Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 8

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new thread!!

Not that I'd ever, ever for one second consider anyone else ungrateful, it's just my weird paranoid sleep reduced state [panics]

Orange it's a good idea to wait and see how you feel. DH and I both definately want to know what flavour ours is.

Ok so I'm having a freakout now! After being reassured by you guys that I have plenty of time for shopping for baby stuff and that I don't have to think about it all yet, MIL has just called to say she has been to a bootfair and has a large bag of baby stuff for us! I'm really not ready for that yet. As in really really really not ready. DH told me to stop being stupid. Arrgghhh I don't want it in the house!!

Could she keep it at her house until you're ready? That's not an unreasonable request. It isn't stupid at all, even after we'd bought the travel system it lives in the spare room with the door half shut so I can't see it. I certainly wouldn't like to be in that situation

littlemiss that is fantastic! Shame about the birthing pool but as the others have said, sounds like a great birth experience anyway. PMSL about the dishwasher loading!

velvet I agree with orange - ask her to keep it at her house. That's what my mum is doing for me. My cover story is that my house is way too small until we get the bottle up to convert the spare room into a nursery but I think she knows that really it's because it will restart the mentalling.

I have been drinking soooo much water today! I called the out of hours GP service and they said I've got to keep drinking lots and there's very little else that can be done as you have to have penicillin based antibiotics in pregnancy and they don't work very well on UTIs..... They did say it's worth going to the GP though, as the antibiotics I'm on don't work so well for a UTI although changing antibiotics means it'll be harder to deal with the fanjo infection - quality timing getting them both at once!

I have been quite worried this afternoon though, hadn't really felt the baby moving all day and have been having some cramping under my bump and aching lower back - v. scary combo. Was on the brink of phoning the hospital when the baby gave me a big kick so hopefully all ok. Has anyone else had this? I wonder if the cramping/aching is something to do with whatever's currently going on with my bladder. Anyway will talk to the GP tomorrow. Bloody hell I am going to be a nervous wreck at this rate :( If I could arrange for the baby to kick me on the hour, every hour, that would be perfect......

Pink i usually find low down cramping is bowel related... but could be your bladder...?

Can someone post a link to oranges bunfight.. intrigued :)

Littlemiss... you made it sound so easy :-S Huge congrats on his safe arrival xxx

apples dont worry honey. all WILL be fine......xxx

Congratulations littlemiss!! welcome to the world littleboy wonderful birth story - well done you (although personally I would have left the dishwasher to someone else

orange and apples for me, knowing the gender helped me bond more with the pregnancy, having spent 20 weeks thinking everything would go wrong, and still grieving for my MMC. At around that point I decided to try to get used to the idea that everything was going to go RIGHT - as it does for thousands of women every day. I think the phrase is "fake it til you make it" I had to actively practice and pretend to others that I was excited (rather than a gibbering wreck most of the time" and slowly it got easier and I got less anxious.
Whilst the anxiety never goes away i think it helps to arm yourself with as much positive info as possible - NCT is good for helping you believe you can have a good positive labour experience and that you CAN do this. The branstons are your body practicing and doing the right thing for your stage in pregnancy and are a good sign. I know others on post grads found hypno birthing very useful for managing anxiety and in labour. Best of luck to you both xxx and waves to everyone else - I miss my big belly!!! (well, actually still have a big belly, but now of the saggy variety, sigh)

Nix here is the link I should have realised it would have brought such mixed emotions :( But I was feeling all innocent after my scan

Pink my mood is directly related to how much miniorange has/is kicking. I had a teary meltdown last night as I hadn't felt anything for a few hours, and was rewarded a few minutes later with a severe booting. Could the cramps be bladder or bowel? Or minipink making itself comfy on one of those? If you're not going ok it could cause cramps either side under bump. I'm sorry you you're having such trouble but am sure it is nothing they can't not and will sort out tomorrow (if I've said that right!)

Clareanna you're right part of me doesn't want to know as I'll be even more hopelessly attached than I already am. I'm sure your belly looks just fine, we're always our own worst critic, and look what you have to show for it :)

clareanna I'm liking the fake it till you make it mentality! Definitely going to give that a try.

