May 2008. The FML's and the TT's (terrible twos)...here they come!

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Hi girls, thought the old thread was in need of a spring clean, plus, I'm sure if my memory serves me right, one of us had our May-due baby in March (Macoco???) so someone is 2 soon....!

2 year check was done by nursery nurse from my surgery. She's the same on that DS1's and I picked her brains on how to get him dry at night...

WW That's great news about your bro and SIL. I hope all goes well for them. I will message you on FB about next week.

mitchell sorry I couldn't be more help earlier with your FB questions.

MM hope the hols pan out OK. I feel your pain [sympathetic hug emocion].

Haven't done any bike rides this week but did it 3 times last week and really enjoyed it. Def going to do it regularly when back from hols.

Has anyone seen SATC 2 yet?? Like it?? I really enjoyed it. There was a bit that made me cry when Charlotte and Miranda were talking about how hard it is being a Mum. Reminded me of my PND days and ended up blubbing in front of group of (childless and single) girls from work who I went with . The girl I was sitting next to is 38/40 with DC1....I think I scared her...ha ha!!!

Off on hols Friday so won't be around but catch up with you all soon.

Keep posting!!

LM xxx

Hi!

Ah its been a bit mental here recently. I dont think iv stopped for weeks!

The Centenary camp was good thanks to those you asked. From the girls pov it was excellant, from the leaders pov it was a bit of a shambles. It wasnt organised very well. Said organisers had never been to or helped at such a large event before. So to those that have been to these types of events expected certain things that you would think as standard with over 16000 girls running around.
I done pretty well for my first official outing as Brown Owl, and only 2 of my 4 girls attending ended up in First Aid, all minor incidents. Good times had by all.

In the mean time, my fridge has broke down then the next day my freezer broke down. The new appliance arrived on Tues thankfully.

We also had my niece over on Tuesday night. She is 7m dd jr. The poor girl is having a horrible time with her bowels (tmi alert) this year. For some unknown reason she has been unable to produce a solid poo this year. Doctor cant find any reason why. Just when they thought things were starting to improve things got worse at the weekend there. Her poor wee bum is awful with blisters. Makes me soo thankful that my dd has relatively good health.

Dd has recently decided that she doesnt want to wear a nappy when in the house, she is insistant on being naked at all times. Problem is imo she's not quite ready for potty training. We have a potty in the living room and she is regularly encourage to sit on it, although she never makes it in time. I think she only realises that she need just as she is starting iykwim.

Dp is supposed to be digging up the front garden today but is still in bed. 1130am.

lm happy holidays

baiyu & ww dd was called for a health check with hv at 20months.
hm & Baiyu hope things at home get easier for you both

Hi there!

just a quickie from me...

Sho - totally relate to life being manic.. I just don't seem to get a second to myself!!

Sorry, too tired to remember what's been said.... I'm off to St. Albans to (hopefully) change a pair of shoes I bought from LK Bennett... Wore them once and they look knackered!!!! Wish me luck!!

HM x

Woo, tumbleweed...
Hope everyone's okay! Too busy running after crazy toddlers I'll bet, certainly the case here!

Sho well done with your camp. Your poor wee niece, hope things settle soon.

LM well done with the pedalling!

HM hope they swapped your shoes.

Just put DH to bed with a temperature off our thermometer , so at least 104, should wire him up to power the house through the winter the amount of heat he's producing! Just hope I don't catch it.

Hope everyone's well xxx

hi
hope your dh is better now baiyu

Looks like I spoke too soon regarding dd's good health. She has developed what I can only call 'selective' diorrhea(sp?). TMI moment. She's only 'runny' twice a day, has been since the weekend. She is fine therest of the time in every way. I cant explain it, my only thinking is that its due to the change in yoghurts so im going to change them back and see how that works. Its soo strange.

We had our playgroup summer trip to the safari park today. Was very good fun. We could go in the drive through section at first as a lion had broke through the fence in to the rhino enclosure and attacked a rhino! Said rhino was ok, mainly superficial I think. Then we saw a new born deer take to its feet for the first time. A beautiful sight. Afterwards we were chased by 'ninja' ducks. We never ever heard them, they would just appear at my ankles trying to steal food.

Our schools finish this friday for the summer holidays. This year is going really fast dont you think

Hope everyone is fine and dandy
Sho x

Just a quickie. Hope the sick are now on the mend!

Been v busy, can't believe this time last week I was at Ascot.

Just this morning (surprise morning off since not enough patients) I've done nursery tun, tesco, ordered some school uniform for DS1 and had a quick swim. Off to work now for monthly meeting, got to bring up changing my hours to allow for school drop off.

Hope you're all able to catch some of this sun x.

