Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 5...

[SamanthaB123]

Our new thread to take us through the Chrisnas season. Pull up a chair, grab a mince pie and join us for support in pregnancy post miscarriage. All welcome!

Sam Well said.

Alba almost fell asleep? Very Impressive! Is there a book on hypnobirthing you can recommend? Or did you do a course?

My big news is that I've done some sewing on my machine today. It's something I stopped doing when I had a miscarriage as had planned to make all sorts of baby stuff. Am really enjoying making stuff and hope I'll be able to do lots when I'm on maternity leave.

Hi Everyone,

Hope everyone is doing well.

I can see everyone's point of view on this but I just hope we can go back to normal so to speak. I love this thread, love the ladies on this thread and it's the mix of people that keeps me going. For example, SamB I'd be just devastated if we didn't get your middle of the night feed updates and got to hear about Ruby. I know we have the new thread now too and that's great but I hope you stay around too.

I just hope everyone is okay

Not going to try and name check if that's okay as having a shattered day for some reason. Absolutely no discharge, no show, no contractions, no braxton hicks so it just feels like ages and ages and ages before baby will come. Zayja I def think you will beat me to it at this rate! 2 weeks ago I was getting contractions, period pains, back pains etc and felt that it was only hours away and now it feels like years away! Would just love baby to make it's appearance soon. DH has always guessed that it would come on Tue 7th i.e. tomorrow but because I feel so fine we both don't think that's going to happen now. So that's me, just sitting here waiting and waiting!

hi ladies, thanks for the warm welcome, looking forward to getting to know you all better, have lurked for a while... in the desparate hope i would be on here one day

louise I havent met you yet, pleased to meet you, but i have read your story and can i just say i am so very, very sorry for what you are having to endure and you are in my thoughts x You were also very much in the thoughts of some of the ladies on the TTC thread.

I still have the sheer terror but at the end of the day, what can i do to make it stickier? relaxing probably gives it the best possible chance Can you remember when your symptoms kicked in? I will be 5 wks tomorrow and so far nothing other than fuller/a little bit tender boobs an extra vein and a bit of extra CM. Then again i suppose everyones diff.

Sewing lotta fab.. i would love to have a ash! I took up knitting when pg with DS, might try crocheting this time!

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oops that should have read 'Sewing lotta, fab i would love to have a bash

SamB I do hope you stay... I very much enjoy your nighttime posts and hearing Ruby's news! In response to your teacher questions, yes to secondary, I'm really a biologist but started as a SENCo in September, so my teaching t/t is light, probably the only reason I'm managing to carry on. I'm sooooo tired at the end of the day. But only 9 more school days to go.

I've told them I'll go back after October half term, so that's 10 months, but they've covered me until January in case I decide to stay off (which I suspect I will). I just don't think we can really afford me to stay off, although I haven't really done the research into childcare either.

Does anyone else have thoughts on this? I think it's a really tough decision.

This thread is huge, but I really like that, and I think so long as everyone accepts that you're not going to be able to, or get, name checked in every post, then I really like the full range of experiences.

On that note - my private scan did tell me to wait until 8 weeks as the chances of seeing the hb are much higher (which of course isn't a guarantee as we all know, but does give you good odds). I suppose it's up to you purple - are you prepared for the fact that you may not see what you hope for and it may not be a definitive answer? I certainly don't think 7 weeks is a "waste of time" though. It's a total dilemma, and one that I (and lots of others) have posted about on here before. I think it's a really personal decision based on your own emotions and what would be helpful, and what might make you even more stressed.

Sorry about your trolley experience Gi1da, and good cervix opening like a flower vibes to happy!! I've only listened to my hypno cd twice, there never seems to be a suitable time, I'm so rubbish, but if it can make you fall asleep at the dentist I really ought to get those headphones in!

Have a lovely evening everyone.

Blimey - loads going on!

Unbuffy - have posted on your other thread. Hope you're all doing OK now.

Welcome to everyone new. This is a fantastic place for hand holding (or a slap in the face with a wet fish which I've sometimes requested!) Hope it proves as supportive for you all.

