Second, third, fourth or more timers due in December

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is anyone else feeling a little left out by the first-timers due in December thread? This will be my second DC (DS will be 3.5). I think I'm due on 15th December.

I also have my booking in appointment tomorrow, but have a scan in the morning as I'm refusing to book in until I know everythings ok. Am past the times for mc & mmc, so really need a check.

I've no idea how much weight I've put on, but I'm really bloated! So feeling very fat and having a clothes crisis. I'm sick to death of leggings, doesn't seem warm enough for maxi dresses. Any one seen any drawing string linen trousers? Half my prob is that I put on some weight comfort eating after the mc's (both this year!), my clothes weren't tight, but they were fitting iykwim!

good luck to you two with your booking in appointments! Mine is scheduled for May 31 and my 12 week scan for June 10. I told my GP i wanted to take one thing at a time and make sure i'm not going to miscarry before that but he sent off the paperwork anyway.

seven - i think i've gained a couple of pounds too but i had just lost a couple beforehand so it's back even I guess. i'm surprised it's not more considering that I am hungry every two to three hours, and have stopped doing what had been 4-5x week jogging.

Hi all.

My booking in all went fine, she said the first scan has to be before 14 weeks, I'm now 10+3 so hopefully won't have long to wait. I've been referred to consultant led care due to my BMI of 30.5 and previous pre-eclampsia. My consultant last time was lovely though so I've asked for her again.

hi all - just peeping for now went to gp today and he has said i may be due in December rather then Jan - this will be dc4!!!! or dc5 - he has scared me by saying it may be twins!!!!!!!! will pop back as soon as i know more - thanks all xxx

Hi Ladies,

just joined mumsnet and found your thread.

I'm I'm expecting my second on 25/12 although I'm waiting for the dating scan to find out precise EDD.

My first child is 11 months old so she'll be 18ish when the new arrival comes.

My first birth was relatively quick and easy so this time around I'm starting to think about a home birth. Any one else thinking along those lines?

I'm managing ok so far... sleeping when the baby sleeps on the afternoon but still feeling sick 24/7. Was also very sick during my first pregnancy. Could it be I'm expecting another girl? Either that or twins!

Had my booking in appointment but waiting for the scan dates...

Hope all you ladies are well

xxx

Hi to both of you.

mama what made him think it could be twins? I've actually wondered whether I've only got one or not as I'm definitely showing already and am wearing maternity jeans yet I've only put on 2lbs so I know I'm not just getting fat!

mama - that would be a big addition to the family! have they scanned you?

enceinte - welcome, and a home birth sounds great if you had such an easy time the first time around. I personally will be looking for an elective C section because of my absolute nightmare labour and delivery that ended up with me needing surgery to fix my poor lady bits six months later. i hate the thought of c section too but don't want to go through that again - not to mention the horror of my son having been in distress through parts of the labour.

seven- glad your booking went well and it sounds like they'll have to move fast on your 12 week scan! I really think I am getting a tiny bump now too, and like you haven't actually gained more than a couple lbs.

fingers crossed for me tomorrow please because I've got my follow up scan. i feel pretty positive considering what a paranoid week i've had, but you just don't know until the image comes up on the screen...

Good luck with your scan goodnight.

Morning!

Had my scan and booking in appointment yesterday and all was well! Scan was fab. I cried when she said she could see the heartbeat, and she showed us the arm and leg buds. So nice to get good news at the epu for a change!! Then had my booking in appointment. The scan brought me forward a couple of days so that's the date the mw is going by..... which is Boxing Day!

Enciente welcome, and I'm also thinking about a home birth. Our local birthing centre isn't offering births at the moment due to funding and staffing, so the option is 30mins to large hospital that I've had not great experiences in or a home birth. I'm going to see how I go for now.......

Mama wow twins!!! Why does he think that??

Seven I'm starting to get a bit of a bump too, I have put on a bit of weight but a lot of it feels like bloating tbh. Plus it's number 4.... so I figure the old tummy muscles weren't what they once were! I'm going to order a couple of bump bands today, and I'm in a maxi dress in the office today. God knows how I'm going to hide this for another 4 weeks!!

harassed - great news. i also had good news today at my scan. baby's heart is still beating strong and all the measurements are as they should be. They offered me another scan in two weeks but I decided to brave it and wait three weeks for my 12-week check instead. Now I've got a decision about CVS to look forward to. My age puts me something like 1:55 for Downs. I think I just want to know this time, after having been a big worry wart through my pregnancy with my son.

goodnight yay to great scans!! Such a relief isn't it?!

How old are you? I'm 40, and we've decided not to have any testing done. If heart defects etc are picked up, then we'll deal with it from there. We didn't have any tests done with dd either.

Glad the scans went ok.

Harrassed we've decided not to have any testing. DS has muscular dystrophy, we went through a lot of genetic counnselling last time then decided not to have amnio as we would have kept him regardless of the result. This time I'm determined just to enjoy my pregnancy, something I couldn't do until late last time.

dollys I don't know if you're still here but good luck with your scan today, thinking of you.

