Beanies are cooking nicely!!!!! (part 2)

[jessicaandbumpsmummy]

Here you go girls!

Don't worry Caddy I'm glad I'm not the only one in pain too....really hoping its things settling down, have taken some anti acid tablets which appear to be helping too...think its just things slotting back into place, as tummy looking a lot flatter as of this afternoon still not bikini material tho just hoping it doesn't turn out to be an infection or something....have been doing pelvics, and things seem none to saggy down there, but still getting pains......particularly when I sit for too long......hoping to feel lots better tomorrow! and hope you do too {{{Hugs}}}

Cadmum - sounds a lovely idea, are you sure though? Can I offer you some money? I promise to pass on any leftovers to a good home. And absolutely pay for mail etc.

Sorry to hear that lo is having a few probs with feeding, hope it settles down soon xx

Friz - poor you with the pains, I would def check with the midwife although sounds liek from Cad that it is normal.

hi girls, still here.....got one last session of acupuncture to go to now (well u never know!) - worth a try.

sorry friz and caddy are having healing pains, but hopefully thats what is happening - you are healing.

bella - would offer you some of my maternity garb, but i have got my monies worth out of most of it, so doubt you would want it! i stuck to a very limited "capsule" wardrobe because i was loathe to buy a load of fatty clothes, lol

Cadmum: if you are there - i am still posterior - LOP - and palpation showed her head is still free - my obs. said if induction score showed i am not "favourable" i should consider c-section. needless to say my midwife disagreed. i am totally confused - would you consider c-section if it looked as if things were going to be very slow? my obs. said there is a good chance i could end up with emergency c-section anyway. yikes.

Rom - that little lady is sooooo lazy, can't believe she hasn't made an appearance yet!
Hope the needles get things moving

lol bella - still nuthin"..... she takes after her mum, never on time!

well...i had some extreme-acupuncture yesterday, needles in back - electro-stimulation - the works.

please think lots of positive birh vibes for me beanie buds!

xx

Rom - am sending over a truck full of positive labour vibes........COME OUT LITTLE GIRL !!
She's obviously very snuggly where she is, bless.

Oh Rom! I am sorry to hear that your LO is not being cooperative.

I have written and re-written this post 4 times but I still don't know what to suggest.

With DS1 I was headed for the emergency section at the end of a really long and painful labour but at the last minute my cervix decided that dilation was possible and he was delivered at 7:28 am (section planned for 7:30) as the OR was being prepped.

I was SO pleased to have avoided the major op that I can honestly say that the long labour faded into the recesses of my brain.

With DS2 his head was delivered sunny side up and I had to wait what seemed like an eternity for a big shrug as his shoulders were stuck in my pelvis. Scary at the time but once again, I was SO happy to have avoided the op because I would not have been able to manage my other two children post-op.

With Charlotte, I was begging for pain relief and anticipating the absolute worst but she actually turned in labour and all was fine. Again, I would have found it very hard to deal with the trauma of an operation but I was not happy to be induced and in such agony thinking that it was going to end with a section anyway.

I think that in your position I would try the induction (bear in mind that I am dead scared of all things medical and do not like being in hospital). I would keep an open mind about having an epidural since being able to relax is key to having your cervix dilate and it is really challenging to relax when you are on the drip that causes pain... The advantage of opting for an epidural is that you can then have it topped up in the event of an emergency section (or at least that was the logical argument given to me with DS1).

I really hope that this helps rather than complicates things. How are you feeling. Are you leaning towards one or the other. I do have friends who have had elective sections and swear by them so my view is likely very biased by my feelings for the hospital.

Don't know what happened to the ??????? . Too tired for punctuation or spelling this morning, I guess. Sorry.

Meant to add that Charlotte has been an angel for the last 2 days. She hasn't had a bottle for 50 hours!!! I think that I officially have a fourth breast-fed baby and an appreciation for why mothers opt to bottle feed. I will NEVER look down my nose at a bottle fed baby again. (A lesson in humility as I think I was VERY judgemental before.)

cadmum - i am so pleased to hear that charlotte is b/feeding now - well done for persevering. thank you so so much for taking the time and trouble to write about your experiences - it is so hard to think rationally at this stage! and when you have obs. saying one thing and midwives preaching another, it gets confusing. i realize it is a very hard thing to advise on, so i appreciate your honesty and you told me exactly what i wanted to hear really - which is give it a go naturally - but be prepared, i guess, for an op. if necessary. ultimately, like all mums, i really want what is safest for the baby. anyhow, a big thankyou once again, your advice has really helped a lot.

bella - i agree, i think she is very snug and quite happy hanging out where she is!

Cadmum, glad your little one has taken to the breast fully at last yeah!!

Rom, think you have the right decision there, just remember to breathe through the pain, not panic through it....easier said than done after a few hours...and like caddy says take the pethandine which will disassociate you nicely and if necessary epidural, wishing you sooooo much labour luck and vibes they wouldn't all fit on here! can't wait to hear you have a happy healthy little girl in your arms xx

Hi to everyone else, hope your all ok?

All is fine here, dd2 a dream!

