/07/2011 00:56

Then again I wouldnt have this problem, there is no way my mum would want to go any where if there was the chance the baby might be born late, also she would want to be around to help, that's what family's do isn't it? So even tho you shouldn't expect your mum to be there to help you would think shed want to be, and who out their can say they wouldn't have been gratefull for abit of help after they'd had a baby?

doozle · 03/07/2011 00:59

I don't know. If my daughter was having a baby, I'd like to be around for her and help out in whatever way needed. And so wouldn't plan so many holidays around the due date and afterwards.

So I think the OP is not entirely unreasonable here.

However shouting at your mum might not have been the most constructive thing either.

CarolineLou · 03/07/2011 01:00

I totally agree Kara same with my Mum, shes offered to help me as its my first but I'm surte I'll get a load of abuse for daring to accept any help from anyone as of course the people who posted being utterly nasty have never asked for help off anyone ever

Dexifehatz · 03/07/2011 01:19

Whoops,thought I'd clicked on AIBU.

moonferret · 03/07/2011 01:26

Well, thanks for that barrage of abuse. Definitely warranted. Think that'll be the last time I come on here.

Too funny! The "hormonal" references were a bit unkind though..but still funny!

KaraJS · 03/07/2011 01:33

I think anyone who says they wouldn't like abit of support is not being totally honest! I was in hosp for three weeks last time as the baby was prem, don't know what we would have done without my families help with the kids esp as I'd had an emergency csection where they cut longer and higher into my womb and then got a hospital infection there was noway I could have done the walk to school the first week I got home and my dh had to go back to work as he was self employed and had alot of time off while baby was in neonatal,

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