AUG 08 - So how many more will be expecting again before this thread is full?

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hi all, thanks for kind words. DS started screaming again, I started crying and I decided I was making things any better so I left him to it. He finally dropped off to sleep, as did I and we woke 2hrs later!! I'm feeling almost normal now
had a bit of a moment after my last post a text arrived from my cousin 'bloody clock change,sorry, will see you soon' I had completely forgotten he was coming round I've managed to postpone his visit til after his lunch plans and he didn't mind a jot (especially given that he's already lost an hour this morning!

cece nope,sorry, no idea re dissitation (see i can't even spell that!) but your 'drunken trout' comment made me smile

rant time again.... just had a friend cancel her husband and toddler coming next sat. She's still coming with baby. i was obviously worried, thought one of them was ill, nope, they just thought it would be easier erm but we've already paid for their meals and i don't think i can cancel at this late notice. sigh. hey ho. worse things happen at sea and all that

my two super sleuths have come running in to announce that DD1's big girl bike has gone and I must go and look for it RIGHT NOW!! I am smug in the knowledge its in the big shed as DH put it there last night and shall sit and watch as they discover that mummy really does know everything

book finished and D awake so not a moment to soon

miamla people were cancelling on me right up to the morning of the wedding for various reasons, tis a PITA but once again, if you DS and DP are there, who cares about anyone else

i know dizz, you're right. it is just that they've left it to last minute (alhtough not as last minute as the morning!! ffs! what was that about?!) when if they'd let me know even a few days ago, we could have cancelled the meals. They were the last guests to accept as well so we had to add them on to already finished list!

i've had a 'mummy knows everything' moment with DS already... i have very clear memory of when i found out that my mum didn't know everything so enjoy that smug feeling while it lasts!

what book were you reading?

it was apparently to do with the weather, remembering we were married on the 27th Dec - nothing at all to do with the fact my dad's older sister is an arse and likes everything to revolve around her she soon changed her mind when I told Dad to phone her back and say it was absolutely no problem if she couldn't make it and we completely understood her worry regards travelling the 30 miles to get there - the minute the drama was nipped in the bud she was apparently fine once more - silly mare

I was reading a Lin Anderson - fluff for the brain

oh and just so you know, she's pulled a similar stint with each christening since - we only invite her to these things to be polite to my dad as she's his only remaining relative (not including niece/nephews) and she caused a fecking nonsense at my mother's funeral too

sounds like my 'd'bro..i'm still getting guilt texts from him that i've deliberately chosen a day he can't do because he's working (he's the one that ask for compensation for loss of earnings!) Families... you really can't chose them, can you!

oh and this is absolutely between me and you lot on here...deal? mil wants me to phone florist and ask for her buttonhole to be made into a wrist thing. personally i can't be bothered to phone them and also, i think she'll look daft (like american prom girl). So, would IBU to not ask florist? I know mil will come prepared with her own bit of ribbon so she can do it herself and if she does, i'll just pretend the florist did a good job. Or am i just being a bitch? i haven't spoken to her for weeks and weeks because she kept winding me up re wedding but she's still interfering via DP and he's now ignoring her calls! She doesn't think my choice of tie and waistcoat for DS is the correct colour combo so she wanted to find the 'right' coloured tie. DP has fortunately put her straight but seriously, who's bloody wedding is this????! my wedding, my son and he's wearing the outfit that DP and i have chosen for him!!!! incidentally my mum made the waistcoat for him and its absolutely adorable!

oh and dizz sounds like you've had a lucky escape with her 'unfortunately' not being able to attend your special events!

Miamla - thats my point, the minute she has her wee dramatic moment and my father panders to her she turns up quite the thing - flounces about and leaves as quickly as she arrived last time we had nothing but stories for weeks about how she'd had to stop in a layby on the way home from D's christening as she was 'blacking out' - my arse

sounds like your MIL is desperate to be able to tell everyone at the wedding all about the huge effort she has put in - continue to ignore her without offending her and give her the number of the florist, if its that important to her - let her get on with it - she will take nothing away from you on the day

and fwiw, I had my adult bridesmaids with flowers snaking up their arms as I couldn't afford bouquets and it looked ok (I think)

seriously? she then turns up??! dear god (sorry cc!) my bro had better not try that trick!

there is no way mil is having florist's number, no knowing what she'd change to make things 'better'!
flowers snaking sound lovely though for bridesmaids

other bro told me yday that as i'm 'taking away his saturday next week' that he's not going to B until late on friday. he was meant to be driving me,mum,sis in morning and we were going to have a swim,relax etc at hotel in the afternoon. i've told him i'll make other arrangements. hey ho, as you say, important thing is that me and dp will be there

re mil, that's exactly what she wants! she has offered to do loads over the last few weeks... make invites,name places etc. i've said yes to all her offers but then she's changed her mind (for one reason or another) and i've ended up doing it

arse.. i'm meant to be doing favours this afternoon!

