May 2009 - one year on

[Tummum]

Here you go ladies...

I heart Ross Noble too!

Off to bed now, expecting another shocking night. See you tomorrow!

flip IM, that is something I considered a while ago, but TBH I'm a bit worried about being totally on my own at this point in my career. I would definitely consider it in the future though, hopefully becoming a cmw will be a stepping stone towards that. Also at the moment there's the whole (lack of) indemnity insurance thing and the IM are working at some sort of solution for that.

bras I never had this lack of boob trouble after bf. I was a 32b before dc and after bf stopped with dd1 I was a 32d, but very floppy, resulting in a limited choice of bras because they'd just flop out of anything that wasn't full cup I'm still bf at the mo, even 1x a day and so I'm still in my nursing bras. Still, they're definitely shrinking and I think only my smaller one is the right size. I don't mind my bras being a touch too big though, because I need that on days I work when I do fill up those cups at the end of the day

momi Also watched Have I got news for you. I love the show, always makes me laugh out loud. I thought Bruce watshisname did really well.

it was a funny one tonight (I think it was saturday's show, actually). bras, what's really pathetic that I'm not even filling my Bcup. I may be an A now. sigh.

G slept from 10.30 until 5am! RESULT!

. Well done G!

Morning Ladies!!

I have been MIA for ages but lurking in stalker fashion . Was very of the York meet up. The photo of all the DCs was so cute especially Jennsters (I think) toddlers holding hands.

Saus hope yer bum is feeling better now. Sound truely heinous.

Belgian My Mum also talks about the paper work involved in midwifry and its 10x worse in the UK.

Hi everyone else is ok.

Not much to report here. We are muddling on. DCs are lovely. House move is going well and we hope to exchange soon and then look for somewhere to rent. We have packed 10 boxes already as we need to inventry everything because it is going in a container for export to NZ.

Thank goodness the sun is shining today. We packed a picnic and headed to Chessington yesterday but it was raining so we decided not to go lucky its only a few minutes down the road so we picked up some chicken food from the farm shop nearby and then came home and ate our picnic at home.

Hey all!

Just posting in brief pause betwixt Farm this am and shopping for S's presents this pm (Friday is the grubby-legged one's b-day).

Have been a bit AWOL, gallstones and heartburn making me sick, feverish, grumpy.

Mainlining Rennies and downing Gaviscon like it's going out of fashion. Hope I'm not up da duff .

momi we may well be in York tomorrow, you about?

febes whoop for impending move!

llare yay to sleep

flip fingers crossed for some better nights for you

saus how be your arse? I do hope it's better (my piles have flared up in sympathy)

belg I don't remember mw doing much writing when S was born, only took 10 mins or so though but I bet she had about 4 hours of writing to do afterwards. Sounds a real pain in the bum (sorry saus)

DD2 got a Hannah Montana microphone that I am seriously thinking of smashing to pieces.

just popping in to say hello! we're back.. cases all needing unpacked and can't be bothered to get started atm .. body clocks out of sync.. and missing NS already we had a great time and I absolutely love it will be uploading photos to FB and hopefully catching up here over next few days. Finding being back at home v odd and really noisy hope all 1st birthday parties went well too xoxox happy birthday to all those i missed

Welcome back Fi Sounds like your trip was amazing. Can't wait to see the photos on FB!

Grumpy - gallstones and heartburn?! Poor you. Any news on an appointment? Hope things ease up for you soon. Any plans for S's birthday?

Febes - sounds like things are going well with you. Have you started looking at rental properties? Your big move draws every nearer

Llare - well done G!

Momi - hope you've had a productive day today and managed to relax a bit with some time to yourself

flip I know just what you mean about ditching the nursing bras. I did it a few weeks ago and it just feels so much better! O only feeds on waking and bedtime now so I'm pleased to see the last of those flimsy things! Cup size hasn't changed too much though. Pre-DS I was a 36DD and M&S reckon I'm a 34E now. I guess that will change again if when O stops BF altogether.