Hi girls, thanks seven for remembering x had second scan (trans vaginal and ultrasound, first one bloody hurt too and I had to put fists under my bum even though was already on a huge pad to lift me up bloody awful! this morn, sac still measuring 17mm same as last week so hasn't grown but no signs of disintergration or blood present and still say its irregular shape (which they didn't mention last week) I also have a tilted womb. Sac still empty no yolk or fetal pole so they have diagnosed a delayed miscarriage and offered me a D & C etc. I am either 7 wks 6 days or 8 weeks 6 days as unsure of last period (19 mar or 26 mar) I asked for them to take my HCG levels as I have read many stories on misdiagnosed miscarriages about irregular shaped sacs, tilted wombs etc and they have just rung me to say levels are 34,000. Decided I am going to let nature take it's course, I don't fancy another surgical procedure and to be honest I still feel pregnant and still got symptoms (sore boobs, nausea etc) so I am probably not ready to accept it completely yet but feel very calm and ok about the outcome really, feel very grateful for what I have (DS and DD) and although have been upset I feel very pragmatic about it all. Good luck to everyone having scans etc really hope all goes well

dollys I'm so sorry. I really admire your decision to wait it out. Take care xx

Dollys so sorry to hear your sad news, been thinking of you today and kept hoping for a little miracle for you.
I think you are very brave, take lots of care and let us know if we can help xx

Hi all - just popped in Dolly and family - praying for a miracle - we can all hold out for hope its allowed!
glad all is well with everyone else!
still feeling ill have been offered a scan but because its an internal one i have refused i will wait for the 12 months scan and see - im feeling there is only 1 in there so am not freaking out!
my sis came and collected baby and dh gone out with the other 4 dc so home alone able to chill and relax! going to have a lay down shattered and feeling sick!

mama I think I'd have refused too. Having an earlier scan won't change how many's in there!

How is everyone else doing?

I'm wondering if I might start producing milk early. I've already increased by 2 cup sizes and my right boob was really aching yesterday. I take it that's normal, with DS I had no pain and they didn't even get bigger until late in my pregnancy.

Dollys - I'm so sorry it wasn't better news. I hope everything goes smoothly from here. I was thinking of you Friday but only got back online today. Keep us posted.

Harassed- I'm 41 now and will be 42 just before EDD. It's a hard decision but I think we will have tests. I must have spent hours looking online at "normal" fetus measurements when my son was found to have short femurs and some other odd measurements at 20 and 30 weeks. Turns out he's fine, maybe his legs are a little short! I hate the worry though and figure the risks of the CVS are even lower than my Downs risk.

Mama - interestingly my scan the other day, at 8 weeks 5 days, was external. seemed a bit early to me for external but the view was just fine.

My paranoia continues despite the good scan on Thursday. I've had a bit of a tummy ache, probably just from eating too much rich food, but every niggle makes me worry. I also started to get a migraine this morning, which I read can be from a drop in estrogen. It's better now, after some paracetemol. I get them from time to time (visual disturbance, headache) but didn't have any with my son since the higher levels of estrogen are meant to be protective.

now at lunchtime i'm off to the dentist for the final stage of a tooth implant. I know he has to drill off the filler tooth he put in last time - which I hate because I really think babies do not like that drilling noise!

so that's my moan for the day - hope everyone else is feeling well?

I'm sorry I haven't been around, we're moving at the weekend and it's just chaos and madness in our house. Good timing hey?! Just when I'm meant to be resting and no heavy lifting...... dh is being fab though.

dolly I'm so sorry to hear your news. It's such a roller coaster. I hope everything is going as well as it can and you're being well looked after.

mama you're funny! A 12 MONTH scan?? It must be twins.... all the extra hormones have got you .

seven that's how we feel. We wouldn't terminate, we'd just cope so we might as well not bother.

goodnight I sway between phases of ok, and phases of freaking since last weeks scan..... I wish I could have one every day!!!

Morning all, not read all the way through - being at work and all that. We are due Christmas day we think. DS will be 5 in sept. Haven't told anyone yet as I want to know all is ok at the scan. Which we have no date for but it is still only 9 weeks ish.

DP thinks I am being silly, but not as young as I was 38 I just want to be sure.

I am fed up of feeling so sick. It was not like this last time I can tell you.

Hope all is well with everyone.

Hi eve.

harassed hope your move goes ok, I suppose at least it's better to get it done in early pregnancy than either when you're big and exhausted or with a newborn. At least you'll be nicely settled in before you're due.

I won't be around this weekend, I'm going down to Bournemouth for my best friends hen weekend. It was booked ages ago but now I have to be the sensible sober one! I'm not sure how I'm going to manage tbh, we have to leave at 7am and presumably will be out until god knows what time on Saturday night!

Hiya wave can I join? I'm about 9 weeks with baby no 3 (DD1 is 5 and DD2 is 3).
I'm hoping it's all OK in there- nervous TBH as not had any scans yet so no confirmation of anything yet. Though feel sick as a dog and some friends have guessed what's going on cos I look so dire.... :o)

Morning all.

Dolly's I am so sorry to hear your news. I really hope that you have lots of good people around you for support.

Seven - sounds like fun! I'm in Bournemouth this weekend visiting family. My sister is getting married in Sept. i have not replied to the Hen invite for August. Hoping to avoid it to be honest.

Aethelfleda - hope all is well, know about that feeling it is horrid! It will be worth it

Hope everyone has a great day :-)

Hi aethelfleda. I've mostly avoided the sickness but I'm bloody exhausted and really don't fancy eating anything.

eve I'm not sure whether I'm looking forward to it or not. We'd only just started trying when it was booked, as DS took 2 years I didn't for one minute think I'd be pregnant!

Hiya girls. Another day of general yerch and tiredness, thanks eve and seven, I'm OK really, just having a moan! The trouble with keeping quiet til 12 weeks is that I have to go around pretending to feel normal, and I hate feeling like I'm keeping things secret, but at the same time I just want to know if things are OK! Sigh.

I am v relieved no Symptoms of MC for me, but we all know there's no guarantee and I'm going to be a right PITA with at least 3 weeks of this (no scan date yet. If only there was an iphone ap that took beeb ultrasounds!

Dollys, I do hope you're being looked after. Many many sympathies, I have read the thread through now and so sorry to hear your news.