Anyone who is pregnant, due in September and fancies a chat come here!

[reddaisy]

I found out yesterday that I am pregnant with DC2. I am really pleased as we only started trying on Christmas Eve so I am only about four weeks pregnant.

I have told my best friend but I think DP and I will wait to tell family and friends until after the scan. Anyone else due in September and fancy a chat?

I am a journalist Princess, what did you do? I am the first woman in our newsroom to become a mum too. Not sure what they will say when I announce I am pregnant again, it is a very male orientated industry isn't it?

It's good that you get more Mat pay, I get bare minimum too and great about not having to find childcare.

Thanks for the welcome reddaisy. My 1st pregnancy was my 2 yr old DS :) , my 2nd pregnancy was the miscarriage :( and this is my 3rd pregnancy so I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a happy outcome this time.

Oh, I'm so sorry I must have misread your post. I will keep everything crossed for you. Will you have a scan at 8 weeks or be referred fo one then?

Thanks reddaisy. I saw my GP last week and he said to go back and see him at 7 weeks and he'll refer me for a viabilty scan at 8 weeks. I didn't have a period in between the miscarriage and this pregnancy so it's harder to work out how many weeks I am, but I know when DH and I did the deed so I'm going by that which makes me 6 weeks in the next couple of days.

I don't think they would usually do a viability scan for someone who's just had 1 mc but he's agreed because it's so soon after the mc and because there's been no period. I'd have probably paid for a private one anyway if he didn't agree to refer me just to put my mind at rest. 12 weeks is so long to wait!

Are you waiting until 12 weeks or are you paying for an early one?

I'm so glad your GP said you could have an early scan as that will really put your mind at rest.

I will be waiting for the 12 week scan as this is my second pregnancy but it is so long to wait.

I keep thinking I am imagining the pregnancy, particularly because a medical profession hasn't told me that I am indeed pregnant IFSWIM!

I hope it flies by until your scan, make sure you let us know how you get on.

I've got a good feeling about this one. It's weird because last time I sort of felt like I knew it was all going to go wrong from the day I found out.

Anyway, I don't want all my chat to be doom and gloom. I'm really excited and it's great to be able to come on here and talk to you about baby stuff. Have you told friends and rellys yet? Apart from DH and my GP no one else knows yet. I'm finding it really hard not telling everyone.

We have told far too many people, DP keeps saying: "Go on, let's tell so and so." It is very hard to keep quiet. Our first pregnancy wasn't a surprise but it wasn't planned either so it was a bit different whereas this time we planned it so I am more mentally prepared to tell people.

So we have told close friends and family and after DP I told mumsnet first! How sad is that!! But I wanted to see friends and family in person.

I've told all you guys on here before my family and friends too. Im finding it so hard to keep quiet so just setting small goals at the moment. If I get a good result on the 8 week scan we'll tell parents then but will try and wait until 12 weeks for everyone else.

It would be nice to have a bit of extra help from family with DS who is a real livewire so I'm looking forward to telling them for that reason too. It's exhausting looking after him without being pregnant as well.

Hi Ladies, just found out I am expecting my first - due September 29th - mind if I join you?

Hello! I'm 5 wks 3 days and due on September 23rd. This is my second pregnancy - first one miscarried at 7 weeks so am crossing my fingers for this one x

Hi, sorry i dissapeared! Am 5+1 weeks today,I haven't made my booking in appointment with the midwife yet (you don't have to bother seeing the doc here) has anyone else?

seeing my gp Wednesday. Never done any of this before so its all new territory!

Hi, can I join in? got my bfp yesterday, am waiting anxiously for nausea to begin...

this will be DC2. Had one MC before dd1 so am feeling a bit nervous, and will definitely be requesting an early scan to see the heartbeat at 8wks if poss, it's too nervewracking to wait till 12 wks!

Is there any point seeing a GP? they are just going to refer you to MW no?

forgot to add, my DD is 2.4yo and Im due 25th sept. Had obstetric cholestasis last time so had to be induced almost 3 wks early.

My practice make you see the GP (my app in on Wed) then they refer you to the midwife........all seems a bit of a faff to me as extra time off work for what is essentialy a chat and a referal

Hi painfullyhonest and bowstress, congratulations!

I don't have to see the GP here either so I am waiting for the midwife to contact me but I expect I won't be seeing her for another couple of weeks or so.

I'm knackered today and it is my day off with DD today and I have spent most of the day trying to get her to watch Cbeebies, I feel a bit guilty. I can't even have an early night tonight because I am babysitting for a friend.

Hope you are all well.

reddaisy I was features editor on a regional paper. dh is deputy news editor on a daily. I sort of miss it but think it would be too much stress while kids are young - hopefully I can get back into it when dc are at school. We'll see.

We too have told too many people (me anyway). Told parents and my Granny as we're very close. I also told a friend (not a particularly close one but I was bursting and best friends dh walked out 2 weeks ago. He's back now but it's still stressfull for her, don't think my good news would be very helpful). I also told my boss as she's due 4 weeks before me. She's rubbish with secrets so I wish I hadn't said anything but I was alone with her and blurted it out. I'm rubbish!

