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Fab Feb 2009: when they're good they are very very good, when they're bad they're todzillas...

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dinkystinky · 13/06/2010 11:35

New thread for us to chat about our little jekyll & hydes...

Danny is currently stood next to me rearranging my DVD collection - I will be doing a work out to charlie & lola tonight apparently, while DS1 will be watching Billy Blanks Taebo with his pre-bedtime cup of milk and DH's history docu is hiding out with Diego in the city of lost toys...

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swampster · 18/07/2010 20:16

Snot me!

littlesez · 18/07/2010 20:23

hello to you too SM.

another one who likes teeth brushing, she knows after bath is teeth and so Izzy does the errrrrrrrr! noise, (you know the one where they want something which accompanies pointing) and in this case it means I want to lick the toothpaste off the toothbrush now please mummy.

She does like to brush her teeth at same time as me only thing is I cant get to her top front teeth becasue she has the lip tie thing, dentist seemed unconcerned though.

ho hum indeed dinky big hugs xxx

MrsY · 19/07/2010 08:36

he he Swampy - although I'd know it wasn't you, because you know what punctuation is!!

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dinkystinky · 19/07/2010 08:55

Morning all. Another crappy night. Ho hum.

Danny has now moved on from the "this, that, there" stage of speaking to the "mummy, no, mine" stage of speaking

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SilveryMoon · 19/07/2010 09:00

dinky I really don't know how you do it. I got up once last night and feel wrecked!

SweetTalkinWoman · 19/07/2010 12:54

Just a quick one to say hello! Nursery is closed this week - I'm off work today, then DH is off tomorrow. We are enjoying the sun in the garden then off to Kingston when Sam wakes up - I've got 5 pressies to buy, luckily I have a voucher for ELC...

Dinky - Sorry Danny's still being a night owl. . I followed the Baby Whisperer tips and like you, have been kipping in with Sam so that he's reassured. He's definitely not one to leave to cry, whereas CC worked for DD. I really hope you get some decent nights soon.

Must go and make some notes in DD's speech diary - do you think I should note down "Sammer's got a little willy" which is what DD was singing earlier??

TulipsInTheSunshine · 19/07/2010 13:05

little sez... all three of mine have a tied upper lip.... just brush as you would normally, it's actually no harm to stretch it a bit, quite the opposite in fact! dd's teeth are badly gapped because of it and ds1 has landed on it a few times and torn it to shreds but actually seems better off for it as his teeth are growing nice and straight and ungapped. I mentioned it to A's paed as it is related to the tongue tie and she said it's usually a good thing if it gets torn as it's the equivalant of it being snipped and prevents further problems being caused by it.

Swampy

A has stepped up a gear in his terroism by climbing campaign. He's climbing onto the chairs and table every few minutes now and climbed on the coffee table a few times to ge to the window. Poor dp's nerves can't tak e it much longer

My period turned up yesterday... can't complain, i got a good long stretch this time but i had almost forgotton how utterly hideous they are Have ordered my mooncup though so next month should be slightly less grim at least.

pmsl... just turned around and A was on the table again... nothing is safe!

littlesez · 19/07/2010 13:08

OH has left not sure what to do now. I wanted him to leave last night but he was drunk so didnt want to argue with him, he left this morning instead.

Thats my monday so far, fucking gutted.

aww dinky hope your sleep improves soon, Isobella goes through stages and at the moment its not too good, I feel your pain xxx

hi swampy not seen you for a bit

littlesez · 19/07/2010 13:14

TULIPS did you struggle with BF? im just curious as we had latch issues and think it might be related, still not great even now. She also has a gap like a dimple in the tongue but not sure what thats about.

Izzy s a climber too! loves chairs, especially if its a stepping stone to a table She likes to stand on stuff too like her rocking horse, and if its not risky enough she then stands on one leg its very amusing really.

katieblirdsnest · 19/07/2010 13:51

littlesez that's awful. what has been building up to this? have you got anyone with you?

katieblirdsnest · 19/07/2010 13:53

and in other news, DS is also a climber/adventurer/all round pickle. yesterday at a 1 year old's BBQ I turned round to see him taking a big gulp from a glass of rose wine that someone had obviously left too close to the edge of the table. luckily his aim isn't good so most of it went down his top but he didn't seem to flinch at the taste!

TulipsInTheSunshine · 19/07/2010 14:31

littlesez... are you ok sweetheart? Have you been having trouble generally or is this also related to your birth issues? We're here for you if you want to talk (although I understand if it's too raw right now). I hope things work out for you guys

As for your question... we struggled a bit with bf as his latch has never been great but I was lucky enough to have had years of prectice with the other two and ds1 only stopped feeding the week A was born which meant my boobs didn't have to adjust to feeding again. For us the trouble started when i tried to wean him. He couldn't manage solids... he was 8 months by the time he was able to eat any amount of anything which was horrendous as he was starving but just couldn't manage it and was nursing constantly to try and get enough nutrition. He also had huge difficulty with cups and bottles, it's only in the last two months he's managed to get liquid from any other source other than boobs and bf has finally slowed down.

The paed did say though that they wouldn't have snipped it when he was tiny anyway as in most babies it grows out so they won't interfere unless it causes significant problems at this age... in A's case the speech delay and his inability to manage bottles and cups. He's due to see SALT again this week and we're on the ENT waiting list to assess him for the op on the tongue tie. AFAIK though they don't do anything with the lip tie unless the child needs braces later on (which dd might well) in which case they snip it.

kbn... ds1 is partial to red wine My mother let him taste hers and now he asks her for the 'redd juice' every time he sees her! A can also reach high things now and drives us mad helping himself to food on the counters and table... he gets the bathroom stool in order to reach the counters the little bugger!

Calico1 · 19/07/2010 14:53

Littlesez Hope you are ok?

