Dec 08 Mums - Terrible twos already? Tears, tantrums, tiaras and tractors - and the rest!

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Hope this is better - sorry all!

Aubs that's priceless, just the sort of thing I would do

OOOh I know, I'll go to our private group on FB and sort it out.

Thanks for comments re my db - I'm trying not to worry by keeping busy, but terrified of a message that says 'in hospital' like last time when I hadn't heard from him for days. dh reckons to leave him be, and he will contact me when he's ready, but I'm worried he'll do something stupid or drink too much or both. Can't really control that from here thoguh can I. I even thought of going back for awhile, but kif I wasn't pregnant or have ds to think about I would. Bit of a silly thought though in my current situation. Perhaps I'll just talk to the parents again. I'm feeling better about how they are as had a long chat with Mum and instead of her trying to convince me she was very grandparenty and I had it all wrong etc, she actually admitted she's not very maternal and whilst she loves to see the kids she will never be like my mil as that's just not her - I tend to believe it has a lot to do with my dad though as she was never like that and he always was, and now they both are. But I can accept it better now that she's admitted it if that makes sense?

Girls. the MIL has left the building. I am exhaustpiped. Aubi, that is very very funny about Nick. Ha ha ha ha. I patted someone's arse in Sainsbury's once, thinking it was my then boyfriend's. A very puzzled stranger looked round, alarmed. (I think he should have been pleased!) Oh - Aubi, are you definitely going to that hen night?

Rubes, very sorry to hear about your DBro. It must be terribly worrying for you. Crossing fingers you get more positive news soon. He just sounds all worn out in his mind. M&S have a couple of nice swimsuits...and a load of gopping ones. So worth a glance, as long as you go to a big store.

More later as there were loads of other things I wanted to respond to but need to put DD to bed.

hello!
ha ha ha at aubs train scenario
And also loved the STP clips - I used to LOVE that show - thanks sybil Rubs - I think Jolly isn't on FB. About the swimming costume - I have got one you're welcome to - I've no idea what you look like or your size, but mine is a size 10 kind of tankini thing, like this style but with a blue/pink/white stripey pattern and no bows. It's been barely worn (I only swam about 3 times in my pregnancy) so you're more than welcome to it if you want it.
wg sorry you've been feeling poorly. You might find you have more energy now you've ended BF - I think I do. It's nice when it comes to a natural end, isn't it? Saves making any decisions!
Right must spend the evening with DH. He reminded me earlier that today is the 13 year anniversary of our first date!
back tomorrow hopefully xxx

Hi Trace - are you on FB?? If so I have no idea if you are, or ever were on mine I don't think you are though right? Gulp. I've really opened a can of worms here.
That is very kind of you and yes that is my usual size trace but I'm needing one with cups or pads in the bust - does it have this? I have a real high beam problem which will only be worse since my nipples have tripled in the last couple of months My knockers are not ideal for the toddler pool with the gawking dad's watching their Mums and bubs But if it has the cups or some sort of padding to squish them down to not blind people I'd love it! Only thing is I'd need to get it before Sat otherwise I'll have to buy one anyway.

I have just re-potted my tom plants and I fear the pots are still too small hmm I have no idea what I'm doing with this vege growing lark

Aaaah Lady you can relax now I think you deserve a spot of cheerfulness

Oh God Rubes, that is worrying about the ash. We are due to fly with the girls on Friday. Do you think it's safe.

I've just recounted the Nick story to DH who was frankly appalled and is now threatening to embarrass me on FB.

Talking of FB I am off to see if Rubes has culled me. You better not have Mrs.

Oh and Lady I am v pleased you are free again. I am afraid I am not going to make the hen night after all. It clashes with another party that I must attend.

