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Happy Mother's Day! I've just had a cooked breakfast

Happy mothers day everyone Hope you all have the wonderful day you deserve x

Oh I forgot it's mothersday. DS1 is staying with his Dad as it was his dad's engagement party last night (nice timing, thanks for that) ds2 and dp are asleep. I am baking a siminal cake for mil and gearing myself up to a day with sil. Wonder if she will acknowledge Alfie this time? Unlikely but you never know. will just be muttering under my breath ... must hold my tongue, must hold my tongue, must hold my tongue...

Hope everyone has a lovely day. Looks beautiful outside.

I should add that ds1 did "local mothersday" on Thursday and bought me red roses and dp cooked steak so can't complain

I'm so angry this morning

DP was invited to his friend's birthday night out last night. I didn't object at all but told him if he was going to get really drunk I'd stay at my mum's, as Ethan and I were going to my mum's for dinner last night anyway. He promised he wouldn't, he'd only have a few drinks, he'd get up early this morning and he wouldn't spoil my first mother's day.

3am and I hear DP trying to get his keys in the front door, unsuccessfully. There then follows three swift boots to the door as he tries to kick it in. I quickly realised what he was doing and jumped out of bed and opened the door. Drunken stumbling through the door "what the f* are you doing, trying to kick the door in?" ... DP: "I didn't!".

For the following hour and a half there was plenty of drunken stumbling up and down our hall, vomitting (I think all in the bathroom, thankfully), turning the light on in our bedroom where Ethan & I were trying to sleep, looking for something in his wardrobe and he leaned on the door the wrong way so the wardrobe door is broken off it's hinges and standing loose. Had to jump out of bed to catch that as well. He eventually got into bed at 4:30 and Ethan woke for a feed at 5am. Was up with Ethan around 45 mins then he slept & was up for another feed around 7:30.

I'm so angry. This is entirely unacceptable behaviour on any day, coming home in that state when we now have a child in the house, never mind on my first Mother's Day.

Fucking arsehole!

(pardon my language) x

Just went to get ready for a shower and there's sick all over the bathroom. I'm going to get Ethan in his snowsuit and go to my mum's, we can both get ready there. We'll see how DP tries to fix this later in the day.

PS, apologies, Happy Mother's Day to everyone else. I really hope daddies and babies are behaving! xx

Happy Mothers Day!!

DWB I'm so sorry your Mothers Day has turned out like this The best idea is to go to your mum's and let him stew in his guilt. I hope he makes it up to you quick smart and saves the day from being totally ruined.

Well, my DH agreed to do overtime a couple of months ago for TODAY!! He had no idea it was Mothers Day at the time. So I do forgive him, and he did try and get out of it, but nobody would cover . He had to be in work for 6am, so I got my flowers and cards last night. I'm feeling a little sad today, but hey that's life!

I'm having one of them weekends, I can't get anything done. Baby is being very clingy, I think he's teething and hasn't been for a poop for 1 week now. This is normal procedure, but it really makes him grumpy on the lead up to clearing himself out!! I think we've got to Day 9 the time before. I'm hoping the introduction of solids in a few weeks time will do his bowels some good! Does anyone else have this issue with their baby? It's meant to be common amongst bf babies.

Off for a shopping spree tomorrow with a good friend and both our babies in tow. Part of my DH's pressie to me for the Mother's Day mess up!

DWB I don't blame you for heading out. I hope you have a really nice day. Big hugs x

Am kinda annoyed at DP too. I got a text saying "Happy mother's day xxx" so text back to thank him, asking if his mum got the flowers I Bryn sent her. "Yes xxx" was the reply I go. So I replied again, saying "Great How are you feeling? My uncles transplant went well, currently stable in Isolation xxx". And he just hasn't text back.

Kinda upset that he didn't send me a card as well (although bless them, mum and my brother got me a card and a bar of chocolate between them ) as I didn't get a Christmas card either, and he did, plus a Fathers Day card last year. But mainly am rather irritated about my uncle, and his lack of interest. He knows how close I am to him, and he knows how desperately he needed this transplant. UGH

My brother just came up with a hand print - he had watered down some oil paint and dipped Bryn's hand in it I could cry!

Just quickly popping in to say happy mothers day to all you lovely mothers. DWP i am so sorry your dp behaved so appallingly, that is so bad, so so so bad. I hope he realises how bad. I hope your mother will spoil you as you deserve to be.

fruit shame your DH is not there either .

My morning has been lovely. Noisy but lovely. DD woke at 5:45am and cried on the stairs ignored by daddy so I had to deal with her. Then DS woke wanting food earlier than anticipated, then DH got up with DD, and DS woke for most of the morning, DH took him at 8am or so, and I heard mostly arguing as they made a card and DD did not want to do what daddy wanted her to do on it, and he tried to feed DS a bottle and DS cried and cried and cried, so I lay in bed thinking 'hope they bring me my breakfast soon so i don't have to listen to this all morning!'