Calico1 · 19/07/2010 14:57

KBN & TITS another little wino here - well warm beer actually. Lilian got a taste for it when we were at a bbq the other week and DH let her taste the froth, though we did catch her (on camera too) taking a swig out of a beer bottle that someone had put down on the grass - luckily it was empty....she was most frustrated.

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dinkystinky · 19/07/2010 15:46

Oh littlesez - I'm so sorry. Sending you and Izzy huge hugs. As Tulips said, we're here for you if you want to talk or just want support from your cyber-friends. Hopefully its just a temporary break to help you guys take time, reassess and talk. Take care of yourself and your lovely little girl.

KBN, Tulips, Calico - I can go one better. Danny is partial to a drop of manzanilla (god only knows why, I think it tastes like petrol but DH likes it - and foolishly let Danny have a taste of it off his finger weeks ago- and so apparently does Danny) - he tries to mug DH everytime he pours himself a glass of the stuff. He's also a little mountaineer so tries to scale DH to get to the glass

Nanny took Danny to GP today - looks like its another ear infection. Yawn.

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katieblirdsnest · 19/07/2010 16:18

manzanilla? ugh.

sorry to hear about the ear infection.

ds has had a cough for about 2 weeks now, as it happens it started at the time we last wend to the GP to get repeat meds for his excema so the GP checked him over and everything was fine. the thing is he's still coughing loads during the night and is quite green snot covered (sorry TMI) in the morning and we go on holiday to france this sat. do you think i should go back to the GP? i hate going just to be sent away with 'it's a cold that will clear up' but it does seem to have dragged on a bit.

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dinkystinky · 19/07/2010 17:05

Definitely go back to the GP to check it out before you go on hols KBN - if nothing else, it will hopefully put your mind to rest.

I know - the child is just plain odd He also likes sucking on lemons, rearranging the gravel in our back garden into crop circles and using yoghurt as conditioner and jelly as a facemask...

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TulipsInTheSunshine · 19/07/2010 17:54

danny and A would most definitely get on like a house on fire A spends hours digging around in the gravel in front of the house and transporting it around the garden to be placed in little piles. He thinks food doubles as a beuty treatment/hair gel and will put absolutely anything into his mouth without flinching... he eats the curry i make and reacts less than dp and i (and my curry be hot!)

kbn... no harm getting some ab's to take with you in case it gets worse while you're away. Hope he's cleared up by then though

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dinkystinky · 19/07/2010 18:23

If they ever got together Tulips I bet they'd take over the world in an afternoon and be toddler overlords keeping up all those serf adults all night dancing to their every whim

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TulipsInTheSunshine · 19/07/2010 19:50

good point.... i think i revoke my invitation for you guys to visit Ireland

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dinkystinky · 19/07/2010 20:35

Wise move - thank god an ocean separates our 2 evil masterminds. Fingers crossed they never figure out how to sail or we're all buggered

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TulipsInTheSunshine · 19/07/2010 20:46

He's squatting on the floor pulling his earlobe with an expression on his face that suggests he's pondering his next endeavour

And he's off............ and up on the coffee table...... he's standing in the middle of the coffee table giving dp a sidelong look to check if he's been spotted (he knows i'm watching but i rarely move him so he knows it's dp he has to evade)........ he's gotton annoyed that dp isn't noticing him now and keeps getting on and off the table..... he's spotted a cat and has run off after it.......... the cat didn't take kindly to being whacked with a broom so he's sulking up in dp's arms now......

This will go on until 10pm or thereabouts. When the older two were this age they were in bed at 7.30 at the latest... they still are in fact!!!

littlesez · 19/07/2010 20:49

sorry feeling miserable and selfish so me me me post coming up!

Im ded upset, he came round and did bath and bed because he wanted to see izzy. He has cuts on his cheek,lip,elbows from where he fell over last night. looked awful, now I feel bad for asking him to leave.

I think maybe I have been too harsh urghh. I want to ring him and tell him i miss him. But i need space to think and breathe. I feel so vunerable and fragile. I dont know how im going to work tomorrow, im so upset. He is coming to watch izzy while I work, then he'll probably try to stay. I think i want him not to but I wnat him to just go, i dont want to tell him to go then feel bad.

sorry rambling, when did my lovely husband turn into someone who upsets me so much

thanks for your replies guys, i am a bit lonely now and nice to have some friends ot chat to. xxx

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dinkystinky · 19/07/2010 21:24

LittleSez - sending you hugs as you need them badly.

If Izzy is sleeping please write down what you're thinking and feeling right now so you can figure out what it is you want. And then maybe after you've been to work tomorrow you and DP can sit down and chat properly. What happened last night? Have you guys thought about going to counselling together to work through your current relationship issues - would you be wiling to give it a go? Would he?

I think you're still going through a lot of processing from Izzy's birth - and I know you and DH have had your issues over the last year and a half - but you're strong and still standing and you will get through this.

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katieblirdsnest · 19/07/2010 21:39

littlesez, please don't rush into anything or feel like you have to make decisions right now.

you haven't told us what's lead to this or if drink is becoming a constant concern or whether this is was a one-off but if he's drinking to the extent that he injures himself and causes you pain during the drinking episode there is a problem. it may be that the drinking was a one-off and it showed up some of the underlying problems. either way you need time to consider what the real issues are and what you can BOTH do to work through them.

if he wants to help make things better he should understand that this can't be fixed by just going straight back to normal and do whatever it takes to get through this horrible patch. and at the moment it does sound like a patch that can be worked through if you give it time.

perhaps things coming to a head will be a good thing if it forces you to spend time working things through.

i do hope he's not drinking heavily a lot of the time. i've been there with an ex-h in the past and it is not a good place to be.

keep talking to us as much as you want.

xx