New, bright and shiny MARCH 2005 thread

[ZoeC]

Thought this was about due, hope that's okay

Well, no solids here (forget who asked that, sorry) - except she licked my finger when I was pureeing some apple but I don't think that really counts ). I have icecubes of carrot, apple and pear ready in the freezer though but really she's fine on milk and I'm in no rush.

She's now all formula fed though - we did mix feed for a bit but she quickly forgot how to draw the hind milk so was getting less and less from me, plus we got thrush again so I really wasn't sorry to finish to be honest. I much prefer the routine we can have now and am just pleased she got 4 months of breast first. It really was as much as I could do and stay sane.

She is such a smiley baby it's untrue - you only have to glance her way and she beams, it's so nice to see. She naps better too - 2/3 hours in the afternoon plus a small nap in the morning - and that helps her be happier I'm sure. She was 15lb a couple of weeks ago by the way.

She's 4 months, 1 week and 3 days old today.

Cristina well done and good luck misdee with the driving.

I keep meaning to take rebecca swimming as I'm sure she'd love it but I haven't figured out how I'd manage two of them in the pool and changing room yet, maybe I'll talk dh into going with us at the weekend - that'd help. Dd1 is so lively and into everything I'd probably lose her while looking after dd2.

bonym your hol sounds fantastic!!!!
we off to spain on saturday.......not quite the seychelles but always good for ideas. wherabouts did you go?

I feel so alone at the moment. I feel like I've known you alland you are my friends, you don't judge and you offer advice when needed. So I felt I had to tell you all I don't know wether I will be coming here anymore, and why.

My husband has confessed to having an affair. It has devastated me, I don't know what to do. I feel like my whole life, everything I believed in has been destroyed. I don't know how to carry on, I know I have to for my girls. I told him to leave and he went yesterday. I said I need time and space to come to terms with it, and to think about my options.

Every part of my family, my life has been affected by this; my milk has dried up , I am so so sad about this, breastfeeding was a comfort to me too. In two weeks I have to take both DDs 1 and 2 to school and callect them - he was having an affair with my friend, DD1s best friends mother. They have both lied to me, decieved me and my children. Her husband called me last night and shouted at and threatened me, because she told him that I had called her and was making threats against her and her family..... I'm just not that sort of person. She told him an outright lie. Haven't I been punished enough for being a soft, gullible person?

I'm 28, I have 3 beautiful daughters, I have been so very happily married for 7 1/2 years. I have no mum to talk to, she died when I was 19. I can't stop crying, I don't know how to cope with this. Sorry for rambling, it just helps.

Thankyou for sharing the happy times, the births and developement of our lovely babies. I wish you all well. xx

I have gone cold reading your post 3mummy and I'm in tears. I am so sorry, this is heartbreaking. I can't imagine what you have been going through. You have also become a friend and I hope you don't leave us.

3mummy please don't leave! What you are going through at the moment sounds terrible, but surely it will help to talk about it with others who are not directly involved and will be able to offer you some support. Really feeling for you and hope somehow that you can sort something out. LOL

3mummy, that is just awfull. I can't imagine what you are going through but please don't leave us if you can, I'm sure everyone will feel the same in wanting to be there for you. You have friends here and you can share your thoughts with us. Take care of yourself and your girls. xx

3mummy, I have only been posting for a few weeks but everyone has been so friendly and welcoming and this has been a great comfort and support to me. I cried when I read your news as I can only imagine how hurt/angry/sad you must be feeling. If you need timeaway to think things through, we all understand.

I hope this situation eventually works out in the way that is best for you and your girls, whether that is with your husband or without. The days ahead will be long, hard times and I hope you will come back to us whenever you need a shoulder to cry on. We are all here for you xxxx

3mummy, I have tears in my eyes reading your post. I am so upset for you. You always come across as such a lovely, warm person and you do not deserve this. I can only echo what others have said - please don't go if you think we can help in any way. You know we are all here for you and will be any support that we can. (((((HUGS))))) XX

3Mummy, I know I have not posted on here for a whiIe but really do hope that you will read this.

