Sept 08: How do we like our eggs in the morning? Fertilised, or completely and most definitely unfertilised?

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they are all in the same family- basically all stoned fruit plus apples and pears. I get swollen itchy lips, an itchy sore mouth and the last couple of times have started feeling it in my throat too. I 1st noticed it last summer but it's got worse. My mum (whos's a doctor) googled it and read up on it on some journals and reports online. Seems it's becoming more common than nut allergies in children and can be quite serious.

My friend gets really bad eczema on her hands when she cuts them up for her son. She can eat cherries when they're cooked though but not raw.

Thanks for those links meglet how are you today?

Sis can quite happily scoff apple crumble, pie, turnovers. Cooked fruit is fine, just raw is bad.

Popping back in to catch up.

Meglet am so sorry. Be kind to yourself and don't try to be superwoman. Not alot else to say without sounding patronising so i won't. I lost my dad when I was 17 after a long illness so I feel for you.

Fanny big hugs and hope DD is getting better - yep, don't we just seem to fret and worry more than they do?!
And whatever happens, you will cope - you just will. Lean on whoever you need to, forget the house as long as its safe and functional and concentrate on you, new baby and DD. I bet you surprise yourself with what you can do.
I didn't get a room after my c section but did get put into the transitional care room cos I had Strep B during labour - basically a room of max 4 beds, each with its own post natal nurse. That really helped.
But, yeah, cry and cry some more. I can't remember if you've had a section with DD, if not - get up as soon as you can and get in the shower.

Thanks for all the comments about sudocrem and bits. I hope i didn't offend you lollipop. I have strong views about DD's right to her own body due to terrible issues with my own mum (staunch catholic - 'you don't need to know anything and keep away from bits').
I am just happy that she's not unusual in investigating bits and also routines.
We generally don't have the sort of poos that she can get her hand into (TMI ) but on the odd occasion it 'spreads', I would rather she didn't investigate those!!

I'm currently trying to distract her from wanting sudocrem on her bits every night. She fell and skinned her knees for the very first time at the weekend plus the cat scratched her thigh, so we're putting a dab on those war wounds every night on the understanding that once they go, we stop the sudocrem. That's the theory anyway!

I don't know what to call her bits. Vagina sounds so clinical. Willy is a nice term and wish there was the equivalent for girls. Fanny was used by boys at my school as a derogatory term so i don't like it. Hmmmm.

And I do love DP but we have different views on some things. We had a row last night cos he is a bit of an obsessive with tidying up after tea and I'd rather clean stuff up after C's in bed - working FT means every minute at night is precious. i also am more relaxed about mess than he is. He hates it when, for example, I blow bubbles in the house (which C adores) and insists we go outside. Sigh.

MrsArch we also use colloquial terms for bits and after much discussion we came up with todger for boys and foufou for girls so that is what ours call them.

I'm with you on the tidying up once DCs are in bed too. I get so little time with my two (no more than 2 hours in the evening) that I love just focussing on them.

Meglet, thinking of you and your family . Your dad sounds like such a nice bloke and grandad. I think it's lovely how you'll be supporting your children, and I hope you can all take comfort in the many good memories. xxx

Meglet poor you, thinking of you lots and sending you good thoughts and things.

Have been reading the taking charge of your fertility book. I knew most of the stuff, but it was good to have a refresher course, iykwim. My cycles are so clockwork that there's not a lot of guesswork involved, but I think I might start temping just to take the guesswork out of whether I'm ovulating or not.

In other news, DS is walking. All by himself. For the first time. He is 20 months. He suddenly decided at about 6pm yesterday that he'd had enough of crawling, pushed himself up onto his feet and started toddling around. It was so cool! I've been pretty relaxed about it (he seemed perfectly fine, and he's always been incredibly cautious, so I figured he was just nervous, as he's been cruising for months now), but nonetheless it's a relief to see him finally walking all on his own two feet! Pictures here for a short time only, if you want to be impressed by the amazing non-walking child actually walking.

Oh and Fanny sorry to hear about your poor DD, but glad she's home and happier now.

Yay!! Go T!!! Fab news hopefully - just reminds me how they all get there in their own time one way or the other. Now the fun begins and you'll be running after him 24/7 before you know it

He is seriously cute! Must post a few more photos myself.

Off to start packing spreadsheet for our hols in 2 weeks - off to Scotland to a log cabin with a hottub. Wayhay! Now just need to convince demand DP to leave the condoms at home

much sympathy meglet. fanny - having been put in a private room after giving birth, I'd actually prefer to be on a ward next time - less chance of being left without help. My room wasn't en suite though, and the 4-bed rooms looked quite nice, usually with 3 women in and lots of space, so with curtains about the same amount of privacy (given how many people came barging in!)
Glad dd is better now.

Managed to put one photo on profile. more to follow. night night

Meglet So sorry to hear about your Dad.

My friend was allergic to fruit skins and he suffered really badly with them. Usually because he was stubborn and woulod always leave it till later before he went to hospital. It did almost get fatal once but his gf rang for an ambulance and they got to him just in time.
Once you know about the allergy you can do things to prevent them taking hold, he was just an idiot who didn't like making a fuss.

