April 2009 - Episode 13 - 'I've been looking for the exit for months!'

[Schulte]

Fanjo Warriors, here we are

We went back to bf the once a night as Moo was sleep striking by the 4th day...and wailing constantly too....she was still up at 2am! when I said to her, 'Do you want mummy milk?' 'Yah' (cue 'more' sign) 'If I give you mummy milk will you go stop crying and go to sleep?' 'Yah' (frantic hand waving which means 'yes, right now')so I fed her and she slept... We're going to try again later.
Part of me feels weak.
Other part of me feels big relief and happy.

Tho dh and I are both a bit sad abt still not being able to go out at night, tho it really is academic as we have no babysitter...

It sounds like were all going through our rounds of stressful times again. Hopefully we all find the solutions we need.

Failed hearing test...you don't sound worried. Hopefully it is just a bout of stubborn boredom as suggested.

Stress and heat and tiredness makes it so easy to be vile to our lo's. Try to get some rest ladies and take a little time for yourselves. x
I'm struggling with Moo these last few days because my period is eminent. I really hate being home alone with her during these times. Even when we have things to do we can't stay out all the time (I get far too tired). But it'll be better end of next week I know.

Hello all! Nice to see so many of you around.

Quick post. I am fine, thanks all for asking. Wine is helping .

Off on holiday to Mull for a week tomorrow. Yay! Looking forward to beach walks and wildlife and eating and drinking and no housework.

Sorry don't have time to catch up properly but love to all and see you in a week xxx

Have a great time Zulu!

Moo testing me/ playing games WWYD?

Oh, Zulu! Mull?

Have a great time.

DS1 has his last day of school tomorrow and then goes off for a week at FIL's.
On July 14th the boys and I head off on our loooooong island holiday. Am getting childishly excited. Don't think I have ever in my life needed and looked forward to a holiday quite so much!

Schulte and Bebe what he has done of the hearing test was normal this time (the bit he failed on last time he passed this time). I despair of him ever getting through the whole thing - which I don't know what that means for his attention span.

He seems to hear okay, definitely responds to his name, and says a few words, understands a lot more. Mostly though he says things once and then never again so I don't know if we're being wishful thinking doting parents and he's not saying these things at all. Ho hum.

Zulu have a fab time in Mull . Love it there, but haven't stayed on Mull since I was six years old.

Bebe re feet on table TBH I would ignore it as not that important in the scheme of things. She's too young to be truly naughty - she just thinks it's a game. If you can rearrange the furniture so she can't do it, so much the better, otherwise don't sweat it.

Well, I've sat in front of Phil and Kirstie supposedly relaxing but actually ruining it by trying to find appropriate level reading books on our public library catalogue for DS1 and generally fretting. And the housework is still grinning evilly from the corner (or rather the middle of every room). But on the plus side E has been asleep for an hour which is a massive improvement on the past few days.

Thanks all! Am meant to be packing but pissing around on facebook as usual. Am DEFINITELY logging off now xxxx

I have had a two week period courtesy of Cerazette. Am coming off the darn pill now for good.

Got approached by a headhunter today about a REALLY cool job. Problem is, it's a proper career job and I'd have to work hard and probably full time. But then it's one of the coolest companies in the world and the job description seems to fit me perfectly and they'd actually pay me proper decent grown-up money.

So do I go for it or do I become a SAHM-cum-freelancer as planned?

Should have said... I can see this job involving quite a bit of travelling and I am not sure who would look after the children while I am away.

It's a no isn't it?

Moo is renowned for saying things only once; never repeats but then she comes up with things every once in a while which blows my socks off...

Auld fingers crossed for a good night for you and lovely holiday!

Schulte I cannot advise properly. A good long talk with dh seems in order. You need to do what is best for the family and as we know sometimes that means doing something that may seem selfish to us women. If the job was fantastic and good pay is it possible dh could quit his job or work part time to be with the girls? Take this weekend and soul search with dh. Lots of hugs.

Good morning

Not been a great week. Ellen looks increasingly likely to have asthma.

And I have a broken car. Grr. DH had to leave work so he could come and tow us home. Time to get breakdown cover I think.
Ellen was very sweet at bedtime. She said to me, "I love Daddy, he came and saved us. And he put a nice rope on your car Mummy."

Mrs G - Sounds like you had a wonderful time although I would have been mightily jealous of napping friends.
The 8 hours was a one off. Naturally. Although I suspect this heat is makng her more restless than she otherwise mght be.

