April 2009 - Episode 13 - 'I've been looking for the exit for months!'

[Schulte]

Fanjo Warriors, here we are

I quite agree. When feeling sad any chocolate cake is better than none. xxx

Stressy stressy no one seems to want to rent to us for 6m in Germany...SO we might end up having to go to a corporate apartment which means ££££ :( Or go with the naff holiday apartment which is also quite expensive. :( stressy stressy stressy

Bebe try Wolfrathausen or HohenSchaeftlarn, down the S7 tube line. Might be cheaper and the commute would probaby be OK unless your DH really is in the far north west.

Little village with shops, supermarket, couple of pubs and S7 tube to Munich (Marienplatz 40 minutes). Mountains an hour away.

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Bleurgh. Feel like Patsy this morning.
I have a vague recollection of four large gins and throwing myself at DH.

Auld, that's awful. I would be grateful for cake, half or otherwise.

Thanks Boff. We'll look into those places too.
The office is actually in the North East off the S2 I think dh said. We found one another small place nearish the office. It's already (badly) decorated but we've emailed and hopefully we get a response. 2.5 rooms, which I think from the pictures won't work for us, but we've not got much choice it seems. Apparently one of the agents dh contacted said that it was near impossible to to find places who would rent for short periods, butt he place we found said they would on the advert. We're starting to think if dh and I sleep in the living room and Moo had the bedroom (so we can put her to bed earlier than us) then it might work.

Just catching up... but wanted to hear what you think about this? MIL had a rant at DH about some of my friends / acquaintances and said she couldn't stand 'those yummy mummies with their sense of entitlement'. MIL has spent most of her life in a house that's got twice as many bedrooms as she needs, buys most of her shoes and clothes from expensive designers, and drives down to London in her Mercedes to have her hair cut because the local hairdressers aren't good enough. Can someone explain what on earth she meant???

Puzzle hope you're Dh caught you and you're not suffering too much... 4 gins would do me in even if I wasn't in my current state

I WANT SUN!

Sorry to read about bad news... Bron, how is your pregnant friend now? Boff, are you feeling better? Auld, hope you've got over the D&V.

Must wake the girls up... tempted not to though!

Schulte, I have no idea what she meant. My take on MILs is a little skewed, as you know. IGNORE is the key to sanity IME.

Bebe, good luck w house-hunting. Sounds stressful.

D&V returned this morning. Bleurgh.

Puzzle, 4 gins sounds like sth I did a looong time ago.

I left the half cake and a note at school and they were appreciated. DH called our old neighbour yesterday evening as she wants him to help her find a killer lawyer. Her husband has moved out to be with his new, younger, woman, but has said he'll come back every day for an hour in the evening to see the kids. Said kids are in pieces, as is their mother, and the idea is insane, frankly. How can they adjust if he breezes in each day for a short period, and then f's off again?

Found a place! No where near where we ideally wanted to be and more expensive and smaller only 1 little bedroom BUT it is in a town and walking distance to the train and looks like shops too and you can reserve online... SO we thought GOOD! Let's do it and stop worrying. Just need the passports.

CANNOT FIND THE BLASTED PASSPORTS! and it's dh's fault he did the tidying and he cannot remember where he put them!!! Tore apart the house looking for them, cannot figure out where they could have gone.
Someone shoot me.

Bebe, well done on finding a place. I was going to say that Dachau might be another good bet as it's supposed to be a lovely town (apart from its genocidal connections but we won't go into that here as 'twas another age) but it's well connected to Munich, in the North.

Annoying about the passports. But they should turn up if you start packing methodically.

On another note I am less upset now so that's good.

Schulte, she's just ignorant. My mum does a great line in 'nobody helped us bring up our kids so we're not helping you, we've done our bit now', conveniently forgetting our grandparents looked after us regularly, and all the other parents locally helped care for us quite a bit as well, so actually that's just not true. The baby boomers are just so wrapped up in themselves it's untrue, and they really believe their own publicity, but we have to get past that really. My cousin calls them 'the generation that robbed their children'.

Need a passport to fill out the online application...

the generation that robbed their children.. oooh so harsh! but fitting in many ways, my Gran was a bit like that.

Yes can see what that means, all their flash holidays and retiring at age 59 and never worrying about how to pay off the mortgage on one salary. My parents are sooo different from the ILs.

Bebe congrats on the place! But are you all going to share one bedroom then?

Found the passports! last place I would have thought to look -in with my crafting supplies?! What was he thinking? I showed him and he said...oh yeah I remember having them in my hand and thinking well I just put them in with your glue dots (which he had found a package of on the hallway table next to the passports...) Why did you think that? Dunno, I needed some place to put them.
It was only because I remembered him messing with my crafting boxes that I even thought to look in them. Geez Louise!
So I've applied for the apartment and hopefully it'll all come through. And Yes, we are going to be sharing one bedroom. Makes me a bit nervous because Moo will be in with us again though she's been in her own room for ages. I don't want her to get used to the idea as the new baby will be coming not soon after we get back and I would prefer her to have and want her own space rather than being used to mommy and daddy at a whispered call... But we haven't a choice really. Though we've talked about (if the apartment is big enough) moving the/a bed into the living room and letting her have the bedroom to herself. We shall see.

Congrats Bebe.

Thanks I've got my fingers crossed it'll be ok...and that the bed will be comfortable to sleep in.

Hope everyone had great weekends. x

I would love sharing a room with my girls all the time! We did it when we were renovating our bedroom and it was so lovely going to sleep listening to their soft breathing.

Moo's not a quiet sleeper. :( She talks in her sleep and whines a lot as she dreams, she also wakes middle of the night fairly often to play (which means if we're in the room she wants us to play too -if we're not, she tends to settle herself after a half hour or so...) It's going to take some willpower to stay still and quiet ourselves when she's up and messing about. Oh and if I'm in the same room (heaven forbid I'm in the same bed!) I start lactating again and my breasts start swelling painfully.
If it was just blissful sleeping it'd not be a problem :)

The apartment we wanted apparently has been rented 'in person' by someone. so once again no place to go..after all our hard searching totally gutted.

Oh no. I hope it happened because there is something better on the horizon that you are meant to have.

Oh bugger bebe - like Puzzle says, hope something better comes up. The house next door to
me is up for rent if you change your mind about Germany all together. There is a German baker and a german school down the road to give that continental feel x
Schulte MILsare a strange breed. And one day we will probay be MILs too.... It sounds like she is jealous, probably of their age. She may have a flash car and comfortable lifestyle but she'll never be young again. I have a good friend who regularly rants about Yummy Mummies who drive their kids 1 mile to school, while she regularly drives one mile to the pub and gets a cab back etc etc etc. So much of her spouting is hypocritical, but the fact is she is 44 and single and would have loved to have children, so I just let her rants wash over me. She is just jealous. (NB I have walked to school without fail through winter rain and snow - but mostly cos my car has been at the menders for weeks and weeks haha!)

Oh lord, your friend wouldn't like me much.