Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 8

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new thread!!

Has spent the day scrubbing trying to get ready for estate agents photos on Tuesday, Fooked!! Bloody hot too... Storms tonight I reckon!!

Did someone mention biscuits????

You can never have too many biscuits. That is my motto in life

I am now going to attempt to have a bath in about 2 inches of lukewarm water once my kettle has boiled.

nix please remember the golden rule: all estate agents are utter bastards.

Hiya everyone, found you at last. Now I've got to settle down and catch up on the rest of the thread.

owl it's just awful when you don't have hot water! How long will it be for?

Hi Irene I'm glad you made it over :)

dachs I hope you are tucked up with a strong hot toddy.

Silly dachs...no thread killing, just gets a tad quiet round here at times!
Poor owl with no hot water for a bath, that would be a disaster for me!
No news here...saw midwife today, baby still totally unengaged which she helpfully pointed out would make my waters going a 'dramatic affair' so am now considering becoming even more of a hermit for the next few weeks! Still getting flipping branstons every evening but nothing more exciting than that.
Hope everyone else is doing well and enjoyed our mini 'heatwave'...rain tomorrow

dachs big hugs lady, you didn't kill the thread, i for one just haven't been on here this weekend, although thinking about it I've done absolutely nothing productive except make a banoffi pie mmmmm nom nom. It definitely slightly puts you off eating that stuff when you see how much butter and sugar goes into it though!!! I see owls has already been in with the fish so I will let you off. Did you have any thoughts on the quilt making / gardening / Italian learning?

owls that is hilarious - had he put petrol on the BBQ or something?

apples hope you're doing ok. I guess there's still time for the baby to engage though? (she says, knowing absolutely naff all about the subject!) and I guess the one benefit of dramatic waters breaking is that at least you'll know definitively that they've gone!

Hahaha orange it seems that the thread you've started has ended in a fight - glad I'm not the only one that this always happens to!!

and still not decided we're sleeping on it

Morning all...
Sorry for mememe post, but I figure you ladies will understand. Also going to post in post-grads in the hope they may have some words of wisdom too...

The thing I found hardest about my mmc last year was that I had absolutely no idea anything was wrong....that I believed I was pregnant for 6 weeks longer than I was...that I trusted my body was doing what it should and that I could believe that no bleeding/cramping meant I was pregnant, but that wasn't the case.

Now as my EDD is getting closer instead of getting excited I'm getting more and more scared that I can't trust my body to do anything right....that something is going to go wrong. I can't put my finger on it, but I'm just getting really low and it's really annoying DH! He keeps saying "we'll have the baby here soon", but every day that passes just makes me more nervous that it's not going to happen. Think the weird waters breaking but not the other week, and the evenings of branstons don't help as I'm left wondering whether my body even knows what it's meant to do anymore.

Flip I sound so silly and melodramatic!! Just wanted to share with ladies who hopefully will understand.

Have just read Orange's thread and the bun-fight it descended into. I'm glad I have you lot who understand my mentalling as I daren't even think about posting my anxieties about gender on there!

But if I were you, I'd still open the envelope - wouldn't change a thing, curtains would still have cars all over them, but at least I could then picture a family with a baby girl/boy...

Two quick updates here - I've ditched the useless counsellor, and have found that the unit I'm booked for have a specialist mental health midwife whom I'm seeing next week - yay!

Plus, all my friends who know about my anxieties have got together, raided their cupboards/garages and given us absolutely everything we need - cot, pram, pushchair, bouncy chair, gym, toys, changing table. Everything. Meaning I don't need to face the shops ever!

Apple I don't know if this is comforting for you, but your words make perfect sense to me, it seems completely logical to lose faith in your body. I don't know how to help ease your anxieties though I'm afraid - do the unit you're booked for know how you're feeling? Could you have extra checks in the next few days if that would help?

apples I can also completely understand why you feel the way you do-I posted on postgrads a couple of days ago about v similar feelings. Do you trust your MW? was she able to reassure you a bit? I'm sorry I haven't got any advice but one thing I do know for certain is that I'll be feeling exactly the same when I (fingers crossed) get to your stage.... Hope the postgrads are more helpful than me!!!

daisy I've found there's lots of ridiculousness out there in the general pregnancy board, I would definitely stay put here!!! Fab need on the MW, and good work ditching the useless counsellor. Also fab news on all the baby stuff!!!!

Turns out orange and I are maxi dress twins!

I think I might have cystitis.... Which is weird as I'm already on antibiotics for a fanjo infection. Urghghgh going to see if I can see an out of hours GP ad getting an appointment on Monday will be a mission and a half!

Urghghgh hope message makes sense despite phone's random word changes!

For example, daisy, great news on MW!