Schulte - Is it a special event this weekend?

Blimey Boff. Are schools supposed to be transparent about that sort of thing? Is it something I should be considering when looking? We have to apply for the very first time this October.

Bebe - It's not weak. She isn't ready to let go yet and there's no reason why she should be. As you say, you can try again and maybe next time she will be. I understand your frustration, I have been feeding babies back to sleep without a break since 2007 and a night away is inconceivable, but I know I am doing what works best for all of us. And that's all any of us can do, whatever path we choose.

Zulu - Have a fab time

Auld - Sending some virtual chilly air in your direction.
Where are you going on holiday.

Oh and I just finished my first period. In an odd way it was rather nice to feel like a "normal" person again. Sad huh?

Oh Schulte, just spotted the job offer. I think Bebe is spot on. At least that's how I would be thinking if it were me.

Puzzle, sorry to hear about Ellen, and your car.

We are going back here. Tickets have ruined me, but we are being lent houses, cars, baby gear, etc., and I am so looking forward to catching up with dear friends. And getting away from the heat. They are announcing a "torrid" hot, parched summer in France, whereas out there in tropical wintertime it'll be 25° ish, but just warm enough for the boys to splash in the Indian Ocean.
If we survive the flight.

Looks rubbish Auld.

[take me, take me, take me]

Oh Good God do I want to go some where tropical and in the Southern Hemisphere! Proper tropical beach... and sun... and something utterly different.

Poor Ellen How can you tell? (Sorry if you've already gone into it and I've not noticed) Is she allergic to things too? Asthma run in your family? What causes asthma?(physically)

Broke cars suck. It'll be nice when some day we don't have to worry abt such things. (hahahahahahahaha)

Bebe goes into her quiet padded room and knocks her head against the wall...What a week.

'And he put a nice rope on your car Mummy' That is beautiful, Puzzle. So sorry to hear about the asthma though Is it something she might grow out of later on?

So DH said straight away 'I thought we had agreed you were going freelance' and he didn't even say that he was proud that I had been approached for such a job Things aren't that well between us at the moment and I don't even know if I want to discuss things further.

Nothing special Puzzle, it's just that MIL has offered to come and look after the dds overnight while DH and I spend a night at his sister's house while she is on holiday. I am not sure how I feel about it though! No idea how Hazel will react in the morning when she wakes up and I am not there.

Auld I am utterly utterly . Thanks for the lovely photos though Enjoy the holiday!

Bebe are you okay?

Wow, I managed to put a smiley of each colour in that post.

I am quite jealous Schulte. At least you kow somebody rates what you are doing.

Is there any scope for negotiating a degree of family friendly stuff in relation to the new job? DH got approached recently and the first thing they said was "We know you have a young family so we're happy for you to work from home one or two days a week". And this was for a well 'ard job as well.

Schulte I'm just having a hormonal week and with Moo not being well I've just abt had it. Dh is home now and Moo is in bed so I've got my feet up and trying to unwind. I've got this 'dread' tension wound tight in me though which means I won't be able to sleep tonight unfortunately. But I think that is hormonal too along with the stress of having a bbq this weekend for the 4th of July... Bit depressed. Baby sister is preggy (the one that just got married in May). All my sisters get preggy very easily and yet I seem to miscarry very easy. Hormonal silliness.

Sorry things are rough with your hubby. The night away might be a good time to air things. Tell him you're hurt a bit abt him not being proud of you. And tell him abt your hopes and fears again. See if you cannot reach a better place. (hugs) I'm quite jealous of your career and the head hunting tbh. Makes me want more for myself too. You're a strong lovely woman.

See Boff and I are both jealous

Ah you lovely people. Just had yet another row with DH about MIL - she's coming to look after the girls overnight (which I don't feel entirely comfortable about) and she called to announce she was bringing some food for them. Now this pisses me off for several reasons.

1. I can plan and shop for my girls myself, thank you very much, and I had planned for them to have something healthy and not sausages.
2. Hazel has an egg allergy and I don't trust MIL to read the labels properly, seeing as she's previously tried to feed Hazel sponge cake. So I want to control what she'll give her to eat.
3. I want them to focus on playing with and looking after the girls so I was just going to prepare some food for the girls and leave it in the fridge.

Apparently I am being very unreasonable. Am I?

I am actually thinking of giving up academe completely as I hate the way it's all going. I am not sure what I should do instead, though.

Schulte, I think your mum is just being nice, really. She probably thinks she's helping. I would just accept gracefully and remind her about the egg thing.