So I learned last night that minipink likes to play at 1am and 5am, so if I'm more deeply asleep than I was last night I would easily miss it

orange I would have expected polarised yes/no views but nothing controversial-you were only asking what to do with the envelope!!! I'm thinking of starting a "the weather's nice today, isn't it" thread to see how long it is until a fight breaks out... Maybe we should have a competition on who can start the most innocent looking thread that decends into the biggest Barney!

I feel a bit better, thanks :) I think it's ended now too

I found out yesterday that on Friday night I fell asleep lying on dh with his hand on bump, and apparently for the whole time I was asleep it was doing major acrobatics, much to his entertainment! Just proved to me I could sleep through anything. And kinda sweet dh had some bump time :)

Morning all :)

LittleMiss I forgot to ask - was your DH back in time or was it yesterday he got back? I hope he did get back in time but if he didn't what a lovely present he's coming back to :)

Orange and Pink I fret when I don't get kicked, and sometimes there are hours and hours when I feel nothing at all, still - but when I ended up at the hospital the other week the weird thing was that on the trace there was loads of movement going on so he was obviously grooving around in there, but I genuinely couldn't feel it. The MW actually described him as a really active baby. It's so hard to believe that when you can't feel anything though!

Clareanna I agree - I'm finding the NCT classes helpful in that respect too. It makes it seem real without making it frightening.

Pink you poor thing, you're having a rotten run of it at the moment - I bet it's the infection setting off the cramps but it could also be braxton hicks - they can feel really weird especially if you've already pulled muscles or your digestive system is a bit sub-par. I'm getting quite strong ones now; strong enough to make me stop what I'm doing and have a bit of a practice at breathing through them.

Grr I wrote a whole post yesterday and bloody computer ate it!!!!

Velvet definitely ask MIL to keep the things at her house. I unloaded everything we were given into my old house for my parents to keep/pack away. Definitely out of sight, out of mind. Maybe ask her to make a list of what she's got though, as I'm finding all the 'big' shopping having been done has lifted a great weight from my mind, and its a help knowing how little there is left to get.

Pink I'm having slight crampings too - almost as though I'm about to have an upset stomach (sorry TMI ) but I don't. I wondered if they were wind, or maybe mini branstons starting early??? Daisypip is still very quiet though am not panicking yet as its always been this way. Have a MW appointment on Thurs for a listen in...

Many congrats LittleMiss, lovely news

thanks ladies - I saw MIL today, had a quick look at the bits and asked her to keep them there. It's so strange because I can't actually imagine myself dressing a little person. She asked how much stuff we had bought and was shocked when we said nothing at all!

Minivelvet has been bouncing today - I'm getting quite a sharp pain in one area, could it be an elbow or something digging in?

orange thats lovely that dh had some bump time without you iyswim.

pink im glad you were awake for some acrobatics :) I have to get up at 5 for a wee anyway.

Evening all - just checking in again properly now I'm back from Spain and have access to wifi once again!

littlemiss congratulations, what lovely news! Hope you are enjoying lots of lovely newborn snuggles right now

mamap hope you're enjoying your well-earned rest in Spain. We had a fab time - not the best weather every day but still plenty of sunshine and it was so nice to get away from it all.

dachs I've been lurking for news from you, and you were all very much in my thoughts while I was away, especially on Thursday morning. I'm glad the service went as well as it could, and that you had your friends around you (and about 100 mners in spirit). Sorry you're feeling ill now - hope you start to feel better soon xx

pink I suspect cramping is related to infection - why do these things always occur just when we can't take anything effective to feel better?!

nicks how's the house selling/buying going? Hope you're ok and not overdoing it, lovely.

apples how are you today? I can understand what you mean about not trusting your body, but it's got you this far, it can get you the rest of the way

I'm 15 weeks now, so getting increasingly nervous. Couldn't find the hb Saturday and was sure everything had gone wrong again, but a couple of hours and a pile of biscuits later baby must have moved and I found the hb straight away. I will be a wreck by Thursday's scan, just hoping things will feel a bit calmer after that - as long as it's good news obviously

Ps am v jealous of you all feeling lots of movements I keep thinking that occasionally I feel something but am at that stage where I just can't be sure, and don't know if it's all in my head!