Not read back through everything - there have clearly been some interesting debates. I love the all inclusive nature of this thread (that's my tuppence for what it's worth) - also us graduates are lazy buggers who will never manage to keep a thread going left to our own devices

Life is trundling along OK here. Too cold and our heating system is playing up and had a leak through the ceiling to boot (think you had similar problems Alba from one of my earlier lurks)? But Charlie is putting on weight well and starting to sleep longer. I've very impressed by Sam's noctunal posting!

Special big hug to Louise. I think of you daily - we started off as fellow worry worts and I'm so conscious that we should be sharing silly little stories together. Wish I could give you a big hug in RL. Take care my sweetie

PS - I used hypnobirthing CDs and found they really helped. I'm normally a real wus (avoided the dentists for years) but managed to get through childbirth with no pain relief which I put down to good luck (first and foremost) and then hypnobirthing, yoga and acupuncture. Blimely I sound like a hippy now!

Thanks whenstnixgotstuckupthechimney good luck I ll keep my fx for you.

hI tfls nice to " hear" from you. Glad alls well with you. Yes, life is shit we should be swapping baby stories and if there was any justice in the world we would be. It's not right or fair!!! I m trying to stay positive and we re now back to swi and hope this ll be the month. Got consultant appt on thurs for georgies pm results. Xx

I was meant to have my diabetes check today, it didn't quite go to plan. Drank the drink and 5 mins later threw it all back up again. I have to go back on Thursday and try again.

But I did get a delivery of reuseable nappies today, which I'm excited about. I now have a Moses basket, nappies, a sling and a playmat. Still a way to go I feel.

stNix don't worry about the symptoms, mine generally kicked in around 6-7 weeks. I know that others on here have had symptoms in some successful pregnancies and not in others with the same outcome.

loopy I remember my due date for DS2 and feeling strange about it. It would have been my birthday and we'd moved house 2 weeks before. Like you it was hard imagining fitting a new born in there. It's nice to have the time to remember and still miss them.

muser well done on getting so organised! Sounds like serious nesting and organising. I've got all of ds1's clothes out of loft and have a half packed hospital bag.

alba & tfls your comments on the hypnobirthing sound very inspiring. I may well dig book and cd out for refresher. It didn't seem to gel with me last time so worth a revisit.

Louise I hope they give you some answers and reassurance on Thursday, will be thinking of you. It seems like you've waited a very long time for these results.

Tuesday?s List:

HappyGirl - baby#1 39+6 wks EDD 8th December
Zayja - baby#1 39+3 wks EDD 11th December
Goodluckbear - baby#1 38+3 wks EDD 18th December
Malteser1981 - baby#1 38+3 wks EDD 18th December
Gilda - baby#1 37+3 wks EDD 25th December
BunnyBaby - baby#3 37+3 wks EDD 25th December
sparklyrainbow - baby#1 36+5 wks EDD 30th December
AlbaDeTamble - baby#2 (1DS, 3yrs) 36+1 wks EDD 3rd January
toomuchteaching - baby#1 35+6 wks EDD 5th January
Redheadgal - baby#1 35+4 wks EDD 6th January
WestYorkshireGirl - baby#1 34+1 wks EDD 18th January
Dorcas111 - baby#1 32+4 wks EDD 28th January
Ba8y1 - baby#1 31+4 wks EDD 4th February
Clareanna - baby#2 (1DS) 30+4 wks ADD 3rd Feb
Lotta123 - baby#? 30+4 wks EDD 10th Feb
Muser - baby#1 28+2 wks EDD 27th Feb
Northerngoldilocks - baby#1 25+4 wks EDD 18 March
Magic8ballhastheanswers - babies#3&4 25 wks EDD 20th March
Lia - baby#6 24+6 wks EDD 23rd March
Hopefully - baby#2 23+4 wks EDD 2nd April
stuffedmk - baby#2 23+2 wks EDD 4th April
Osch - Baby#3 22+2 wks EDD 10th April
Ivysedai - baby#2 20+5 wks EDD 21st April
PenguinsMummy - baby#3 20+5 wks EDD 21st April
VivClicquot - baby#1 18+6 wks EDD 4th May
Loopymumsy - baby#4 18+5 wks EDD 5th May
Tigerbear - baby#1 17+1 wks EDD 14th May
Caribou - baby #2 (DD, 3yrs) 16+6 wks EDD 18th May. Next scan 5th Jan
appleblossoms - baby#2 13+3 wks EDD 11th June
crochetcircle - baby#? 13+2 EDD 11th June
Wobblewatcher - baby#2 11 wks EDD 27th June
Inbetweener - baby#3 8+2 wks EDD 17th July

