November '09 and the months are flying by, our 3 month plus troop, and us, the knitted boob group!

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New thread, we chat so much!

Reuben has a chest infection Poor little boy has to have antibiotics x 3 daily (syringe) and he has an inhaler which has to take via a spacer (like a tube/chamber for the puffs to go into first) and a mask x3 daily plus calpol if he needs it. We have given him the mask and inhaler and he was ok, he cried and I felt teary, but I think he was crying less because of the medication, and more because it was not my boob . Going to leave the antibiotics til tomorrow so as to give the inhaler a chance to work a little first.

His breathing is really quite wheezy today, and his cough sounds hard and painful it has changed in the last day or so and I think it has just become a chest infection. I am glad we saw the gp today again to deal with it not wednesday after the injections as it might not have been a chest infection then, and we would have seen him get worse over the weekend. Least now we can deal with that part of it all. The gp said pretty much it could be anything that is causing the wheezing, environmentally, or it could be nothing at all, in that it could just be he has sensitive small airways and will improve as he grows. He said it just hard to tell if it will 'become' asthma. He is too small to have an attack apparantly , so that is a good thing at least.

sirboob sorry you're having such a hard time at home. I get on well with my parents, but if I were to live with them we would clash badly. Not sure how Brighton works, but maybe you could get your name down on a housing list and see what comes up.

pav Poor Reuben . That's good you got the help today rather than have to cope through the weekend. I hope he starts to feel better in himself tomorrow. I really feel for you. It must be so hard to deal with.

Pav sorry to hear Reuben is so poorly, hope he feels better soon.

fruit thanks. DH is thinking hoping? that the wheezing and the coughing has been a chest infection that has gone undetected all along. Not sure about that myself as it has been since christmas, so most of his life so far, i would have thought he would be really poorly if that was the case, and he is not. Luckily, he is fine in himself, just sounds like an old man. When he laughs, he goes 'laugh laugh chuckle cough cough choke' and I wonder how much more laughing he would do each time if not finishing with a cough. It would be nice to think it is just a chest infection and all will be clear after the antibiotics, but I suspect not.

erika. You parents are unbeleivable, sorry but they really are. They did not cook for you? Because they don't like your attitude? FFS, how can they not see that you are now an adult with a child of your own now?! Mind you, i left home at 16 due to issues with my mother (then moved back again at 18 with new rules, mine and mums!!). i think you should look at options for getting your own place. Is there any avenues through your mental health team? Social services? Maybe if you talk to them, they might be able to see what options there might be to support you in a LA application/push something through for you? Just an idea, but I know down here, those who have social service input have (sometimes) fast track housing applications/different funding pots to pay for deposits etc.

Pav Poor Reuben and poor you, you must be feeling awful! Hope he improves quickly with medication.

Sirboob I second Pav. Parents should be the 'adults'. What are they demonstrating by leaving you out of dinner, that they can be petty?? Sounds like hard work. Hope you and "Bryan" are ok

pav It's early days for Reuben. He could get through this bad patch and improve vastly. He's treatment will help him and make him feel better. I hope you start to see a change in the next couple of days. I guess only time will tell with these sort of things.

Thought I'd share with you all our meal time experience today. C the little bushpig ate through 2 florets of broccoli and wanted more! He liked the melon too. He throws a paddy when the food doesn't come quick enough . Also he's trying to drink out of his water cup without my help. Proud mummy here. I'm hoping this all rubs off on to DS1 as he's a nightmare fussy eater (slowly improving)!!

Pav poor Reuben! I hope he feels better soon. Poor little lamb

Ursi can't believe Paula has teeth already, bless her Glad to hear its not interfering too much with feeding.

Scarlotti would be lovely to meet up before you go back to work. DP wants this weekend to finish sorting out the solicitor stuff so am around if you're not busy.

Sorry for ranting I was looking at getting somewhere by myself before I found out I was pregnant. The idea of doing it with Bryn frightens me - if my delightful illnesses flared up and I was alone, I don't know how I'd manage. Although saying that I manage when everyone is out at work. I might go and google...

Forgot to say (my head is not functioning today) thank you for the encouragement. I know part of it is the whole teenage VS parents relationship which I get is normal, but sometimes it feels like banging my head against a brick wall here!!

Fruit Bryn does that too As soon as his mouth is empty he's screeching, unless I get him in a Really Good Mood. Impressed about the broccoli, rather him than me

Fruit what a good boy! Ioan had some pasta tonight but got too frustrated trying to put it in his mouth. Think he was too hungry as he bf as soon as I offered then and took a fair feed, even though he'd only been fed an hour earlier! Think I'm going to try and get sorted out to do lunch with him properly and then take it from there as being quite lax with it and then choosing times when he's hungry/tired just isn't working.

