Jan 2010 babies and mummies here.....can't think of funny thread title!

[crumpette]

... sorry couldn't think of a title that didn't mention how to get orange poo out of a white vest, or how to get jiggy post partum!!!

Oh and pregnancy tests, neither of DSs showed up positive till I was 2 weeks late.
DD however... I only took the test to do the usual trick of take the test then AF starts that afternoon thus wasting my money.

Ahem.... the beautiful picture of Olivia smiling is MINE MINE MINE not Party's, who I'm sure is adorable but just not quite as adorable as MY Olivia....

crumpette I agree that the letter you recieved would be enough to put off anyone asking for help, I have worked in child protection and think it could have certainly been more sensitively handled. However, it is known that children in a domestic violence/abuse situation suffer as much even when the abuse is not directed at them and children living with a parent in a DV situation will most likely be put on the child protection register for their own safety. But of course what you needed/need is support from services to help you get out of the situation not dark threats that are counterproductive. You are an intelligent woman, from a previous post i've worked you are 24?? You sound older (in a nice way - more mature etc) in your posts, god you have your whole life to live, please do not waste any more of it with this man.

ctofn am definitely up for london meet up, I am not too far and can drive in for the day.

new I had a hideous night, ds fed 4 times between 10.30-6 and was awake from 3-4!!!! am almost dead today, and I fell asleep on the sofa only woken by ds2 telling me ds4 crying, then fed him and went to bed and only realised at 6 this morning that the sprinkler was still in in the garden and had been for 11 hours aaarrrggggghhhh!!!!!! I think he may well need to come out of his amby nest but he is going to share with ds3 and I can't put him in with him when he is waking so much as really will die if I have both of them to contend with. I hope you are feeling ok today, what do you think they may suggest for your depression? you must be having a really tough time.

Right, am off to put 2 little boys to bed, have partly cooked tea for me and big boys, still have to water plants (they did'nt get watered by the sprinkler) and do online shop, I feel like I want to stop my life and get off! hmmmm ds3 is currently shouting at me no bath please no bath please....... well I suppose he's polite at least..

party total respect to you for wanting another with the teen/baby combo

Gosh so so much to catch up on crumpette as others have said you have got your whole life ahead of you please think about what you really want. I was in a violent relationship when I had Dd at 19 and when I made the decision to leave I thought my life had ended but 10 years down the line I have two wonderful Ds's a loving Dh and a degree. Just think what you could achieve.

party another baby hope you get the results you want

ctofn Olivia is lovely what a beautiful smile.

I would be up for a meet up I could catch the train with new if she didn't mind.

Jacob is still really unwell so I have decided to leave his injections for a few months. He is on some steroid tablets to help his breathing and a different inhalor

A quick question about BLW can I still start at 6 months if Jacob isn't sitting up? there is no way he will be sitting up in 2 weeks.

Ali - as I understand it, and others do correct me if I'm wrong, they suggest BLW at 6 months because by then the baby can usually sit up reasonably well. Tbh, with Jacob's digestive problems, I wouldn't want to do finger food style weaning just yet. The whole choking thing freaks me out anyway. I'm watching Olivia like a hawk on the purees!!

party - i'm in Nottingham with ali so if it's near you then you're welcome to join us on the way down. I'm completely with you about the fear of dentists, i'm sure they are the devil reincarnated. I hope your DD is feeling better soon, loads of tlc should help

ctofn - i have just laughed out loud, thanks not only at the joke but the image of you and the bird, classic! I seem to have developed irrational fears of all animals now when they're around Jack. I saw some squirrels earlier and I was saying how cute they were but then they came right towards us and I instantly covered Jack who i was holding at the time and ran screaming that they were vermin. I really am "special"

very - would you be able to get a crib or something to go by your bed before you have to contend with both of them in the same room?

mk - i went into work today to talk to my boss about returning but his wife is in hospital and has got worse so he wasn't in. I had given them a heads up though that i want to do 3 days in the office, 1 day from home and 1 day off but i need to see if its an option and need to know sooner rather than later but we will see what happens What are you proposing to your work around going back?

crumpette - does your DP think he is in a James Bond movie or something with his stalking devices etc? Even if he was Daniel Craig IMO he's still being a loser. If you do give away your belongings then you could always get stuff from Freecycle if there is a network in London to see you through until you are back on your feet. Also, would it be an option for you to claim the benefits that you're entitled to but not currently getting and get the money put straight into a separate bank account so you can get a little nest egg?

ali - we can indeed travel down together. I would laugh if we have seen each other before or something maybe at QMC.

