May 2009 - one year on

[Tummum]

Here you go ladies...

belgina - that doesn't sound like a good evening, and sorry that you didn't get to spend more time with C. Do you have a day off tomorrow.

Yes, day off tomorrow. Bed now though I'm shattered. To much driving

evening all.
belgina, boo about the keys, how frustrating for you. hope you're ok.
ses, well done to O for being grown up at the table with his weetabix (awwww).
Flip, hurrah for phone calls with the sister (should have called one of mine tonight). and 2x in 3 weeks is a great record.
reebee, have been thinking of you with all that's happening in Cumbria . thanks for asking about me. still feeling a bit down. constantly feel butterflies in my tummy, chest pain, anxiety. big sigh. cried last week at the GP and due to go back next wed. will surely talk about antiDeps but I'm still scared (for some reason) of them. just not sure they'll solve the prob but then I can't live like this any more .

sorry, i just went off there, didn't I?

had a lovely diversion of grumpy and her lovely dd2 and S coming round as they were in York. she even brought gorgeous biscuits and buns, sorry to make you on that!

ok, time to wrap up work and just go to sleep. have a work phone call tomorrow when I've got all three with me around lunch time. should be interesting .

Dances past singing 'Friendship Bread, Friendship Bread, Friendship Bread for meeee and you!!!!!'.

It's Amish Friendship Bread apparently momi (have been looking up sourdough starters and whatnot).

Hi everyone - just off to bed to rest up for S's B-Day tomorrow.

Had a lovely afternoon with momi and her girls in lovely sunshine!

Morning all!!

Belgian Nightmare day, hope today is better.

Ses Hope you are feeling better. I would definately reccommend some couple time but not to expect anything to happen at first as we had our anniversary, valentines day and other special nights out but no action and I kept getting disappointed. We kept being close and cuddly even though not doing anything and it eventually clicked. It's back down to just a few times a week this week .

Momi Why not give the ADs a go with the option to stop if they don't agree with you. You sound like you might need a bit of help to feel better and I know lots of people that
they help. In the meantime Grumpys biscuits and buns sound like they have healing powers.

We all have our swimming costumes on and DH bought an 8ft pool yesterday so we are planning to spend the weekend playing in the pool.

Oooh, febes, at your pool! I've been sat in the garden this afternoon with my feet in the paddling pool, not quite the same.

momino - hugs to you. I wish I could help. Although liked your status on FB, hope you have a nice relaxing evening! Not the answer to everything, I know, but it's good to have a break.

fi, fabby photos!

Helloo all. Ta ever so for the sympathies - just re-read my post and (ahem) the reason why I had hard poo was because they put me on codeine which constipates me up to the armpits. Literally. Yowch. Talking of pain, Grumpy wosshappening avec vous?

Have we all had birthdays now?

Ok. Mememe. Im sitting here in tears. Totally knackered, as have been at work yesterday and today (5.30am starts, tube all across London, overland train.... and back... you get the picture.) DH took today off to get M back from my parents. I got in after a GP appt (yes, it's all go with me now, I now have a pea sized cyst thingy above my la-la) and the place was a mess. For those who like nice tidy linen cupboardy things, it is your worst nightmare. M had opened her cupboard and pulled everything out. Her food which she chucks everywhere during teatime was still there squashed into the floor. Wipes everywhere. Soggy pooey nappy left in the bathroom. Kitchen a mess. Dry washing still on the airer from the night before - but M had pulled most of it on to the floor, and stamping all over it...... I asked DH to move his pile of crap stuff in the kitchen and he lost it, saying I was anally clean and tidy, and I am a "fucking pain in the arse". Am so upset, am sitting up here in tears. Fed up with being treated like shit. Told him I am leaving in the morning to go to my parents. Not sure if I have the courage to. He has apologised of sorts, but you know, a big sarky one. He was going to cook dinner this evening but he's clearly not now so I need to go and do myself something. I'm tired, in pain, still oozing from my bum and just want to go. Am definitely sleeping in the spare room tonight.

