Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 8

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Velvet with ds I waited until I went on maternity leave at 35 weeks and then bought a pack of tesco vests and babygros. I also got the boots nappies which came with the changing bag and some cotton wool etc. The changing bag had a travel changing mat in it as well. If you have a boots card just sign up for the baby club and they give you lots of freebies and good offers.

I'd lined up a lot of equipment from friends but didn't want to buy anything in case anything went wrong. So we had a borrowed moses basket, car seat and pram which did us very well. This time we have more stuff lurking but I'm not planning on investigating any of the kind offers (including amazingly a twin double buggy) until I go on maternity leave at 30 weeks. Sales are very good times to get things and even if you're not technically buying for your own it's a good idea to stock up with presents for all the other people having babies. You may think you don't know any at the moment but you will after antenatal classes

Owl I think I got mine at Benny Dee but one of them had piglet on it. Only a little discrete one though......
The other useful suggestion from my AN teacher (more for labour but works afterwards) is an old and soft shirt of your dh's. I used one of my father's as he's larger than dh but is great for unbuttoning.

I've spent most of the w/end in an agony which felt like a contraction with no relief and was beginning to worry it might be a real one when my friend reminded me it was probably just growing pains. Big sigh of relief.

Owl I'm currently sat in bed wearing my new nightie from jojo mamen bebe online which is a dark check and button up front. I got 3 different styles in the sale for £21 inc delivery :)

Tigger phew our bodies play tricks on us don't they?!

Velvet I bought travel system and cot 2nd hand as they were a bargain, but they seemed 'impersonal' and therefore ok. When I was 24 weeks we bought a moo cow pacifier which felt like a big step, nothing else since and can't see when either I'm 26 weeks and it was the airbed aspect of camping that got me, more than I thought - and the numerous treks to the loo

Tis wonderful to be back, shower, in bed with new nightie, fresh sheets, heaven :)

owly apparently mothercare have one but I haven't seen it with my own eyes so I can't corroborate this story.....

I am enjoying apples but only when they're cold from the fridge. And unless I drink a litre of apple juice a day things go horribly wrong on the number 2 front.....

Today I needed cauliflower with my dinner v desperately. What do you reckon that means????

I'm loitering for news from moo

orange respect to you! I love camping but not planning to go this year. Sleeping on an airbed at a friend's house was soooo painful for my back and I need the loo too much!!

orange thanks for the JoJo sale tip, one of those nightshirts is winging its way to me now! Annoyingly they have already sold out of the secret support tops - my new and improved bazookas need all the help they can get while I'm asleep.....

Looks like the cremation will be on Thursday morning. Have spent the weekend working out what we want in terms of readings and music. Choosing music for the funeral of your babies is hard :(

dachs you poor thing :( I still can't believe that you're having to go through this, it's so cruel. What time is the service on Thursday? I'd like to make sure I'm thinking of the four of you xx

it's at 9.30

:( Dachs I'm sorry you're having to go through all of this. My thoughts will be with you all on Thursday morning too xx

:( Dachs I too will be thinking of you and DH and the beautiful babes - I hope you're getting lots of love and support from family and friends to help you through this awful time. xxx

Dachs - I'll be thinking of you and them (as in even more than I do normally).

orange can't believe you went camping?! I find my bed uncomfy enough at the moment, let alone an airbed!

Yep, am on maternity leave now, and DH is currently off work until wed...so having a lovely restful time. Think baby's going to hang on the full 40+ weeks now though, no sign he's going to make an appearance any earlier. The resting must be doing something though as my SPD seems to be much better, just got to be careful doing certain things, but general movement is much easier...so not too bothered anymore that I've still got a few weeks left.

No-one should have to do that dachs, so sorry you're going through this Really hope you're getting lots of love and support in RL. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers this week, and especially on Thursday morning. I hope it goes as well as these things ever can.... x

Hi girls, a very quick post as I am only back from hospital today and have less than a quarter of a brian from lack of sleep! My gorgeous boy arrived by section on Saturday afternoon, bit of a struggle getting him out but he is well and pretty fabulous. We have called him Caleb and he was 9lbs and 1 ounce. He is a blondie like his sister and loves his cuddles, very sweet.

I haven't read back but hope you are all well, especially Dachs who has never been far from my thoughts throughout. Will catch up properly over the next few days when I hope to be functioning better.

congrats Moo I love that name too I hope you feel better soon.

Congratulations Moo. Try and rest as much as you can and don't hoover or push prams for a while.

Congratulations moo!! Caleb is a beautiful name (one of my favourites in fact). Glad he's enjoying cuddles, hope you get some sleep too. Woohoo! SO pleased for you.

moo congrats on caleb. Glad everything worked out. we were worried about you! :(

Hurting v badly at the moment but doesn't mean I don't feel for the rest of you. Dachs

Fantastic news love the name too....! Hope you both get some decent sleep xxxxxx and lots of yummy cuddles

Love to dachs will have my candle lit on thurs morning for you all xx

Congratulation Moo Hope you get lots of sleep very soon

Am here orange, been away darn sarf since thursday.
Home later today.

dachs no one should have to think about funeral/cremation for your own babies, that is just too cruel :( Im so sorry you have to go through this. Your doc is right. you should go away and rest and get very very drunk. It may help to numb the pain if only in the short term. xx Never far from my thoughts these days.

