for anyone expecting baby #3

[jimmijam]

hello!
i have a 4yr old dd and 3yr old ds, 5.5weeks pregnant.
thought this may b a good place 2 share our experiences 3rd time around

Wow - you do sound like you have your hands full. How are the older two getting on with the new baby?

That sounds like a good idea - keeping toys seperate, never thought of doing that.
Thats another joy of having 3 boys (or 3 girls) - they can all share a room, although I suppose it doesn't really matter when they're little.

39 +2 with 3rd child at 40 years old and it is MUCH HARDER this time around - so many more aches and pains and strange pregnancy niggles, plus looking after 2 children who are school age. I am also really sick of people mentioning overpopulation! My Mum was one of thirteen, and I was one of three, so big families are not a concern for us, but it's certainly not the fashion these days. Not sure how we will cope with bedrooms etc - baby will be in with us for the first few months, but DD and DS are arguing over who will get to share a room with the baby - they are both keen!

Ooh not long to go then somanymiles - do you know the sex of this one?

Its nice that your DC are both keen to share - how old are they?

iloveblue - I have friends who have their DD and two DSs sharing a room in 2 bed house. It's a bit cramped, but seems to work ok!

We have 4 dc and when i was expecting number 3 people said to me oh no have 2 or 4 3 will not work....like i could change my mind or decide to have twins instead !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!LOL they were wrong we had more falling outs between the children when we had 4 ! see what did they know

Hi ilove blue, Im also due around early October. I already have 2 DDs so a DS would be great.

There's also a thread for October mums, you should jump on the bus there too xx

No symptoms except the fact that I can stop stuffing my face (been on a diet for the last year and lost 3 stone so making up for it now! lol)

my older boys are besotted with their baby brother at the moment. they mostly just ignore him cause he sleeps all the time but rush over every time he squeaks! ds1 was great when ds2 was born but started getting really frustrated when ds2 started moving and going for his toys, so i know they'll be o.k till ds3 is on the move!

am trying to get my head round getting out the house on my own when dh goes back to work. have managed to go out with 2 of them on my own. will just have to start getting ready at least 1/2hr before we actually need to get out the door i'm guessing!

Hi All, I am 20 weeks this friday, and am having scan same day (hoping to find out what we are having) :)

This is my third pregnancy, DS6 (Sort of a Mummy's boy) and DD3 (clingy).

Was just wondering something, I have told the kids about the new baby and they seem very excited by the idea, which is great! But I am worried how they are actually going to react when it arrives??

Also we live in a 3 bed house so my DD would have to share with my DS when I wanted the baby to have a nursery, when do you think the best time is to remove DD from her room and convert it into nursery, as I am worried that after the baby is born I may not have the time or the energy to decorate the nursery, which I SO want to do! :( I know the baby will be in the bedroom with me for first 6 months, but just think it would be nice to have somewhere of its own, i.e clothes, changing area etc.

What do you think? Should I take her out asap and get her used to sharing with her brother? Or should I wait until after baby is born? Please help! I REALLY don't know what to do!! :( :(

Emma x

Hi all, went to the doctors today and she confirmed i'm just 6weeks, still seems so early. and i'm still panicking about everything, how we'll cope,the effect a new baby will have on my other 2 DC (3 and 8) and where we'll put everyone, will we need a new car..... oh the list is endless! can't wait to get to a point where i'm not worrying all the time!

So happy to find this thread, (I'm 38+ weeks with no 3, and have DS6, and DD5) Congratulations naturalbaby I'm planning a 3rd home delivery, what did you do with your other dc's when no 3 arrived ? I've put the older two together in bunks, they still grumble a bit, but generally I think they are quite happy, that way there will be a baby room, when we discover sex we can move them around a few years down the line.
Physically I've been okay apart from awful SPD, for about 4 months, which has bizarely reduced now leaving me feel better without all the pain. I was also embarrassed to tell people because of reactions, and have been far more anxious this time, (almost 40 !) Still find it hard to believe there will soon be 5 of us

Ems 82, I am also pregnant with third and also in three bedroom house. There is 3 years between my two sons (age nearly 5 and nearly 2) but we are moving the little one in with the big one over half term. Figured that way it gives us time to get nursery ready and ds2 won't feel pushed out of his room by the baby. That's the idea anyway.... Will let you know how it goes, they are both very excited at the moment. I am 26 weeks and teach part time, so wanted to do this over a holiday, Easter seems a bit too close, aaarrghhh!! Hope that helps,

Xxx

Thanks for your reply thelizard yh please do let me know how it goes. DH says we should wait until we have the cot so DD can see that her room is being utilised straight away instead of wondering "Why Mummy has made me share with my brother but my room is still empty?" because no matter how much you explain to little ones they don't always seem to understand bless 'em

I am currently 8 weeks with number 3. I have one of each flavour already DD is 3.5yrs and DS is 19 weeks :$
This one was not planned but is wanted.

Somanymiles - I too am 40 and expecting this one to be hard carrying! Im only 5 weeks, so time will tell. Hope you are ok.