I went to look round a nursery today and it was the 1st one i looked round. The baby room had no atmosphere at all and there was no real interaction between the staff and babies, is that normal? I really hope not because if it is then i wont be returning to work because i thought it was shocking. Ali can you recommend any nurseries in Beeston at all because i recall that you're a nursery manager aren't you?

Hi all. That took me about half an hour to catch on everything!

party I so hope you get the result you want. I had 4 BFN with dd2 and finally got a Clear blue digital that was positive! I had a metalic taste in my mouth with dd2 and went off diet coke which is totally unheard of!

crumpette Sorry to hear you are still having a rough time. I know its not the same but I am in a dead relationship and am starting to hate dp but its easier to stay then go. I cant begin to imagine what your going through.

CTOFN Olivia is gorgeous

ali Sorry to hear the Jacob is still not well. I wouldnt BLW if he cant yet sit up. Why not start with puree and then mix in BLW when he can?

I AM BROODY!! I so want another baby and seeing that some of you are trying again makes me want to. Dp has said no! DD1 will be 2 next month and we only have a 2 bedroom house.

Plus, I am looking into home educating dd's so not sure how that will change things!

Babymoo was weighed yesterday - 14lb 7oz at 14 weeks!! She is now in some 6 -9 month clothes!!

I am eating like a horse at the mo but am down to 15st 3oz! Since I have uped my eating babymoo is sleeping through the night!

I loved the part about the 'fannies' on mn! I have ventured to other parts of mn recently but have been careful! There are some twonks on here that really get me wound up so I choose what I read with care!

Off to bed now to watch a film and knit! Yes, I have started knitting! I find I am getting bored now and am looking for things to do. Im not very good though and keep ending up with holes in things and an extra 10 cast on things half way through! Dd1 thinks its funny that I am making a flag ?!

new I don't really know any nurseries in Beeston but I will ask around for you it would be really funny if we had already met last time we went to queens I was looking for someone with a little baby lol

Thanks for the advice re weaning I think I'm going to start introducing some this week if I wait for him to be well I'll be waiting forever He is still really small last week he weighed 13lb 15oz and he is 23 weeks still in 0-3mths clothes although he did have 3-6mth top on but it looked like a dress

Wow - Olivia went down at 7.30pm, did NOT wake up at dream feed at 11pm and I woke her up at 7am this morning WOOHOO Woo Bloody Hoo Woo Bloody Hoo Hoo some more!!! Proper proper sleeping through. We're now on our sixth night, although others she has had a little whinge in the middle. I am ecstatic, I think this is it girls. I get my life back, more importantly sex life back as I won't be permanently exhausted .

Other news is that sickness bug has hit CantThink children so my day out shopping today has just been put to the side and have a DD1 on the couch moaning and groaning every few minutes, a DS that is saying but I WANT to go to school . Her has sudo SATS this week so I have to take him in to sit exams in isolation so he doesn't pass bug on to others. Loads of sickness going around school but DS's class are going to Isle of Wight next week - for the whole week - for a trip. Don't want him passing bug on to others and risk ruining their trip.

Fingers crossed it hasn't hit DD2 yet - or the adults...

Right - off to attend whining kids ....

PS - I have details from Lottie of when she will be in London so those wishing to come along for meet up email me at CantThinkofFunnyName at googlemail dot com for coordination...

x

ctofn - well done to Olivia. I'm very impressed but also very Were your other DC's quite good at settling into sleeping through? Have fun with sick children and fingers crossed it doesnt get passed on

party - has AF shown up yet?

mama2moo - how long have you been with your DP? Interesting around you eating more and DD sleeping better, i might have to try it. Yes, i do use any excuse possible to eat cakes

ali - thank you for asking around for me, i really appreciate it. Bless Jacob, fingers crossed when you start weaning things start improving x

Jack decided to get up at 5.45am which was such a joy but is now asleep on me but whenever i try and take him to bed he wakes up For those of you that are bfing and haven't yet weaned, how is your DC doing at night and are any of them sleeping through? An unbroken nights sleep really seems so far away .

Right, i'm off to e-mail ctofn and feel sorry for myself being tired.

Morning all

Ali - Hope Jacob is ok. Poor little man. I second all the others re the BLW. Would definitely avoid the finger foods at this stage and look at the puree route. What do his doctors say? Nico is sitting up happily in his Tripp Trapp, but I would be incredibly nervous about giving him finger foods yet.

CTFN - sorry about the mix up re. Olivias. Your pic is adorable! I have emailed you re. the meet up. And well done on your little girl sleeping through! Hope the other CTFN kiddies feel well soon!