Am off as have to go to bed soon as am exhausted but really need to go and clear up and get myself something to eat. Hopefully back tomorrow with the continuing pathetic saga that is my marriage....

saus - I'm lurking on my phone as Internet down but couldn't not post.
I'm not suprised you're considering going to your parents tomorrow if even for a bit of space for a few days (or more)
I wish I was nearer and could bring a bottle of wine round to share and give you a huge hug. You've had such a rotten time and he just doesn't seem to understand the meaning of the words support and respect. Take some time to think about what is best for you and feel free to offload on here or get in touch on FB if I can do anything else.

Oh Saus what a horrible situation for you. Sending you non-MNetty hugs. What I do want to say is that you and your DH have had loads of stuff to deal with over the last 12 months (having baby, getting married, moving house, your 2 ops, you going back to work etc etc). Please do try to keep talking to each other, cos that is the only way you will be able to deal with the situation. Don't know what to say really.xxx

Ooh, saus Poor you

x-post with tumm and ses They said it all so much better. Hope you're OK saus

just popped in on my phone too.

sausage you are not anally tidy.. i'm quite lazy dusting and linen cupboard etc but all of the mess you described would have caused me to totally lose it! Not surprised you feel like going to your parents. Does your hubby know how much his comments hurt you? it's worth talking about how you both feel when you've both calmed down.. anyhow lots of hugs to you xoxox and vent to us all you need..

lots of x posts! waves to ses tumm & belgina

belgina i'm with you on local beach rather than long hot car journeys (what a nightmare) with v little beach play time.

Hey Fi & Belgina & Ses Fi Fabby pictures on FB. It looks like an amazing place

Belgina I think our DHs may be related. My DH is rubbish at getting out of bed. When the alarm goes off and he ignores it and is subsequently late for something, apparently is it my fault for not turfing him out ! Men

Hi Saus How are things this morning? [A big un mnetty hug]. You've really had a rough time of it lately.

Fi amazing photos. Looks like you had a fab time!

Belgina Enjoy the beach today!

Llare How's G's sleeping? Ds2 is finally sleeping from about 7.30- 5/6 and waking once. I think I can just about cope with that - although I'm so tired, don't know why!

I'm tackling ds1's potty training. He really doesn't want to wear pants, but he's 3,4. We had 3 wees in the potty, but he doesn't know he's doing it and is surprised by them, so I anticipate a long haul!!

Momino Sorry to hear you're feeling down. Anti-depressants won't solve the cause, but maybe it'll help you feel better whilst you work on the cause? Either way I hope you pick soon.

Febes Your pool sounds great. I think I must have the only children who won't go near a paddling pool

Sorry I haven't namechecked properly - I'm barely awake and the boys are causing havoc again!!

Morning all.

sausage - have more hugs. You've had a lot of stuff going on recently, you really need more support than that. Good advice from the others.

belgina - grrr at your DH. Local beach, short journey definitely.

muddled - hope the potty training goes ok, but if he's not ready would it be less stressful for you both to leave it a bit longer? Although with the weather like it is it's tempting isn't it?!

We've had a minor miracle! Thirsday night, A woke for the first time at 4:45, and went back to sleep after a quick feed, we were really pleased. This morning she slept until 6, no wake ups in the night . Please let this be the beginning of good sleeps, although I'm not optimistic. We haven't actually changed anything, it just happened. Two nights isn't a new phase though, is it?

Quick post from me.

Sausage I've sent you a message via facebook. I do hope things are better this morning for you. MOre hugs.

MUddled thanks for asking. As it happens, I came here this morning to report that FINALLY we had uninterrupted sleep between 8pm and 6am. Hurrah.

fi amazing photos on facebook!

Off to outdoor fit this morning at the gym and I'm hoping that I don't repeat the sprained ankle from last time or I shall be asking them to rename outdoor fit to something more appropriate.

Have a good day everyone.

I'll be back on later but just had to post to say sausage, so so sorry things are tough. hope it gets better and you get a bit more support. sending hugs to you.

Saus Hope you are feeling a bit better today. Knobbish DH + sore bum + 2 long days at work + messy house= a really crappy time. Take M to your mums and get looked after and let your DH stew for a few days. Thinking of you babe x

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Oh, it's quiet! Sausage - hope you are ok, wherever you are. Hugs.

Lovely day in the sunshine here. Well, until it pissed it down on us. But good anyway. Now it's wine and Grand Designs.

Hello flip!
I'm lurking whilst watching BGT
Also hoping saus is ok.

BGT?