Baby blues

[lucy2204]

How long did your baby blues last? 🤔I'm 11 days in and have days we're there terrible and then days when I'm completely fine -.- (mine started day 5 so only been up and down for a couple days)

@Lemonysherbet @Pegase hope youve both been okay today! 🤗Xx

Hello I am day 5 and all of a sudden feeling very tear-y and emotional. Im not normally an anxious person but with these hormones am feeling anxious about coronavirus, we have had non stop visitors too obviousky supposed to be socially distanced but people aren't very good at it and all of a sudden its making me feel ill with anxiety about coronavirus. I just want my baby to myself a bit too.

I'm also getting to grips with breastfeeding and a lot of people don't get it especially MIL who brought round a load of ready made bottles for the baby and said for when you decide to let daddy have a go... We were up from 2am to 9am this morning cluster feeding as my milk came in so tiredness obviously doesn't help 🙁

His family are here right now they came earljer than arranged time without letting us know and the hormones/ anxiety is making me wish they would all just go away which I feel horrible for and can't really share with DP

I know I should be grateful for visitors especially now we're allowed them and because they keep bringing things but I want a bit of alone time and to focus on me and baby

My stitches are a bit sore and I seem to have developed a little hemorrhoid pushing her out which is also making me feel a bit like crying 😭

Feeling a bit sorry for myself and trying to tell myself it's the hormones and not burst into tears!

Sorry for the rant, thank you for posting it was a good opportunity for me to let it all out, hope you are okay lucy xx

@Pegase how are you doing today?

@lucy2204 I've been grumpy today. With slight levels of normality in between! How are you doing?

@Christmastree43 don't apologise for venting that exactly why were here together. Also it might not feel like it now but it does get easier and once you feel stronger you can tell the mil where to stick her bottles 😉 and cry if you want to cry. You're allowed, you've just popped out a human from a delicate area.

Thanks for checking in everyone. Just feel a bit flat and exhausted today after crying all day yesterday but to be fair that is an improvement!

@Christmastree43 don't feel bad for ranting we're here to listen and support + plus some of us have been there before or experiencing it now, tbh id tell your partner you want a couple of days just the 3 of you🤗as for your mother in law I swear all are the same? 😂Try take a breather for abit, hope you feel better soon I normally come and comment everyday an make sure @Lemonysherbet is okay and it's really helped me with recovery having someone to talk to and go through it too, il add you to the comments until your feeling better🤗xx

@Lemonysherbet I hope you feel a little better tomorrow, I've been super tired today no idea why also a little anxious but no were near as much as normal which is a positive 🤗xx

@Pegase always good to have a cry! Glad your feeling better 🤗xx

@Lemonysherbet @Pegase @Christmastree43 how's everyone feeling today xx

@lucy2204 I had a really lovely day but then suddenly felt really sad this evening. For no reason. And then my mind went on a negative journey and now I'm really sad. Hoping s good night's sleep (ISH with a newborn) helps heal me.

How are you?

@Lemonysherbet I could of wrote that post myself. I have no idea what happened 🤷‍♀️feeling really shitty hoping I manage to get a goods night sleep in tonight baby hasn't been sleeping that well this past couple days xx

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@lucy2204 how rubbish im sorry you're feeling that way too. I've started making a list of my feelings so when I have my 8 week check I can speak to the doctor if I still feel the same

@Lemonysherbet that's a good idea 🤗might have to jump on that band wagon 😂🤔💡xx

@Lemonysherbet how have you been hun xx 🤗

@lucy2204 Im feeling sad again. I wish I could shake it. When I'm in tears my husband looks so.scared and unsure what to do. How are you?

Just wanted to add a post in, as I experienced baby blues with my first baby and they completely surprised me. I completely understand how intense and difficult it is to go through what you’re feeling. I would say mine lasted four or five weeks from birth, and I struggled with bonding during that time (was also expressing and exclusively feeding expressed milk, so probably very tired and super hormonal!)
My advice would be to just survive at this point and know that it WILL pass eventually. It really will. Make life as easy as possible, eat ready meals, dress comfortably, let the cleaning go for a while, ask for all the help you can, talk to anyone you can (HV too), and try and do one thing a day that makes you feel human (having a shower is mine!).

I hope you’re all managing to cope, good enough is good enough for now, and things will be better soon.

@Lemonysherbet oh hun 😔🤗I hope it passes quickly, 💐I'm okayish my anxiety has been through the roof the past 2 days and have no idea why 😕also got that feeling when your just waiting for something to go wrong sorta thing... Xx

@eachpeachtree thank you that's really nice to hear. It keeps.coming in waves so I get to the point where I feel almost normal and then I'm super sad and detached again and then before I know it I'm in tears and wondering why.

@lucy2204 are you anticipating something negative is going to happen? I've done CBT for anxiety before and learnt a few good techniques which helped including working out if a thought is rational or irrational. It's hard at first but eventually you do it automatically and the negative thoughts dwindle on their own. I'm such a big catastrophiser that I often have to pause and think and take it all in.

@Eachpeachtree thanks for adding into the post, I don't ever remember experiencing this with the first two, it's so crazy how hormones work, hoping mine won't be everywhere for much longer,glad others have felt the way we feel, it generally seems like no one speaks about how rough you can feel even after having the baby id happily go through labour again if I could skip this part of my postpartum xx

@Lemonysherbet yes my trigger is having to go bk to hospital, I wasn't listened to when I said I was in pain and he wasn't moving Alot, it took me going bk constantly for them to actually look into it then they induced me with 2 hours of the 4-5visit and that was only because a doctor come and spoke to me about what was going on and asked me to describe the pain, I still don't know what the pain was :/ and then I had pph and lots of clots and they left percenter in me -.- I don't want to go bk to hospital... Its generally like my mind/body is waiting for something to go wrong.. "/ I was planning on giving working out a try but not sure if it's wise until I have my 6 week check as obviously we have a high chance of clotting again, so trying not to do anything to major my midwife did say yoga was a good thing for anxiety... xx

@lucy2204 that sounds so hard, and a lot to take in and process. You can request to speak to someone at the hospital to talk through what happened. It might help you to process it?

I really found writing everything down in detail in a notebook helped me stop focusing on it as much too

@Lemonysherbet yeah I was offered it for 12weeks postpartum I just have to let them know within the next couple weeks but I'm not sure it'll help I wna just forget it "/ 🤷‍♀️hope your feeling better now

@Lemonysherbet how you been today hun xx

@lucy2204 I've cried lots. Hard day, no reason why! How are you?

@Lemonysherbet aww hun huge hugs🤗did anything trigger it or did it just come on? It sounds like it's your hormones trying to level out, I hope you feel better soon I've been okayish, its the anniversary of my dad's death tomorrow so trying to sleep the next couple days away, super hard with 3 under 4 -.- partner is a huge help which has been great but meh seems harder this year for some reason xx

@lucy2204 I don't think so. I really hope the hormones level soon, it's exhausting!

Are going to do anything nice to celebrate his life?

I hear you on the partner front, were lucky to have such supportive ones

@Lemonysherbet 1000% agree about it being exhausting I'm trying to Puck up the courage to go out but keep getting panicky about it, and I live 1hour ah half from the cemetery and don't drive public transport isn't really safe (1 train and a bus I don't feel it's safe for the kids) I'm most likely going to light a candle, listen to his favourite music and watch some videos with him on then go to his favourite place if I can pluck up the courage to leave the house 😏
And yeah super lucky, I honestly don't know what I'd do without him, xx