May 2008. The FML's and the TT's (terrible twos)...here they come!

[Lucky2010]

Hi girls, thought the old thread was in need of a spring clean, plus, I'm sure if my memory serves me right, one of us had our May-due baby in March (Macoco???) so someone is 2 soon....!

Glad the SALT was reassuring HM.

No way I am agreeing to MILs suggestion. I was very rapid with my "thanks, but we're busy".

MM at your MIL!!! Unbelievable! Well done for sticking up for yourself!

HM Glad SALT was worth while.

DH is a little better. I don't think it's anything to do with current financial climate cos being public sector workers our jobs are pretty safe, and he's just not in that line of work so it doesn't really effect as as such....IYSWIM. He used to be a financial advisor too before he changed career.
I personally think it's cos he is experiencing what most women/mother's experience. There are just fewer men who do as much of the childcare that he does. As you know, he's very helpful around the house too, so it's just that monotony of 2 demanding (albeit lovely but still tiring) children, and keeping up to date with washing, ironing, shopping, hoovering etc, and finding time to do what he wants to do i.e. watch footy, work out etc. It's just tiring, and monotonous, and the majority of men work full time and the mothers do most of the childcare, whereas ours is literally 50/50.

Feeling a bit tonight as I have been getting up really early, to work out before going to work, be it a swim or bike ride etc. I really enjoy doing it at that time, and I don't feel guilty cos they are all still asleep. Trouble is, I'm getting knackered!!! I should really go to bed earlier, but, as in right now, once the girls are settled in bed (about 8pm these days) I tend to get a second wind. I've been knackered all day, and now I'm wide awake....FFS!!!

Laters....

LM x

Hope you got some sleep LM - I go to bed terribly early (often around 8-9pm.. basically as soon as I have finished my jobs and got the house sorted for the morning ) I don't go straight to sleep, but it helps me relax knowing everything is done.

Was thinking about your DH... he hasn't had to deal with anything traumatic recently? Just thinking about what he does.... his job must be pretty stressful IYSWIM...

My two slept till 5:30am.... Straight through!! Feel like I've had a lie in!!

Morning!
Iv been at work since 0630 today(rare exception) and im ready for my bed already!! Yawn! School holidays are the only time I work all day.

HM glad you were happy with SALT.

MM at your mil. I must admit that Im 'lucky' with my (not yet)family-in-law, in the 8yrs we have been together they have acknowledge that I have a birthday once. I think I would be flabbergasted just to hear them say Happy Birthday never mind get a card!

Speaking of Social Climate Depression. My friend told me last night that her uncle has just left his wife as a result. He lost his job that he had been in most of his life, but he quite quickly got another in the same field but has just slowly got lower and lower and told her last week to sell the house cos he's not coming back. Shock. Their only son has just moved out to be with his pregnant gf as well so she is suddenly all alone. Poor women.

Right im off for more tea to try stay alert, both kids are still asleep for now...

Hope all of you in England are out having fun and sunning yourselves! The rain here stopped this morning thankfully.

Milk Q: Do any of you still give you lo formula at all? Reason I ask is, we give dd SMA Toddler milk at bedtime. Its for 1y+. But now that she is 2y+ I was wondering when do we stop the formula?

Can you all remember nearly 2 years ago my brother and his gf and some friends went to Australia? Well after 1y my db&gf came home but the other stayed behind for a 2nd year. They spent the festive season working in a very very remote farm and neddless to say she ended up pregnant.
As her due date is early October they decided to come home this month.
Last weekend (at 27weeks) her placenta ruptured and she went into labour. The doctors couldnt stop the labour and so her now Aussie son was born at 2lbs 4oz. He couldnt breath at first but is now in good health and is off the oxygen.
Unfortunatly their visa runs out next month. So as well as having the stress and everything that goes with having a prem baby, especially when all their family/friends are thousands of miles away, they also have to deal with immigration as the hospital have said baby wont be discharged until his due date in October.
I just feel soo badly for them.
But the good thing is that both mother and baby are healthy and will hopefully be home for Christmas.

Sho x

SHo - DS and DD both have toddler milk for bed and (usually, but not always) in the morning too. But both are on water during the day (drinking like fishes in this heat!!)

Goodness... that story is - I hope they are OK and the authorities give them so leniancy (SP!?).

HM x

Sho that is a shocker. Poor woman, hope she is OK. How stressful.

