Any first-timers due December and want to come on and chat?

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I just found out, am due December. First baby. No clue about anything! But pretty excited!

Anyone considering a home birth?

My sister has had a baby boy today - yay!
Re home birth, won't consider personally for 1st baby.

cherry I just read the notes on homebirth for my local hospital over lunch and I'm not sure I could do it tbh...I know for some they think it's the best thing and most relaxing, but (especially for my first) I think I would relax less knowing that if I did need more help then I'd have to get an ambulance to the hospital etc. I'm also not sure how I'd feel knowing it had all happened in my living room/bedroom or wherever I happened to be IYSWIM?

Congrats ratty glad all has gone ok for your sis in the end. I can't believe still no news on your NHS scan!

I finally got my booking app through today and it's on the same day as my scan but the scan is in the morning and the booking in the afternoon! Will have to take the whole day off work and spend most of it at the hospital which will be fun Can't believe I have to wait until 12weeks to see the MW, am a bit annoyed as was looking forward to it all feeling a bit more real about now (10 weeks today!) 13 days til scan/booking...

Hi! I'm due December 10th....had GP appt, now waiting for Midwife scan. Had DREADFUL first few months. Beings preggers was a huge shock as was told I had obstructed tubes. We did not opt for IVF & were not TTC. I freaked...DP FREAKED!! But something changed between us. I am now excited & DP is being fabulous. We don't discuss it much tho...probably wise given I'm only 8 weeks. Have been feeling fine...bit bloated with huge sore boobs but no nausea or pains.

Hi leopard that's great that you are excited now! Congrats ratty on your nephew - yay! Cherry I am not considering a home birth for my first, I think I'd just worry too much, rather than be relaxed about it. Are you? It sounds like a really good option if you are not a worrywart like me - much more relaxing being in your own house etc. I just don't think it's for me.

I am totally exhausted this week. Yet another lovely symptom. Went to bed really early last night and am about to go to bed again now (it's just gone 7pm). Let's hope it helps!

Hadn't thought about it really till the midwife gave me a leaflet but probably not. Maybe if I this one goes well and I have another. We do live next door to the hospital so not too far to go.

Just back from my private scan. Good news that there is one lovely strong heartbeat am a bit confused though as she has me two weeks less pregnant than I thought. I always knew that calculating from my last period might not be accurate as I had only had one period since coming off the pill and don't know how long my cycle is. However I did a clear blue digital on 14th April and it said 2- 3 weeks from conception and said 2 weeks for length if pregnancy so thought that should make me 9 or10 weeks. Im sure in just being a worry wart but I just hope speklet is growing as he should!

Just back from my private scan. Good news that there is one lovely strong heartbeat am a bit confused though as she has me two weeks less pregnant than I thought. I always knew that calculating from my last period might not be accurate as I had only had one period since coming off the pill and don't know how long my cycle is. However I did a clear blue digital on 14th April and it said 2- 3 weeks from conception and said 2 weeks for length if pregnancy so thought that should make me 9 or10 weeks. Im sure in just being a worry wart but I just hope speklet is growing as he should!

Hi everyone,

Congrats Ratty on your nephew and don't worry too much about your scan, chances are the pregnancy test picked up more of the pregnancy chemical when you tested, apparently depending on what time of day you take the test and how much you've had to drink can alter the amount your body outputs and make you seem further along than you are (according to one of the many, many books I seem to have on the go at the mo).

Cherrypi I'm also just down the road from the hospital I'm going to but I agree with you and Blue def not going for HB on my first - rather know i can do it first before risking having to be moved at the last minute (not to mention I'd be stressed out about what the MW thought of the state of the house - housework's not high on my list of priorities at the moment - too knackered just being at work!)

Had a horrendous headache all day today, made me really sensitive to the light so I've been sat with the curtains closed trying to get rid of it - I know I can take paracetamol but I don't like to take it normally let alone now I'm PG.

