October 08 - Got ourselves some crying, talking, sleeping (sometimes!) walking, living dolls.

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Well somebody better start the new thread, so might as well be me!

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For the washing machine, csws. Is there anyone nearby who can let you use theirs?

Aubergenie how annoying about the electric wiring!
Are you coming to Clown town? I've forgotten who is coming now. I'm going to myjob's tomorrow

Hi BertieBotts. Nice to "see" you again. I will google elimination communication.
I'd prefer a magic wand that I could wave and make him potty trained. Anyone?

Hmmm, I've just looked up the location of clown town and tbh, I don't think we'll come. The location is a bit of a nuisance to get to from us, M3, M25, M4, North circular... I HATE driving anywhere near the North circular, it was one of the many reasons I was glad to move away from Fulham!

Ds had his first haircut today - though not a proper little boy crop, mainly a tidying up of his crazy hair and cutting it back from his eyes, so most people probably won't notice the difference!

CSWS, what a nightmare about the washing machine. I use ours far too much to cope without it....

Awww, gwan Ekka - you know you want to really.

Lovely to see you back Bertie. I wasn't sure what was going on with you and your exP, but I guess the fact that he's ExP answers that!

Have a lovely day today Star and Myjob.

Star - I think it's just you, me (and MrCSWS) and Aubergenie tomorrow if Ekka doesn't come.

Ekka - Ryan had his hair cut about a month ago and looks like a proper "little boy" now, it was quite scary at first but am used to it now, and it's so much easier to wash, he used to scream the house down

CSWS - I left in December, so have been on my own just over 4 months now. It took 3 months to find somewhere to go etc though so I feel like I have been "single" for more like 7 months. I am feeling a lot happier, and Ryan has become a lot more confident (though some of that is his age I am sure) but just struggling slightly to accept that I could do with a bit of help getting myself organised around the house etc. I have got some support through my new HV, who is lovely, and I have got a project worker coming around today, who I am sure will also be lovely, but I am a bit nervous! Not helped by the fact that I ended up staying up literally all night due to an impromptu visit from an old friend who I have been chatting and flirting with online for 2-3 months now! Oh and my living room smells of cheese because of a forgotten dairylea triangle which got left out overnight, has since been removed, but I can't get rid of the smell

XP seems to be happier too which is a good thing. He is on his second girlfriend already! The first one was four days after I left and lasted about six weeks (though they were living together). This one seems to be lasting longer, but she has a little girl and her parenting seems to be influencing his - he keeps sending Ryan back with Fruit Shoots in his changing bag. Not great but at least he is now feeding him and giving him something to drink.

Hope everyone has a good meet up today/tomorrow

Oh pistachio - have I told you that I'm going to go for a natural 3rd stage this time? Anything you'd like to tell me about them?
Your dh sounds just perfect!

Glad that you are feeling a bit happier Bertie, and absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that you could do with a little help. It's quite relentless looking after children and a house alone.

Hi CSWS, i had a natural 3rd stage with Emma. I didn't find it too bad (given nothing to compare with) but it did take a while (an hour... about as long as they would allow).

The only thing i found was that after a while i had to hand Emma to DH so i could concentrate on pushing... but this probably because the MW was worried i was taking too long!

I really wanted the whole natural thing, but ended up being induced and having an epidural, then the cord was round ds's neck so it had to be cut straight away and by that point it hardly seemed worth making a fuss about having a natural third stage. Interesting to know that it wouldn't be advised anyway.

I was planning to get ds's hair cut today, but while we were having lunch I stood up to get something, heard ds saying "hat, hat", turned back round to see that he'd turned his bowl upside down and put it on his head. His hair was so full of jacket potato I didn't think it was fair to inflict it on the barber.

Hello Bertie - It's good to hear that things are positive for you since the split but not surprised you find it hard to manage everything. I know I do and I'm not on my own. I've no idea if it's useful to you but my friend found Homestart really helpful when she split with her dh and was struggling. I can't remember whether they looked after her dcs or did some housework for her but I know it helped her to get sorted.