But then i had smoked salmon and scrambled eggs on muffins, orange juice and fresh coffee, and chocolates ad a little bear from Reuben. DD bounced on the bed 'are you finished your breakfast yet, can we have a sweety yet?' every 5 minutes!

I hope you have a lovely day whatever you do. I was going to go swimming in the sea but looks like it might rain.

Sirboob I am pleased your uncle's transplant went well, and at your DP, he is in a really selfish place right now isn't he? I hope you are spoilt anyway by your mum, and have a good day with her and Bryn.

I sort of wish we had gone to glastonbury tor today, to throw a rose for mum. Maybe we will, but I don't want it to cloud today, as a new mother of two which it won't i know, but might be nice to remember her there (she had her ashes scattered there) although might be a bit chilly!

DWB grrr at your DP! Men can be such bottom holes sometimes.

SirBoob what a lovely thing for your brother to do and good news about the transplant.

Don't you all just think four months is a lovely age? They smile, they coo, they giggle, they have found their hands and maybe feet, they are starting to blossom into round little babies

Pav I love the way you casually say 'might go swim in the sea now'. I wish!

BBL yes... He's written in his neatest handwriting (he is dyslexic) "Happy First Mothers Day, Love From Bryn" with the date underneath it He's such a sweetheart when he wants to be!! I'm very touched.

Have just spoken to DP - he sounds really really low. I'm wondering if this is the cause for his being an arse temper last weekend, and lack of interest today. He closes off when he's down. sighs

Also agree about 4 months being so lovely! Bryn is properly chuckling now, and it melts my heart every time

bbl i would be in the sea ever day if i had the boots and gloves! I am very lucky to live so close and i remind myself of that every day when I feel down about things I cannot change (you know money, jobs the usual grind). The sea blows all the cobwebs away.

I am going to get a bodyboard this year as well as my kayak, easier to get to the sea and so much fun!

Pav it sounds divine. I can't swim but I would enjoy walking along the beach and breathing in the sea air - lovely I lived in North Cornwall for a few years when I was a teenager. Didn't appreciate the beach back then. If I had the chance to pack up and move anywhere in the U.K. I would choose Devon or Cornwall. I feel a huge need to get out of London life. Felt like this for ages now. I keep asking my husband to look at getting a transfer in his job abroad, but he doesn't feel it's the right time for his career. DH is from S.A Cape Town. Beautiful place but we don't want to live there due to the crime etc, nice for a holiday though.

SirBoob Thinking of you. Also, great news on your uncle

We also have lots of chuckles. He squeals with excitment when I tickle him. He is much more vocal and smiley than DS1. I love this age too

We have made progress on the toilet front!! A very smelly nappy was produced and thank goodness I wasn't out of the house having to deal with it!! He sure makes up for it! He is sleeping soundly and I hope I have a more relaxed baby for the rest of today.

Happy Mother's Day everyone

I had a bit of a rubbish morning, argument with DH over him being a dick something stupid. But we went to the park for coffee and cake and a play which was good and he's now gone out to buy some nice food for dinner.

SirBoob have lovely of your brother! And great news about your uncle. Sorry your DP can't raise himself out of his mood for your first mother's day. Make sure you and Bryn enjoy yourselves with your family.

DWB Hope you have a nice time at your mum's and DP is suitably apologetic later. On his first father's day DH got totally pissed the night before and spent the entire day in bed, ruining everything nice I had planned. HAPPY FUCKING FATHER'S DAY I screamed at him on my way out the door. I feel a bit bad about that as it did hurt him and I know he'd been looking forward to the day, but men can be total arses sometimes. Let's not make our happiness today about them, today is about us!

Laugs Glad your day turned out OK after your bad morning. These men eh?!

Oh, forgot to say I got 5 lovely homemade cards from DD, which she had hidden all over the flat and a pair of wooden spoons which are shaped like drumsticks so I can play along to the radio while cooking!

I know Fruit, you'd think the pressure to be nice for one whole day was just too much for them

LOL I know! DH tries he's best, but he's lack of organisation skills have caused huge rows in this house in the past. He had booked himself on a team building course on my birthday a couple of years ago, without thinking of the dates!! . Didn't go down too well. He came home with a poor excuse bunch of flowers from Tesco petrol garage last night!! I know the saying, it's the thought that counts, but considering the circumstances, I thought he would have pulled something a bit nicer out of the bag. I hope I don't sound like a heartless cow! I do intend to spend all his money at the shops tomorrow We've been together for 13 years, must be something going right!!