Silly post here, to cheer you all up!

I've just heard that I'm going to be seeing my ex in a few weeks for the first time since he broke my heart.

I now have a fabulous OH who attends to my every need, and puts up with my every whim, whereas as far as I know the ex is still living in his parents spare room.

I've warned OH he needs to look tanned and toned, and therefore I need to look pregnant and completely gorgeous (am listening to my inner b*tch )

Any suggestions for looking fab???

OK, I know this sounds as though I'm really putting the boot in to this guy, but he was unfaithful for months before he had the balls to tell me it was over, and then when I stupidly took him back he remained signed up to eHarmony, and dating girls, as he was still 'keeping his options open'

tanning lotion (lightly), nice nails, hair and cool clothes. I like H&M personally for maternity. Enjoy!

izz not long to wait now!! Then you get to join me in mentalling about how long its been since the last movement

daisy something that shows off your lovely bump. orange and I are currently living in a black maxi dress from New Look that does a fab job of showing off bump and boobs and is v. flattering. to 'keeping options open' - did he really say that??! What an arse!

orange I thought initially it was a girl but then everyone kept saying it's a boy that I think psychologically I just accepted they were right because from about week 14 I told everyone I thought it was a boy! Then just before we opened the envelope mum asked me what I really really honestly thought and I said a girl... My instincts had been right all along Are you still waiting until Friday or have you decide what to do?

Congrat's littlemiss

owl am being v good and getting lots of sleep, wish I didn't have to come home tomorrow izzy weather still a bit mixed but warm so can't complain.

velvet aren't all those kicks and summasaults so divinely reassuring, I smile every time (even though most time she's belting one into my bladder)

pink check you out with your top shop maxi! You yummy mummy you! I need to do some more shopping!

How you doing apple ?

Waves to all

Apple I?m really sorry your having much worry over the looming birth. It is t9otally understandable and I can?t really offer any advice as I?m only just accepting that I need to start thinking about it. Lots of good advice already though, and I am sure that your body will do all the right things, just have faith in it.

yay for ditching counsellor and good luck with specialist mw instead. at wanting to gloat at your happy life after you xoh did the dirty on you. Don?t blame you! I second fake tan ? maybe a spray, for that ?glow? and something that really shows your bump. And treat yourself to some nice new make up.

Pink sorry to hear about the UTI ? they seem to be very common ? realised that?s not a helpful comment!

Oohh love the Maxi dress talk. I am very jealous as don?t have one and want one ? Are normal ones ok or mat ones better?

Mamap lovely to hear from you hope you?re relaxing in sunny spain. And YAY for the pink flavour!

Littlemiss YAY for the birth of your little boy ? and 4 ½ weeks early, what a shock!

Orangegloss Giving yourself time to decide is a good idea ? I think its fascinating the string views people have on this ? we are in the knowing camp and my mum is very disapproving. Doesn?t understand at all.

Velvet Hope you MIL agreed to keep the stuff she bought. Totally get it. SIL has already bought us gifts and MIL brought them around when I was just 14 weeks. It killed me to open then. Really struggled up the enthusiasm too. Apparently she wanted to buy un these things and didn?t want us to buy the first ? which annoyed me no end anyway and given one of the gift is a UV protector for the pram and this baby is due in November I really don?t see the urgency!! Not that I am ungrateful ? although realise I sound sit, Just wish she?d have waited.

Clareanna yoru views on the NCT classes are helpful, just debating now if they are worth it.

Ok, sorry for long post but I have a question too. I am trying to start to think about where I want to give birth because it may been I need transferring. So, I was pointed in the direction of Dr Fosters Birth Guide ? has anyone used it? This was just what I was after as it helps you compare facilities and also birth outcomes and use of drugs etc and each facility. Anyway, my most local hospital ? which I?m currently under, is not listed. Does anyone know why this would be? Trying to be brave and think about if I want a home birth etc or not. My mw is currently overtly pro-home birth and there is no birth centres available in my local Health Authority so unless I transfer its HB or Hospital. I?m about 15-20 mins from my local hospital and I?d say 35mins (in good traffic) to my other alternative health authorities with better, new facilities and MLbirth centres. Anyone any views? or at least on how to decide? I know it early, but I ant to go armed with questions to my mw apt and I expected to be bombarded with hb info.

