Started TTC in August 2010, we're now all finally up the duff

[KLou111]

New home for us ladies :)
Continuation of thread from conception.
Any newbies are quite welcome to join in our quite bizarre and hilarious chat

I got it from new look, they only had 2 in the shop so I think theyre quite popular, go on the new look website, they have a couple with sayings on, like "HANDS OFF THE BUMP", "Baby Love", all sorts really :) the one I got today is blue and says "mummy in training" in diamante :)

ahh melly thats so sweet! i had one first time round, but wanted to keep it for best and then lost it under a pile of clothes never got round to wearing it!

klou i got one of them dopplers, so so looking forward to it arriving!

gruffalo such a shame your mum cant go with you, i hope its nothing serious

Oh sorry madkatz, I just looked on New Look website and theyre not on there anymore! If you google "slogan maternity tops" it comes up with all sorts, I found a site that you pick a colour, size and a slogan, or write your own one and they make it and send you it! Can't remember what it was called though

Cool, thanks Melly

Blimey, you lot have been chatty!!!

That t-shirt sounds great Melly :) might have a look for one myself.

Liz so glad you ordered doppler. My brothers listened to little one this weekend and one of them said it was the best ever sound in the world (he's 37 and very broody but never found the right girl, bless him cos he's lovely)

Hope your scan goes well tomorrow Gruffalo. Sorry to hear about your mum. Hope she feels better soon and the picture cheers her up loads.

Got a bit of a 'one' for you.

My eldest brother (40) told us this weekend that he has got a girl in Indonesia pregnant what a total tw@t to be blunt. Had sex once at the beginning of Jan, and apparently she is 8 weeks.

Prob is, I don't believe her.

He met her a couple of years ago on hol and recently went back and met up again and did the deed. Thing is, I think she was already preg as things he said don't add up.
First of all she said she had a bleed and mid Feb and she thought is was her late period, but yet went to the doctors.

They apparently did a preg test, positive, then did internal scan cos of bleed. If you thought it was your period and didn't even think you were preg, why go to the docs??
Thing is she was measuring 25mm, which from looking at the charts, would be measuring 9 weeks, making her 11 weeks plus now. On asking my bro this, he didn't really know what to say, and he doesn't really understand the ins and outs of what happens when etc.

Secondly she has sent him pics bulging her tummy out ridiculously big, with a push up bra (she's only tiny). I told him she was putting it on (as did DH and my other bro). If she was that big now (at 8 weeks??), she won't be able to walk in 7 months!!

Thirdly she wants to come here, go figure!

I know it sounds REALLY harsh, but he asked me last night what he should do. Honestly, I told him not to go through with it. It was really hard for me to say as I am pregnant, but I know exactly where this is all going.
She is 23, comes from a country with nothing, he has a successful career, his own place etc, and she wants to come here. I don't believe this child is his anyway.

I feel so sorry for him, as he wants to settle and have a family, but this has been thrust upon him and I think he is in a bit of a dreamland TBH. Don't get me wrong, it MAY be a possibility it's his and the dates are wrong, and it MAY be the best thing ever for him, but God fucking help her if she fucks him over!

I must be honest aswell, that I was a bit gutted at I know this sounds selfish, but this is MY moment. I have been with DH 13 1/2 years and my parents are going to love a grandchild that was born on a one night stand the same as mine born out of planning and love. I wanted my child to be the centre of attention for longer that 2 bloody months!!

I know he's 40, but my parents are going to hit the fucking roof!!!!

Sorry for the epic post, but just wanted your opinion. :(

Hi KLou

Gosh what a mess!

I have to agree I would definietly question whether the baby is his (can he get a paternity test done?) and if she comes over here it sounds like its gonna mess all your lives up.

I don't think you're being selfish at all.

Not pregnancy related, but I have an old friend (previous work colleague from years ago) who has recently married a chinese woman and she has moved over here. I hardly ever hear from him - neither does his family from the sound of it - and because of her lack of english (and lack of interest to learn any - why should she when he can deal with everything ) makes it very awkward when we meet so we dont very often at all now. Has definietly changed our friendship for the worse. We mainly speak on email now with the occasional text.

He can get a paternity test done, but only after the birth, and he wants her here to have the baby so he can look after her through her pregnancy. He is going to pay for everything to get her here aswell as move into a house (he's in a 1 bed flat), and he will marry her too (if it's his).
I don't think he realises what he's getting into. He needs to come back down to earth.

Re your friend Madkatz, that's awful. It really pisses me off when people come here and don't speak the language. My DH's bro is married to a Thai girl. Lovely girl, been together 11 years this year, but her English is STILL shockingly crap, AND she now has a passport.

Just looked at the t-shirt Melly sooooo want one!!

klou wow what a mess. i am with you on this, from what you say it does sound like she is a fake and doing it to get into the country. does your bro WANT to be with her or just thinking of her baby? (if it is there at all!)

I asked him if it wasn't for the baby ie if she lost it, would you want to still get her here etc, and he kind of diverted from the question. My other bro found out a few weeks back about all this and he told me he asked the same but from what we both can work out, no he wouldn't get together with her.