Glad you had a good day Myjob!

I'm coming tomorrow. Did we say 10.30? And we're having lunch there aren't we?

Ah, then I've already learned stuff from you pistachio! Why isn't it recommended if you've had synto (or anything else)? And what is the downside for the baby of not having the intended full blood volume?

lol at S aubergenie - I guess he really didn't want his hair cut!
That was/is the plan for tomorrow aubergenie, yes, but star has just said that she's not sure if she's going to be able to make it, which leaves just you and I. Do you still want to do it if it's just us? I won't be at all offended if you don't!

What do you reckon CSWS? I'm happy to still come but I feel bad dragging you all the way down to London if it's just us. Should we reschedule it for a time when Star and 50ft (and anyone else) can make it? I'm on holiday all next week too and can do Thursdays and Fridays during a normal week.

Star - is there another day during the holidays that you can make?

Oh it's only about 45-50 mins for us aubergenie, so not too bad at all, but it seems a shame not to get a good group of us together.

I can't make any day next week, and think that star's back at school after that (but do meet without me next week if that suits the rest of you), but we can generally speaking do a normal Sunday if that's good for people (does soccer practice go on all year round 50ft - that's sunday's isn't it, or is it saturdays? ).

x-post pistachio. That's really helpful thank you . And of course I'm always happy to help you revise .

Are you watching the masterchef final aubergenie?

Not sure if I'll make it tomorrow or not. I'll advise later. DH well, let's call him FH for the time being... I'll leave you all to create your own meaning for the F in your own minds ... anyway, he was rather upset that I "took Q away" from him for 10 hours today... . Even though I had told him yesterday taht we'd be staying for dinner and then travelling home afterward and I asked him several times - "is there a time you'd like us home?" and "is it ok if we stay for dinner?" and he said "I don't care".... well, apparently he did care! ugh! I'm so annoyed because I thought I had asked and made sure...etc and then he just goes and gets upset anyway. He was working on the house at least...
it's not done... but it's um... well, more work has been done.

I will talk to him and find out what he wants to do about clown town tomorrow. It would be a shame for Q if he couldn't go. And me arghhhhh

Oh and at the third stage stuff. I had finally had the epidural by that time, so they injected me with the thing in my thigh and apparently it came out. I have no idea really because I didn't feel it at all. I had local anaesthetic at that point as well so they could use the ventouse and I was so bruised by then I was numb from that, too. I remember them asking me if I wanted that injection and I just looked at them and they did it. I mean, really... come on! You push a baby out... then there's more wtf??? It should all come out at once ffs.

Sorry star, but I had to lol at 'It should all come out at once ffs. '

star - your DH is up to his usual tricks of putting you on the back foot and making it all YOUR fault! Grr
CSWS - I'll be interested to see if they let you have a natural third stage (or first for that matter!) I was always told "not a chance" and i think we have a similar history of GD, full week of induction for No2. I had a manual removal with DS1 after the injection and DS2s cord was velementous (no, I don't really know what that means) but I'm not sure that influenced any decisions.
LOL at jacket potato hairdo!

I should all come out at once shouldn't it star! I remember thinking oh please not more bloody pushing.

Sorry to hear you might not be able to make it tomorrow. Your dh is being totally inreasonable not to make his feelings clear at the outset. You'd think he'd be glad of the time to get things sorted in your flat. Would it be better for you if we re-arranged for a weekend instead (but if we do that we should definitely do it soon while CSWS is still in circulation)?

Yes, CSWS am watching the final, although I've gone off Masterchef a bit recently. Too repetative

We're watching Masterchef too, DH is addicted!
pistachio - MROP wasn't too bad as it was DS1 - so I had no idea what was normal! Though, as a prude (like star!) the worst bit was when I realised the screen between you and the 7 people rummaging around down below - was the end of the gown pegged up!!!! somehow, even after giving birth, that was an indignity too far!
I shall be at work tomorrow, I had to call in sick last week with the horrid bug again - my first day off sick in 4 years, but it just looks awful when you're only in the office one day a week and it's the day before a bank holiday when you call in sick