I remember when we all were pregnant and all came in here for confort, companionship and just for a laugh sometimes. We were all there for each other, we shared the good days and those days that were oh not so good. We have all seen each other through birth and even after.

What I am trying to say is that you are one of the people on here that has been there for others, please don't leave now when you need us to be there for you.

I don't know if what I have typed makes sense, but please don't go let us be there for you. ((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))))))

oh 3mummy
dont leave.....please stay
cant imagine how you are feeling

xxxx

Thanks Bonym and Busywizzy for the words of encouragement I think that however painfull it is, it will do him more good than harm

cant imagine how things are for you, but please dont stop posting. if u ever ened to vent about anything then do it.

so sorry to hear this.

xx

oh 3mummy please don't go i have not posted for ages but feel really bad for you.

i can't imagine how terrible you must be feeling but please accept some support from us even if its just listening, rant away!

3mummy I am so sorry to hear your news.

I only found the boards a few months ago and they have been a great help in that time.

Please stay the boards, and all who use them are hear to help if we can. Please just vent if you need to. Dont lose this outlet.

Talk to us and we will listen.

Niklas is 6 months old today.

We are going on holiday tomorrow (for 2 weeks) so will be offline for a while.

3Mummy - will be thinking of you and your girls. xxxx

worst nightmare 3mummy. so awful. i reaally hope you find friends to talk to or talk it through with a therapist maybe. you must try and stay posting with mumsnet, talking is so important. my heart goes out to you

Hello everyone, hope you are all well.

I have had a horrible week with Harrison as he has been very poorly (which I put down to teeth but who knows really?). He has had a high temperature, been off his milk/food, has been VERY VERY grumpy, difficult to settle at night and VERY VERY unsettled during the night. For the past three nights, I have been up with him at 1.00am and it has taken me between 30 minutes upto two hours to settle him back to sleep. He's then woken again anytime between 4.00 and 6.00am when I've fed him and again, it's taken between 30 minutes to an hour to settle him again. In between times, he fusses a lot and cries in his sleep, all of which keeps me awake.

On top of that my DD has been waking at 5.00am and not wanting to go back to sleep. AAAARRRGGGHH

I feel like an absolute wreck , I am sooooo down thinking Harrison is never going to go through the night (even though he was doing so every second or third night for about two weeks) and I'm finding the days hard dealing with a grumpy baby who cries all the time and a daughter who wants my attention to enjoy the last weeks of her summer holiday before school starts again.

I know it's 'just a phase' but it's sometimes hard to keep that in mind when you've had virtually no sleep. Sorry to moan but I don't really feel DH understands how hard this sometimes is (big smiles for daddy when he comes home so I'm sure he thinks I'm exaggerating ). I also feel bad knowing that people like 3mummy have things a million times more difficult but I think sleep deprivation makes you go a bit mad and you can't think rationally.

Anyway, end of the rant. Hope all your babies are lovely (and aren't teething!!).

buzywizzy - sorry to hear you're having a hard time atm. Sleep deprivation is so awful, I know - it makes you (well, me anyway!) really irritable, grouchy, forgetful etc., and yes, also a bit mad ). I'm sure things will improve. As we all know by now, our babes' behaviour, sleep patterns etc. can change daily. That's the only certain thing!
Grace is currently fast asleep in her cot and I should be getting on with housework (or at least doing something with ever-patient dd1 ) so I must get off this computer!!

Goodness what a lot of messages.

3mummy - how appalling - please keep posting, we'll be thinking of you.

I have just a few minutes to type as dp has taken the two dd's off to the playground. We had an amazing 2 1/2 weeks in the north of Spain. Totally recommend it for babies and kids. We couldn't move without Iris being clucked over and adored. And dd1 (3 yrs) loved the sea, sand and ice-creams. Plus the weather was perfect - mostly sunny but not too hot.

Now back in London and trying to get lots of jobs done whilst dp is still on school summer hols.