emmywoo- about 7 weeks
Purplehibiscus - nearly 6 weeks
Nicksters mum (in Chrissy cossy)

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010
Jacanne with daughter Lotta Eliza, 8lbs 5oz born 20th April 2010
Becky78 with son Thomas Christopher born 22nd May, 9lb 1oz
Meita with son Ianto born 23 August, 7lbs 4
Boodleboot with daughter Alice Elizabeth born 10 Sep - 8lbs 2oz
LeeWT with son Andrew Anthony born 28th Sept 7lbs 14oz
TFLS with son Charlie born on 30th September, 6lbs 8oz
SamB with daughter Ruby Mae born 19th October, 7lbs 10oz
Effilump with son Arlen born 16th October, 8lbs
Sarahlou8 with daughter Emily Isabella born 21st October, 7lb8oz
Unbuffy with son James Anthony born 3rd December, 6lb8oz

In our thoughts and prayers:
Louise with daughter Georgie born asleep on 10th October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster, Cheepz, Freezing, BarrenBrook, MsJL, LadyBee, Banana87, BatteryHen, HairyTriangle and Waterplate.

Hmmm, I think I will go and listen to my hypnobirthing cd again! Have probably done it a dozen times, but am in awe of Alba's master Zen capabilities! Alba - what's happening with your roof? I hope it's sorted out, what a horrible thing to happen when you want to nest.

Littlemiss Congratulations and huzzah! Absolutely delighted to see you here.

Penguin good luck with your scan and let's hope BabyPenguin isn't crossing his/her legs!

Muser round of applause for getting organised in good time. I left it all till on mat leave and am now a bit headless chicken. Writing more lists today. Did wash down the cot we were given yesterday. Started off with a bowl of water, then progressed to a bucket, then was considering shot blasting. It's very solid and fab, but has been in someone's loft for 15 years. Am now trying to resist splurging the money we saved on a ridiculously expensive organic wool and coir mattress. PFB? indeed.

Happy will be keeping a beady eye on you today, is your DH known for premonitions?

Bunny ooo sounds like you've had a lot going on. You must have a very comfy womb for DS to have stayed put so long, good luck on getting last orders called a little more promptly this time! I was clinging to the hope that as my mum was a week early with me and my brother, I might be too. Had hoped to be holding little one by Christmas rather than still balancing meals on my bump!

Ba8y helloo - lovely to hear from you. Sorry you've not been having an easy time of it so far, and [hug] for yesterday.

Louise will be thinking of you on Thursday.

Waves to all - such a busy thread atm!

Thanks so much ladies, I called my EPU unit today and turns out they allow walks-in for anyone with previous MC as early as 7 weeks onwards. But your advise really helped and I've decided to wait to 8 weeks and do the scan at the EPU. It is less stressful when I make a decision and have a date in mind.

Lotta123 thanks so much for the stats you sent they were so helpful. I am definitely never going to go to that GP again. She was simply awful! My previous pregnancy I had such a nice doc, but he was on vacation when I made my appointment. hopefully I can go back to him. Anyway I am really glad you have a good doc for this pregnancy. I am sure it makes such a big difference!

toomuchteaching good luck with the 9 remaining school days. I haven't yet had to make child care decisions as no babies for me yet. but can imagine that it is not easy decision to make. good though that you do get a few months off for leave. i used to live in teh US and I think their mat leave is something like 6 weeks. terrible really.

Gi1da sorry about your trolley troubles. I do hope today is a little better and at least you can stay away from the shops.

Alba I am going to check out this hypnotherapy stuff may be it helps with general stress outside the dentist's chair?