My DDs haven't had formula since they both turned one. Both been on Cow's milk since then. DD1 now over 4 yrs old appears to be going off her milk .

Sho Oh my goodness, poor family. And DS has been on cows milk only since I stopped BFing (13mo). One cup at bedtime and on cereal, and maybe one drink a day but no bottles.

lucky really sorry to hear your DH is having a hard time.

Sorry to have been out of the loop a bit, have been reading but usually only sneakily at work so can't reply! Things have been a bit mad- now have to move house before the baby comes (landlord moving back to UK). Bringing end of contract forward to first week of Sept rather than a week after I give birth! Hopefully we'll manage to find somewhere else and get a bit settled before LO arrives. Stress I could really have done without but we'll cope. I bloody hate renting! This is the 5th time we'll have moved house since DS was born.

Also, and please don't anyone mention this on facebook (not that it's casual chat stuff) as my sisters don't know- but my mum had a biopsy on a tumour today and I'm scared stiff. She's 54. We won't know the results for another week and I'm finding it quite hard to stay normal. Keep calm and carry on and all that. Sorry, just really had to share. My little sis is working in the US this Summer and my mum really doesn't want her worrying, just really can't risk it getting out in RL just yet, it could all be fine.

Bump is healthy and very active so that's a good thing! Hope you're all healthy and happy

Oh baiyu so sorry to hear about your mum, I hope the results are good for her. IL keep my fingers crossed.
And sorry to hear that you have to move house again. Like you dont have enough on your plate with a 2yo, bump and your mum. At least your landlord gave you decent notice.

Im getting really broody just now with all these impending babies arriving shortly. Maybe TMI but it seems to be that when ever dp or myself gets broody I get my period. Iv had 4 in the last 2months!

Baiyu - sorry you are having a tough time of it. How is work going? Try not to worry about your mum... It's awful waiting for results. I had a lump removed a few years ago as it was growing fast (not a good sign) and had increased in a month to over 2cms (again, not a good sign) - the consultant was so worried they decided to remove it before getting the biopsy results. I will be thinking of her.

Has anyone heard from MM recently?

Baiyu sending your Mum good luck vibes, take care x

Baiyu My friend had a similar experience with her mum recently and all was fine. Fingers crossed and goood catholic girl prayers from me.

I had a melt down in town today !! I went into a cake shop which had been recommended to me as being really helpful. I wanted to hire a '4' and a '0' cake tin to do a 40 cake for my folks Ruby wedding in August. It's not a big do, just immediate family, posh picnic on the beach, chez superbro. Superbro wanted to order a cake and I said I would like to make one for my lovely M&D. Anyway, the woman was so rude to me, pretty much told me my idea was crap and it wouldn't work, so I got arsey and said 'well I'm not a professional cake maker, it's only for 10 people' etc etc and she said 'yeah but don't you wanna make your mum and dad a decent cake?' implying that I didn't give a shit, which really hit a nerve, so I grabbed the girls and said 'come on girls, let's go, this lady is being very rude ti Mummy', I stormed out of the shop crying . The stupid cow followed me halfway down the high street and apologised (one thing at least). GRRRR! I am still angry now thinking about it!!

Feeling bit stressed at the mo. Not time of month but really tearful and very spotty. I think it's all this stuff with DH and not even being able to talk to any of my RL friends about it. Things are hard at the mo .

Sorry to be all doom and gloom.

Happy Saturday night all!!

LM xxx

LM poor you, me a bit spotty here too!

How's DH now?

DS1 learnt to ride his bike without stabilisers today! I was so amazed since last time we tried a couple of months ago he hadn't got a clue. He's got to put in a bit more practise yet though. We've also taken him out of nappies at night, not going too well, and I'm not sure he'll get it any time soon.

How's everyone else?

WW Go DS1 on the biking!! Well done!
Thanks for asking, DH still low. It's breaking my heart seeing him like this, and driving me mad that I can't talk to my BFs about it. I'm a pretty open person with my close friends and it feels weird when people say 'Hi, how are you?' and I just say 'yeah, fine thanks' and I'm thinking, I'm not fine, I'm sad and I want to talk to you about it but I can't!!! .

DD2 has had dry nappies in the morning more often than not, thinking of braving removing them soon, which is way earlier than we did with DD1 (she was 3 yrs) but she seems to be naturally doing it IYSWIM.

WW Stick with it with DS1, it took DD1 about 3 weeks to be dry at night once we started trying.