New - after DS1, I negotiated a 3 day a week position in the company. It was a new role as I simply didnt want to go back into my old job. Involved travelling over UK, long hours and lots of pressure. New new role was fantastic and (fingers crossed) am pretty sure that my lunch is to bring me up to date with all the changes in the company and plan a date of return. I am planning to be flexible re. return if they offer me an extra incentive to come back earlier than planned (Nov time). But not counting on anything, in this climate - you can't take things for granted.

Re the nurseries, there absolutely should be a lovely atmosphere/ interaction between staff and children. The baby room can sometimes appear a little fraught (especially if they have a new baby settling in). And what you have to bear in mind is that the baby will not be getting one to one attention. So what may appear to be lack of interaction to you, may simply be the carers spreading their attention. Another thing that nurseries always try to do is to get the children/ babies to start doing independant play. SO if the babies are content on their own, they will be left to play. I know a friend who went to look at the first nursery I put DS1 in didnt like it at all. She went the nanny route. I loved it and so did DS1. Equally I could be totally wrong and it may be a bad nursery.
Did they go into any detail on staff turnover/ what kind of things they do with the babies (i.e. my first one did baby massage to promote the bond with babies/ carers). Have you looked at Ofsted reports on the nurseries in your area?

Hello mama2moo and verycherry. Have good days all - today is a getting on top of all house chores day for me. Planning to keep weekend clear so we can get out and about in the nice weather.

mk we are still waiting on our appointment with a dietician don't think it will come through any time soon.

ctofn wow wow wow how I dream of a full night sleep Jacob had me up at 12 2 5 and 6 but I forgive him as he is still stuggling to breathe got doctors at 12 was tempted to take him to A&E but we'll see what docs have to say.

ctofn email sent

new we have been together for 7 years now! Its easier to stay together then go our seperate ways. Plus, I so want a 3rd baby and cant imagine having one with someone else! Our relationship is very odd!

ctofn You lucky thing! I am confused - Are you still dream feeding her at 11pm? We did that with dd1 and kept feeding her at 10pm then one night I forgot and she still slept through! I hope the sickness bug passes very quickly.

The sun isnt shining in Somerset yet but it was so hot last night. DD1 came and slept in my bed last night - The first time since she was a baby!

Babymoo woke 3 times for a feed last night! I think a growth spurt is on its way! Funny because dd1 looks taller today and lost her chubbiness again.

Mama2Moo - yes still feeding at 11pm-ish. Only just on our 6th night of sleeping through without a feed so not planning on dropping it just yet. I think they say around 7 months to drop it.

Hello mummies hope you are all well today.

Yes my Erin is very cute and smiley, but it was lovely Olivia in the pic.

new No af, still? I am actually really poor on where everything is, but I am sure I don't live near Nottingham [doh emotion], I am in Manchester, so anyone near me????

ali hope jacob is ok

DD is ok thankyou for all you posts, she wasn't in on monday and Tuesday as she keeps saying that she has stomach ache and feels sick, always at bedtime. She was obviously in pain yesterday due to brace, but went to neighbours for tea and when she came back got neighbour to tell me that dd doesn't feel well?????. I didn't do my usual thing of 'you're going to school tomorrow' in my mums stern voice. I was actually very nice to her everytime she came down to 'tell me something important' and she has got up and gone to school no problem, i just hope no one is too mean to her about her brace, because she is talking funny.
I was wndering if her tummy pain could be the start of af for her, she is 12,but with cant saying her kids are poorly, maybe there is something going round.

My mummy brain has returned, what is BLW when weaning [stupid emotion]

cant I will email you later.

Well I am childless for the day, and I am missing my baby, but I don't know what to do with myself.

Morning everybody!

Mama2moo I started knitting last summer (my eldest daughter taught me and I am totally addicted. I'm at such a basic level but am getting into all these BEAUTIFUL yarns that are being made these days. Have you got a profile on Ravelry yet? It's good fun.

Ali big hugs to Jacob from me. I'm sure the summer months will help him grow even stronger. Yep, I agree re: BLW: am terrified of choking too. Stick to the purées for the time being.

How are you today Crumpette? LL How's your DH getting on at work?

I wish I could meet up with you guys but I can't see myself coming over from France in the foreseable future.

Right, my DH has had his last day in hell at work and has got a job interview lined up for 3 June. Please cross your fingers that it goes ok: we need a bit of good luck. (Who doesn't, ey?)