Hi all,

Well I've been up since 2.37am this morning and beautiful little boy arrived safely after a 5 hr 1st time labour for my current client and her dh. So pleased for them. All well, and I'll pop back later and see how they've got on during the course of the day.

louise thinking of you for Thursday, I hope you get some answers ((()))

alba check you out!! I'll be sitting around with your dh redundant at your birth if you crack on like you did at the dentist, very impressed.

Actually lady today had been hypno to a degree and we arrived calmly at hosp at 8cms so surprise to little bit patronising mw on ve to find such good progress.

buffy nice to see you , take you time getting into your stride and just lurk on here for a bit, thanks for your kind words on your other thread, I'm glad I was able to help a little. I bet little James is gorgeous

Sorry no time to namecheck, this was supposed to be a quick hello.

25 wks tomorrow and this little one is gonna be another biggie I fear (last one was 9lb 5 at 3 wks early) as she keeps getting stuck under my ribs already, can't get comfy sitting snuggled on sofa for too long, still get me into good habits for later in pg I guess.

Have good rest of the week everyone, keep warm. xx

Phew. Work all over now, did my extra few hours in person today after being stuck working remotely whilst snowbound last week... On a nice quiet non rush hour train now and will attempt a little bit of namechecking from my phone...

Hello Jolls! early vibes most welcome here please, I was 2 weeks over and induced with DS...

Great work on the list Gilda... Roof fine now thanks (problem only ever with deep snow... Pitched roof surrounded by parapet walls, drains freeze, snow melt goes up under tiles, we think...) and my nursery ready for nesting with minimal evidence of leaks.

Hope your leaks not too serious TFLS, heating issues always so much worse with a little one too. Did you try the postnatal zen CDs too? Any good? I'd like to be more serene this time if I can be...
Lia if my birth can go so smoothly and calmly that you're feeling redundant I shall be extremely happy... Knowing one of you will be there is an incredible confidence boost and I have no doubt will help me relax more from the start...

Btw all who asked I'm using natal hypnotherapy cd's. Listened to their pregnancy relaxation one from 12 weeks then switched to birth prep one at 32weeks. I think it's the same ones as TFLS, and she has a real labour example of it helping so I shall continue to plug in and listen (3x per week so far, just the right length for my commute, shall have to start a new listening routine now that's over...). Bit cheesy, but if it works I don't care!

I'm doing yoga too, and reflexology... And I'm not a hippy either, but will try anything that helps! I've been way less stressed at work (and probably busier than ever) at work the past 6 months, so I'm sure it's generally a good thing.

Now, I was supposed to be namechecking but I'm failing miserably. Promise I'll be better when back on laptop...

Hugs for Louise and will be thinking of you when you get results on Thursday, I do hope they'll be helpful and that the consultant will be kind.

Waves to everyone!

Quick flying visit, just to say Jolls thanks for that, am 36+5 today! Now as much as I would like this baby out ASAP I'm not quite ready yet...

Thinking of you ((Louise)) and hope you get some answers Thursday. My friend lost her daughter when she was a few days old, I know she found the results brought everything back again but they're also helping her to move forward. The family planted a tree soon after the results too and go there to remember D. She's pregnant again now which is lovely so I hope it happens for you quickly.

Right, beef stew and dumplings...

Love to all xx

Hi all,

Alba - so impressed with your hypnobirthing/dentist experience. I have the 'effective birthing experience' cd too, but always fall asleep when I listen to it. Alas I wish I had a train commute - I'm taking seriously the instructions not to play whilst driving or operating heavy machinery.

Purple - I went for a scan at 7 weeks because I had some spotting. Barely anything, but enough to worry me and give me legitimate cause to insist on an early scan. We saw a hb, but as others have said, if your dates are slightly out it may not show anything and just end up being more stressful. Definitely change your GP.

Jolls - eeeek! that sort of stuff really scares me. Am nowhere near ready - have only listened to my cd twice!! Lovely to 'see' you btw!

Gilda - can completely empathise with you over your trolley experience. The smallest things can set me off. Damn hormones!

Louise - hope you get some answers tomorrow. Thinking of you daily and glad that posting on here helps you.

