November '09 and the months are flying by, our 3 month plus troop, and us, the knitted boob group!

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New thread, we chat so much!

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Well done SirBoob!

been reading but not writing much recently. Dh is on holiday at the moment which is really nice but know I will feel so lost without him when he goes back to work next tues. He helps so much. havent been out as much as id like tho but ds has to go to playgroup most days so therefore we have to stay here most days as there isnt much point in going out and back anywhere after 9 and back before 12 to pick him up again.(there isnt much you can do near-by, anywhere decent is a good half hour drive or so.) ah well!

Annabelle is being a gem she is sleeping like a trooper at the mo, and will sleep through the night, which is brilliant. She keeps scratching herself on the face and neck all the time and i dont want to put scratch mitts back on her but at the same time I dont want her to keep scratching, and is is making herself really sore. Have tried filing her nails so they have no sharp bits but she seems to still scratch herself.

just bookmarking, hope everyone is fine

SirBoob thanks for the new thread

Trikken do you use a special baby nail file? I trim Lucy's nails but that leaves sharp sticky-outy bits, too.

Lovely pics of the meet-up, glad you enjoyed it and getting really excited about the London one. The logistics are scaring me slightly as I only have an option of a huge lie-flat pram or a sling as a means of transport for LO and she's just started objecting to being enclosed in a carrier. Hoping once she's big enough to face outwards she'll like it more.

raggie that sounds like a nice day out, lovely weather, too. We had a great day in Oxford last Monday and then Stratford on Tuesday.

beepbeep welcome back. Sorry to hear about the pnd - hope it gets better soon.

BBL really sorry to hear about your BIL.

Thanks Sirboob!

I wonder if any of the other postnatal threads go on this long!

Took Anya to HV today and she has dropped from 75th to 50th centile. HV said she isn't too worried at the moment but if she drops any further, we may have to look into it. She weighed in at 13lbs 10oz. Suggestions have been to change to fast flow teat or think about changing the formula she is on. SO we'll see how she goes.

We went into town today and I was sitting in Costa feeding Anya and had very vivid flashback to 5 months ago, sitting in the exact same seat with a big pregnant belly, wondering when my baby was going to arrive, what she would look like and so on. Lovely feeling to have her in my arms. I was able to have my brie panini today though, couldn't do that 5 months ago!

We are heading to Carmarthen with pils this weekend sa it is fil's 60th. None of us have been before. Any of you ever been and have suggestions of what to do? We are thinking of going on the steam train, ds would really enjoy it.

BBL I live 20 minutes from manchester, I'll go give him a hug for you!

I barely remember a word from the old thread, not really good for replying.

BBL, sorry about your BIL, I'm sure he will get lots of support from all the family.

Trikken, I was going to ask a similar thing. Paula doesn't stop scratching her head, it looks terrible. I think her craddle cap is itchy and I usually treat it with olive oil but I do not want to put the oil on fresh wounds.
I use Japanese baby nail scissors and they are really great and easy to cut. European scissors suddenly look big. If you have any contact to someone in Japan ask them to send some over. Ok, now I've lost the plot but they are sooooo great.
Anyway, even with short (and filed) nails she still manages to scratch badly and I simply can not or rather don't want to cut the nails any shorter.
I've even tried to put the scratch mites back on for the night but they are quickly gone.

For scratchers maybe try using socks rather than mits, you can then pull them further up the arm and they may just stay on a bit longer!

Loving the new thread title sirboob !

Glad to hear it's pretty much the norm for Millie to be waking for night feeds. It's just a bit frustrating as she was sleeping through a few weeks ago. Oh well, she'll sleep through again one day I suppose!

I'm off to Switzerland tomorrow so probably won't get a chance to post again until next week, by that point I'm sure there will be a squillion posts to catch up on

Have a nice week everyone and don't forget the clocks go forward this weekend, can't work out if thats a good thing or not!

helips enjoy your trip and the wedding.

TOK Hedy has done a centile nosedive too, again HV said not to worry and it's possibly because I am eating less cake, so both H and I are turning into lean, mean fighting machines! But when it's bf it's hard not to feel you're letting them down in some way if they aren't getting lovely and chunky. Mind you, she feels hefty enough, I can't hold her in certain positions for long any more.

Funny you should have had a pregnancy flashback, I had one tonight- this time last year I was lying on the couch groaning all evening every evening feeling soooooo sick and watching that drama about the choir with raquel from Corrie!

BBL very sorry to hear of your BIL worry.

SirBoob hope you feeling OK

Beepbeep Hello again, sorry to hear you've been down.

Saw Crazy Heart at Big Scream today, didn't expect much but was pleasantly surprised- it's a lovely film and that Oscar was well deserved, I totally believed in that character.

Nearly finished job app.

Sleepingthroughthenight I wish! Hasn't happened yet here. I fell asleep in the relaxy bit at the end of Yoga tonight and snored!

thank you we are very busy on our thread, given all having little demanding ones. Clearly we have it sussed

BBL all those things you describe, that is Reuben. He hates sleeping on his back, always has done since he was born. He always vomits up watery sick, a touch more than spitup (which DD never had any of so i forgot babies did this!), has mucous in his stools, and he has also been fighting when on the boob recently, only started in the last couple of weeks, he arches his back, pulls on my boob and grumbles 'mm mm mm mm;' kind of sound. I am going to investigate, then go back.