SirBoob rant away, none of us mind. I think you'd be fine if you were on your own and had a flare up, as you say when everyone's at work ... you would get lots of help from social services to get you up and running. Might help dp too as he could then come and visit/stay and see Bryn more and babysit
Will text if free this weekend

sirboob remember there is so so much support out there, put feelers out, find out about organisations in your area who might help, local housing action groups (all areas have one, attached to the council, who help people find accommodation, find deposits, have pots of money to help different groups of people with deposit 'bonds' i know, as there is a 'criminal' pot!). They have targets to meet, and money that has to be spent, you can find the one for your area by calling the LA housing team (i might go look for you anyway ), they can (usually it is automatically offered) provide key workers for young people starting out on their own, to help with the initial processes of moving in (bank account set ups, helping you get your head around what bills will need to be paid, helping to set up those accounts, money management etc) and then they will have input for as long as you want afterwards to help you get into the swing of managing a place on your own until you feel ready to go it alone. Then there is social services support, who will also link in with the housing action group if needed, to help you manage your illness and any practical issues around caring for Bryn if/when your illness flares up.

fruit your little boy is just soo gorgeous sounding, I have wonderful images of him snuffling his brocolli and crying for more!

scarlotti I have found today more difficult being on my own. C isn't sleeping much in the day and wants my full attention, so it difficult to run on time with cooking etc. Lunch times are a good starting point. I've only done evening meals and the odd snack. I will start with lunch tomorrow (meant to start yesterday!) C gets frustrated as well. It won't be too long until they're pro's!!

Thanks pav he's a sweetie. You know when an image sticks in your mind and it makes you laugh out loud? Well, I keep chucking to myself thinking of he's facial expressions when he's eating. Must be wonderful for them to have new tastes and experiences. All our babies are a gorgeous bunch

Hi everyone just popping in quickly but have been reading how you all are. Afraid must go to bed so can't post much in response (naughty) - and am off to Wales in the morning for a week so will no doubt be pages and pages and pages behind when I get back.

Had an exciting day here:

1. it was sunny! enough to have only a vest top in the garden...now that's sunny!

1. Took Rosa swimming to an aquababes class at my local pool and it was definitely as good as my rich friends 'waterbabies' class. She swam underwater and everything (proud mummy emoticon)

1. We captured Rosa in the most full-blown giggling mode this afternoon on camera so I can send it to my mum and dad (proud mummy emoticon 2)

Sorry for the boasting but wanted to share and no one appreciates these things the way you guys do.

Will miss you all this week....... !

Are you all out enjoying the sunshine today? I think this must be the first time ever that the earliest post is at 7.30pm!!

Raggie hope you have fun!

Busy day here clearing the garden, muscles are complaining about it now though!

raggie have a good week away

Been having more of a feeding frenzy here today, nearer 2 hourly than 3. Not sure if it's down to a cold or some developmental spurt.
Have a night off tonight though as dh is doing the night shift so hoping for some good sleep. Having said that though, dd is out and due to a mess up with cinema times is not going to be home until quite late, so not sure I'll sleep that well until she's home!

Hi Everyone

Just wanted to pop in and say that I'm still around and often think of you all, just don't get much chance at all to post these days. Still helping to get my dad back on his feet after mum died, so have been flitting between the Isle of Man and home, while occasionally bumping into DH when he's not working away...

DD (2 1/2 now) has got a raging case of chicken pox and poor Daniel is a snotty, coughing little mite so not sure who to nurse first! Even though she's not well, if Daniel cries, she still asks "Whats the matter sweetheart?" while stroking his hair (so cute!).

Daniel is so tall, he's growing out of some of his 6/9 month clothes, despite only being 5 months next week... Has anyone started weaning before 6 months? I had to with DD due to her reflux on the advice of consultant but despite Daniel feeding almost all the time and when I top him up with a bottle, downing 8 or 9 ounces and still looking for more, the health visitor warned me not to wean him until 6 months as it was just a growth spurt. Funny, the growth spurt started over a month ago... If you have, how's it going and have you gone for pureed foods or the baby led weaning approach of letting them mush up foods like banans before feeding themselves? I feel like a naughty schoolgirl even considering weaning him early but he is just so hungry all the time...

