June mummies 2 - the gangs all here!!

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one crisp new thread!

must confess I do come and lurk a bit these days, but never find time to catch up enough to post.

But, Megi, just saw your post about your AWOL (Arsehole went obviously looney). What a jerk! I'm so sorry. I think you are in Redhill. I'm returning to work in Leatherhead on Monday week. Do you want to meet up for lunch sometime? There's a nice pub in Ashtead?

Oh I'm so so so sorry. I don't know what to say. Do you think he just freaked out about having the responsibility of 2 kids rather than 1... not that that's any excuse!

Thank goodness you've got a good baby Megi! You can rant away on here whenever you feel like it, that's what we're here for.

Didn't get DS2 jabbed today as I went to the wrong doctors! Not actually my fault as I was told to go there, but they wouldn't do it and I have to go to my usual doctors tomorrow.

Blimey, there are lots of chubby babies on here.

Forgot to say welcome to sfxmum!

Lua, it's a bit hit and miss with DS1 - sometimes we have good days and I think, 'hey, I can do this' and other days I feel like the worst mummy in the world because I'm always shouting at him. How are you coping with two?

Katz, DS1 had the same thing I think (more fat folds on one leg than the other?) so we had to take him for an ultrasound but all was fine.

Uwilla,

I would love to meet for lunch - how nice of you! - I honestly have no idea why he has gone. He seems to be hankering after his youth again - he used to play football semi-professionally, and has been trying to get back to that standard. - He is just going out every night with friends or visiting friends, training or going to the gym! O.K. for some. He has also suffered from depression in the past which may or may not be a contributing factor. He told nobody at all how he felt, all friends and family are shocked at what he has done! The AWOL comment is certainly true! He is adamant he has made the right decision.

Bubbaloo - Joined Junies to late to hear about ds's legs but on both being in plaster - nice one on his aiming abilities whilst peeing - bullseye on the nurses eh! .

to everyone regarding slack bathing and chubby,cheesy fluffy babies - I started something there then. Regarding dirty fingernails, DH wants to know if any of you have noticed a sudden unexplained improvement in your houseplants (reckons could be secret baby horticulture going on, or are they out tuning the car up in the middle of the night?!) .

Katz - Took us a good few goes to get dd to take a bottle of EBM, I even went out an bought loads of different teats. We just kept trying every few days and she finally got the hang of it. She would only take an oz or 2 at first, and wanted boob afterwards , but will now take a full feed (about 5oz). NB: she Is now happy with the original avent teats too.

Hi sfxmum I was a newbie last week, but they are a really friendly welcoming crowd . I'm sure you will feel at home in no time.

megi - just saw your post, what a nightmare! Sounds like you are a strong lady, summoning the energy to go a visit friends etc. Take care. x

Megi, how about lunch on the 19th August. I'm back at work on the Monday and could swing a long lunch on the Friday. I have no idea what I'll be working on when I go back. But I think a long lunch on Friday is a safe bet. I already have plans this Friday, and all next week I'll be running around with my new nanny so she can get to know our routines and the area.

Do you drive? I go to Leatherhead town (which is in my opinion a pain in the you know what due to lack of parking in Leatherhead) or there's a pub in AShtead I like. I can't think of the name of it, but it's nice. Have you got a sitter? Or do you need a child friendly place? I'm not sure if they allow kids. But I'm sure we can find someone who does cater to kids.

I'm still in shock for you. What do men think? They can just act like complete inhumane bastards and then come back when they feel like they are ready???? He's got a wife and two kids and just up and decides to be a teenager again?!?!?!?!?

I'm sorry. This is your pain not mine. But I'm just and for you. Are you coming to the southern meet in Reading?

Megi, just to say sorry to hear your "d"h has been such an arse. Glad he thinks he's made the right decision - for him maybe, nice he gave some consideration to what might be best for his family

Thanks to all for your good wishes earlier. I don't think I'm really feeling any better - alas I suspect it's just the reactivation of the feelings I had about dh's condition before I was pregnant, which went on hold due to pregnancy hormones and excess Belgian Chocolate Haagen-Dasz. Lua, thanks for the 'kick' about my mum but she is on holiday next week anyway. Oh well. I have done my "Have You Got PND" questionnaire for the health visitor today and answered as honestly as I can.

Katz - hope all will be well with dd2. And hope your family visit wasn't too stressful.