I just did at the gp when he said cows milk does not cross over in significant enough ratios to worry about milk allergies. If that was true, that would also apply to, for example, alcohol. So we would not need to limit our alcohol consumption by his theory would we ?

Now, I am not saying he is not teething. His teeth are definitely making their way down/up, but have a while to go yet, so not full blown, but could account for the dribbling, but not the snot and the rattly chest.

Just had a very emotive and long chat with my mum. I think she has wanted to talk about my sister for a long time, but not while I was pregnant. And she admitted how hard she found it being in the delivery suite was for her when I was in labour; how the poor midwife who had been on duty when my sisters heart stopped beating had requested to visit her and mum told her it wasn't her fault; that she had helped with SIDS for a while; that the doctor she asked about a CS when pregnant with me had told her not to be so stupid, that a CS "won't just produce a living baby, you know". I have always had an up and down relationship with my mum, we're quite similar in a lot of ways, but right now I feel so proud of her I could burst. She drives me bonkers, but I cannot imagine the pain she has been through with all the losses she has suffered. I love my mum

Sorry hem am done.

BeepBeep welcome back. Am really sorry to hear that you are struggling too, and I wish you a speedy recovery. x

TOK hope the weight loss issues are okay Funny you should say that about Costa; I went to a small little cafe today as was using my carrier, the first time since being pregnant. I used to go there to satisfy my strawberry milkshake needs cravings. Was strange sitting in there feeding with no bump to balance my cup on!

Ursi second the suggestion of long socks instead of scratch mitts - much harder to get off!

Helips enjoy yourself!

BBL hope everything is okay, thinking of you. x

Wook I did that at my yoga class in the psych unit once Felt very refreashed after though

Pavlov I thought of you today; was in a bagel shop and they have a special called a Reuben

Bryn has also started fighting on the boob recently, it has really been stressing me out. Sometimes he is an utter nightmare to get to eat. And his wind with-holding is back with a vengeance too sighs

Hope you're all okay, hope the new thread starting wasn't too premature

long shot. Is anyone up? Reuben won't/can't sleep because of his god awful cough, he can't breathe through his nose, and it totally gunked up, he is doing this constant wretching. on the plus side, he is loving calpol, so i am guessing when he is ready for weanng he will love food! Poor little thing is still happy though. We are both up, rather than lying in bed waiting for him to sleep and in between choking he is giving me the best coos and smiles. He is currently clutching his parrot and talking to him.

I am not anticipating getting any sleep now. Like last night, think i had about 3 hours. tonight so far, around 2. DH is knackered though apparantly, despite a lie in yesterday and a nap. He has not said so, but when i asked him to sort out some calpol he made this big huge huff and puff and sigh, and when he came back to bed he did a lot more huffing and huge 'omg i am so tired' yawns. Well lucky for him he gets to sleep some more then eh . Don't mind me, just having a moan.

erica sounds like your mum has been through a lot in her time. How long ago did your sister pass away? Was she older or younger than you? I am glad that in the grand scheme of things you feel you have a good relationship with her, it makes the hard times easier to manage knowing that ultimately it is a good thing.

oh and my mortgage company have still not sorted their mess up. Despite promising on monday it would be sorted by tuesday (yesterday), so when i called to find out what was going on, i was told 'oh yes, yes, it is being sorted' then call back later as I did not beleive him. They had not actioned anything til monday! Obviously the stupid woman last week didn't do what she was meant to, and the person on monday fobbed me off and quickly did it, and now it won't be sorted til friday, so they say. And we promised DHs friend he would be paid back yesterday. I hate owing people money, especially when they were promised 24 hours. If I had known it would not be sorted, i would not have borrowed the money, or borrowed it til friday. Now we just look like liars.

Poor little guy I hope it clears up soon. And men... Ugh. Can't live with them or without them. I hope your DH at least makes you a cup of tea (preferably served with a side of sleep!) in the morning. Am so exhausted, so you must be beyond that. As for the money thing - I hate borrowing or even discussing money, so I understand that. But its not your fault if you thought it would be 24 hours and the company have screwed up.

My sister would have been 23 this year. I miss her very much, despite never knowing her. But I believe she is looking after me; it was her, my Grandmothers and my friend Pam I asked for help with the complications at the birth.

On that note - I have only recently found out / realised how concerned they were at the end of the delivery. Even though it all worked out okay, its terrifying. Every time I think about it I just want to scoop Bryn up, cuddle and kiss him, and check he is real and still breathing.

Sorry, my thoughts always turn deep at night!!

