May 2009 - one year on

[Tummum]

Here you go ladies...

Just dashing in to say congrats to Spangle on her pink bean. I'm not sure if my milk did change. If anything, DS1 upped his feeding massively when pregnant and it was handy to feed him just to get a rest! After the birth he didn't seem to complain either. Tandem feeding benefited us in lots of ways and I highly recommend it. My nipples were very sensitive for the first few months though!

Good luck to those starting C25K. My legs are really achy after doing Davina's bottom fit the other night.

Thanks for the comments on G's sleeping. He is back to being the incredible non-sleeping baby again so back on form.

Work tomorrow, so hopefully I'll be able to come back and do a more detailed NC post tomorrow night when I've finished working for the week. Anyone watching Big Brother tomorrow?

Spangle I think my milk changed as DD started biting me immedately after I fell PG (she knew before me) I also cut down alot due to working 4 days a week and being knackered but lots of women feed right through their PG with no trouble. Lots of HCP told me to give up though . There is a support thread on MN somewhere that I found great. I think Llaregg was on it too.
I have also worn pg/feeding bras for more than 3 years and am sick of shapeless boobage.

DCs woke at 6 this morning- yawn.

Spangle I think my milk changed as DD started biting me immedately after I fell PG (she knew before me) I also cut down alot due to working 4 days a week and being knackered but lots of women feed right through their PG with no trouble. Lots of HCP told me to give up though . There is a support thread on MN somewhere that I found great. I think Llaregg was on it too.
I have also worn pg/feeding bras for more than 3 years and am sick of shapeless boobage.

DCs woke at 6 this morning- yawn.

spangle, hoorah for the pink bump and good test results! I love girls! I love... um... pink! (well, now I do with 3 DDs)

belgina, happy anniversary, in any case. Glad you're doing something this weekend. I never remember to get even a card for DH .

Pula, about BF, I didn't want to stop but H kept biting me, pulling off, laughing when I said 'NO' and didn't generally seem interested at nearly 11 mos. so I sadly stopped and she never looked back. It defn depended on the child in her case.

Febes, I've worn feeding bras as well for 3plus years and it does feel good to be in 'normal' bras (though I did like the elle McPherson one). I just need to be re-measured now to get one that actually fits.

ses, pain about the boiler. thank goodness it's not the mid of winter but annoying nevertheless. good luck on your presentation.

Running, living up to your name! sounds like a good start.

llare, don't laugh but I'll be watching football. Not a footie fan but I love the world cup for all it's spirit and patriotism, etc. Might switch over when the match ends though, it's the last BB, isn't it?

everyone else, Hellllloooo!

feeling better today. saw the GP who was lovely and, since I feel good today, I've delayed the antiDs again. not sure that's a good move but heyho. we'll see. i just seem to be so up and down day by day. am now on the waiting list for counselling since it helped last time. also recommended St John's Wort and a CBT online course - I'm going to try both.

Will also try the Buddhism book. Flip, am going to FB mssg you re: the Buddhism book. that's very kind of you. I do need it. will try to send it back with something nice.

Got to take dd1 to introduction session at primary school. am a bit nervous since she's adament she's not going. I hope she doesn't have a tantrum right before we leave the house.

momino i was thinking about how you'd got on at the doctors. glad it went well & that you have felt a bit brighter over the last few days too. how did dd1 get on at her school induction? x
been busy here.. took G to her 1st jump n jiggle class (bit like tumble tots) straight after dropping DS to pre school. was lovely doing something just the 2 of us. she coped a lot better than DS did on his 1st session.. she loves noise and he hated the singing bit!
sainsburys is late, oh well at least i'll get a voucher. DS pulled the tensioning strap out of our maxi cosi toby car seat.. will cost £50 to fix and has to go back to maxi cosi grrr so dropped it into the local shop we bought it from for DS so they can courier it for us. really glad I bought local for that seat now! G will have to stay in her current one a bit longer.
ses commiserations on you boiler.. I Can keep you company waiting for repairs.. our oven won't heat up and now one of our toilet cisterns has developed a leak! Oh and the wireless function on the laptop has stopped working too as DS decided to not leave the button alone!

