Any first-timers due December and want to come on and chat?

[mopsytop]

I just found out, am due December. First baby. No clue about anything! But pretty excited!

I know zam it all keeps going around in my head too! My 31st in mid June so hopefully good news for both of us! I guess all we can do is wait and try to stay calm and not stress...

Darciesmum yes I am making sure to drink plenty, so it can't be dehydration. I am very prone to headaches anyway, but it's not so bad when you can take medication! actually, sometimes it is still pretty bad. But not being able to take anything is awful. And also I just don't want to let myself go home - what if I have headaches for weeks? I can't just not work for weeks - I have to finish this damn PhD before the baby comes!!!

I'm glad(?) that I'm not the only one worried over something going wrong, we've yet to tell anyone but DH's parents (only told them as his mum is a midwife! how helpful!!)....but everytime I get a slight stomach twinge I think 'Holy heck miscarriage', turning me into a bundle of nerves (which then makes me stress over being stressed, so I get stomach pains and the lovely cycle starts again)!
Will be glad when all of us get past the first scan/trimester. xx

Zam you can see a clear heart beat at 12 weeks. It starts in week 6ish maybe before. It will be so exciting to have that picture.

Mopsytop I get bad headaches and it's the muscles in my neck tightening and travelling up through my head. It's from being on the computer and closing off chest muscles. Some gentle neck stretches might help. What also helps me is bringing your arms up bent to shouder height and pressing them backwards. Leaning against a wall for resistence is good. Also slow spine curls, rolling your head gently down till your hands are on the floor. I'd been doing yoga for years but found once I started Pilates my headaches were no where near as bad.

Did you all watch the human body programme last night about conception on BBC1?

Felicific We watched that last night, was very interesting.

Woke up and had some toast to try and sort my nausea out. Also going to have my BT done at work to check my HCG levels.
I think my cramp yesterday were stretching pains and from excitement with DP the night before

Thanks for the tips Felicific, my head got really bad last night and is still pretty bad this morning. I still managed to drag myself out of bed but I am very worried this will continue. It's not migraine bad (or obviously I wouldn't be able to get up and definitely wouldn't be able to look at a computer screen) but it's at the very bad end of still able to function just about. It feels like a bad sick headache. Not sure if the nausea is morning sickness or headache related. I am feeling really low about it because it is making everything so hard :(

p.s. I suffer from headaches a lot, am on constant anti-migraine medication for them. They think it's hormonal. The doctor said to try going off the medication when pregnant to see if i am okay without it - he seems to think that being pregnant will sort it out - but he thinks it's okay to stay on if I can't cope and won't harm the bean. So I cut down my does the week before last and then halved my dose last week (as I didn't want to stop cold turkey). The bad headaches started the same time as the severe nausea (this week on Tuesday) and now I don't know if it's because morning sickness is kicking in properly or if it's because of the reduced dose. argh.

dose not does!

Mopsy Your nausea is prob a combi of both MS & Headache. How do you feel about staying on your medication? Sorry your still suffering hopefully your good hormones will kick in soon to kick your headache into shape :)

I got the date for my scan this morning, 16th June - 6 weeks away how am I not going to drive myself mad until then? We go on holiday next friday for a week so that'll distract me a little, then 8days after I see the MW so hopefully she'll be able to pick something up on the doppler :) then it'll only be 17days till the scan sooo long away.

I woke up for the first time in a week with nausea but no vomiting yay :) lets hope it continues this way. Also my cramps disappeared so must of just been stretching pains :)

hey all

had a bit of a bad day yesterday. Felt yuck all day and finding it hard to appear normal at work when feel so rough. I had hoped when I got to 8 weeks without nausea that I might have been one of the lucky ones not suffer - no such luck as it seemed to have kicked in just after this!

Also quite stressful at the moment as my sis is in hosp with preeclamcia (spelling?!) and has been since Tuesday when she went in for a check up at 36 weeks and 6. It now looks like she will have a medical c-section in the next couple of days. None of my family know I am pregnant and I am trying to cope at work work, support my sister, help look after my little neice whilst not letting on how crap I feel. I am also obviously v worried about my sister.

The one bright bit was that by my calculations yesterday was 9 weeks.

I am beinging to think GPs/MV's are even more hopeless than I first throught. I did not get the phonecall back from the MV yesterday which was supposed to be confirming my booking appointment at 11 weeks and setting a date for the scan as if they left it to my booking I would not get a scan until after 15 weeks apparently. I chased the GP and they said that the midwife I spoke to had swapped shifts with another midwife. They checked the diary and it turns out that the booking appointment that was supposed to have been pencilled in, hadn't been. Grrr! Anyhow the receptionist has now booked me in for that. She has also left a message for the other midwife who is supposed to be calling me re scan date, I have chased but not heard anything.

I hope everyone keeps feeling as well as they can!

Morning all...well I think I have discovered one of my triggers for feeling nauseous, light headed and overwhelmed - stress! I was feeling quite bright this morning until I found that DH had left his wallet at home and got myself into a tizz about it and have not felt right since I guess the lesson is to try and stay calm as much as possible!!

mopsy so sorry to hear about your headache - I really suffered on Monday and think it was because I had a late night on Sunday so don't know if sleep deprivation is linked to it at all. I did feel utterly debilitated by it though and really hope yours gets better soon!

ratty hope your sis is ok? The hospitals are v experienced at dealing with the condition and am sure I've read that the best option is to get baby out and then danger reduced for Mum and baby.