I'm thinking of starting a pregnancy journal now I'm in my 12th week for the baby to have when it grows up (not that it'll ever want to read it probably) but I thought it'd be a nice way of recording all the small things (good and bad) that I might forget later on - anyone else doing something similar?

Hope you're all having a good day.xxx

Has anyone else had crippling doubts that they are doing the wrong thing. I am sure it is hormones and i am going to sound like a terrible person. i dont even really like kids and hate parents who have nothing to talk about or any interests other than their kids. My mum is the only person who knows at the moment and everytime i speak to her its all she talks about i do not want to be one of those people!!

My career is going to be set back for the next few years, my body is going to be destroyed, no more socialising, no holidays, no time to self, lack of sleep etc etc. Ive spent my entire life terrified of pregnancy and childbirth and waited to 30 until i felt i had conquered it and all the other thoughts did go through my head before we got pg but thought they would pass now they are making me really mourn the life i am going to have to leave behind. Am i the only one??

hi figgygal I think this is TOTALLY NORMAL! So don't worry, you are not a terrible person! I certainly worry about lack of time to self, lack of sleep and so on and I also hate it when people talk about nothing else than their kids and their only facebook status update is about their kids. But you don't have to be like that! I have lots of friends with kids who don't mention them at all unless they are specifically asked.

Re: career I also worry about this all the time. I mean like every single day. But I think what will happen is that our lives will change and it will be fine. We won't mourn our old lives (most of the time anyway, I expect we will sometimes!). It's like as I grow older my life has changed a lot from my student (okay I am doing a PhD, but that's like a job, I mean undergrad!) days, way more responsibility, far fewer nights out on the lash, much more work etc. but although I loved that period, I totally don't miss it now. So I think the same thing will happen with a kid. I bloody hope so anyway! EEEEK! But I've def had friends who have had exactly these same kinds of thoughts and they seem to be getting along fine and loving their kids etc. Also I have other friends and cousins who have said they were totally not maternal and not interested in kids at all but that it's totally different when they are your own.

Hope this is reassuring!

I've just found out I'm due on Boxing Day! I normally love Xmas ... this one will be a little different! Anyone else having a Xmas baby?

Yes, me! The midwife dated me as 27 December ...

figgygal - "no more socialising, no holidays, no time to self, lack of sleep etc etc." - not sure why you think this! Maternity leave can be a very social time, you can spend plenty of time with friends who are also off and meet lots of nice new people. until the baby is about 6 months old, you can also take them loads of places in the evening and just let them sleep - we took our first to restaurants, and friends' houses. After that, your social patterns might change you might want to go to different places, at different times and have to think about babysitters ahead of time but if you really want to go out, there's no reason why your social life has to stop! Same goes for holidays. You might want to go on different holidays, but you don't have to trapped at home unless you want to be. No time for self - You just need to be more organised. Lack of sleep - for many people this is really only true for the first 3 months of a baby's life, after that they are usually perfectly capable of sleeping through the night. Please don't think like that, there's no reason why any of these things have to be true. Your life is not ending!

I thought I was due around 10th of December but according to yesterday's scan in due Christmas eve!

Figgygal - know what you mean, especially re the career when my boss (who does not yet know im pregnant) was telling me how a colleague had ruined her career by going on materinty leave. Terrific!

Hi All - I'm new here - due 3rd Dec.

Figgygal - Totally know what you mean about being concerned for the future, and making the right decision. I'm relieved in some ways to have the first trimester to keep quiet about being pregnant, as I'm definitely still trying to get my head around it all.

Mizza76 - thanks for your straight talking. I know you're totally right on a rational level... it's just that I don't seem so rational these days.

eekwhatsgoingon - it's ok, I totally remember freaking out before I had my first. I particularly remember reading What to Expect When You're Expecting on the train one day, and suddenly feeling very short of breath. I think I was actually having a panic attack. But once the baby was born..... obv our life has changed enormously, but it's still a full, well-rounded life, and we're still 'us'.

