Dec 08 Mums - Terrible twos already? Tears, tantrums, tiaras and tractors - and the rest!

[Beans33]

Hope this is better - sorry all!

Effie - DD can't stand up Or if she can she waits until I'm not around

Lady: glad you made up. Hope the scan and appt go well tomorrow. I was booted by ds1 regularly in my second pg and all was fine. Do make sure you rest enough tho and get DP to help out with the physical stuff as Veggie says. Will dd suffer being changed standing up?

Beans: I'm sure you're fine re the pate but keep an eye on the swelling - am sure it's just the heat but worth mentioning to your mw. You're not getting headaches or anything?

Oh Beans that weekend sounded lovely but poor you having to be worried about listeria. I'm sure it will be fine, you only had a little and even though uncoiled foods carry a higher risk it is still quite rare to contract it. I'm sure you'll be fine. Have a chat with your MW tomorrow. I can't believe you've 2 months to go, oh how exciting I really am looking forward to all these new babies.

Lady sorry to hear about the argument but glad you two sorted it out already. Hope the scan is all well as I'm sure it will be. We have the same struggles here with the nappy changes but the little car of your dd's that my ds seemed to smuggle into my bag has proved a nice distraction (must get that back to you next time!) DS regularly climbs on me and boots me accidently - I'm sure they are pretty protected in there.
I don't have the sensitivity with the scar, but I've heard it can be there for quite some time.
Beans glad you had a nice time at Danesfield The pate shouldn't be a problem - I've had runny eggs two days in a row, cooked ham almost every day this week, raw mushrooms, goats cheese, and all that - not to mention the odd cheerfulness! All in moderation I say.

Where is Summer?

Have done quite a great deal of nothing today. That said - it did start off quite productive. DS was upstairs and not wanting to come down after a nap so played with toys while we could hear him on the monitor. After about 15 mins dh went to get him and he had poooed and it had somehow come out of his nappy and was smeared on the carpet in the hall! I had an old vomit stain up there anyway, so I ended up shampooing the whole upstairs and ds had a very early bath

Kiwi hope the foot is on the mend

Veggie - very cute about your ds trying out the mattresses! And the neighbours -you seem to get so involved in the community and have done really well getting to know people around you over there. I have lived here 8 months and only seen the neighbours a handful of times and they have just tonight said they want to have us over very soon - actually they have said that before but it never happened - perhaps we are unapproachable

PS Beans that was hilarious re your trip with the ex boyfriend and the G-string!

Hi everyone,
beans you do make me laugh....sorry but that g-string bikini story was a tale worth of Bridget Jones. Haha! I wouldn't worry about the pate, part of the reason they say not to eat pate is cos it has vitamin A in it isn't it? Which I think is a) probably more worrying in early pregnancy and b) not really a problem if you have a little bit as a one off. I think the listeria risk is vv small.

ladyt glad you made up with DP. Good luck with appt tomorrow, I am sure all will be fine. I am always getting booted too. In fact DS was biting my stomach the other day, the little monkey. My scar sort of hurts as well, well I can feel it, also it gets itchy from time to time, i think with it stretching.

veggie bed sounds amazing. Can you post a pic??

Hello rubes I am here!!! Just had a busy weekend, been out all day with friends today and bimbling around town yesterday (was chaos and full of sodding tourists in Cambridge!). Yuk to the pooey start to the day, but at least something useful came of it re the cleaning.

Rubes, PLEASE keep the car as a gift from my DD to your DS, if he likes it. She still has the other one and my Mum (who bought them) tells me she has bought her another two Seriously, the child does not need four.

Off to bed and off to town quite early tomorrow. Will be lurking (though harder on my new Blackberry as not quite got browsing sussed) but not posting for a couple of days. Be good, all!

Hello Summer, x-posted. Glad it's not just me with the scar. It itches sometimes but the area is just kind of sensitive. It looks great, (ha, well, for a scar) but pressure on it doesn't feel nice. I haven't got testicles, obviously, and the kick I had this morning wasn't as bad as a kick in the balls but it certainly took my breath away. If it had been an accident I wouldn't have been cross but she was actually trying to kick me in temper. These babies, they are tinkers sometimes. Biting I haven't suffered yet though, poor you (the pinching is bad enough).

I feel your pain about tourists in Cambridge - Oxford in the summer is pure purgatory (sorry tourists).

Yes, Beans, that was a very funny anecdote about the swimming cozzie. Only you.

Oh, and Veggie, what's uncoiled food? SOunds frightful.

Morning all! Thanks for your thoughts, definitely on the mend. DH managed to get yesterday off and today DD is at nursery so will have a nice calm day. DD was angelic on Saturday an absolute horror yesterday, I may start calling her BabyJeykll or BabyHyde... LadyT she often lashes out when grumping, DH currently has a massive scratch from her fingernails from swiping him cross the nose. I say "no!" firmly but it doesn't seem to make any difference... Hope your scar/tummy is feeling better today and apointment goes well

Beans thanks for your fb message! Don't worry about listeria the odds as others have said must be miniscule. If you ate Parma ham you might fret about that, but in Italy they claim it's perfect pregnant woman food, so probably somewhere pate is considered obligatory too... Bet Japanese women don't stop eating sushi for 9 months either??

Ps uncoiled food is clearly when you get a pain au raisin and uncoil it and eat it like that. No?

So glad you're feeling better Kiwi - that's ace. And thanks for all tips from everyone on pate. I'm sure I'm just being weedy and there's nothing to worry about! Baby is kicking like mad and squiggling around, so am sure it's fine. It's been breech the last 2 visits to MW/GP, so am hoping it's turning itself round to the proper position! It's got 9 weeks to sort itself out!