Hopefully great that T is walking is that all of our LO's who are mobile now.

Congrats to hopefully's ds, hooray!

fanny I'm so sorry your dd has been ill You know what things to ask for and what help you need in hosp after the c-section, so badger away! There are some lovely midwives in there! Giving your dd a sibling and playmate will make it all worth it, I promise

meglet I'm so sorry about your dad, you cry away, we're here with you

I totally have that allergy too, my mum just thought I was a freak! I'd love to know the name for it! Its only very mild - for example if I eat raw pepper or tomato then my lips swell up, but if they're dipped in hummous then I'm fine I also can't eat plums, cherries (they're the very worst) or nectarines, but some apples and pears are ok. I'm also allergic to walnuts, but no other nut. The fruit thing is mostly my lips that are itchy, but the walnuts made the whole of the inside of my mouth sting and itch. I had some chewing gum though and the allergy stopped immediately. Very interesting to know how widespread this allergy is though, as both dcs have had breathing issues when ill in the past, and ds had eczema, and dh and I both have mild asthma.

We've been at my parents for the week as its my brother's wedding tomorrow. This is the first time we've been down since last July so there have been lots of people to catch up with. I'm seeing three different school friends today, one in the morning, one in the afternoon and one in the evening. There's going to be a lot of babyccinos consumed by the dcs! The dcs are sharing a room for the first time while we're away, its hilarious listening to them 'chat' at bedtime and in the morning, but I think they're both a bit sleep deprived now! They saw their great grandpa yesterday, which for ds was the first time, so we got the 4 generations photo ready for scrapbooking!

btw they're willy bits or girly bits in this house!

hopefully Thats a seriously cute kid you have there!

meg Thinking of you x

carrie Have fun at the wedding!

mrsarch Remind me again how many dc you have??? Am getting seriously broody myself I know I cant have any more.....physical issues (I have put all the weight I lost back on, my back is really bad, I am still having gynae issues from having ds2 etc etc), money issues (we really cant afford another and we cant move house as we are doing this one up over the summer) and I worry what the effect on ds1 and ds2 would be. Last pregnancy was hard and ds1 was at school most of the time!

I am so thankful that I didnt give up and had ds2 but maybe I need to be sensible now???? I will be 38 in october FGS!!!

sigh....

I thought I was a freak too Carrie, noone belived me until I told my mum. I also react to walnuts (which isn't a problem as they are bogging anyway). I'll try and find some of the stuff my mum found but what I can remember of what she said is- it's the same protein that's in birch pollen so you'll be allergic to that too, it could be linked to a vitamin C deficiency as sometimes the reaction can lessen when taking Vit C tablets, it's only raw fruit, tinned fruit is ok as it's been heat treated, if you start feeling it in your throat you need to be careful as that shows it's getting worse, having tiny bits might help de-sensitise you. Oh and it's called Oral allergy syndrome
article news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/7988483.stm
this is my 1 although questionnaire not great www2.warwick.ac.uk/fac/sci/whri/fruitallergy/findyour/pr10page/

sorry I put the text before the info instead of after.
bbc article
more info

Yes my friend is allergic to walnuts too.

Just thought I'd let you know something we found out by accident in case it ever comes in useful.

A few years ago DH had a really bad reaction to an oyster. He started going red and then his face started swelling up. I rang the OOO doctor who was useless and then rang an ambulance. While they were on their way DH was thirsty and the only thing we had to drink, apart from water, was some coke - which I gave him. When the paramedics arrived he was almost back to normal. I felt like a total fraud and that I'd wasted their time so was apologising when one of them asked me if I'd given him any coke. I said 'yes' and she told me that coke can calm down allergic reactions and it's always the best thing to give if someone if having one.

One of DD's nursery nurses collared me yesterday to tell me she acts like she's the oldest child in the room even though she's almost the youngest. Yes I have the bossy kid!

bookmarking...

....I'm not coming back until I have checked OFSTED reports for DS's infant school which I need to sort out in the Autumn.

These reports are distorted in favour of nice areas / pushy parents aren't they? I can see a trip to the estate agent coming along . We're buggered as the centre of town schools aren't as nice....

hopefully yay for your DS walking. He will have fun now the summer is finally here.

Meglet I found the OFSTEDs useful but only in conjunction with looking at results, visiting the schools and talking to teachers and parents.

We have a bit of a drama going on here. Two window cleaners are trapped in their cradle and we have four fire engines blocking the street, two ambulances and the building is full of firemen!

Well, I tried to call the schools to arrange a time to pop round (am off all next week and the dc's are at nursery ) but I forgot it was half term. Doh.

So I mowed the front garden instead.

D&S Are the window cleaners safe now?

Meglet the school might have an open day organised but will probably not be until the autumn if you don't need to apply until then. Have you looked on the school's website?

I'm assuming they are as the fire engines seem to have gone but I haven't had a message from the gym (they had to close the gym as it is right below where they were hanging).

AIBU to be cross that my dad told me, in front of dd, that dd is 'a bloody nuisance'????
To be fair its my brother's wedding tomorrow and emotions are high, and dd was in mega whinge mode. But still. Pah. More red wine needed methinks.