Morning ladies (or afternoon to those who've been up for hours)

Better night's sleep here last night so feeling quite refreshed today DS1 woke up again at 5 but at least kept going back to his bed to wait for 7 DS2 seemed hungrier last night so not sure if that's a one off or a taste of what's to come.
He had carrot to try yesterday and wolfed it down, same with the apple the day before. Am wondering whether to up the amount/frequency of what he's getting as it almost seems like I've whetted his appetite! Funny thing I noticed this morning though was the change in his nappy contents (sorry if tmi ) and it reminded me of what nappies change to after food is introduced! No more sweet smelling bf nappies!!

Pav sorry to hear Reuben is still poorly. A lot of the symptoms you describe we have here, but Ioan is happy to go on his back so I think I just have a possety baby. DS1 was the same, ate a lot quickly and then had to bring up the extra that there was no room for in his tummy!

SirBoob well done on the thread Glad you've talked to your Mum, it's been sounding for a while like a good chat would clear the air and make you feel better.
Oh, meant to say to you too, have decided to tell SIL tough tits that I've not got all the clothes and she can just lump it. So hang on to anything that you want for Bryn. If you would rather I picked up anything you're done with then happy to, know space with you is at a premium.

Nice to see some of you have found your way back here

re nails and scratching, we have the same issue here. Ioan scratches himself raw sometimes. I tend to bite his nails rather than cut as I found they were razor sharp after using scissors. Biting tends to leave them softer so may be worth a shot?

TOK I'm about 15 mins from Camarthen here at Mum's it's a lovely part of the country. Will ask her for ideas of where is nice to go and see.

Your poor mum Sirboob. Its amazing how have a baby yourself can bring you closer to your mum. I had a similar thing with my mum. I always knew she had a stillborn little boy but we never talked about it in the family. My sisters and I could clearly see my parents getting upset around the Christmas period but we just never talked. When I was pregnant with both dcs mum was always very very concerned about whether I was feeling movements regularly and it was only after I had Anya she told me that she had not felt her baby move and so went to the doctors. This was on 23rd December. Docotor sent her to the hospital to be checked out and the consultant, on scanning, told her bluntly "There's no heartbeat Mrs Doherty, you best phone your husband". When my mum got upset she was told to "pull yourself together". To make matters worse they made my parents wait until boxing day to deliver him. I cannot imagine what it must have been like knowing and not being able to do anything. Getting emotional even thinking about it now. New found respect for my mum after that, strong lady.

Okay, someone come on here with some giggly gurgly baby stories to cheer everyone up now that I have utterly depressed the lot of you sorry.

tok how absolutely horrible for your mother and father. It is so horrible it has made me tearful.

My mum lost a baby at just past 6 months. She never spoke about it, apart from to say that if she had the baby in this time, he would likely have survived and then when i found out i was Rh- blood group, she, and she wondered if the baby was Rh+ (she was AB- a rare blood group). She did not ever talk about what actually happened though. Or how she felt

I'm making a Mr Strong costume for DS1 today. Sigh. The school wants them to go dressed as a character from a book for world book day or week or whatever. DS2 is going as the tiger that came to tea. I need some red wellies and a green hat and DS1's outfit is complete. Any ideas where I can buy red wellies?

Morning all

Had a bad night with Ethan not sleeping as he is pretty congested with a cold and kept choking. He's absolutely fine when we're up during the day and is currently dozing in his bouncey chair with no problems, just seems to be lying flat on his back which bothers him. He doesn't have a temp or anything. Is it worth going to the chemist for something to help clear his tubes? What can you guys recommend?

Also, Ethan has had cradle cap in his eyebrows since he was born. It has never been too bad but recently looked quite dry so I put a touch of e45 cream on... was that completely wrong? It had gone quite red yesterday but I'm not sure if that meant the moisturiser was making it worse or helping it heal. It's all trial and error this parenthood game!

Sorry to hear all these sad stories of loss, just makes you realise how lucky we all are with our little miracles.

DWB May I suggest, saline drops to help the congestion (frequent applications is the key), try and raise his matress so he's not laying flat. Olive oil on a cotton wool pad for the cradle cap. DS had cradle cap in his eyebrows and the olive oil worked a treat. Not a fan of E45 but HV recommended I use it for some dry patches on DS's legs and torso, I prefer Oilatum.

Just to add DWB I don't think applying the E45 was wrong, the face is more sensitive so maybe a more natural method would be better at this age. I've had conflicting advice from HV's and GP's and it drives me around the bend. I go with what seems to work!

Just got back from DS2's 3rd set of jabs. It was heartbreaking 3 injections this time. He refused he's feed as he was so upset. I've given calpol this time around as the HV said he could feel poorly from this set. He is sleeping upstairs and I doubt I'll hear from him for a couple of hours. That's it now until he is 1 yr old - phew!

Just to add DWB I don't think applying the E45 was wrong, the face is more sensitive so maybe a more natural method would be better at this age. I've had conflicting advice from HV's and GP's and it drives me around the bend. I go with what seems to work!

Just got back from DS2's 3rd set of jabs. It was heartbreaking 3 injections this time. He refused he's feed as he was so upset. I've given calpol this time around as the HV said he could feel poorly from this set. He is sleeping upstairs and I doubt I'll hear from him for a couple of hours. That's it now until he is 1 yr old - phew!