Mums to be due in May 2011

[emmywoo]

Hi everyone,
Thought I would start a thread for all us mums to be who are due in May 2011 so that we can support each other. xx

must admit I got offered a seat on all 4 trains I was on the other week. I think the trick is to move down the carriage so you are standing directly in front of someone with your belly in their face - harder to avoid than if you are in the doorways!

5 working days left and I am so happy I have made the decision as I was really beating myself up over it. I even managed to laugh it off today when a cow colleague who is due 3 weeks before me told me it was silly for me to finish so early when she is still going to be there after me! She has been fine though and I have not so that was it.

Ordered my travel system and moses basket so along with some clothes and the cot bedding its all I have got so far so thinking of writing a list of things to get soon but dont know where to start, anyone seen any good lists I can get an idea from online or anywhere?

You would never have guessed I have not done this before!

Thanks for the welcome

Yesterday, it seems, was National Make A Stupid Comment Day. I got told on at least three occasions that I'm huge, well, yes, and that I surely can't have another eight weeks to go. A friend of mine also commented that I had a 'comedy bump' and it looks like I've just stuffed a cushion up my front.

Then to the other extreme, a lady at the shop where I volunteer one evening per week thought I was just fat. It wasn't until someone else asked how the pregnancy was going that she said piped up that she wasn't sure if I was in the 'family way' or just 'built like that'. I came home just wanting to brain anyone who dared speak to me!

In positive news, I think we have all the baby related gubbins now - house looks like a creche! All we need now is the baby .

We know we're having a little chap (as does pretty much everyone else), but my parents don't want to know, so it's quite hard keeping that a secret. Anyone else having to keep their mouth shut?!

First antenatal course tomorrow (NHS one), can't believe we're almost there. Hurrah!

hello 9and a bit weeks to go!! I say having read everyone's comments about how people react to your bump: Take photos! Lots of photos. This is such a short wonderful moment & you will forget (&miss until you do) how amazing it is to have a little person growing inside you. How fabulous not to think about sucking your tummy in all the time. It has to be the most natural & everyday miracle going. Alot of those uncomfortable comments are made by those who would love to be in our position themselves but maybe can't admit it. I love the friends who say I'm glowing. Thanks guys :)
Had a bleed two weekends ago after a bit of nooky & ended up having to go to the hospital for monitoring & a speculum exam. Just local trauma!How embarrassing! And we were hardly swinging from the chandeliers in my condition. Have retired from the bedroom arena until at least nearer my due date for fear of further loss of dignity altho the midwife said it was fine!
This week I tried to pay for groceries with my healthcare card & then nearly frontended the car whilst waving at my friend as I drove past the bus stop. Then in Ikea I couldn't remember my postcode for the life of me! Baby brain anyone?

Re: the 'you're huge' comments coming from people who've never been pregnant. I try not to take them to heart because, quite honestly, when you've never been pg you look at pg women and they DO look huge. I remember before I'd ever been pg myself I'd look at friends who were and it would freak me out how big they were and how unconcerned about it they seemed and I'd think that if it were me who was that size I'd be absolutely horrified! LOL

Anyway, I'm due mid-May with #2 and feeling rather huge myself at the moment. But I don't care. It all went back where it should last time, so hopefully that will happen again. IMO, the only appropriate comments to make to a pregnant woman are 'You look wonderful' or similar. Anything else you should shut up and keep to yourself.

CaringForPod: How did you get on at the classes?
I am looking forward to going but ours are not til April!

My brain has gone to total jelly! DH asked me where wanted to visit in New York and I said the Eiffel Tower!! When he lloked at me open mouthed I continued to say: you know the big green lady thing and could understand why he was so shocked

How did the classes go? We've got our first one on Thursday which is a bit scary!

Enjoy the classes ladies - I met some of my very best friends at antenatal class / breastfeeding groups 7 yrs ago! We (and our children) are still very close, which is lovely!

Classes started for us on Friday. It was all a bit odd, tbh, everyone checking each other out and thinking "Will you be my friend when I'm stuck at home on my own losing my marbles and pushing the pram round the park for the 476th time". I suppose it's always funny on the first night but didn't feel like I immediately bonded with anyone. Tell me it gets better? I felt quite young compared to the others, even though I'm nearly 30. Also we went to an NCT Nearly New Sale today and it was mental! Proper elbows out job and mainly clothes and toys up for grabs so if you are planning on getting lots of stuff at them I would rock up really early to be at the front of the queue. I got back feeling really fragile...all achey and heavy and then had a big old cry. Sort of feel at the moment like I'm missing out on this amazing beautiful time that I feel like I should be having because it's just really bloody hard being pregnant some days. Anyone else? Sorry to moan. Have a good week at work everyone, only 5 weeks to go for me til Mat Leave...crumbs x

katy I hear you: popped on here to see if anyone had started a thread called "third trimester blues". After a pretty easy going first 30 weeks I'm now feeling heavy, achy, slow, down, insomniac, exhausted and emotional.

Work is frantic trying to get stuff done with 4 weeks to go, brain & body are slowing down so everything is harder. The person who was going to cover me is no longer doing to do so and I've big business critical deliverables in the next few weeks that no one else can pick up due to historic lack of resource vesting everything in me. We've also loads going on at home with preparing the nursery and getting ready to have a new kitchen fitted starting next week. Plus, housework hasn't gone away - I seem to already spend my whole weekend doing laundry and that's without a LO pooing/puking on everything.