How are you feeling about the end if BFing WG? Both times I experienced a mix of relief and sadness. Which reminds me that in the papers today I saw an article about how in a recent study bladder cancer patients have been successfully treated with injections of breastmilk mixed with baby's stomach acid! How amazing is that??? Adult cancer cured by baby digested breastmilk. I was gobsmacked that breast milk could do that. I mean I knew it was generally healthy but I thoughts it's benefits were comparable to something like a multi vitamin rather than a cancer cure.

oh and beans - on't worry about that much caffeine - I've had 4 coffee's (French Press) and I just had a glass of Diet Red Thunder (Aldi's answer to Red Bull) no jitters here, though I did drink a considerable amount of caffeine when not pregnant so perhaps It doesn't affect me

aubs - actually feeling fine about it, thanks for asking. but i haven't really thought about it that much. i reckon i might have a moment when i visit my friend with a newborn - i remember dh's cousin had a moment when she saw me feeding madam at 8 weeks - i didn't understand what she was going on about (she has 2 kids and isn't having more). i think a mixture of relief and sadness is about right.

so glad i didn't have that moment of knowing what the last breastfeed was - it just happened that way. it's been fine, as long as we can get her back to sleep when she wakes up, without the boob. so far so good, although last night she had a fever and she's got some tummy bug because she simply isn't eating anything which isn't cheese (and turns her nose up at that sometimes - unheard of), so dh took her downstairs for 2.5 hours last night where they watched waybuloo on iplayer (where oh where has it gone in the evenings?) and the moon before she eventually fell asleep.

and wow about the bladder cancer patients. i never knew that!

rubes - that'll show me! must. post. more.

Rubes I am totally confused re FB I thought I knew who you were but am now all a tizz as I think you are someone else. Check my profile have still got all the pics from the wedding up and then match it to my FB my initials are J . H .

Also is there absoloutely no one else your DB can talk to a close family friend it all sounds very stressful for you.

Aubs I just made DH pause Shameless (sky+) to read that out to him vv funny.

Veggie how did you get on this afternoon you are brave doing that sort of ride with the chaps.

Back in a wee bit.

Aubi you are still there too!! of course!! eeek I wish I'd never opened my big mouth Don't worry, whilst I think there is a lot that doesn't get out in the industry, there is also a lot of bollocks talked which is why I'm having my post deleted! Your airline won't take off if it's not safe
What the hecks this waybuloo thing? My 2 friends and their bubs I recently saw swear by that show so I must search it out and sky plus it!

. I am finding looking after this toddler lark Really Hard. T has pushed all my buttons today, thrown loads of tantrums, screamed and held onto me so I couldn't do anything, grinned smugly when he got what he wanted (to be carried somewhere/a different dinner/a particular DVD)... Where has my sweet baby gone???
I think I'm just being tired and prementrual and I realise I need to change my expectations but this feels like new territory and I keep feeling like I'm reacting wrong. When I gave him a completely different dinner after he turned up his nose at the first one I felt really upset and angry that I was doing it and he held all the power. I felt like the kind of mum I'd have looked at before and said "get a grip, show him who's boss etc etc". I'm not a pushover in other areas of life but feel I'm being played for a right mug at the moment.

Anyhew...rant over.

WG, glad things have worked out well with the breastfeeding, that's really nice. . Your poor DD, sorry she's feeling rough, and well done your DH for watching so much Waybuloo in the night. That is definitely above and beyond the call....T loves it, he has his own stuffed Yojojo, but is being placated with Teletubbies DVDs. He's so 1990s.

Hooray for back of MIL, Lady, I hope you have a celebratory slap up dinner and swear. Did she come out with any corkers you can relate?

Happy 13th date anniversary, Trace! Veggie, I'm glad DS2 is a bit better, you really are an inspirational mummy. We are very lucky to have you on this thread .

Oh, and well done on the fags Katie, you must have a very clean house by now. I should start again and then stop, if only to get some chores done.

And thanks everyone for the itchy measles rash advice, I bought some aqueous calamine cream in the end and that seems to have helped. Done fuck all for his attitude, mind .

Oh, and I stupidly joined Twitter. Why? I have nothing to say and it's hard enough to keep up on here and FB. Div.

spot - i have no wise words, but wanted to say i'm so sorry things are so tricky with T. a lot of the time i've had to let go of the idea i had in my head of what a mum should be, and just go with the flow. give a second meal, just pick the food up from teh floor, give another biscuit etc etc. it's not how i thought parenthood would be. good luck, hon - we've all been there.

speaking of which madam has now set off on a right rant. must go.