DH and I have been having a few conversations over the last week. If anyone's got time to read my essay, see here

Today I've been trying to get my head round not ttc for 6 months and enjoying life as a family of 3 instead.
I do think one of my worst faults is this nasty little competitive voice in my head. Does anyone else have this? It makes me put far too much pressure on myself. I get it in all parts of my life - work and home. In this instance it makes me want to be able to ttc asap and be the first in our NCT group to be pg again. WHY???!!! Don't get me wrong, I do want to ttc now for all the right reasons but the added competitiveness just piles the pressure on.

Does that make any sense??!

Ses That totally makes sense to me I have that silly voice about alot of things (first in my antenatal group to have number 2). I feel looking back that I jumped into TTC R so early. My main reason was so that I could finish work and have another mat leave . DH and I never really got our sex life back on track after DD and only really had lots of sex for a few months and then I was PG again and knackered and Rs first year was so hard with lack of sleep, added expense, 2 under 2, coping with a fullon toddler, recession etc etc. I have got good news that in the past month we have got our sex life back and are doing it as much as when we first got together (as in everyday ) I think wait until your DH is feeling it again as 2 under 2 is not easy and enjoy your darling boy because your time will come .

Welcome back Fi!!! Sounds like you will be applying for visas soon!

Meant to say that for ages I have been keenish to resume relations (but not really doing anything about it) but DH had definately lost his sex drive and we probably only had sex less than 10 times since falling PG with R. Haven't really talked to him properly about it but glad we have it back and are doing it just for fun.

Hi all

Just popping on to say hello to everyone, welcome back to Fi, and 'poor you' to Grumpy. Ses, I get the competitive voice too but not normally about ttc!! I can get it about random aspects of work, relationships, money, babies, homes... the list goes on. It's not an especially nice trait and one I try to admit to and then ignore. But, I completely see where you're coming from. Most of my close friends are pregnant at the moment (combination of first and second times) and I find myself wondering if we should bring ttc forward partly so I feel a bit more 'joined in' with everyone and can also have pregnancy conversations with my nearest and dearest... not the recommended approach to expanding a family! I think febes has some very wise words. Waiting for a few months won't make any difference in the grand scheme of things. Spend some time over the summer enjoying the family you have. I think sometimes men cope less well with the practicalities of becoming a family and being busy, juggling things all day long and it sounds like your DH is a tad stressed.

Right, am off.

Sorry not to NC more, am tired from gardening and a bit emotional re the news which is again relatively local to me (when will Cumbria have good news?).

sh1t, sorry, forgot to say - thank you so much to everyone for your FB wishes and congrats for F's 1st birthday. We had a great day (when when I was bitten by the goat)(don't ask!).

ses- just wanted to say I can see how you feel about things being put on hold with TTC, but a few months shouldn't result in too big an age gap hopefully. How would DH feel if things just happened, like they may do on your weekend away? I think a few nights out for the 2 of you might help him see you still have a life outside of DCs - i had a meal out with my DH on Sunday and it was lovely.

Here's my attempt at a NC (I am tired so apologies if i miss you out):

grumpy - hope you get those gallstones sorted as it sounds miserable

saus- hope your DH is looking after you - it just sounds horrid . You were brave to take a peek with a mirror

fi- welcome back and glad you enjoyed NS

febes sounds like things are really progressing with the move to NZ plans.

momino- hope you enjoyed your kiddie free day

llare- great progress with G's sleep. I must say that with all the CC and PUPD and other stuff we've tried, it's only in the last week or so that S has started being ok about being put in the cot awake and taking himself off to sleep without being patted/shushed etc. It's something my other DCs did at 4 or 5 months old, and we've not done anything different, so i think some just take a while to get into the "sleep thing".

febes, everyday and ! DH has the drive, I don't. I'm usually too knackered and also don't have the desire. think I'm still a bit depressed which might also have something to do with lack of desire.

ses, Febes and the post who replied in your thread are right and good advice. if you concentrate on DH and darling O, perhaps the ttc will fall into place naturally! on the finance side, you can't convince him that there will be enough. at least you know that you will always get by and he can realise it by himself (does that make sense?).

Fi, welcome back! sounds like you had a lovely time, can't wait to see the pics.

grumpy, upda duff? rrreallly??? what are you planning (or not planning)?

got a bit of work done today, it's amazing how productive I am without children around (or maybe not so amazing). dd1&2 arrived back this evening and it was so good to hug them. I like the break from them but never too long a break... it's too quiet without them. i can't stand quiet and relaxing .