I got 'True Blood' on DVD for Mothering Sunday, because nothing says 'Thank you for nurturing tiny people' like HBO sex with fangs. Mine aren't old enough for handmade cards yet! However, I'm greedy, I also now want Pavlov's breakfast. Smoked salmon and scrambled eggs - gorgeous...

We just went off to Avesbury for lunch so DS 1 could prance around the stones waving his little wooden sword. He adores this sword, and has slept with it every night since last summer. Then, of course, he dropped it somewhere, and I got to spend half an hour traipsing about a gigantic turf field with dun-coloured tussocky bits looking for a small dun-coloured sword - successfully, in the end! I also wound up feeding DS 1 twice outside, hunched up against a sarsen to get out of the wind. I think I earnt my Mother's Day treat, quite frankly.

We're moving to Northern Virginia. Apparently it's supposed to be beautiful country with lots of wineries and horse farms around - am v. interested in the sound of the wineries. I'm just a bit worried because it looks as if we might not be able to get our toddler into a preschool - I've been looking at them online, and they look crazily competitive, all 'sibling preference' and random lotteries and things. And $1600 a year for two days a week!

Happy Mother's Day all

Tamlin and Longwayaway lovely to hear from you both again. Tam hope all the bugs are now long gone. You are a star managing to get everyone through that - is your dh back yet?
I lived in the US for a year, in Clarksville Tennessee and I loved it

DWB at your DP, what an arse. Hope he's suitably guilty later. Milk it a little too so he thinks twice about doing it again

SirBoob at your dp. You brother sounds like a star today though and has pulled it out of the bag. My first mother's day was commemorated by my Mum as she knew DD's dad wouldn't do anything. I still have the mug I got sent Your dp may well be low and that might well have triggered last weekend's outburst but that's no excuse for what he's said. He should be thinking more about what he says and the repurcussions. You also need to not feel responsible for his happiness/upsetedness (is that even a word?) - I know easier said than done. Only he can make himself happy and if he's choosing not to at the moment then there's nothing you can do about it.

Fruit sorry to hear your dh is working. If it's any consolation, mine is just as crap regarding dates of things and double booking.

I got sent some flowers from Next - this next bit is going to sound really ungrateful but it's not meant to be - and I'm miffed about it. I think a gift is nicer as then the recipient can keep it, rather than flowers dying. Also, he sends his Mum flowers through Next as she's in Aberdeen and so I'm an afterthought and an easy option. How hard would it have been to order a nice dvd online instead?
I did get toast in bed, but no coffee as we had no milk. Apparently the thought to pop to the corner shop (2 mins from our house) didn't enter his head.
Then DS1 had a party and I took him as DH doesn't drive - so my mother's day has been spent taking the dc's to church then taking the Ds' to the party, whilst dh sits at home and chills. He's hung up one load of washing at the same time and announced it to me when I got home. Pat on the head anyone...?
I know, I'm ungrateful. It just all smacks of no thought to me. Grump.

Scarlotti I will buy you a slice of cake when we next do coffee (are you busy next week..?) - you can't keep it, but it will taste nice!! And you're right about DP of course. We're supposed to be going to his parents next weekend, so that should be interesting...

My brother (and mum) do get mega brownie points today, I'm really touched DB has hung the hand print in a frame and on the wall for me, it really is so very cute. The four of us (DS, mum, DB and I) went out for coffee and cake earlier which was really lovely, and I got the shock of my life when my mum turned round and said rather sharply, "Is there a problem?" to some people who were talking about me feeding in the cafe Think she's got used to it now. We've made a roast together, which is currently cooking, and my uncle is doing really well.

Its been a Good Day.

DWB - I hope your DH has been suitably grovelling this afternoon.

Sending virtual chocolates and flowers (and DVDs for Scarlotti ) to all you wonderful mummies

A bit late but happy mothersday to all of you.
I'm sorry to hear that some of you did not get the day they wanted, especially sorry for DWB!
No mother's day here. In Austria it is the second sunday in may and tbh I don't want to celebrate it at all as my MIL is totally crazy about it and expect ridiculous things from my husband. So I just hate it as a day. I find it a bit sad at the moment as reading about some of the sweet experiences on here, it would have been nice to celebrate being a family. But the day has just too many negative vibes for me.
My inlaws left this morning. What a relief. I had been sick the night before yesterday and stayed in bed almost all day so my husband had to deal with their craziness. He came into the bedroom after about 5min to ask how I had survived the last 4 days

DS2 is covered in spots he has spots in places I didn't think you could get spots. Toby has a few little ones as well now as well as two big ones but he doesn't seem unwell. DS2 won't eat, won't do anything, he's very miserable. Poor little boy.

BBL your poor DS2 hope he feels better soon and the spots don't cause him too much discomfort.

ursi maybe you could celebrate it on the Austrian day as that has no connection to your MIL at all. Well done surviving her visit!