Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 7

[StickThemWithThePointyEnd]

New fred!

did the super moon bring any babies last night?

hmmmm..... half price champagne - methinks there will be a Dachs shopping trip coming up :)

Can I play? I reckon Newbury

I'm getting settled over here as I am desperate to know baby news

sorry yrmotb still too far west [busmile]

dachs good news on the trousers front - I bet your new ones will fit for approximately a fortnight now.... [bugrin]

Helloooooooooo yrmotb! Now I can see your name in lower case I'd like to change my plea and say that it does actually look better in lower case afterall. Newbury was going to be my second guess! Hmmmmmm, Reading??

close, v close, but no winner yet :)

no concentration to do a proper namecheck, sorry.
what's all this about postcode guessing?

Had lunch with friends from DS's postnatal group in their garden today which was lovely, then fish and chips for dinner in our garden.

Bath and bed for DS (hopefully he'lls stay in there tonight) and then a little glass of wine for me, methinks.

Hubby officially moved his once-home business into the business park office today, so I'll be all alone at home after easter :(

today is what it is, and if I don't have a baby tonight, let's never speak of it again .

Ooh brie and champagne

Congrats to Ivy - yummy cake.

Dachs I've just googled your pram and now have pram envy

Could I possibly ask for your advice ladies on a couple of things? I'm still struggling to connect with this pregnancy (can only view future as big black hole) and have chatted to MW on a couple of things:

a) 20 wk scan next week - would finding out the sex help me to connect?

b) am terrified at thought of NCT classes, and MW is worried they make me feel even more isolated (v large catchment area, full of women highly excited over being PG and completely in love with the whole thing). She's suggested that I just do the post-natal bits, and the CMW team would do me and OH a private 'labour' class. What do you think?

[bugrin]

I'm guessing Swindon [no clue emoticon]

Ivy sounds like the perfect day [bugrin]

Daisy I know we're not in the same situation, but I've struggled to find any connection, possibly from a self-preservation point of view, but after yesterday's 20 week scan I have been a gooey mess today fawning over anything baby related. I think seeing how much development had happened and it's little features really helped We didn't find out the sex so don't know if it would help, but it could help to visualise. Obviously I can't guarantee the same, but that's just my story in case it helps. I don't know about NCT, except that we've signed up hoping to make friends, but it's a different catchment area scenario I hope you get some more better answers

I think things are infinitely better after the 20 week scan, that's when I really turned the corner with this pregnancy. Feeling regular movement from then onwards also helped a good deal.

Viv the only thing about removing osch is that you'll be top of the list! My stomach lurched when I realised that, especially since I'm not far behind you.

Thanks Lia for your reassusrance over the MW appointment. I've looked into the relaxation refresher classes and will be attending the one early May.

just delurking to say hellooo and to check for baby news.

I'm still not brave enough to join the list tho :)

not today, velvet, but maybe tomorrow (she says for the millionth time while hitting S on ctx timer...)

Well Ivy I was being optimistic that by the time the list gets done again your baby will have arrived and Viv will go to the top!

Sorry memene.....

You know how Pre-scan mentalling is allowed?? Well, how long before the scan is it allowed to commence? Because I seem to have got myself into a right state about the anomaly scan in 12 days time :( part of me thinks it must be rare to find something but then again it can't be that rare otherwise the NHS wouldn't fork out for it. I am absolutely bricking it :(

daisy no advice from me, sorry. Maybe knowing the sex would help you connect though, makes it less abstract?

Pink my mentalling would have started sooner if my exam hadn't distracted me. I agree with Loopy, I think it's to identify things they can help with rather than necessarily serious problems. It's awful waiting, MC turns something exciting for other women into a nerve wracking event come here and mental away as many times as you need

Loopy I hope it's not too hot where you are, and you can make yourself as comfy as you can

I just tried playing miniorange some music and was rewarded with some nudging, might have been coincidence but made me :) We're looking for a new car today, well, to see what we can afford!

pink I was terrified about my 20 week scan. I think the whole mc thing, especially a mmc, makes you realise that scans are for more than just getting a pretty picture and a sneaky peak at your little one. I worked myself up into a right state before hand. Come and sit on this comfy sun lounger, drink this virgin cocktail and let us try and calm you down. and loopy's right, most of the things they're looking for will be things they can do something to help... feel free to freakout all you like, totally understand where you're at...and this is what this thread is for...

daisy, it does get easier after the 20 week scan...and for me, reaching 24 weeks was a massive milestone. Just felt that from that point I wasn't looking after the baby on my own, and the doctors would be fighting for it too at that point...and since then I've felt a lot more connected. We did find out the sex, but I've only recently started calling bump "him" rather than "it"...

Thank you lovely ladies, you are all so kind! :) mmmmm nice cocktail, thanks apples! I guess what's freaking me out about this one is that it doesnt just have the possibility of bad news, it also carries the possibility of impossible decisions, and I think that's the bit that really scares me. I hadn't thought about the potential for fixable stuff though so that's really helpful, thanks. Also, I dusted off my 'how to stop worrying book' and rememebered that there's no point worrying about scan day until scan day as there's nothing I can do until then anyway.

I hope you're all having a lovely bank holiday weekend, I'm just on my way down to the south coast to visit my mum-hope we manage to fit in some beach time!

Thanks again for your support, I really appreciate it xx

Just popping in to check if there was any news from Ivy - all going well here - so far so good.

Knackered but recovering much quicker from ELCS than from 3rd degree tears - surprised at how mobile I am.

Hope everyone is enjoying the Easter sunshine!! [bugrin]

Hello all :) Been out enjoying the sunshine, but decided it's not too hot for so I've come back in. Nothing to do with needing a fix of mn!

Silly question for you [bublush]

What does the baby moving actually feel like? I'm over 16 weeks now and there are two of them in there and I should be feeling something but I haven't. And now I'm worried that I have but I didn't recognise it and just thought it was cramp or something.

Told you it was a silly question, but it's really bothering me at the moment as I feel completely useless and crap not knowing whether I'm feeling my babies moving or not!

It's probably not as it feels a bit crampy rather than the bubbly feeling pink described, but it's still odd!

mhmm. eating lemon cake and drooling over patrick dempsey.. :o

dachs it feels a bit like a lot of wind at the beginning :o

squeeze for my little worrying twin pink you got a good egg there honey, all will be well... stay positive x

dachs I've not felt anything yet but have been mw told me it's like a little flutter inside your tummy to look out for. It's not a daft question though, I'd like to hear what others describe the sensation as too.

waves to all