Went to GP today and basically made appointment to see mw in a week and a half. He also said he'd had a letter back from the consultant I saw before ttc which says I can have a cs if I want one. Consultant didn't fully commit to it when I saw him but obviously decided to commit further when her wrote the letter (had a bad birth with dd1).

Congrats to new members.

Is it wrong that I'm slightly disappointed I don't have morning sickness yet - had it really badly with dd1. Only symptom so far is very big boobs!

Definitely don't be disappointed with not having morning sickness, if you get it you will be sorry you said that!

I had a CS with DD but I think I will give labour a go again and see how I get on but don't blame you for opting for one from the off. Did you have a CS first time round?

I am the deputy news editor on a regional paper as well, it is stressful and returning to work was troublesome to say the least (I'm sure you can imagine the reaction to my request to do 4 days a week) but I do love it. I would rather be the news editor, being a deputy can be a political nightmare sometimes. How does your DP feel about being a deputy?

Off to make DD some tea now. Happy pregnancies everyone!

DP has some political issues - more so at his last place as his boss was a jealous woman who spent her time trying to get him in trouble.

Had natural birth with 10 mins of gas and air - mw was a bitch and kept saying I had at least 12 hours to go, had a low pain threshold etc turned out I was 10cm. 20 mins after she said that, dd was in my arms! Mw and registra had a huge barney that she'd refused me any pain relief - I wasn't even in a delivery room. Registra only got involved as dh insisted on 2nd opinion - thank god he did. I was the only woman in labour that night so hardly busy. Main reason for cs is the 37 stitches I had as dd shot out and landed on the bed as mw didn't catch her (she thought it was just the head coming! Sorry for details - sure everyone else here will have fab births!

Oh my God, that sounds awful. Did you put in a formal complaint?

I had one very rude and grumpy midwife the firt time but the rest of them were lovely. I just don't understand why some people become midwives if they don't actually have a caring nature. I think they don't listen to first time mum's as much as they should either.

I recovered well from my CS though so I'm sure it will be fine.

DP thinks I should do a blog about my pregnancy but I'm not sure I can be bothered as work definitely wouldn't pay me any more money!

I meant to write a book of my last pg but only managed one chapter! One day!

I was so happy to have a healthy baby and didn't realise how bad it was until I got dh to fill in the gaps for me. Watching one born every minute upsets me as my birth wasn't like the ones on it. Mw told dh to sit in the corner out of the way rather than be by my side - both of us just followed orders. He was with me for the pushing but new mw came on shift and she was lovely. other mw was the senior mw!

I hate it when people think I'm choosing a cs for an easy option - I'm not stupid and have done my homework. To me it's the least scary option. Espeically as the next one could be even quicker than the first.

As I'm sure you already know, CS is not an easy option - people who say that have probably never had one! But it will probably put your mind at rest knowing that it should all go to plan this time. Does that mean you will have it slightly before 40 weeks so you don't start labour naturally?

Some women don't have more children after a traumatic first birth so you should feel proud of yourself and if your DP takes his patnerity leave then he can do all the lifting of your eldest and after that you should be over the worst of it and you should be able to manage the two of them.

I have got so many half-written books around it is a joke, but there is always something better to do!!

Actually, who am I kidding, half-written is an overstatement!

Ha ha - know what you mean about the books.

DD will be 3.5 so hopefully understand about lifting and dh and my parents will all be on hand.

Up until September, another baby was not an option, but I surprised myself by getting broody. We did discuss adoption even.

There are 3 ladies at work who are pg and keep asking about birth - I say, oh you'll be fine, it's not too bad (which I believe is true with the right care)! Not sure if I'll tell them about my cs!

Hi princess I had a 3rd degree tear with my first, took almost a year for my bits to get back to normal - I would really love to have another natural birth though - tho I did need an epidural as I was having double contractions and went from 4cm to 8 in about an hour and a half! induced labour is a bit more intense than a normal one, it's definitely true about it not giving yr body time to "catch up"...

can't believe you feel you are missing out on sickness I am terrified of feeling that awful again. All I can think is that I need to get the freezer stocked now because last time I didn't eat or cook for about 6 weeks! poor dh got used to me telling him I couldn't open the fridge door and he'd have to defrost another tub of soup...

I too was wondering whether it was possible to request a CS? Are they able to say no if the reason is a traumatic birth first time round?

I was completely against CS with DS, but after 36 hours from 2cm to 10cm they finally established he was back to back so was rushed to theatre in case forcep delivery did not work and CS required. Fortunately they managed to turn him with the forceps safely and pull him out while I was contracting. 1 episiotomy later I have now learned how dangerous for a baby forceps can be and how some hospitals have banned them. I would rather elect for a CS than ever put my baby in that situation again.

First time round I wanted to feel the pain of labour, now I've experienced it I can't say I'm as eager! People say back to back labours are more painful so maybe it would be ok this time, but I just don't want to have to agree to forceps at the last minute again.