I was totally freaking out for the first few weeks after finding out. My boyfriend was getting really worried because he said I was being so negative and cross about being pregnant! I'm starting to calm down now, mostly because I'm seeing a lot of friends who are very much their own person with their own lives and have babies/young children.

I had a couple of really good days this weekend, no nausea and some energy but today I have been feeling sick all day and without any appetite or energy. Urgh!

It's funny, so many of my friends were SO broody when they fell pg and I have just not ever been like that. I will be 31 in the summer and we decided that now was the right time for us. I still don't feel very broody and I have a little apricot sized bean growing inside me!! I know that once the bean arrives then I will adjust and get used to it but I have found it very difficult 'not feeling like me' for the last few weeks if that makes sense, and that feeling that I'm losing control where my brain has gone mushy is very difficult too!! I was chattig to my mum about it on saturday and it took her 4 years to get pg with me (her first) so she was very ready for it but still worried all the way through that she wouldn't be able to love me as much as her beloved cat! Needlesstosay the cat hated me because I got all the attention once I was born and Mum had no problems loving me at all! I think that it's natural that the crazy hormones flooding around us at the moment are going to send usup and down about it all as we get used to probably the biggest ever change to our lives!! having said all of that I echo mizza in that I think how much the baby takes over your life is up to you and you do have some control over that! I think it's good that it takes 9 months for the bean to grow as it gives us all time to get our heads around it all!!

Hi another newbie here. Had an early scan today at 7.3 as had a mmc at 11.5 in March. Luckily my little bean has heartbeat so can now think ahead a little bit (well until 12 weeks anyway) I felt soooooo sick all day every day for the last week, so now have on my sea bands and munching on ginger nuts and ginger ale.

Hi ladies
blue so understand what u saying feel the same way. So excited but at the same time so terrified to be a mom. Had my gynea appointment and scan on friday saw the heartbeat was so amazing. Have a new EDD 29 dec so is it going to be this year or next. Just hope its not on new years eve hahah,hope my gynea is around to deliver.

Hope u all feeling better, ms has been much better for the last 2 days so lets hope it lasts.
Have a great evening everyone!!!!

Have calmed down a bit now thanks all just need to get used to a different life.

Spoke to lady at the hospital today scan Thursday night which is great as no need to make up story as to why I need to disappear from work for fewhours. Feels like been forever can't wait to see all ok then can tell people woop woop

Havent posted for a few weeks as even just thinking about being pregnant made me feel like I was going to hurl - I haven't been able to read any books or forums as a result and instead i've busying my mind with other things, trying to keep the sickness feelings at bay. Poor OH has had to do everything at home as I just have to sleep or lie down. Can't go near the kitchen!

Still got the nausea and dodgy tummy now - but perked up mentally after my booking appt today. Midwives were lovely and made me feel much more positive about the whole experience again. Had been a bit down while feeling sick lately, like others, just as feeling so out of control and sick as a parrot -but today really helped (although can't read the bounty pack just yet - hoping to eat tonight!).

Have my scan on my birthday! Hope all will be well (fingers crossed). I've been put with the high risk midwifery/obstetrician team owing to an unrelated op I had last year but not too daunted by this as at least I'll have the highest skilled team looking after me. As a result, have an appt with the obstetrician in 8 weeks, between scan 1 & 2.

Hope everyone is coping ok today - I really do know how you feel. X

Hi all, just a quick question... There is chicken pox going round at school at the mo in my class and classes around me. Mum and I think I've had chicken pox but can't remember for sure and I couldn't get through to dr to ask them to check. Does anyone have any experience of risks etc.?

Hi. Welcome to all newbies. Felt dreadful today. Tripple whammy of ms, dh and exhaustion!
Zam - think this link should be of help re cp

www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/1109.aspx?CategoryID=54&SubCategoryID=137