Felt a bit queazy this morning but other than the sore boobs Im fine, though I have got a cheese craving!! :S

Hope you don't mind me asking, but is anyone else who is over 35 going to get an amnio? i'm 37 and worried about having an amnio after my MC last year. They don't offer nuchal scans in my area :( both my other pregnancies were fine and didn't get tested as i was under 35 at the time

sunface - Im 40. To tell you the truth I haven't thought about it. With having a MC last year I would seriously have to weigh up the pros and cons about having a amnio done. Sorry Ive not answered you question but it has got me thinking!

Sunface - could you get the nuchal scan done privately? I'm under 35, but paid to have one for peace of mind, and might save you having amnio if you're worried?

Ems - you have got me thinking about the bedroom situation. DD is 7 and has the biggest (pinkest) bedroom. DS is 3.5 and has the tiny boxroom and is currently sleeping in the cotbed with all his clothes in drawers in our room. We had planned to get him a shorter/narrower storage bed which would fit in the boxroom and provide space for his clothes and also leave both children where they are and keep the baby in with us for 6 months to a yr before moving her (so the scan said) in with DD....

I had assumed that DD wouldn't want DS in with her, but it turns out she wouldn't mind...
So, now wondering whether to neutralise the bigger room and put DD and DS in together in bunkbeds (they would think this is fab, so I'm not worried about either one feeling moved out of their room etc, but just not sure when best time to do it would be... possibly wait until next Oct when baby is 6months...). Would probably still have baby in with use for a good while and then she could have her own room for a while until she's sleeping well or is big enough to go in bottom bunk. Other consideration is that DD will be 9yrs ish by time DS likely to move out of the room and is she going to get fed up with him???!!!
Very complicated!!! Baby is due in May, so still have a bit of time to think about it I suppose!

Hello all - hope you are all okay

For those of you who are in first trimester - when are you planning on telling your DC?

We're keeping this pregnancy pretty quiet for now (cautious due to loss last year), but have told our parents and our siblings as I would appreciate their support if we did suffer another loss.

We havn't told our boys yet - will probably wait till 12 week scan, but just wondering how you are dealing with it? Particularly, if you have had a previous loss.

I know they will both be overjoyed - they were last time, bless them.

Hi all, I'm 8 weeks with my surprise 3rd. I have DS1 4.4 and DS2 1.11, and am actually a bit terrified!

It might just be today, as I have struggled with both the boys' behaviour on and off. A combination of them testing me, natural 'exuberance' and my tiredness. I keep imagining each situation with a tiny baby added into it. How will I ever leave the house! Plus we have a small 3 bed semi- a double for me and DH, a double for the boys to share and a box room that has been converted into DHs edit suite. And a Ford Focus! Pretty sure we won't get three child seats in that!
Also feeling strangely worried that I won't be as lucky this time as I have been in previous pregnancies. I'm 34, but I feel old and tired, and not up to it all. Hopefully after the first 3 months my emotions will level out and I'll get my head round this new plan.
I've got the nausea too,and period-y stomach cramps, but not the sore bobs I remember so well! Feel so worried it's not going to stick, because, it being a 'surprise' I don't think we'd try for another if it didn't.

iloveblue we haven't told our boys yet. I don't think the younger would understand anyway, and the elder will get it when the belly starts reappearing I'm sure. I did feel we built up the arrival of DS2 a bit, and would like to play it all a bit cooler this time. there's so much advice about preparing siblings for new arrivals, but actually it's just life going on, and the more fuss we make, the more disruptive it'll seem. that's what I'm going with this time, anyway...

bob? boobs!

That makes sense Stase and congratulations by the way.

I was just about to ask what sore bobs were!

If it makes you feel any better - we have a 2 bedroomed house and no car at the moment!

Congratulations to you too! Any plans re the bedrooms? We're either going for a loft conversion we can't afford, or moving DH into a rented office we can't afford. Good job we'll have my income! Oh, wait...
Just in the process of replacing a 20 year old boiler, with lead pipes and an asbestos flue, so not much spare cash. Thank goodness babies take up so little space. This one'll probably be in with us until it's 6!

Oh the joys of family life

I would like to stay in our house and convert attic but DH not keen - he thinks the living space downstairs is too small for a family of 5 (we do have a teeny kitchen). So we might look to move in 18 months or so. Baby will be in with us for a while and could possibly squeeze into boys room for a few months if need be.

We are planning on getting a car in the Summer too - coping okay without one at the moment (been without since December) so we'll see.

I think the thing that worries me most is being a good mum to three. It's hard enough with just the two sometimes! Especially if they're getting rough with each other. If I'm stuck on the sofa in the middle of a marathon feed and they decide they want some attention I can see them starting a ruckus to get some. Or if we're at the park, and one falls over and the other looks like they're about to, and the baby's crying... I start feeling panicky if I think about it too much.

The beauty is that DS1 will start school about 3 weeks before the baby's due, so I'll be able to pick him and up and drop him off for most of his first year, longer if I don't go back to work. I thought I'd have to rely on breakfast clubs, etc, so that's quite nice. And if DH is working at home I might be able to walk up to collect him on my own, or just with DS2, so I can give him proper time on his own too.

Quite possibly worrying too much about the unknown at this stage...

I'm sure it'll all just fall into place somehow.