Lua - well done on even going to the hairdressers with ds! I have tracked down a mobile one so she can come here, I was too afraid of ds going mad at a crucial blow-drying moment.

sfxmum - welcome to the Junies!

Bubba - loving washing up is definitely not normal, but if it keeps you happy! Sorry to hear about Oscar's two plasters, sounds like you are keeping your spirits up at least.

Charley - great to hear from you, it sounds like Arlo goes from strength to strength.

Tea - kudos to you for fixing your own dishwasher! I couldn't live without mine either, and before I went to Sweden I'd never had one. I remember filling it the first time saying "wouldn't it be easier just to wash these plates?" and being encouraged to give it a try by my friends!

Pink - I hope you're at least giving yourself a break and using dispies at night? I haven't even tackled cloth yet during the day, still working up to that.

Lynny - so sorry to hear about your health problems, hope you are doing better now.

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Good morning everyone,
Hope everyone is well and that they got to sleep through the night. I put DD to bed at 8:00 and DS at 8:30 and they are both still sleeping at 7:42am.... yahoo!!!!!

Must go get them up and get my day startd though or I'll still be sitting on MN when they both start to scream. I hate that! I can handle one scream at a time. But when they both hollar for attention I end up getting cross with the toddler and tell her to act like a big girl. Then I feel bad because I'm probably expecting too much of a 2 year old.

So, whose coming to the meet on 03 Sept. in Reading? I'm really looking forward to it. Seems it's been ages since the last one!

Hello,

I just wanted to pop over and say a big hello to all you Junies!!! Gosh, there are lots of names I don't recongnise but also it's great to see all you "originals" getting on so well. (Sorry don't mean to offend anyone - thats just my outsiders perception!!!)

It's lovely to hear that your all doing so well with you new bundles. I've been sneeking in for a peek every now and again and scraggy has been giving me updates.

I'm doing great. Today I officially have 4 months left to go and we had a scan at Guys which gave us the all clear for this bean. We've been told we're expecting a little boy

Take care everyone, lots of love
SH xxx

awww sweetheart. That's wonderful news. I was just wondering about you this morning. Must have been a preminition for this message. So so so glad everything is going well.

great to hear from you sweetheart.
4 months isn't long to go-glad your'e keeping well.xxx

Megi so sorry to hear your news, what a &anker ! Glad to see that your coping well tho. At least you have a beautiful dd and adorable ds out of the relationship...lets just hope that in time your H comes to seriously regret his happy decision, grrrr &anker !

Sorry...morning all

Sweetheart, that's great news, and a boy too, wow, have you thought of any names yet? Is your dd getting excited yet?? Bet she can't wait! Don't mean to be contravertial (sp?) but did you ever take her on that balloon ride? I only ask coz I just booked a surprise ride for DH's birthday, and I'm going too, but I'm petrified of fire (I won't even let dh have a bbq in the garden!) and am getting nervy just thinking about it...need someone to calm me down

Trib re the dishwasher...when we first got ours I said I would only use it on special occassions, then only at the weekend, then only when it's really full....and look at me now! . Lua we got a Whirlpool one from Comet, down to £199 from nearly £300 so abit of a bargain to boot...and any old idiot can plumb it in!

Hi sxfmum and welcome Are you a southener? Fancy joining us at the meetup in September?

Mandymac, LOL my DD would definitely be tuning up the car, we're not very green fingered in this house

Mrs W how did the jabs go? DD is due to have hers next tuesday...think I'll do it as she'll be almost 10 weeks by then, now I just need someone else to come in with me as I'm also petrified of needles

Charley - fab that Arlo is doing so well...have to agree with Mrs W, my dd doesn't always grip when I put my finger in her hands. So as someone else asked too...are you happy with your choice of buggy?

morning all
thanks for the warm wellcome. my computer went mad justafter first post and then i had visitors who stayed for dinner.
my little girl was born at start of june, so two months now.she is doing fine but that has not stopped us having occasional panics (our first) so far one dash to A&E for no good reason other than it reassured us, doctors where lovely and understanding.
i still have not ventured far from home other than local shops and am yet to meet up with other mums at baby cafe. guess should do that soon. this going out business takes a lot of planning. also i am breast feeding which in theory should make it easier but there is a lot of hostile attitudes to doing that in public.
has anyone felt the same?

Hi there sxfmum ... I'm not bf myself, but I have a group of friends I meet who all do, and have to say luckily I (and they!) haven't noticed much hostility, but I must say they're all very discreet and either I'm used to it or sometimes it's just not obvious what they're doing Sorry to hear you find it different Just ignore them if that's the case it's their problem not yours!