Sorry for not having time to read through all the posts but I hope that everyone's ok. Pavlov Earlier this year you kindly offered that I could email you if I wanted to talk since my mum died. I wasn't able to then at all but I think I would really appreciate it now, if the offer's still open? If so, would you mind dropping me an email please? It's joey at willpartridge dot fslife dot co dot uk (someone told me that you should write your email address out in long format on chat rooms for some reason but I forget why...) Obviously, wait until poor Reuben is better if you'd like to get in touch, I know you must have your hands full x

Wizzy its nice to see you Have sent you a message on facebook.

to wizzy of course you can email me, the offer is and always will be open, I will send you one tomorrow if that is ok, as off to bed in a mo. And you need to spell email out properly like that so people cannot google your email address and locate posts you might have written, or something like that. Its a security thing somehow! We have not started weaning yet. But judging by his ability to get the antibiotic to the back of his throat and swallowing without spitting any back out at all, and the pleasure he appears to have at a new flavour to milk, I don't think he has long to go before ready, and he is 19wks. I will start when he is ready now, when he is showing me all the signs and is not satisfied with milk alone anymore, he can try some food, probably wont be 26wks, and will probably be mush til he can sit up completely unless he does that first, then probably will be a banana!

reuben is much much better. Not completely over this coughing mucousy thing, not by any stretch of the imagination but significantly better. He is currently asleep next to me and not snuffling like the bear cub he has now been named as! He is actually breathing clearly and its only been 12 hours of antibiotics. He still has the cough, well, did earlier today, and wheezing is still there, but not as bad, and not so hard sounding on his back.

We spent the entire day outside in the glorious sunshine. A friend called us at 10am and said 'bbq lunch get here for midday' so by 12:30pm we were in their garden with friends sister and her partner, and all our children and DD was in the paddling pool and sandpit, had burgers, sausages, salad for lunch. Then, a fish supper of mackerel, smoked haddock and prawns, then indoors for 5:30pm for a cheese board, followed by trifle! (friend said it was impromptu but I am not so sure ). It was great i hope this weather lasts.

Hope everyone is ok, and enjoying their weekend.

Oh i just wanted to say to skorpion, you are from Poland aren't you? Wanted to pass on my condolences for the loss of your president and his colleagues.

(if it is not you, I apologise for being frazzled of brain and getting the person wrong)

wizzy Here in France it was the paediatrician that told be to start weaning at 4 months!! Dan is really big ( i've now got the 9-12months clothes out)and milkwas really not enough.He has really calmed down on the number of feedsincehe started. Over her BLW doesn't exist plus i work full timeso its a bit time consuming. We use purees plus all the heinz baby rice/porridge etc Ds loves them all!!

pav impromptu trifle

Pav what a lovely day you had!!

maman the BLW hasn't been going too well here tbh, he's not quite able to grab well enough to eat quickly enough to satisfy himself. As I'm back to work in 2 weeks I'm thinking I'm going to do a mix of puree and finger foods. There's no way I could do a BLW tea at the end of the work day - he'd be eating until about 7pm!

The one thing I'm conscious of this time around is that whatever we do needs to be right for us. I spent a lot of time with DS1 worrying whether I was doing things right and fretting if others were doing things differently, and it tainted my enjoyment of being home with him.

Dh did the night shift last night so was hoping for a great night's sleep ... but DD was out and didn't come home until around 12 so I didn't sleep properly until then, and then I heard Ioan wake and cry at 4:30 upstairs so woke up then. Sigh. Now I'm up and dh is in bed as he did the night, and he'll get 6 hours sleep whilst I take the dc's to church. It's just not fair!!

Anyone else tempted to go away for the night to get a good rest?! Even a travelodge would suit me at the moment!!

scarlotti It's interesting that Ioan was feeding lots yesterday and then has a good night(ish). I seem to feed every 3 hours and am woken at least 3 times in the night for feeds. We have dropped the formula dream feed as he didn't want it anymore. But now the feeds are more frequent for me of a night . I'm the only new mum out of my RL friends who has a baby that wakes so much. Saying that, I'm BF and they are formula feeding, that's meant to make a big difference in sleep patterns, I think. Sunday mornings are my worst time of the week. Not sure why. I always wake on a Sunday in a bad mood. We are off to Bluewater shopping centre today to buy a highchair. Hopefully DH will treat me to some new shoes that I desperately need! Re BLW, I think you have the right attitude towards weaning. It must fit in with your day to day life. I think the combination would work well. Sounds like your DS1 is a good eater, hopefully Ioan will take after him

Looks like we need to start a new thread. I'm rubbish at titles. I will leave it to one of you lovely ladies to be creative!