sorry that turned into a mini rant

Fi, rant away - we all need to!

ahem.

took dd1 to 1st school induction and was one of the 3 parents who needed to stay the whole time. I know I'm not supposed to compare, but it does make me feel of the other children who are (seem)confident, social, independent. i wish dd1 could even be a little of that. but she's not. she didn't want to do any of the drawing, playing, dressing up, and didn't want to sit on her own whilst the teacher read a story at the end. sigh. there was a group of 3 girls playing with dolls in a pink tent and I so wanted her to join them. I did my best not to let her feel my discouragement as that would make things worse. i just want her to be happy though and am worried about her starting Big School. Guess that's normal though, eh?

next week may be better as I don't think i can stay for the session and maybe she'll do better without me. anyone else's older dc's similar with school? I have to admit, it did look scary - the old victorian room, the brand new teacher, the many new faces, the loud voices - and I don't blame DD for being extra cautious and am impressed at the other children for doing well.

Fi, rant away - we all need to!

ahem.

took dd1 to 1st school induction and was one of the 3 parents who needed to stay the whole time. I know I'm not supposed to compare, but it does make me feel of the other children who are (seem)confident, social, independent. i wish dd1 could even be a little of that. but she's not. she didn't want to do any of the drawing, playing, dressing up, and didn't want to sit on her own whilst the teacher read a story at the end. sigh. there was a group of 3 girls playing with dolls in a pink tent and I so wanted her to join them. I did my best not to let her feel my discouragement as that would make things worse. i just want her to be happy though and am worried about her starting Big School. Guess that's normal though, eh?

next week may be better as I don't think i can stay for the session and maybe she'll do better without me. anyone else's older dc's similar with school? I have to admit, it did look scary - the old victorian room, the brand new teacher, the many new faces, the loud voices - and I don't blame DD for being extra cautious and am impressed at the other children for doing well.

and that was a 2x mmememeemememe post! sorry for the double post!

momino our DS has some settling in school play sessions on a couple of afternoons later this month.. I have no idea how it'll go at all! i'm sure your DD1 enjoyed herself today and was just eyeing up everything to make the best of it next time I think i'm more nervous about him starting school than he is. Still think he's so young.. he'll be 4 mid august and then starts school in sept

Momino- was that the first school session? With DD the parents stayed the first time, then left them after that, so try not to worry about DD1 (at least she was one of 3 ). I worried about my DD at school for quite a while as she only seemed to have 1 close friend, and then if that friend was playing with others, she would be left on her own. But now she seems to have a few good friends and seems quite popular. Your DD1 seems to just take a while to feel comfortable in new situations and with new DCs, but like at the railway museum, she was enjoying herself after an hour or so . And even now, some DCs cry when they get to school but I'm sure th ey are fine once their parents have left.

fi- round here, your DS wouldn't start school until January next year as it does seem young to start, although I do find reception seems to be a lot like pre-school .

Thanks for your reassurance, Fi and Pula. I so desperately want her to be happy and confident and popular (well, what parent wouldn't, I guess?). PUla, you're right about it being the first session and her getting used to the new situation.

Fi, my dd2's birthday is on 29 aug so she'll just be 4 when starting school. I think she will only go half days at first then do full days from Jan. dd2 is quite independent, confident and eager to go to school so I think she'll be just fine. I do think 4 is too young as well, though, but pula has a point that reception seems to be a lot like pre-school.

ok. off to work for a bit. Hope you're all well tonight.

momi I agree with pula, reception does seem a bit like pre school with a bit of phonics thrown in. Your DD will be fine. The half days to start with seem sensible, but how does that pan out with you working? We had a week of half days when DS started in January, and a lot of parents moaned because they were working and it was difficult to juggle time off, but it was probably better for the DCs to have the phased starts to ease themm in.

And glad the drs went well. My DH took St JOhns wort when he had a period of extreme stress and insomnia, and he goes back to it if it reoccurs. So I assume it does calm him down a bit. Hope you are feeling better anyway.

