Baby blues

[lucy2204]

How long did your baby blues last? 🤔I'm 11 days in and have days we're there terrible and then days when I'm completely fine -.- (mine started day 5 so only been up and down for a couple days)

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@lucy2204 that's such a lovely plan :) just go out when you're ready. No need to rush if you're not at that stage it's still so early post birth

@Lemonysherbet hope you have a better day today hun, will check in again later 🤗🤗xx

Thanks @lucy2204 I had a couple of hours yesterday feeling like myself again. It must be hormonal surges making me feel so sad and low. It's so extreme!

Hope you have a good day :)

@Lemonysherbet hey hun how you been today? xx

@lucy2204 feeling pretty normal today. Hoorah! How are you? Xx

@Lemonysherbet glad your feeling more like yourself 🤗🤗I'm good, not been as bad as I thought I would of been xx

@lucy2204 yay go us! I'll be crossing my fingers it will continue 🤞🏻

We can do this!

@Lemonysherbet we defo can! 🤗🤞

Hi, I hope you don't mind me adding to this post. I had my baby 17 days ago and I'm sick of being an emotional rollercoaster. My husband is fantastic but he's back at work now (today was his first day) and being alone with the little one continuously has had me sobbing my heart out earlier. I've had a nap since (amazing how sleep helps!) and feeling a bit better but I'm looking forward to when all of this starts to feel normal. I can't help but mourn for my life beforehand which is awful as I love my baby but boy these emotions are tough. Guess I just wanted to not feel alone so seeking solidarity from elsewhere x

@Hodge85 hello hun abosultely fine for you to come join us,it's a big step going from having help to suddenly being on your own for the day, don't feel bad for crying, it's just the hormones, I defo remember missing my old life after my first! 🤗I felt like this right up until baby started doing stuff (rolling around crawling etc) It's great you have a supportive partner to help you through this weird/emotional time xxx
And congratulations on your beautiful baby💐👶

@Lemonysherbethow you feeling today hun xx

@Hodge85 welcome, sorry you had to join the club but were in it together so we can get through it 😊 just keep talking about how you feel, it really helps to be open.

@lucy2204 feeling alright thanks. Went to the pub for lunch so a little normality has resumed! How are you?

@Lemonysherbet I'm feel indifferent today think it's just coz im super tired baby only slept 2 hours last night 😩and then my other two were up at 7😂so been living off coffee today ☕😂xx

@lucy2204 hope you got more sleep last night. I managed 4 hours and first day riding solo so I'm shattered! How are you today

@Lemonysherbet hello hun yeah he slept better, try get a little nap in when baby sleeps I know it's hard to do so as u just want to relax and chill 😂I'm good I done the garden today before the rain started, feeling off today (anxious) and have no idea why 🤷‍♀️hope today's an easy ride for you emotionally! Xx

@lucy2204 he keeps having 20 mins naps so by the time I've expressed, had a drink or food he's awake again.

I feel mentally good today so something I'd going ok! Sorry you're feeling anxious, is anything triggering it

@Lemonysherbet ah that's a bummer! My 2nd was the same she never really slept at all she would power nap 😂🙈it sorted itself out but 6months and nope nothing at all, 🙄just woke up feeling anxious 🤔

@Lemonysherbet so glad your feeling okay today!🤗 Xx

I'm 11 days since giving birth to my first. I had quite a traumatic and long labour ending in an emergency c section. I then had to stay for 3 days in hospital without seeing anyone due to COVID.

Back home now and every day at around 3pm I have this heavy wave of depression, sad thoughts and feelings just hit me. I find myself feeling like a cant cope or like this feeling is never going to lift. I feel very lonely even though I have an amazing supportive husband. I think about how vulnerable and small my DS is and that something might happen to him or to me.

I'm really hoping this lifts and I'm worried that it won't. I just want to be able to enjoy this time. I have so much to be thankful for and to enjoy.

Feel like I'm the only one feeling this. Apologies for the rant. Xx

@Emfair90 hello hun congratulations🎉💐🤗 sooo sorry you had to go through that, I'm glad your home and being able to enjoy your little one!,I had this, this time around mine was at 2pm till around 7pm and was like a feeling of pending doom for me, came out of no where on day 5! It's eased a lot now, I only get it every couple days and for shorter times now, just remember it's all normal at this point, I know it's seems like it will never go away but it will and if your worried speak to your hv, mine is great she thinks my situation is all Hormoans as never felt this before but has advised that I speak to the doctor at the 6 week check if I feel its getting worse or I just need help, your more than welcome to come on here and talk with us every day me and @Lemonysherbet check up on each other everyday to make sure we aren't alone through this, I hope you feel better soon try and not let your mind run away with these emations 🤗I found holding baby or just watching telly to try stop the over thinking,we're always here to talk if needed 🤗xxx

@Lemonysherbet how did your first day alone go 🤔🤗 xx

@Emfair90 just saw that you feel something might happen to you or you baby, I HAVE this my birth was also very traumatic, I had a pph n lots of clots, was put on a drip for 5 hours to contract again, this feel will ease but for me it hasn't passed yet I get it every 3 days and am finding it hard to leave the house as anxiety takes over!, the hv said it could be the start of ptsd, keep an eye on this and make sure you speak to your hv they are these to help 🤗I'm not sure how I didn't read that part of your post, your not alone mumma, I'm right here with you xx

@lucy2204

Thank you! Good to know I'm not the only one. Felt a bit better today then got a call from HV wanting to have an over the phone meeting as all the home visits have been cancelled. Felt so over whelmed with all the information, questions and having to relive the birth that I just started crying and hung up. COVID situation definitely isn't helping. I feel like me and DS are missing out on all the proper checks. I'm not even able to register his birth. I'm dreading seeing anyone is case I burst out crying.

@Emfair90 your more than welcome, i honestly thought I was the only one feeling the way you feel too, the hv will understand give them a call back and say you'd prefer someone to come out, I did and then decided it was best to come and see me and talk through everything and offer support, my days are a lot easy now it really helps to talk about how your feeling, its completely normal for you to feel scared, I put posts up on here in the first couple of times it happened as I was convinced something was going to go wrong and they all lead back to the same things. Hormones! And to speak to my hv I'm glad your feeling a little better, it will get easier. I can promise you that, I was where you were it's the reason I started this thread 🤗the busting out crying etc sounds just like the baby blues, my hv said the best thing for people that have had a traumatic birth is to stay off Google.(Google isnt/wasn't my friend when I was where u are) Try and find a support network and stay with that. Your more than welcome to stay here with us 🤗💐

@Lemonysherbet How's your day been hun xx

@Emfair90 so sorry you're struggling but as @lucy2204 said it is very normal (unfortunately!).

My best bit of advice is to keep talking through the birth and anything else weighing on your mind to anyone who will listen. Sharing my story has really helped me process it. I've also written it down. It does get easier I promise. It's such a rollercoaster of feelings. And we are here if you want to talk.

@lucy2204 I went for a really long walk today, feel shattered now but it's so good for the soul! How are you doing?