Other thing is forgot to mention, he had an op a few years ago, and was told it was very slim he could ever have children. He got tested a couple of years ago and they confirmed that again, so this is why he is so happy about it, as if it IS his, he didn't ever think it was possible, and if they got rid of it, would he ever have any more? I just wish there was a test to confirm he is the father before it is born, as if he finds out it is not his after it's born, I think he'll be crushed but feel he has to stay with her. It's like the friggin Jeremy Kyle show!!!

It's kind of embarrassing TBH as we're not the sort of family this happens to without sounding snobby!

I know what you mean KLou about this sort of thing doesn't happen to us.....I've learnt on past experience that anything can happen to anyone.

It doesn't sound like he would stay with her if she lost the baby and thats all hes interested in. That's awful but it is also sad that he only ever has a slim chance of having children which kind of explains his behaviour.

Its so frustrating that there isnt a paternity test that can be done pre-birth.

klou did the woman know about his slim chances of hving children? if she did she must be cruel as well as fake

Gosh that is abit of a situation isn't it! It does sound like your brother does only want the baby and not her which is a bit of a recipe for disaster, what happens if the baby is his and he stays with her and just ends up living in an unhappy relationship just for the sake of the baby??

And also I know what you mean about having your thunder about the baby stolen, shortly after we announced our news, DPs SIL announced she was PG, and then his 18yr old cousin announced she was aswell! His SIL is a complete cow though, she's already had 2 kids and she gave me TONNES of baby stuff (which I didn't really want anyway but SHE didn't know that) and she's taken it all back!!

Anyway klou I hope everything turns out ok in the end :)

Hoping I can get some advice about this. And sorry in advance, this might be a long post.

I have a fleshy skin tag on my breast about 1 cm from the edge of the areola which came up about 8 or 9 months ago. It doesn't bother me but I don't want it there when the baby comes in case it catches in bras or whatever as I'm intending on breast feeding. Mentioned it to the midwife when I saw her on Thursday and she said book in to GP to get it quarterised.

So I got an appointment for this morning and went. The doctor was an absolute cow, would listen to what I had to say just kept saying it'll be fine, its not cancerous or anything (I know it isn't as I've had 3 cancerous moles in the past so I know what to look for now). It took a long time to get through to her that I just didn't want it there. Eventually she agreed to book me in for minor op to have it quarterised or to tie it off at home. I asked for the quaterising. She said the small amount of local wouldn't hurt the baby but couldn't be sure it wouldn't interfere with milk ducts in my breast.

DP and I have talked about it since and we're both not very happy about the local issue, so we're going to tie it off at home. I have been reading about mole removal kits and just wondered if anyone has any experience of tying off at home or these kits?

I haven't had any experience like that. My mum used to go to the hospital and have moles frozen off, maybe you could start a new thread about this and see if other people have tried either!

Yeah I was just thinking I should post this in Health too.

Thanks Melly

What a bloody cheek MadKatz! They're there for you and if that what you want, they should let you do it. If you feel confident about doing it at home, and it is safe, I would look into it TBH. But like you've said, I'd put a post in health as there's bound to be someone that can help you :) x

No problem :) lol im babysitting my neice, she was 2 about a month ago. Shes just out of nappies so still having accidents and shes fast asleep on the sofa and snoring like a foghorn :o I just hope she doesn't wee in her sleep.

i have had loads of these and had mine cauterised at the gp' but that was before i was pg, and mine were in my armpits where yours is a much more sensitive area isnt it.(i had at least 12 under each armpit so couldnt tie all of them!)

you can just tie a hair round it though and it will die and drop off. i had one on my neck not so long ago and caught it with something, it just went black and came off.

dad has done a few of his like this. how big is it?

It's about 3 or 4mm across and maybee 6 or 7mm high when you play with it to make it stand up (!) .
Its sqidgy not solid so I can squash it flat against my skin or tweak it to make it stand up. No feeling whatsoever which makes me think the tying will be ok because I don't think there's any nerves in there.

definatly tie it, i really wouldnt bother with any fancy mole removal kit (i wonder what it is thm, a piece of hair?)

do you play with it as some kind of foreplay?? only teasing

lol liz foreplay :o Such a dirty mind!

lol Liz @ foreplay... something a bit bigger than 7mm springs to mind. Did I really say that?

foreplay is the last thing on my own mind, i have not done the deed for about 6 weeks, i just collapse into bed and want to sleep. it doesnt help that dh does not a thing to help me, which i have told him is the cause of me being so tired, so if he wants to do it abit more, hes going to have to pull his finger out.

its been lethal having our own proper computer at home. i can shop late at night and its great! i spent £65 last night with vertbaudet maternity, 2 lovely tops and a denim skirt. i am sick of living in the same pair of jeans. although not sure if the tops are going to be big enough.
for about 9 week i have lived in this one pair of jeans, stretchy sided ones and they were brill for a while but keep falling down now so have got to move into proper over bump things. i even had to go home after dinner to change my work jeans as they were too tight.

I have 2 pairs of overbump jeans now and I love them to pieces. I also have one pair of underbump jeans, but not with the stretchy sides, the elastic goes all the way across the front. They are so bloody uncomfortable! My sister tells me the stretchy sided ones are really comfy though, are they?