Don't kow if my apps had arrived at home this morning but if not then I will chase the hospital again on Monday - such a pain to keep having to do this! I'm 9 weeks today and think I may have convinced DH we should tell my Mum this weekend - will wait for scans etc before telling his family but I would really like to be able to talk to my Mum!!

Due in December, although not sure of exact dates yet, MW says the 17th, two days before my birthday, ouch! Had a missed miscarriage just before Christmas so I am so happy to be pregnant again, although it's pretty scary at the same time...

BlueCrane hope you get to talk to your mum, I had to tell mine straight away and I'm so glad I did, just for reassurance/excitement! And when OH is confused by the fact that you're crying over andrex adverts (or in my case, the royal wedding, why?!) mum is a great help!

Hi ladies, just got my due date of jan 2012, new year baby for me, 1st time too, so very excited but a little scared too! :)

Welcome grohl and laura

Getting excited about chatting to Mum tomorrow - just hope DH hasn't changed his mind! Would've preferred to at least have had my booking app before telling her but I can't keep dancing around the subject and pretending I'm fine when I feel totally wiped - I'm sure she's probably guessed anyway! Mum's are like that!!

Second lesson of the day is 'make sure I eat regularly' as I was late with my morning snack and then my lunch as well and got to the point of a headache just starting and feeling very light headed and wibbly...

Thank you! I had the chat with my mum and his yesterday, very exciting, lots of hugs and advise, lots of info on what they went through which was helpful! :)
Looking forward to all the feelings and changes to come!

Great news Laura. I found it really helpful when we told our parents too - was lovely while just H and I knew but felt so good to be able to talk to someone who had been through it too.

I am seeing my best friends tomorrow for lunch and telling them - I know they will be excited and I can't wait. They are the only people we are telling now before the scan but hopefully that won't be too far off, I'm 10+1 today.

Hi Ladies..

Sorry about the headaches mopsy hope it gets better had a terrible one this afternoon and so tired today, this pregnancy thing is really strange but in a good way.

bluecrane so glad I told my mom she had been great :o

My first scan is next week friday cant wait literally counting the hours but really does feel like its taking forever.

Afternoon all been very tired at work last few days my skin is crap and I have put on 4lbs last few weeks with the extra eating to combat the lightheadedness and dizziness. Probably shouldn't have just bought some frozen yoghurt on way home heehee

Husband is away this weekend so am going to have to fend for self I hate cooking so gonna have to try be healthy. Gonna be hard.

I am a prat in preparation for my booking appt on Wednesday just did 1st test for 3 weeks to make sure still pg didn't want to go to MW next week and them think I had made it all up in my head. Still am of course phew

figgygal I felt like doing the same thing! I didn't because of the expense. So I totally get you!

Today I also acted like a twit - my head was so bad and I felt so dreadful and have been since Tuesday but was worried about taking paracetamol. Took 2 on Wednesday and thought maybe I shouldn't take more, so went into boots to check, and when she said it was fine I could take some more I started crying, like really bawling crying. I think I was just so relieved. I was still crying going down the street. I felt like SUCH an idiot! Paracetamol helped a bit. Still don't feel great, but my head doesn't actually feel like it's going to split open, it's just a normal-ish headache. Which compared to the rest of the week feels nearly a good thing. I have to do a presentation over the weekend (giving it Monday morning) so hopefully my head won't get too bad again so I can actually write the thing!

Very excited as I have received my scan app letter - 26th May!! but still no booking app which is a bit strange

mopsy it's the hormones again!! But glad your head is a bit better. Hope the presentation prep goes well!

ratty so sorry to hear about how lame your antenatal care's been so far! I've actually swapped doctors practices after finding out I was PG and they still managed to get me a mw appointment. Just keep on their backs until they pull their fingers out - maybe it'll be better now they've swapped your mw.

blue really glad you've got your date for your scan, did anyone get a Doppler at their booking app? Dead jealous if so!

Not much to report other than we've decided to temporarily name it Piglet as the amount I'm eating at the mo I'm going to look like a sow in next to no time. Told a friend today who insists I must tell her about every stretch mark and varicose vein etc. Have decided I'm reading TMI because I'm now petrified of how I'm going to end up looking after all this (varicose veins in your knickers?!? Eeeek!!!)

mopsytop so sorry thought you'd read my previous post about paracetamol being safe - I should have said again that i'd taken it when really bad. Finding mine kicking in afternoon/evening and a hot wheat bag on my neck is helping. Hormones are crap for headaches, it's amazing how sick they can make you feel without being a migraine. Hope it settles down soon :)
Make sure you take a day in bed though if you need it!!!

Blue glad you got an appt, my booking appt came through yesterday but am on holiday that week. Hoping I can phone up and poss get a bit of choice. I know work will give time off but there are a couple of important meetings/training sessions I'm deliverig I can't cancel...

Hope everyone has a nice weekend - would also agree telling mums was good for us :)

Morning all! Well, the post has been and no sign of my booking app which is very strange...wondering whether I can phone the hospital today or whether I need to wait until Monday!? Woke up at 6 something again this morning but managed to dose again a bit but at 7:45am I had to get up as I needed food!! I guess it's worth me getting used to no lie ins whilst pg as there certainly won't be any once the bean has arrived!!

Hope people's headaches and sickness starting to ease off a bit...I've found that there's a definite correlation between amount of sleep and frequency of food with how prone to headaches/nausea I am. Quite pleased an surprised that I've not put any weight on yet though!

Blue it's bizarre that you haven't got your booking in appt. Wait till Monday and try again.