Had a midwife appointmet today as am now 15+5. She felt my tummy ( which is the size of a 20 week singleton bump!) and one of them kicked her. LOL!

Am currently watching the WAGS Come Dine with Me. Am at the ostentatiousness of the houses, am that one of them has a huge portrait of Martin Luther King in her lounge and had no idea who he was, but its hilarious!

Can't decide whether to watch Big Brother tonight. Hmmmmmmmm. Decisions!

Watch it Smokey BB rocks. Last one. Sob. .

evening all

Smokey - wow at the bump. kicking the MW made me I'm watching CDWM too. Love the voiceover guy, he's hilarious. I'm going to watch BB as I've watched the first one of each series not sure I'll watch much else of it though, depends what the housemates are like I suppose!

Hi everyone else, typing on my phone is soo slow, can't manage much else, sorry x

Evening!

smokey, your bump sounds fab. It's so exciting!

momino - not quite the same, but we've just started looking at pre-schools for DD1 (to start in sept when she'll be three and a half). Anyway, we were at one on Monday, I thought it was great (and so did A! she was off climbing everything as soon as we got there!) but DD1 hid behind me for an hour and only relaxed when it was snack time .

I wanted to watch CDWM too, but DH didn't, and as he pointed out, I'm talking to my pretend friends so don't need the tv too!

Scary stuff here, we've decided to move! Got 3 estate agents coming round next week to value the house. Some how need to make it look slightly better over the weekend. can anyone do miracles?! We know it's one of those properties that might be described as 'needing some modernisation', but it also looks like there's been some kind of explosion in a childrens toy/clothes shop too. Eek.

Hello everyone.

Quick post to say yay to spangle re nuchal and girl

smokey I snurked at bean kicking mw, so exciting!!

momi DD1 will cry and sob and howl next week when you leave her. But she will have a wonderful time (eventually). I promise. But I can guarantee she will make you feel terrible about it. My DD1 was exactly the same. Yes, I could have soft-soaped the answer but I'm feeling hard-hearted today.

norks My word there are some heaving bosoms on here - not sure what size I am now, still drooping about in horrid nursing bras. S still requires a few daytime feeds - she bustles over and paws at my top, lays her head on me and sobs until I feed her

flip Good luck with the house sale and whatnot, it's just a nightmare.

Just watching Black Books (seen them all millions of times, but love them) and drinking a Malibu.......

smokey how exciting, having a big bump and mw-kicking babies already!

flip good luck with the house sale. Have you got a new property in mind?

momi obviously I have no words of wisdom about DCs starting school, but I can imagine how you must feel. H screamed for 2 hours when we first left him at nursery and it took him ages to settle but he loves it now. All my friends' babies hardly batted an eye apparently . I guess some children do take longer to acclimatise to a new environment and it's just something that has to be gone through.

llare it's great to hear that tandem feeding worked well for you. Does your DS1 still bf or has he stopped completely now? I intend to let H take the lead and if he wants to carry on then I will - I certainly don't want to try to wean him at the same time as bringing a new baby into his life.

Daren't watch BB here in case we get drawn in!

Thanks all for the house wishes, I'm dreading it all. We've got a couple of appointments to view places over the weekend, and we need to get the mortgage stuff sorted out too - we had quotes a couple of months ago but need something more concrete I think.

Hi everone,

Quiet on here today. I did a bit of lurking yesterday, but was too absolutely knackered to do anything more than that.

llare very interesting to hear about your tandem feeding experience. I didn't know you did that. Don't know how I could have missed such an interesting piece of info

spangle My own experience with bf in pregnancy is one where my ds did decide that he didn't like my milk anymore when I was around 16-17 weeks pregnant. He was about 18-19 months at the time. He never rejected me, but just didn't ask for it anymore. Both ds and dd1 stopped bf while on holiday. I think it was the break in routine that made them forget about it and they never really asked for it again afterwards.