Great work on the baby stuff daisy That's a great idea, getting given the big stuff so you don't need to worry about doing it yourself. I hope you start feeling a little better soon, and that the special midwife is more helpful than the useless counsellor!

I read your post in post-grads pink and so much of it is just the same as what I'm feeling! It does help just to know that it's not just my brain being crazy....but it's obviously to do with what we've lost, or something!

I haven't seen my midwife for a few weeks now, she was all booked up so have seen three different ones, which I don't think has helped. Going to try and get an appointment to see her in ten days for a sweep. She's really lovely and always reassures me (she's had a mc herself so understands how I'm feeling)

Poor you pink with yet more bugs....hope it clears up. pregnancy is oh so glamorous

....and I agree with the general pregnancy board, I've been too scared to start any new threads of my own and I just keep myself here. They always seem to descend into madness!

Apple I also feel like that and I think a lot of us do in here; past experiences make you trust your body less and there's no way of getting round that. BUT the branstons are a good thing, they're the practice run. So your body IS getting ready and preparing for the big event. But is IS a big event and if you think back to past 'big events' in your life and how much you've worried about those beforehand, this one blows the whole lot of them out of the water. It would be weird if you weren't het up about it but the calmer you can be, the better - I am trying to do other things like meet up with friends, finish books I've started - which I think is helping a bit.

Babies go from unengaged to engaged very quickly once they make their mind up. I bet you at the next appt with your MW the little one is head down and ready to roll.

Daisy that's fab news on the specialist MW and the free stuff front :)

Morning all,

Just popping in from Spain! R and R is really helping!
I couldn't not post on oranges thread, some people just spout nonsense, they have too much time on their hands!!

Which reminds me... I can't remember in my ridiculously busy life whether I even told you all but we opened the envelope and it's team pink in this corner

apple hope u don't have a long anxious wait

pink start necking cranberry juice

Just thought I'd pop back and update you all - not on your radar but thought it was worth spreading some good news.

Our beautiful little boy arrived safely into the world on 01/06/11 - 36+5wks however a fairly healthy 7lb 1oz. Natrual birth pretty much, waters went at 03.30am, I decided to stay home until I was sure things were heading in the right direction - they were fast it would seem! By 9am I was 6cm's on arrival at the hospital to the surprise of the MW insiting she'd probably send me home again but suggested I 'come in anyway' when I called

Following a quick breakfast, loading the dishwasher & hanging up the washing all on 500mg or parcetamol we made our way..12.02 I was having my first cuddle

I did try the gas and air around 10am however found it made me very spaced out - sadly I was advised not to have the pool birth I'd hoped for being early but all things considered a wonderful experience regardless.

Hope your all keeping well ladies, have a wonderful Sunday afternoon!

xxx

Oh littlemiss congratulations!!

I love that you were loading the dishwasher in labour....won't mention that to my DH or he'll be getting ideas That's a really uplifting birth story....and makes me feel a little more relaxed that I'll manage without an epidural.

Give your little man lots of squidgy baby cuddles. Congratulations again

Littlemiss how lovely! Glad it went well for you. Enjoy your little boy.

congratulations littlemiss

Glad you are enjoying your break mamap, how long did it take you to open the envelope? Are you more excited now?

Hoorah LittleMiss ! That sounds like a fab birth even if you didn't get to go in the pool - congratulations on your gorgeous new arrival :)

MamaP I hope you are relaxing lots, missus plenty of yummy Spanish food and sunshine. Okay, now I am jealous

Dachs I hope you're feeling better, a hot toddy is an excellent suggestion
Owl sorry to hear about your lack of hot water :( I agree about your estate agent view
Hi Irene glad you've found us :)
Apples i can't speak from experience but your fears sounds very reasonable emotionally given what's happened. I wish we could have a little window to check everything's ok on a hourly daily basis. Sorry I have nothing more supportive to add except that I'm sure we all understand completely and are thinking of you and your lo
Daisy I'm glad you can ditch the counsellor and hope the MW goes better. Sounds like you have some good friends there :)
Pink my maxi dress twin, I hope you get drs advice soon, you can do without something like that
Mamap congrats on team pink did you have an inkling? I hope you're feeling relaxed and can try and take it easy(er) when you get back home
Littlemiss congrats! I think I'll be keeping the dishwasher part to myself so it won't be expected of me! A good weight and am of the cuddles - enjoy

In a way I wish I hadn't posted now but I didn't want to take up this thread
We had a 4D scan yesterday which was a wonderful treat. We have a lovely photo of miniorange which in my biased opinion looks very cute :) the sonographer wrote the sex in an envelope and we've been torn whether to open it, but have said we'll wait until Friday to see if we feel strongly either way. I still secretly want to open it but am worried that on the day I'll wish I'd waited then I feel ungrateful for thinking about it when I'm so lucky it's still cooking ok :(