SamB - love your nocturnal posts too. Please don't go anywhere. As someone else has said, as a first time mum, hearing what you and Ruby are up to is instructive and helpful. Don't stop.

Not going to attempt extensive name-checking. But welcome to all newbies and hello to the old postgrads returning to catch up. Personally I love the mix of people and experience on these threads and I'm glad that people can jump back and forth between the TTC, this antenatal one and hopefully the new postnatal one.

Wow, been a little busy on here.......I am going to be honest and not try and name check you all as I am cream crackered.

Sparkly ooooooooo stew and dumplings!!!

Muser with your GTT. Poor you. I have mine on Sunday. I had GD with DD1 so I bound to have it again

Louise I hope that the results are helpful on Thursday and give you some answers. Please try not to feel disheartened if you don't get any answers though hun, as this is a possibility. I remember when we got ours (well it was only the placenta histology) feeling a slight sense of relief as the waiting was over but then every other emotion came all over again, which was actually very helpful looking back, getting it all out IYKWIM xxxx

Watching out for news on Happy and Zajya - not long ladies

I can feel your calm Alba with the yoga and reflexology. I might see if I can get on the yoga course I did with DD but I fear I will be too big to drive there by the time there is a space

Very tired in the world of Magic as I had a good nights kip last night so feel like hell today.......better off when I get up at 4.30! Had fetal cardio scan yesterday all good except the consultant who did the scan wants to see me again at 32 weeks as the twins heart rates were accelerating a little more than normal when active.......but she said it could be a twin things??? waiting for her to send me a copy of the report so obviously I can google it and then no doubt worry myself crazy! The twins don't seem to stop moving at the moment. Twin 2 is transverse-ish under my ribs which is well comfortable NOT!

Big waves to EVERYONE xxxxxxx

haven't managed to catch up on the million new posts.
congrats to buffy on the birth of your son. enjoy your babymoon!

penguin hope your scan today went well, due date buddy.

magic sorry you're uncomfortable. don't google!

samb don't even think about going anywhere!

louise of course you are always welcome.

I'm full of infection, still, and feel like I've been punched in the face and head multiple times, as well as having my stomach muscles torn to shreds.
bump been very quiet this last week, probably because of the infection, but not helping with the paranoia. scan tomorrow.
pelvic floor is shot after so much puking and coughing.
I wish I could just feel healthy for once.
bah.

on a positive note, I have an interview for a spot on a midwifery course next tuesday. maybe all that biology cramming is paying off.

If you need any tips Ivy just ask, I interview for the undergraduate midwifery degree at my local university.

thank you, malteser :)
last year I left my application late and ended up getting an interview only to be told I was a strong candidate, but please try again next year when we have spaces. do something useful in the meantime. which is why I was doing the biology foundation this year.
last year I was well prepared, fresh out of work experience, and pretty much living and breathing midwifery news, articles and books all the time. this year, I only just got the letter yesterday and have all of a week to get back to that stage, so I feel like I am drowning a little.
I remember that I am supposed to relate all the questions I am asked back to midwifery, right? show how patient, understanding and super-woman-ish I can be :o and pretend I am well prepared. lol. after the last few weeks I've had that sounds like hard work.

one question for you, though: I am wondering what to wear. I have a nice outfit, black tight turtle-neck jumper, full black linen skirt below the knee and some flat boots to go with it. I just don't know how appropriate the whole "hanging my bump in their faces" thing would be. No way I would hide it, because it obviously needs to be addressed, but I just don't know if it would be better to wear something a bit less obvious...

I would have pmd you this if I knew how to work mumsnet properly with this banging headache.. I don't wanna be messing up the thread.

Morning all.

Had really detailed scan yesterday and all was well and beany was wriggling around like mad which was lovely to see as I had been a bit paranoid about movements and stuff - placenta is where is should be so just different pregnancy I guess.

And we are having another girl so DD3 is on the way !!! We are absolutely delighted and love the thought of having another girl and DD1 was very pleased too.

Ivy hope both the interview and scan go well - best of luck!

Magic hope you get some rest.

Sorry - I'm rubbish at name checking - love to all