Anything else I should be thinking about asking at my apt? I really felt the last one ? booking in ? passed me by very uneventfully, like a lost opportunity.

Wow it's quiet in here

Thanks Owl and Clareanna our NCT classes start soon, am quite looking forward to it
Velvet I'm glad to hear you mil has kept the stuff for you. I keep going into shops looking at baby clothes trying to get used to the idea, but am like you, can't visualise it
Izzy sounds like you had a good time away, naughty Doppler giving you a scare, not long until the MW now. I didn't feel anything until 17 weeks and then it was a most definite knock - shouldn't be too much longer for you. Looking back I'd felt flutterings sooner but didn't realise
Daisy what an arse Of course you must look pg and gorgeous! either the new look maxi :) or gap have some fitted tops that make bump look nice and rounded
Mamap we've gone back to thinking we'll wait as we've made it this far. I'd just love to think 'he' or 'she' rather than 'it' sorry you'll be back home now, hopefully not in overdrive and working too hard
Collie I've found the maternity ones more comfortable as they have more fabric around bump, was only 25 so didn't seem too bad either. Sorry I can't help with your dilemma, hopefully someone else will be able to

It seems like my ms is returning at 27 weeks I panic-rang the MW to make sure miniorange was ok but she said it might be a bug and not to worry. She obviously doesn't know me that well!

Collie not sure why your local hospital isn't listed but I would say about the Doc Foster site that you have to take any figures you find on there in context. For example - my local hospital is the JR in Oxford. It has a fairly high percentage of sections, instrumental births etc. HOWEVER - it's the only big teaching hospital in Oxfordshire and therefore takes all the high risk people from miles around including those with pre-existing medical conditions, which naturally pushes up the intervention rates.

My MW is also pro-home birth. But she has said that I don't need to worry about changing my mind at any point and that I can transfer to hospital at any time pretty much up to the point where I am pushing! So I am planning HB but reserve the right to chicken out Personally I liked the idea of having a MW to myself rather than sharing her with the rest of the ward as I reckon they are more likely to spot any potential problems if they are giving you one to one care. There isn't much you can have in a MLU that you can't have at home - pool, tens machine, gas and air, all of that you can have. An epidural you wouldn't be able to have on a MLU anyway.

At the end of the day it's important to go with whatever makes you feel safest and most comfortable - because being relaxed is the main thing here. :)

Hello :)

May I join? I have been on the FO thread for a few weeks now and am finally starting to feel brave enough to come over here.

Am currently 23+4 (although that has just taken me ten minutes to work out!) with pregnancy four, although if all goes ok will be second baby. Had two mcs (at 12weeks and a mmc discovered at 10weeks although baby died at 7) before DD was born. She is now three and we were TTC for over a year before I got my BFP. I have PCOS and a bicornuate uterus.

Have been struggling with coming to terms with actually being pregnant, suffered HG until week 18/19 so kind of only just starting to try and enjoy it like I so wanted to.

Have still told nobody in RL apart from a couple of close friends. Cannot contemplate buying anything yet either but am definitely becoming more accepting of it as the days go by.

I 'know' some of you from other threads (FO room, recurrent buns, october bus) so hope I can start to keep up with everyone, if you'll have me :)

Hello Ladies, Am feeling slightly nervous about writing on here. Am 18+4 currently and had doppler fix at dr's as ds decided to see what my stomach was like for a trampoline. I've had a few light movements over the last few weeks a couple quite strong, but certainly not everyday. (and non for the couple of days after being bounced on hence the dr's) I have my 20 week scan in 2 weeks today not planning on finding out colour. orange can't believe someone had their comment removed from your thread, is amazing how zealous some people are.

Come in, come iiiiinnnnnn my lovelies

Tis lovely to see you plucking up the courage to join us. :)

Thanks for the welcome owl i'm getting rather high on the list over there so thought i'd better put a foot in the door here before i become the grandma of the fo thread.