oh and wedding guests ... we had 3 or 4 just not turn up on the day, as did my sister ... I think it is quite normal

CC - no seconds to post now, but happy to chat the diss thing through if you want to send a phone number to fb. Seeing patterns in other people's ideas is my magic skill. Not so good at being definite about my own.

in that case I'd phone the florist and explain what she wants - its its not 100% she can't accuse you of not trying - frankly though you'll have better things to worry about on that day

tell your dbrother thanks and get there yourself - fair enough if he doesn't want to go till later but NOT after he'd agreed to take you all there already

and yes, she does turn up after all the fecking fuss, I now just ignore her. it pisses me off when she expects pride of place at all things relating to family when I've only met her a handful of times - she arrived late to my mother's funeral service, after refusing to come to the burial because it wasn't proper for a woman to be at the graveside - wearing her bowling kit as she didn't have enough room in her suitcase to pack something dark and then tried to insist on sitting up the front with me and my dbrother, SIL /dad & DH - if I hadn't been so busy trying to concentrate on not going into labour or loosing my legs from under me I should have thrown her out the fecking door. None so strange as family

yeah for lentil and her superior knowledge, I know someone would be along soon

hi longway - welcome to the dizzy and miamla griping show - its a new take on all the normal, run of the mill wedding shows on tv at the moment - its called AIBU Weddings

hmm,guess you're right,i'll phone florist tomorrow. i still think she's going to look daft!

can't believe your aunt, dizz. so incredibly rude on so many accounts. i can't even find words re bowling gear. i hope you're going to stop inviting her to things

lwfh really? i had no idea! i naively thought that if people saud they were going, that they'd be there!

it has been a bit of a miamla/dizz whinge fest! sorry girls! feel free to ignore me but whinging has made me feel lots better (and dizz, you've potentially saved me from being completely ignored by mil because of a bloody bit of ribbon!)

Miamla - we had DH's best man do the not turning up thing when we eventually got married we also ended up cancelling a wedding or two because the world and his wife who I didn't have a clue who they were decided they needed to stick their oar in. FIL wanted a toastmaster to announce everyone in MIL wanted to wear white, the bridesmaids' mother thought their dresses were not flattering enough. My hymn choices reminded another of DH's aunts of her DH's funeral so it would make her cry, could we organise and pay for a coach from Essex London or they would all have to pay for their own travel and accommodation - I have never been so glas to cancel something and then ring them and say 'ooh just to let you know we got married'

Dh and DD are cleaning out his car and I am doing mine later in the week as ALBS will need to get in it and we don't want her catching anything

Cece - I'm with Dizzy on the Dissertaion front - I am a bear of VERY little brain.

Hi LWFH - How are your 2 lovelies?

oh oops, i'm sorry you had to go through all that but you have made me feel better! our way of dealing with most questions is the stock answer 'wait and see' Otherwise i'm sure we'd have had lots of some...ooh, you can't have that at a wedding!!! You lot on here know most of it but there are still a couple of things left as a surprise

mum was quizzing me yesterday about why on earth we'd chosen the venue we'd chosen and she doesn't even know its a zoo!!

at your wedding hoo-hahs, I think I got off rather lightly!!
We had one grandparent pass comment that "a wedding isn't a wedding without kids" erm, we didn't have kids at that point and it was essentially a piss up for us and our friends , so no kids came (except for 3 relatives)....

Thanks RED, are you Sibh?

ROFL - Cece, yes you're cunning deduction is correct re Red's identity - maybe I'm not so low brow after all

Sazz - dh all in favour of burning it all too, funny how they like a bit of arson and dress it up as gardening

You've just reminded me that I made DH cancel his place the day of a wedding when I was 7m pg with Kurt. I think it was the day after another wedding where I'd flipped out because of DS1's behaviour and pg hormones, I was just so exhausted I couldn't cope with losing him for the weekend (2nd wedding was in Nottingham). Poor bride wouldn't have understood that though from DH's explanation I'm sure. Maybe she would now she's had a baby of her own LOL.

Miamla What is the protocol for us hairy lurkers? I would love to come watch the ceremony if Kurt allows please or happy to lurk outside.
Zoo newbies I'm bringing picnic lunch (is quite expensive there!) and then will meet up with DH and kids later and Little Chef it on the way home.