April 2009 - Episode 13 - 'I've been looking for the exit for months!'

[Schulte]

Fanjo Warriors, here we are

Where is my butler? I need a cup of tea and my 12-year-old is refusing to assist! How shocking!

PS Have seen doc about fanjo ishoos and SPD and seeing two different consultants next month. Hope for some improvement.

Hope you get your ishoos sorted Boff.

Bebe what a shock for you re Moo escaping but as others have already said in a much more timely fashion, everyone can tell stories like this.

Having a totally falling apart day here - all v. scrappy and E very unhappy. We are finally seeing the GP tomorrow afternoon about the eczema.

AIBU to eat all the thank you chocs from the students because I am in work and my colleagues are gadding about the continent? Posession is 9/10 of the law, no?

I keep having kittens because Izy keeps climbing up to Nias new playhouse. He figured out the slide today but does spend what seems like hours teetering around the edge.

Bebe sorry to hear about your scary experience, hope you have recovered!

My DH lost DD1 last summer when she was 2 1/2. And he didn't even notice he had lost her for quite a while until I asked where she was, and it was me who had to run around and try and find her while he was having a beer (this was at a wedding). The only reason I did find her was because she had ventured into someone's back garden somewhere near the wedding venue and they chased her out and told her off.

Men think babies and toddlers can look after themselves somehow.

Normandy was great but wet and also quite hard work. Although I thoroughly recommend the ferry (we went Portsmouth-Caen). So much fun for children, and lovely food and wine for grown ups.

House purchase still likely falling through. All the estate agents are lying and our mortgage offer is about to expire and not sure what happens then.

I have just posted something in the Fanjo Warrior group if you all have a look.

Boff you make me wary about wanting to joining academia like I always felt I wanted to do. :( Is there nothing to be done?

I think it's actually less awful than comparable jobs in other professions, actually. When I worked as a journalist every day a colleague was in the toilets crying.

Not the same colleague, btw ...

Evening, ladies (well, it's evening here),
just popping in as I have Internet access.

Having an amazing holiday, utterly dreading going back. Bicnod, I'd love to return, but think it is highly unlikely as I'd not get a job.
Being here has really brought home to me how desperately lonely I am where we now live.

Hope you are all well. Anyone else finding that 16mths is a really fun age?

Boff, hope you are pushing thoughts of back-stabbing academe aside for a bit.

bebe, don't beat yourself up about losing Moo. I know how you feel, though: if it is any consolation, in the last 3 weeks I have

(a) got separated from DS1 on a high mountain ridge with a 200m sheer drop on either side. He was walking ahead of me, and I thought he was with the friends who were by him, when in fact they were just walking along together, but not actually together IYSWIM. I stopped for a bit as was feeling light-headed having carried A in the backpack up said mountainside. 5 mins later, DS1 appeared with 2 men who'd found him sitting in the path, alone and crying.

(b) thought DH was watching A, when he was actually deep in sandcastle building with DS1, and allowed A to walk swiftly and surely past DH and DS1, fully clad, into the Indian Ocean. 5 complete strangers ran in, several also fully clad, to grab him just before a huge wave took him, and just as I raced into the sea (also fully clad).

Ello Auld

Your life could be a very exciting novel. But hope you sort the loneliness thing out as it's sounding quite sad.

Boff, I do indeed need to sort it out. I'm trying to devise strategies to that end, but everything seems linked, DH's working hours, my mad juggling act, no time for me or meeting new people/getting to know acquaintances better, etc. I need to figure out how to gouge out time for myself so I can build a personal life in our town.
When I got here, a number of people were delighted to see me and have been ging out of their way to help/meet up, etc. Back "home", no one gives a stuff if I am there or not. I feel like an invisible dogsbody, and it has got to the stage where I am getting a bit paranoid about why I have not made any real friends in the 5 yrs we have been there.
I'm hoping I can change things soon.

DH and DS1 are off up the volcano tomorrow. Fingers crossed it's not another chapter in the exciting novel.

Oh Auld I hope you can. Hope the volcano goes well - saw James May driving on one last night on Best of Top Gear

Anyway I just came on here to boast about my lovely Indian meal I had for lunch. It's our wedding anniversary today and natch we have no babysitters (never have) so met DH for lunch near his work. The children were really good and we are now home, back to the grind waiting for doctor and plumber both to ring. Boys are eating Haribo until they burst while I collapse quietly in a spicy, lagery heap.

As you were

sickness and dropping bf? -coincidence?

Hello all

Boo!

Boo yerself

Q. for Schulte and Boff and others with German experience. How happy/unhappy will the average Berlin restaurant crowd be with the presence of my children? They are generally well behaved if occasionally loud. Always scruffy but then so are we.

As you may be able to gather, we are off to Berlin and points North East (to visit friends) really soon. First time on a plane for six years and then I had valium from the docs! (we had just lost DD otherwise I wouldn' thave been self indulgent enough to ask. It was lovely but can't htis time as BF)

MrsG, no idea. I didn't have children when I lived in Berlin and consequently never noticed other people's children either but I'd think you'll be fine, shouldn't be different from what it is like here. Very jealous of your Berlin trip. I am off to Frankfurt tonight for work, just for one day but have a feeling I'll desperately miss my girls.

We've just come back from a wet short week on the Isle of Wight, but it was lovely anyway.

And the latest exciting news is that we've exchanged on the house! Hooray.

That is fantastic news Schulte. What a shame you went through all that agony of worry over it, but well done!

Thanks for the info re Berlin. I was thinking as I wrote the question, it's irrelevant to ask this really as the family will have to eat and we generally do okay.

Off very soon as we've decided to go a day early

Fab news Schulte.

I have blisters all over my hand from weeding the lawn for the first time in 2.5 years. Owww

Yawn

My brother's wife had their first baby this morning so I haven't slept a wink. She was rushed in last night, five weeks early. He was an emergency c section but both Mum and baby are great. My big brother is happier than I ever known him. It's wonderful.

[feeling mushy]

Schulte great news! :) :)

Back from yet another long (for me) weekend at a bike race. Those things are so tiring (and I don't even race). I'm trying to think of something we can do as a family which means I can have lots of fun while DH needs to chase after Moo all weekend... Turn about is fair play right ;)

Congrats on the new nephew Puzzle :) x

Yes congrats on the nephew Puzzle! Have you seen him yet?