Febes, Pula , ReeBee and Momino - thank you!!!
It's not easy but I feel reassured by your support.
Febes - it's good to hear someone else has had a similar experience and what you said really helps.
I think I need to find a large dose of patience from somewhere!!

I've just parked up at the South Terminal at Gatwick as the Gatwick shops come under my remit in my new role and I have a meeting here this morning. V strange to park here and not to be flying off somewhere! I've had to bring my passport too so I can get a security pass to go airside!!

I also had a mini proud mummy moment this morning at nursery. We were a little later than usual and so O went straight to breakfast. He sits and feeds himself his weetabix on a little chair at the tables with the older babies (mostly 18mo+) and no longer sits in the little wooden high chairs!!

Right can I make this post any more self indulgent??!

I'll be back to catch up this evening as DH away all night. Hope you all have great days.

oops! I think I scared you all off with my post this morning

ses - I'm here! Only just arrived though, been on the phone to my sister for ages. Read your other thread too, no adviceI'm afraid, just best wishes for whatever happens. Hoep you DH is ok,and not too stressed, and I hope you aren't too stressed by it all too.

grumpy - hmmmm, nausea? Heartburn? Interesting....

sausage hope you are feeling better.

fi welcome back! Sounds like you had a fab time.

febes - every day?! . I was impressed that we've managed twice in three weeks.

Hello flip!
Thanks for your words of support. DH away tonight at a works do so hope he's enjoying himself!
Hope you had a good chat with your sister.
I'm impressed with twice in 3 weeks!

I'm here!

Ses, how fab about O - not surprised you were proud. They are growing up fast. And, having to take your passport makes your new role sound very posh indeed!

momi, I'm with you with the and re Febes and every day.... am sure we're still in single figures post-F! Are you sure you're ok though, momi, thinking about your comment about still feeling a bit depressed?

pula, llare, we struggle with getting F to sleep without feeding / patting / being there. He'll go sometimes but not others. He fights going to sleep so much that it makes it tricky. He's also quite an awake baby - he kind of sleeps through but will play / cry in his cot for an hour before sleeping and often refuses to nap in the day - plus is usually up for the day before 5am... So, it's been interesting reading your experiences and tips.

belgina, saw your facebook status... Oh no, nightmare! At least you got to see C before bed.

no time for any more as I am determined to finish my glass of wine before bed. Meant to be on hols this week and feel I have achieved nothing yet am shattered. Oh well.

sorry, x posts

Hi Flip and Ses

We've managed once this week. Can't remember the last time before that tbh, but I have high hopes for the next few days!!

Hi everyone,

grumpy Poor you. Hope those dreadful gallstones don't bother you too much today and tonight.

ses I get that little voice too. So much so that when someone from my a/n group got pregnant with dc2 first I was secretly very annoyed. I'm like that with lots of things and try to keep it to myself. I suppose these mummy olympics type feelings are pretty normal
I also agree that it sounds like it's not right to TTC just yet (even though your hormones say it is). You want to bring dc2 into a happy healthy relationship, not one where there is some underlying tension. I also think it's a great idea to go out just the 2 of you and have some couple time, rather than family time. DH and I had some of that when the ap went away 2 weekends ago and it was the start of slightly more regular relations happening. We have probably done 'it' more in these last 2 weeks, than the year before that together. Though nowhere near daily like febes

fi Welcome back in the UK. Sounds like you had a great time. Looking forward to some pics on f/b

llare Hurrah about G's mamoth sleep. t's nice when they do that! Especially after many months of broken sleep.

reebee How are you? Cumbria really isn't having a good time lately, is it?

Not the bestest of days for me today. I stupidly took the drug cupboard keys home and only discovered it as I walked through the door. I was supposed to finish at 5, worked until 5.20, because there was some confusion as to who would relieve

Hello ReeBee
Once a year would be good here atm
I'm wondering whether if I sort out some contraception, that will help...
Enjoy your wine

Oh gosh, xpost flip reebee & ses

Oh hello Belgina too!
How annoying about the keys. We have that at work with the keys to the Controlled Drugs cupboard but at least working in a shop we attach a security tag to them so if someone leaves the shop with them, the alarm goes off by the door!