spot - P was being such a whiney whinerson at tea time that I gave her 2 chocolate digestives just so she'd stop whining and clinging to me so that I could actually make some tea, which she then refused to eat - no doubt because she'd just eaten 2 chocolate digestives - so I gave her 2 yoghurts for tea instead! This whole assertion of independance ting is hard work - I agree! P is starting to do the Pelvic Thrust when I try to get her in the buggy or car seat, so I have to use all my limbs to pin her down while i fasten the straps. And it's still feet (mine) on shoulders (hers) for nappy changes!
rubs there's a kind of support type bit inside - why don't I send it to you and you can see what you think. I'll never need it again so if it's no good just pass it on or take it to a charity shop or something? I'm not on FB (you're right!) but you could email me your address - [email protected]

Just quickly before I pop off to bed.....
That's really nice of you Trace. I will email you now x

Spot sorry about the rough time you are having. DS is no angel either - especially when tired (ask LadyT!) I was just telling a friend the other day it's silly that they say terrible two's as I think it starts at one.
I'm on Twitter but I've never tweeted - is that what the kids are calling it these days? Anyway, you're welcome to follow me - though I don't go anywhere it's just my RL name.

Rubes: I got me a carpet washer! It's the smaller cheaper Bissell and I'm sure not as effective but really light and easy to use. Several loads of v v dirty water from the downstairs carpets already. Not so good on the stains but may need to pre-treat.

I have been frantically cleaning since I got back - DH did a great job of looking after the boys but the house was filthy! And then we got an email from the lettings agents saying our quarterly inspection was on Friday and I'm at work today and tomorrow. Eek. Scrubbing kitchen this eve.

Spot: you may well find that DS gets the toddler heebiejeebies out of his system soon. Have you read Toddler Taming by Christopher Green? I found it a pretty helpful book, though I didn't agree with all of it (the way of parenting books).

WG: I'm glad bf has come to a peaceful end for you. Sorry to hear madam is ill.

Katie: how is giving up the fags going?

LadyT: hooray for MIL-shaped space!

I got back late Tues night and so the boys didn't see me until yesteday morning - I got the biggest grin ever from DS2 when he found me. Then DS1 proceeded to grass Daddy up (Daddy leaves the toothbrushes in the sink!) and demand a new fire station. Whch he didn't get. Lovely to be home .

Spot: sadly I should have typed 'sooner' rather than 'soon'!

Thanks for the kind words, folks, I do feel better about dealing the only way I know how! DP got up with T today (at 5.45, bless im) and is taking him at lunchtime so I can have lunch with the guy who will be marketing my book so feeling a bit better today. And very lucky. We put a stairgate up last night which T is livid about but at least I can mn wash up knowing he can't be getting up to too much mischief.

Your carpet washer sounds ace, Effie, I have to say I'd never heard of a quarterly inspection, never had that with any rentals we've had in the past. I guess it's not too much of a shock at the end of the year though. Very sweet reaction to your homecoming from your DSs. .

Oh, I couldn't find you on Twitter, Rubes, it is just your first and last name?

Hi Spot - yeah first and last name - nothing else. Check the spelling of my 1st name though. I searched for you but didn't know which RL name was you?
Stair gates are a fabulous invention. We have three here Top of stairs, bottom of stairs and between kitchen and living room. Two of them are self closing becasue dh can be a muppet and always leaves them open. it really annoys ds too - and the dog!What a lovely day here again!
Oh and Spot dh has been going on about some bike race either to Brighton or in Brigton or something. it's on a Friday, and since I work Fridays he said he wants to do it after I start leave. That will be from June so perhaps I can meet up with you for lunch when he does that? You will feel better about T after a day with ds and I - trust me!

Effie - glad you are enjoying your carpet washer! I love mine. In fact I need to do the milk vomit stain upstairs which has been there about 6 months now. It's very theraputic seeing all the dirty water isn't it!

Has anyone seen the Guardian today? There was this article in there. I found it quite interesting. Then there was a comment from this lady, in response. I'm inclined to agree with her. Did anyone else do a relatively strict routine? I did, but I wouldn't have left DD to cry for any length of time and am still incapable of doing it for more than a few seconds!

Has anyone seen the Guardian today? There was this article in there. I found it quite interesting. Then there was a comment from this lady, in response. I'm inclined to agree with her. Did anyone else do a relatively strict routine? I did, but I wouldn't have left DD to cry for any length of time and am still incapable of doing it for more than a few seconds!

Oops, sorry, didn't mean to post twice.