I'd also love to have your opinion. We are thinking about setting up a pilates/yoga centre here in Tours in a year or two. Has anyone done any pilates? Does the holistic, healthy thing work well in the UK? Your thoughts please, ladies

new DD exclusively BF, goes down around 8pm, wakes herself anytime between 10.30 and 2am (latter time not very often!), but she doesn't usually wake up fully, just does her hungry cough, so is pretty much like a dreamfeed. She goes straight back to sleep as soon as latched on and has both sides, put to bed asleep. Then she will usually go 4-5 hours, sometimes more sometimes less. Hungry cough again, usually no real full on waking up. I haven't usually gone to bed before the first feed (on here!) so feels like just one night waking and I feel v lucky and really don't mind it. I don't really open my eyes/wake up fully in the dead of night, all done in pitch dark. A full nights sleep would be lovely though! I'd like her to drop the first one rather than the early morning one though, so I'm free to stay out late . Of course now I have said it she'll be growth spurting all night tonight!
Hope you find a nice nursery soon.

Poor Jacob ali, I hope he gets sorted at the docs. The better weather will hopefully help his chest.

I'm doing postnatal pilates jardins, can take babies to the class until they are mobile and it's really popular, I was lucky to get a place! Centre sounds lovely to me!

Well doctor thinks Jacon has got hayfever and a strong possibility that he has asthma been given more steriods and yet another inhalor (that's 3 now) we have got a follow up appointment on monday.

Jardins sending lots of good luck vibes to your Dh.

party enjoy the peace it won't last long

ali Poor Jacob, how are you doing?

jardins I love knitting, I find it relaxing (until I look at what I have done) My mum used to be crap but has actually knitted dd1 some really nice cardigans - Not sure I will ever be up to that. Scarves are my limit!!!

I hate this weather - Its hot outside but cloudy. I never know with babies what to put them in - Is it short and t shirt weather for them or still vest and long top and bottoms!

Argh - DS managed to roll off the bed today thus proving mummy's "it's impossible for him to fall off a King sized bed if he does not yet roll" theory entirely wrong! Heard a sickening thud mid-pee and wondered "hmm wonder what that was" before the screaming began. I jumped off that loo so quickly and found DS face down on the floor Silly mummy... I'm such a n00b it's untrue!!

crumpette There has been a lot of good advice given on here but what I am going to do is to point you in the direction of Al-Anon. They have a programme based on AA's steps which is basically for people affected by alcoholism. I have personally benefitted from this - although when I found them, I was entirely sceptical as to how a spritual programme (I waver between being agnostic and an atheist) was going to help my situation.

It is non-judgemental and you will find there a group of people who understand your situation and what you are going through. Whilst I respect that there are people here who have experience of domestic violence and therefore hugely pushing the "leave him" card, sometimes RL isn't as cut and dry. If you don't leave for the right reasons or if you stay for the wrong reasons, it just won't work out.

They suggest that you go for 6 meetings in order to understand what their programme is all about. It may seem quite cult like to begin with but hand on heart, if you approach it with an open mind, you will find that you have choices. It isn't for anyone else to advice you on your life decisions and there isn't a right and wrong. You need to have a bolthole (take CTOFN up on her offer) for when things get rough but otherwise their programme will hopefully give you the perspective you need to get into the right headspace for you to make up your mind whether to stay or go.

Out of respect for my DH's anonymity I can't go into anymore detail here but if you want to email me to chat, can you get my details off MK or CTOFN? x

Ladies, I'm in tears! I have just been to see a specialist as I have been concerned about bleeding when I go to the toilet (sorry tmi). She gave me an internal examination and saw only a fissure. However she has booked me an appointment for 18 June for a colonoscopy WITHOUT anaesthetic (due to bf) as she told me that she has had two patients YOUNGER than myself with cancer of the colon after giving birth. I am so scared. I don't want my children to lose me and I am also scared of the discomfort factor of the actual intervention.

Oh Jardins have a big big hug from me. I know it's little consolation but fissures can cause lots of bleeding, so hopefully the colonoscopy will just rule out the potential of any cancer. It's always best of course to rule out the worse case scenarios first.

flyingma thank you for your post and link, do you mean you can go along as a partner/wife etc of someone with alcoholism? When I first met him he hadn't had a drink in 7 years (after being hospitalised and nearly dying from his drinking) and he was such a different person, I was happy around him, and then after a few months he had 'just one' and it snowballed and I couldn't stop him

right CTFN I shall send you an email (CTFN in element as organising everyone! ) and would genuinely love to meet up with anyone who could make it if DP lets me escape him for the day !

just been to GP (gasp, RL interaction) who wants me to have blood test to check thyroid, but the earliest I can have a blood test is 3 weeks time!