Moo congrats on the very safe arrival of your delicious little man Caleb. I hope he is as wonderful as can be xx

Sorry you had a scare Owls. glad all is good though. Mininix keeps doing that every now and again and i keep having to tell myself its cos am bloated or full of wind.. but i am worrying not feeling enough movement. How the hell did we get to 30 weeks?!?! Yes working FT apples but taking some holidays around weekends to make the most of being at the beach with hubs and scamp which is working nicely. 6 more weeks of shit work to do before i can leave and a house to get ready for being on the market. Its officially on the market now, but hasnt yet been photographed for the details. So i have that to organise when i get back

Anyway, hope everyone is fine... catch up properly later

PS little miss, hope its not what you think honey but wishing all is well if it is. x

moo congratulations!! Caleb is a lovely name too. Hope you are recovering well.

Sorry I've not been around much-mumsnet is doing my head in at the moment. The pregnancy boards are rammed with gender disappointment threads and, unbelievably, another 'I hate pregnancy' thread. I just don't get it. I know these are genuine feelings that people have but I just don't understand where they come from. So anyway as some of you will remember the absolute barny I mired myself in last time, I am giving it a wide berth to avoid excessive use of the biscuit!!

Don't get me started on daft threads; I can't read them at all without getting The Rage.

Moo congratulations lovely, sounds like you had a bit of a rough time of it, glad the little dude has arrived safely :)

Nix they are only doing it to freak us out. The MW I saw up at the hossie said 10 movements a day was enough to be considered normal - but the thing is, 10 big movements? 10 little wibbles? Basically she said that if I ever have any worries I should not faff about and just go straight back for a check up. Which made me feel like less of an idiot. She was lovely.

Oooh please don't mention choclate biscuits. I've gone from wondering why I'm not putting on weight to apparently gaining a pound a day for the last week I really need to get back on the healthy eating bandwagon but miniwombat dooesn't seem to agree

Moo Many many congratulations!! He sounds gorgeous. Hope your recovery from the CS is speedy.

Dachs Huge hugs. I struggle to find the words to respond to you and feel so angry and hopeless that this is all happening to you and there is nothing I can do to make it any better. You, your DH, Alexander and Felicia are constantly in my thoughts and will particularly be on Thursday morning xxx

Pink I remember that thread. I think I got flamed when I went to support you . To give them the benefit of the doubt a lot of pg isn't much fun and without the great motivator of knowing that you are privileged to even be in that state I can see how people can get into a self-obsessed pitying state and confuse the journey over the end goal.

Saying which I have definitely said at points this time that I'm not sure I'm prepared to go through this again and very much if what happened to Dachs happened to me I'm not sure I would be prepared to do it again (or at least not for a few years by which point I'll probably have got the menopause, yes I know I'm 31 but unfortunately much higher risk with diabetes and a friend of mine the same age with diabetes for same length of time has just got it with no family history of early menopause). DH had also said I was only allowed one more pg for his sanity. This statement did come after 2 comas in 3 days and he did amend that to 2 complete pgs so not counting any mcs.

Hiding threads is quite a good tactic. Or sticking to non-offensive boards. Childbirth tends to me much calmer than Pregnancy (until someone starts the cs is better than natural birth rage inciter etc).

Dachs I also don't know what to say but will just continue to send you lots of virtual hugs and thoughts and know that you will always be in my mind. No one should have to deal with this let alone someone who's been through as much as you.

I think the cremation is going to be a very quiet affair. :( Only two people have bothered to respond to my communications about it and neither of them can come. Feeling a bit angry now. It wouldn't take much effort to send a response of some kind.

Still, at least I've booked the holiday now. It's not for 4 weeks though - anyone got any ideas about how to keep myself busy until then? Have pretty much read three guidebooks cover to cover several times and have already booked the transport tickets for when we get there and museum tickets as well, so there's not really a lot more I can do in relation to that.

You guys who have already had a baby - I have a couple of questions:

1. How long does it take for the bleeding to stop after giving birth?
2. Anyone know how long I should expect it to take until I start having cycles again?

am trying to avoid the pg boards in general as it makes me really that there are so many people complaining when i'd give anything to be in their position

Hi Dachs

Why not try taking up some sort of hobby/exercise or even short course? Something time consuming and energy exhausting to help you sleep. I like dance personally but maybe there's something that's appealed that you haven't had a chance to do. Are you at work at the moment or have they let you take some leave?

On the bleeding question (since I adhere to a religion which places enormous importance on women bleeding) my experience with ds was about 7 weeks until no staining. Friends of mine seemed to vary between 2-12 weeks.

Cycles didn't come back until after I finished breast feeding so I don't know. They returned quite quickly then but that was 12 months later so not helpful. Saying which I do know many who got pg within the 1st 3 months of feeding so obviously it can't affect fertility too much and it just makes your lmp hard to calculate.

I'd agree with your strategy on avoiding the pregnancy board. Many some people on there are just insensitive twits. Sadly I know some like that in RL too.