Rubes - yucky poo everywhere - but I imagine carpet shampoo v satisfying! DD did a poo in the bath this weekend for DH. She's never done it for me - hahahah!

LadyT - I've just seen that John Lewis ad you mentioned earlier. I had a tear in my eye! Probably cos I turned the sound down, but still...

ladyt Sorry to hear about your row with DP but good to hear that you have made upthough. As for DD kicking you in your scar, well mine does sometimes hurt. So it could well be that - hopethe consultant appointment goes well,

kiwi glad you are on the mend.

beans Your swimsuit story was brilliant! So funny. Also I think the pate is fine, agree with Ladyt and rubes a bit in moderation will be fine imo.

DS fails to comprehend the word 'no'. Just grins. He has also turned into a bitter, well he would if I ket him but he finds it so funny. I'm terrified he will bite another child.

Oh it's lovely having DD back - hurray! I've missed her. Now I'm going to have a coffee to celebrate.

Daisy - how do you deal with biting? My Mum told me I should bite DD back if she bites me - which she hasn't yet. Not sure if that's a bit harsh... But she doesn't really listen to "no" - she finds it funny. Hmmm. It's a tough one to know what to do.

beans I shout at DS and don't look amused if he giggles when he bites me. I think he does understand but he still does it from time to time.

Also I think biting her back is very harsh!

I agree, SL - would be awful! They're far too little to understand why you're hurting them!

My friend's mum proudly told her that when my friends DD had pulled her hair, she had pulled it back hard (while she was babysitting) and she hadn't done it again! My friend was furious! So maybe it's what our parents were told to do at this age - but I am not convinced on it as a) I don't want to hurt him, and if I do it gently he'll think it's funny (I often nibble his fingers and he thinks it's hilarious) b) Not convinced on the message - I bite you too when I'm annoyed. Hmmm.....

Beans thats what my mum said to do! Having said that I very much doubt she would bite him if he bit her.

Sometimes he does it through temper (of which he has a shocker when he's ina mood). But a lot of the time he thinks its part of the game. I tend to say 'no' loudly and then physically move him somewhere and sit him facing the wall. This will work sometimes and others he just crawls straight back to me and tries again

Oh and DD has her pre school boosters this afternoon. She will scream the surgery down, not sure how they will actually do it...any one with older DC's got any tips?

Ihave tried to explain its so she won't get sick (and bribed her with sweets as a treat if she is calm) but she is adamant she isn't going as it will hurt her legs like it hurt DS when he had his (sa wish I hadn't taken her now!!)

Daisy I told DS1 the same & offered the treats afterwards he did it begrudgingly. However, Hes a sucker for the 'oh your such a brave boy' routine. he was with me for DS2's last jabs and found the whole deal very traumatic, in a 4 year old boy drama kind of way, head in hands, crying his eyes out. I now need to take him for more imms including a hep B series of jabs (3 over 6 months) I think the treats & the non sickness/courageous big boy deal is going to be tested. I have mentioned to DH that maybe it's his turn to go with the boys for jabs.

I can't believe the lady pulling the friends child hair thing, I'd be furious! I had a friend who had said the bitting back thing worked for her dsis but she was at the end of her tether with her DS's biting, literally black & blue from it. I kind of think we are against smacking and in a way it's similar really a violent approach to reducing behaviour and would I imagine be almost done out of anger which always ends with the parent feeling really bad (says she who smacked her DS once and was in floods of tears after)

Daisy that's what I do - I do a sort of raised pointy finger when I say 'no' as well IYSWIM. I know she understands because usually she looks at me and her lower lip starts wobbling. Yesterday she stuck it out so far in a pouty way that I started laughing at her, poor thing was rather confused by the mixed signals there!

Beans so sweet that you are so excited to see adorable BabyBeans. Hope she enjoys her coffee

My Mum also advised biting DS back when he bit me which I wasn't keen on. I never did that, but we did have an incident when he bit me really hard on my bare lower leg. It hurt so much that I instinctively smacked him quite hard . I am against smacking on prinicipal but this gave me such a shock that it was kind of an automatic reaction. He never bit me again, but I am definitely not avocating that as the answer.
Beans was Whizz pleased to see you, or did she ignore you like mine does if I leave her for any length of time? Also, don't fret too much about the pate, everything in moderation as others have said. By the way, a pregnant friend of mine told me the other day that Mr Whippy ice-cream carries a risk of listeria, that's something I never knew.
Daisy with pre-school boosters I was very honest with DS and told him that it would hurt for a few minutes but that it meant he would not get any awful diseases which would hurt much more and for much longer. He was very good about it and got a special treat afterwards. Unfortunately, he gets more upset than DD when I take her for her jabs!
Lady have a nice time in London and try and enjoy your trip. My CS scar doesn'thurt any more but it does sometimes each and I still haven't got allthe feeling back around it.
One week of not smoking - yay! It has been a struggle and I am finding it particularly hard when I pop over to see my Mum (almost every day) as she is and always has been a heavy smoker. However I have managed to resist temptation so far. The real test will be this Friday when I am in London and meeting up for a drink with a few old friends. Drinking and smoking go hand in hand for me.
I have a new job! As well as carrying on with my freelance PR I am going to be helping out a local millionaire businessman in his office two mornings a week. It's just filing and typing and trying to organise him a bit, but it will be good to be doing something out of the house for a change. It does mean that I have to get DD properly settled at the CM's fast though.
I can't remember,butisanyone on here a taxspecialist? I need some advice on Capital Gains Tax, but don't really know where to start...
Must get on with some work now whilst DD is still asleep x

Advocate, not avocate, and itch, not each, and apologies for my space bar's temper!