My own boobs seem to have shrunk too. From a 31FF, I think I'm now down to an E or F depending on the bra. I do like wearing slightly bigger bras for work as I fill up during the day and I don't want to get uncomfortable IYSWIM, so I haven't gone out to buy any smaller bras yet. My favourite time when it comes to boob size was when I was pregnant with ds. Still firm as not yet sucked dry by babies, and a lovely full 34C. I loved them After finishing bf I went to a 32D, but sadly without that firm tone of (pre)pregnancy. I think that's the thing I dislike the most about my boobs. It's the lack of tone, the floppiness.

momi I agree with the others. Your dd1 will probably act totally different when you wont be around. When I took my ds for the settling in session, he was the same: no mingling and just generally hanging around with me all afternoon. Then his whole nursery school year he only made a few friends. In reception he suddenly blossomed and made quite a few friends which he is still sort of in contact with and he misses a lot. So I think your dd1 will be fine. Not all dcs are outgoing and going to school, being surrounded by all these new faces is a bit scary. (I remember finding my own first day at school quite scary!)

smokey at your strong kicking babes!

flippin Good luck with the house move! A bit scary, but also fun and a big relief for having the extra space once it's over! We personally have made the decision to take on another year in this house. We were a bit worried, because the owners bought the neighbouring (better) house, with, rumour has it, the intention of moving in themselves, which made us think that they might sell this one once our contract is over. So DH got in touch with the letting agency and they got back to us after a fairly long period TBH and agreed to another 12m. Phew, we just really like the location. Hopefully we can go witout ap soon and then we'll be able to stay here for even longer

bb wont be watching this. I got bored with it 5 years ago I'm afraid. Just as I'm now bored with x-factor and BGT type shows. The very 1st pop idol was when I was pg with ds, so that's a loooong time ago.

Really, Belgina? I tried not to talk about it too much because at times it felt like I banged on about it too much. It was really useful when I was pregnant as it helped lower by blood sugar and control my blood sugar.

DS1 gave up himself, pretty much overnight, when DS2 was around 3 or 4 months. During the week before he stopped it became quite painful, and I wondered if he actually lost the ability to latch on, as he'd get quite frustrated about it. Now he refuses to believe he ever did it!

It is quiet here today. I took G swimming this morning and he had armbands for the first time, and to our amazement, kicked his legs and was off! I think all those months of watching his elder brother swimming must have been quite useful for him.

My legs have finally recovered from the trauma of Davina's Bottom Fit DVD so I'm going to have a swim later this evening.

As for boobs, mine are a lot smaller than they used to be. I don't know what size I am now (my feeding bra was 36J) but they are all too big and I must go and get fitted again. I haven't been measured since I lost weight (naughty me) so I'm due a go I think. I've been back in normal underwired bras since G was around 6 months or so. I hate feeding bras!

Hi! Quick catch up....

Momino - I think going to a new class with lots of new children and a new teacher would phase most teenagers, never mind a 4yo. I'm sure in 6 months, you'll be amazed at how well she's coping.

Flip - how exciting but scary all at once! Hope it all goes smoothly for you.

Smokey - How wonderful I'm so for you!!

Spangle - I think your plan for BF H is spot on and how great to have people like Llare here to share their experience!

BB - don't think I'll be watching. I'm looking forward to the World Cup

Have been having DH issues here for a few weeks. All my issues seem really small and petty. Whenever I complain to DH he thinks I'm saying he's not a good Dad. Nothing could be further from the truth (and I've tried to tell him that!) but I don't think we're being a good husband and wife at the moment. When he leaves for work or comes home from work he makes such a fuss of O and sometimes doesn't even say hello or goodbye to me.
He also doesn't seem to appreciate the fact that I'm doing a full time job in 4 days and 99.99% of the nursery run. He has said something to the effect of "Well, you're the mum" and he feels he has enough pressure by fulfilling his role as a provider at work. I'd like to know what he thinks I'm doing for my 4 days!!
Anyway, I do think we are both trying to work on all this at the moment and I really hope things improve.

There's a thread about someone whating to shag their builder. Do you think that Sexybuilder is about again??

wanting

Hello Febes
LOL at sexybuilder thread