Oooh Caddy have your pains settled? mine appear to have? although the odd bit of tummy ache now and again? not sure if I may be thinking about having a bug, so off to get some yakult!

friz - sorry to be the bearer of bad news my pains are only today settled down and Joey's 20 days old.

just grabbing 2 mins b4 I snooze off and leave Joey with the PIL to fuss nightmare time at the minute, can't wait to be left alone with him - althou next week will prob want ppl about as i'll be alone!

Oh bugger! there was I hoping the worst had passed....hopefully it has! So we'll hear more from you next week then Munz!

Oh Rom, I'm so sorry that you are still waiting for your little girl, hopefully she will be as laid back and content once she has you to cuddle her :). Sending you loads of labour vibes.

Caddy I'm glad your lo has got the hang of it, well done for sticking with it.

Bella how are you feeling hun?

Wendy how did your appointment go today?

Munz it's lovely to hear from you, look forward to hearing from you some more next week.

Right off for a tele conference and then bed.

Take care

h x

Rom good luck for today hon, that's if you've not had a baby overnight

Hello ladies
M&MB - am well thanks, how about you?

OOOH am feeling very excited about Rom, today is d day isn't it ?

News, news, news..........
Rom, we need to know, am sooooooooooooo excited!

oooh hope eveythings going ok Rom

Also thinking of you Rom...

Oooooh still no news off Rom??? Munz, do you have her number?? hope all is ok?

Hello Ladies

Rom - I hope you have some good news to share with us all very soon.

We had our review appointment on Tuesday - sorry I have not had time to post until now. I had spent alot of time researching the internet for recurent m/c information and went to the appointment armed with 2 A4 pages of notes - the poor consultant nearly ran out the door when I took my notes out of my bag.

After we lost Adam we had genetic testing which came back OK, so there doesn't appear to be an antigen problem, so the other problem could be a sticky blood type thing or some other immune issue. Of course in my research I had read about how asprin can help in recurrent m/c so I had self prescribed asprin. Now I will not know if the blood tests come back normal, is it because they were normal all along or was it because of the asprin I am taking, but if the blood tests come back still showing something wrong at least I will know that the asprin is not enough and I will need hepranin injections daily throughout any future pg.

Of course we still have to make the decision as to whether we go for another cycle of IVF and of course that is the BIG question. The consltant has agreed to change our protocol slightly to try and increase the number of eggs and therefore embryos we get so that we can put the best of the best back, but I am still not really sure what to do.

DH is now more keen than I am to go through IVF again. He thinks that we will look back in 10 years time when it is too late and say why didn't we do it but I am so afraid of going through all this again to either get a BFN or even worse to get and BFP and then m/c again.

I was so sure I would come home from our consultation and know one way or the other what we were going to do, but here we are sill in limbo. The results of our blood tests will be back in about 2 weeks and then we really have to make a decision as it is likely that I would be cycling about May/June. I would really love someone to tell me what to do but I know this is a decision I have to make myself and then move on and believe I have made the right decision.

I am of course open to all your views and what you would do!

Sorry for going on for so long abough this, if you have got as far as reading this sentence you deserve a medal!!

Take care everyone

Hi Wendy good to hear from you, sounds like you have been doing your research well and have your head screwed on about it all. As you say only you and your dh can make the final decision, but personally I'd give it one more go, you are armed with more info and appear to have ticked some more boxes as to what you may need to do to have a successful pregnancy. I really wish you all the best with this and hope things work out for you what ever you decide. {{{Big Hugs}}}

Wendy - thank you so much for updating us with how your consultation went.
Mmmm....it seems that there is no straight route really as you do not have complete reasurance for another attempt nor do you have a resounding no you shouldn't attempt again.
For what it is worth if it was me I would give IVF another shot. At the end of the day if you have another try you will look back regardless of the outcome and believe that you gave it your every effort. I can only imagine how emotionally painful the whole process is but I reckon a lifetime of "what if" might end up being just as hard!

I hope that you manage to come to a decision that is right for you both.
Hugs and the warmest of wishes to you and your DH - this is so hard Wendy but I do believe that you will come out the other side, just hang in there xxxx

Wendy: thank you for the update. I certainly hope that you find the strength to endure another round of IVF. I think that your DH is right about the potential to look back in a few years and think: what if?

On the other hand I cannot imagine how hard it must be on you both phisically and emotionally. It is not a decision that can be taken lightly. I hope it goes without saying that we will all be here to support whatever choice you make. (In whatever little way we can.)

I sure know what you mean about the blood work results with self-prescribed low dose of aspirin. The consultant in England suggested that I should take it if I ever fell pg again and the consultant in Canada said not to bother but I did take it and wonder if that is the only reason that my blood results came back in the normal range and for that matter if that is the only reason that I did not miscarry Charlotte... I was also worried sick towards the end of my pregnancy that the reason for her lack of growth in the last month was because I discontinued the aspirin.

It is only normal to question every little thing in your position. I really hope and pry that you find some answers or as in our case find yourself holding a little miracle without knowing how or why...

Thinking of you as always.

Denise