Iris is gorgeous - 5 1/2 months, chubby, loves rolling around, laughs at her sister's antics - BUT is a total monster at night. Often she wakes every 2-3 hours after being put down at 7.30pm, and often from 5.30 am is not keen to sleep at all, even with me bfeeding her to sleep in our bed. A bit of a shock, since dd1 was doing 12 hours without waking at this age! Anyway, I tell myself it is just a phase.

She's still exclusively bfed - planning solids to start on her 6 month birthday on 9th September. She's certainly showing no signs of wasting away in the meantime. In fact I keep getting back trouble from carting her about!

Loved reading everyone's news - I should be around more now (I keep saying that!), no more holidays planned, plus we have our broadband set up at home.

3mummy, please keep posting don't let everything build up inside you. Can't even begin to imagine what your going through

Caleb is 6 months old and on 3 meals a day. He likes fruit and am going to give him some of my trout tonight. Am jealous of everyone who's just had a lovely holiday! My purse was found the other day, it was on a motorway, had been thrown out the back of a car along with an old ladies purse. Had everything in it apart from the money so I got my pictures and cards back

Pidge, you sounded so upbeat in your post about Iris and her sleeping at night, that I've given myself a good talking to. I have been repeating often during the day 'Harrison is a good baby, he is just poorly at the moment and will settle again'. I did say sleep deprivation is making me go a bit mad

Last night was actually much better as whatever was wrong with him, I think he is starting to get over. No high temperature today and no grizzling . Last night he went to bed really easily, slept from 7.00pm until 3.30am and even then I could hear he was trying to settle himself back to sleep but didn't seem able to. I went to check on him and as I approached the cot, the smell was an instant give-away as to why he couldn't get back to sleep!!!!! I therefore tried to change him as low-key as possible BUT .... it was the humdinger of all nappies and had gone up his back, down his legs, over his vest and even onto his sleeping bag. So we had to do a complete strip by which time he was wide awake. I did wonder at 4.00am what on earth possessed me to want another baby (note to everyone who is thinking about this), but he went back to sleep no problem once he was all clean and slept through until 7.30am

Today he is back to his usual happy, smiley self although still sicky and another three yucky nappies, although nothing on the scale of his nightime effort.

Sending sleep vibes to everyone , especially Iris

Shalaa, so glad you got your purse back with your pictures.

3Mummy - I don't know what to say, I hope you have got through this week ok. Please keep posting as soon as you feel up to it. LOL.

Have been checking out the holiday destinations - Seychelles, Spain. Well, we are off to the Isle of Wight! Doesn't really sound quite so glamorous, does it? I am really looking forward to it and I am sure that DS1 will love it.

Freya is doing well, and we are going to start her on some food soon. She is sleeping well at night, goes to bed at 7pm and sleeps thru til about 5am when she has a feed in bed with us and then we all doze off again until DS1 comes and jumps on the bed! She is really happy through the day too. A friend of mine said that she 'just lights up the room with her smile' - which was just the nicest thing to say.

Hope everyone has a great bank holiday weekend.

Pidge - harry is the same with sleep......the night before last, he woke at
9pm, 10:20, 12:30, 1:30, 2:30, 3:30, 4:20 5:15 thnen ds1 was up at 5:45 for the day !!!!!!

I starte dhim on some baby rice the other day - 25 weeks......wanted to wait for one more week but i am back at work next friday so i figured i had better get cracking.
harry can sit up for about 15 seconds.....though he has only rolled once...

OMG Popsycal, I will never moan about Harrison's sleeping ever again !! You are a saint.

Good luck with going back to work. I'll be crossing that hurdle after Xmas. I remember from DD how hard it was juggling everything and that was with just one.

Hope Harry sleeps better tonight >

busywizzy - I'm not always so stoical about Iris and her sleeping. Right now my dp's on his 6 week summer hols, so that helps keep me mellow. It is a real shock to have an insomniac baby after our dd1 and her magnificent 12 hour nights. Just recently Iris has been doing a bit better - going down at 7pm and not waking for the first feed till 2am. But I'm not getting too hopeful, there was a whole week in Spain when she did 8-10 hours, and then inexplicbly went back to waking every 2-3 hours. Boo hoo!