Hi tea - lovely to hear from you.

We have chosen a name we like at the moment which is Lucas Benjamin but I'm not saying that will be the baby's name. Hormones can do funny things

Dd is very excited - it's lovely. We've only recently told her as we wanted the all clear before telling her the news.

I didn't take dd on the balloon ride in the end because no company would do it. It seems the norm is that they can't get insurance for children under the age of six and as my dd is only just 5 we couldn't do it. Hope you have a lovely time on your trip though!!!!

Megi so sorry to hear hope you have support near you and we always here, talk about selfish timing.

tea, yes southerner, live in richmond where is the meet? must read through posts.
re bf am quite discreet,hence surprise, must say its usually old ladies in the park

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Sweetheart - great to hear your news!!!!
Megi - agree with Lynny - if you can cope so well with all this now - you can cope with anything!!! You sound like a really strong person. Look after yourself
Mrs W - lol at you going to the wrong doctors, i went to register Josephs birth today - and could barely remember my date of birth let alone my dh's!!!

Thanks so much everyone - it means a lot to know there are people out there who are thinking of me! - I don't think I am very strong at all - I worry about stupid things like who will cut the lawn! - I am also very scared of being alone.

I am also concerned that I am secretly hoping he will come to his senses and want to return. Everyone tells me that I would be mad to let that happen, but I can't just switch off my feelings. - But, if he were to return, I would spend my life wondering if he would do it again. Anyway - he still says he has made the right decision so I doubt that situation will arise. Everything is such a MESS

Uwilla,the 19th would be fine. The pub sounds great as well. I would probably have to bring at least the baby though - I may be able to find someone to have dd. Thank you!

Hi All,

Sorry, I haven't had a chance to come on here for absolutely ages, but i have been trying to keep up.

Megi, I can't say anything that hasn't been already said, but please do accept the biggest cyber hugs from me, I think you are being tremendously strong, even if you dont think it youself.

Sweetheart, lovely to hear from you! Glad it is all going well for you. Lucas is a beautiful name.

Sorry I have missed loads of things out but I hope you are all fine and well today and not feeling too sleep deprived. I am being v. brave tonight and taking DS to an open air theatre production. Its the sort where you walk to a different part of the park for each scene, so i'm figuring if he kicks off, I can always walk away. Maybe i'm being too optimistic that he'll sleep through it all, but i'm just so stubborn that I want to give it a go. Wish me luck......

Best of luck, Jonah! If he kicks off, pretend it's all part of the theatre production and just nod encouragingly at the rest of the audience!

Sweetheart, thanks so much for popping in to see us with your update, great news and all the best to all of you. xx

Megi, remember you can always get a gardener in to mow the lawn. And to quote Samantha from Sex and the City (as my best friend did whenever my gardener was expected) "honey, why move to the suburbs if not to [bleep] the gardener?!" I had no intentions of bleeping my gardener, mind you, just thought it might cheer you up a bit!

Rather a disturbed night of sleep for us last night, we have switched to dentonox and I'm not convinced about it at all. Ds often seems to cry and arch his back during his feed and can be v unsettled afterwards, despite producing copious amounts of wind. He's slept like an angel all day (because he's been on dh's knee the whole time) which makes me think we are in for another bad night ... I've ordered the Baby Whisperer book so let's hope for a miracle before the HV comes round next Wednesday to see if I have PND.

jonah-hope you have a great time tonight!
trib-sorry to hear about your disturbed night.i honestly thought i'd be up during the night as ds went to bed earlier than normal.he went down at 9.30 and slept right through till 7 this morning so certainly can't complain.

the HV actually turned up today and he was finally weighed.12lb 11oz BUT that was obviously with the plaster on his legs,so his true weight should be around 12lb 7oz.

also had my eyes tested today and they were fine.
when we had the accident 4 weeks ago i had blurred vision for a couple of hours afterwards,which i put down to stress.then last tuesday before ds's hospital appointment i had it again which was a bit worrying.haven't had it since but have been feeling a bit dizzy.the optician couldn't find any problems and my prescription doesnt need changing which i suppose is good.we've got our 7 week check at the doc's on monday so i'll tell him.im sure its stress related,although i dont feel stressed-blood pressure may be up or down or could be something to do with iron levels-im sure i'll get it sorted one way or another.

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