LM x

And we had a dry bed!! Although DH did gently ask him if he wanted to do a wee when we went bed (I was told by the nursery nurse not to do this), and I'm sure he didn't have the 900ml of water in the day I've been told to give him. But it's all good, since I now don't have to wash his duvet and bedding for a fifth night in a row .

Although have been awake all night pondering etc .

Lucky that cakeshop women was out of order. Did you eventually get the bits you needed?

WW congrats on the no stabilisers! And on the dry bed!

We are no where near dry nappies at any point in the day/night. While nappie-less in the house Dd will 'hold it' until she has her nappy on. We have both the seat and the potty, she is not interested. Although it does show great control if she can hold it for soo long

Just had 4 days holidays, back to work for 4 days then off for 2 weeks. Im quite looking forward to going down to Manchester to visit the family!

Hope you are all well and happy
Sho x

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WW we 'lifted' DD1 for a wee at 11pm when we went to bed for about 9 months after we started night time training. We were scared to stop but plucked up the courage last Christmas and she was fine. I don't think there is any harm in doing it initially tbh.

We lifted him for at least 6 months, and we had the occasional dry nappy. He's now in his new big boy bed (and midsleeper), with waterproof mattress and lots of layers for night time changes. It means DS2 has gone into DS1's room and a proper bed. He's been climbing out of his cot loads so no keeping him contained anymore. He's so pleased .

WW great news on dry bed! When is a good time to do night time training? I am in absolutely no rush but since DS was dry in the day he's always had a dry nappy in he morning. Still, until he gets annoyed at me putting a nappy on at night I'll keep going a good while longer I reckon. What do you think? When are you going to do it lucky?

I'm being blasted over at AIBU today Think that's the last time I'll go there! Please don't you lot tell me if you think i'm unreasonable too, plenty of strangers have and I like you ladies

My mum got her results yesterday and unfortunately it is cancer- 'non-small cell lung cancer', chemo starts next week. Thankfully it's not been too aggressive to date and they think she's had it a while. Think we all feel a bit better now that we know what it is and can start fighting it.

lucky your cake idea sounds brill, glad the woman apologised! I rented a 1 for DS's 1st bday and did my sisters initial for her 20th, both were great fun! Hope you managed to get all the bits you needed. Haven't found a shop down here that rents moulds or every birthday would get one! How's your DH now? Really feel for you on this on, so tough I'm sure. Is there anyone in RL that you could talk to privately without breaking trusts? If not, there may be some good helplines for family members to talk things through with a stranger. I used to volunteer for a samaitans type helpline (nightline at uni, think it's in a few unis now) and I do believe sometimes it can really help.

Just watched that prog 'underage and pregnant' on iplayer thinking this'll be nice and trashy (to go with my trifle on the couch and the sort of thing that DH will never want to watch, and I was in floods of tears. It's an emotional business this motherhood lark isn't it?!

Hope you're all well.

Baiyu so sorry to hear of your Mum's diagnosis but hopefully they can catch it early and get rid of it. Love and prayers XXXX
Re- nightime nappies, DD2 seems to be the same as your DS, dry 90% of the time in the morning. I think we'll brave no nightime nappy soon. She's totally different to her big sis on this front.

What was your AIBU thread? can you link it on here?

I must confess I have spoken to DH's best mate (also a good friend of mine) via email about DH and he's being a star at getting DH to go out a bit more, they went to see Inception this week. I'm escaping to Mum's for the weekend. DH working most of the weekend but I've told him it will be a good bit of 'time off' for him, but tbh, I just feel like I need a break from him. Does that sound awful? I just want to be around happy people and not walk on eggshells for a few days!

WW great news on the dry bed!

LM xxx

Dry bed not really dry, DH didn't realise he'd done a little

Baiyu if he's 90% dry at night he's ready, please note, I'm talking about DS1!! DS2 will only be potty trained until he begs for pants, we had such a nightmare with DS1 when I did him at 2.5 yrs, he really wasn't interested and thus had wet pants for weeks and pooey ones for months .

Sorry to hear about your Mum, but it does sound positive, hope it goes well next week x

LM no does not sound awful about needing a break, you need some 'normal time'.

Baiyu's thread

Baiyu for the record, I have bought the occasional item from Primark. I think the best advice i have is not to start such a provocative thread on MN, there are some callous bitches out there. Stick to the FML's!!!

Don't let it get to you anyway.

LM xx

More to the point, why are we all still up??!! GET TO BED!!!