Gnah. Rant over. Sorry.

Hi everyone, I can't believe I've discovered this thread so late! I'm due May 27th, so quite late in May. I'm also getting the whole, 'are you sure its not twins' question going on, almost every single day. Last visit even midwife said to me 'Wow, thats big'...erm sign to worry? Fundus height seemed normal!

Husband getting really shy talking to the bump. I don't want to push him if he's uncomfortable because he's fantastic in all other pregnancy related stuff. Should I encourage it more, or let him be?

The NHS class was good (although there were NO biscuits/snackage provided, which loses them a couple of points!). It's a shame the NHS can only offer a 4 hour class (at least that's what they do in our area) - it covers the basics, but you still have so many questions.

Also, because it's just the one session, people aren't so inclined to get to know each other - hoping the NCT ones (starting tomorrow evening) will be different in that respect.

Sleep is still an issue (and husband seems to be getting sympathy insomnia), but got some energy today at least. Felt like death on Saturday (and was relying on biscuits to get me through the parent craft class, not that I'm bitter...)

Does anyone else feel as if there bump is changing shape? I had a very round bump up until today, now i feel it almost looks longer and a bit flatter!! I'm guessing it's just the baby changing positions but haven't noticed this before??
Not much longer until mat leave, 5 weeks tomorrow, counting down the days!

Hey everyone, hope everyone's doing well! Know how you feel too Katy; been feeling really emotional lately and actually started crying on the phone the other day when someone was a bit rude to me at BT :(.. I hope I'll be able to laugh at this one day, but now it just feels tough..

I'm starting my antenatal classes tomorrow and can't wait! They're offering 4 two-hour sessions in my area and one of my workmates, who went in my hospital said they were brilliant so really looking forward to them.. Of course I suppose it all depends, but hey, hope for the best right!

Still got nearly 8 weeks to go at work and really not excited about that, but will just have to try and suck it up I suppose..

Well, have a great week everyone!

mamamona: Welcome and glad you found us! Talking to bump? I would not be worried as now I am 30 weeks DH who is super excited to be a dad for the first time has only just stopped freaking out when he can feel the baby move so I think as we all feel different they do as well.

I am looking forward to classes starting but still 5 week left.

3 days left at work and 9 weeks til due date so its going to slow and too fast at the same time. I just cant wait to meet her and feel like im not ready at the same time.

hi Ladies,

anyone else experinecing pelvic pain?!

Something like a dull ache crossed with a numbness and an intense pressure?
30 Weeks tomoz, cannot believe how quick its gone!

Just been to a midwife drop-in session as I'm away next week and can't see my normal midwife. It was in a Sure Start centre and I had to wait in the hall with a parent/baby music group - it was terrifying. It was all a bit weird and scary.

That sure start centre thing sounds scary~ I wonder if I will ever feel like I will fit in on those sorts of things?

Anyone else feel like that?

Biggem: I have had SPD since 16 weeks and it is a total pain in the bum groin! I find resting with my feet up helps and going swimming - well I say swimming its more like just floating around in the water but it really relaxes me.

Hi, not been on for a while but been it's lovely reading how everyone is getting on...

Biggem Snap! I am also 30 weeks tomorrow; not had the pelvic pain yet but my lower back likes to sort of seize up if I sit/lie for too long. Which is fun! :)

Labmonkey/Cowboylover I know exactly what you mean about being apprehensive re the mother/baby group thing . I worry that I'll find the whole thing cringeworthy but I'm going to have to bite the bullet when the time comes because even more scary is the prospect of getting isolated. A colleague's partner didn't join ANYTHING when her baby was born and the baby is 1 year old and she has no mum friends whatsoever and he says she regrets it massively.

Anyway, 5 weeks til maternity leave and counting...!

Two words: stretch marks. That is all.

I've found the solution to stretch marks - I can only see them in the mirror so I've stopped looking in the mirror :)

Hello all.
Just thought I'd let you know that I've started listening to a natal hypnotherapy cd thingummy lad. It's very relaxing but I've fallen asleep both times so far so have no idea if it's working! Anyone else doing similar? Have heard lots of good things about it..can't hurt I suppose. There's a funny bit though where it says "you will be naturally drawn to food that is good for you and nurturing for your baby..." ha ha ha jam doughnuts all round then I say. Hope everyone's feeling ok, nearly the weekend. We've got NCT breastfeeding class tomorrow 7-9. Blimey our Friday nights have changed!

I'm doing a hypnobirthing antentalcourse so listening to relaxation CD too. both hubby and i are finding it great for relaxing us and getting to sleep.i think that's the idea anyway :-)

ive had pain in my groin for about 3 weeks. it's not terrible but not very nice. no idea what it is though.

We had our first of three antenatal classes this evening. It was useful to hear other people's questions and to be able to ask about when we should go to the hospital etc. I found it a bit weird that so many people had no idea about the birth and labour so perhaps I'm not as unprepared as I'd thought.

If I was there LabMonkey I would have made you feel better as unprepared is a good word for me at the moment, maybe even an understatement but I am just trying to go with the flow but I dont know if that will be able to last as I am sure I am going to have to make a decision on something at some point!

Saw my friend today and her 9 day old DS and he was totally gorgeous but I was just to scared to hold him as I suddenly felt so unbelievebly nervous that it was all going to be happening to me soon.

Last day in work tomorrow and in my over emotional state I am sure there will be tears at some point in the day