Checking in briefly, DH mostly better thanks Sho, still a bit weak.

Ooh Ascot WW! Did you have a wonderful hat?

A weekend with my MIL awaits, groan.

Happy sunny weekend to all!

baiyu - Glad your DH is feeling better and you didn't catch whatever it was.

Sho - Do you think the runniness might be teeth coming through? DS is getting his molars and, when they are on the move... well, tis not nice!

LOL at ninja ducks... We have ninja geese here. they are evil things and most people I know avoid them!!

Well, life is busy here... Mims is on the move so much now.. she is testing haribo's resolve to the max!! (that would be the resolve not to smack her around the head!! ) They love each other really!!

We have been to Knebworth today and had a fab time, only the kids basically didn't sleep at all so Haribo has been a living MONSTER since about 4pm... they are both in bed now [PHEW emoticon] so it's feet up and football on...

Loving the sunshine! Hope you are all well!!

HM x

And, Baiyu, I hope you are not having your resolve tested already... it will be a long week if you are!!

HM I dont think it is teeth thats been making her runny. I did suspect the change in her yoghurts. We usually use Petite Filous but we changed to Yoplaits Wildlife yoghurts, mainly because they had a free magnet and dd loves playing with magnets. But things have been alot calmer in the nappy department since we changed back. Coincidence, I dont know.

We took dd swimming today for the first time this year, We were only in 30mins and she spent most of that clinging on to dp or myself, and she has just woken from her 3hr 20mins nap!

Hope all our darling little ones arent you all too much.
Sho x

Ps. The local 2010 baby boom has started to deliver, so far all boys

Hi ladies,

HM can't believe you were in Knebworth....I'm about 4 miles from there!! Should have given me a shout.

Had a great holiday, perfect. Some pics on FB (107...). Met up with WW at soft play .

Haven't been able to tell any of my RL friends cos he doesn't want me to, for obvious reasons, but it's driving me mad not being able to talk to anyone about it. Basically DH is suffering from depression. He's not been himself for weeks and we had a big chat on hols and he thinks he's depressed. It's horrible cos he is usually my rock and he's just not himself. I know I have been very blessed with him, but now he's just not in the mood to do as much around the house etc so I'm doing more and more. He's moody, tetchy and generally just miserable to be honest.
Obviously I've had depression myself so I know what it's like and how horrible it is. I'm glad I have to be honest, cos I think if I didn't have that empathy I'd be much less patient with him.
It's also made me realise how hard it must have been for him when I had it as I'm finding things hard, feel like I'm walking on egg shells at home, being careful not to stir him up at all.
We had a good hols and he was better on hols but he's reverted back to being miserable.

We had a chat about coping strategies, I've told him he needs to go out with his friends more, he rarely does. I also said he needs to do more for himself and be a bit more selfish. At the weekend I made him go out on his bike for a long ride while I amused the girls.

I'm being as supportive as I can but it's hard cos I can't talk to anyone about it.

Sorry to moan,

LM xxx

LM my DH has been a bit up and own since I had DS2, I had to watch him calm himself down from a panic attack when getting ready for work when DS2 was 5 weeks old. I too have been there when going back to work after DS1. It's really hard watching your man and not being able to help him, it's almost easier dealing with it it when it's happening to you.

You're doing the right things, it will pass, but it's hard because they wont't talk to anyone. Sending (very non MM) hugs x.

Thanks WW.

You're right. I practically had to eak it out of him on holiday. They are just so closed! I told him that when I had it, talking to my friends really helped. He has a great best mate who would be very understanding, and his ex-crewmate on the ambo has a background in mental health nursing so he has 2 good people he could talk to. I don't want to be all forceful but I feel like I almost need to contact them and say 'can you ask DH to go for a drink' IYSWIM. He won't get around to organising it himself, but I know it would help him.

LM x

Men are soo stubborn when its about themselves arent they. If its about someone else then they are usually full of opinions. Men!
I really feel for you just now LM.
If its any help, when I was pnd I couldnt find the strength to physically speak to anyone but found it helpful to write it down. I carried it about for a few weeks before I was ready to share it with dp but it really gave the 'courage' I needed to then seek help.

Hi LM.. Sorry to hear about your DH... I know your DH and my Dh are VERY different propositions, so not sure any advice I have is useful.. but I do agree with WW and Sho.. men are closed and stubborn.

I actually think my DH was a bit depressed when DD was born.. Maybe a bit with DS too, but for totally different reasons (He had a son previously who died at 4mo)... For my DH, I think he took the whole concept of being the breadwinner so seriously, that he wasn't that open to other aspects, IYSWIM?

Mims is 11MO now and I actually think it's only the last few weeks I've actually properly think I've enjoyed - properly enjoyed - having two children.

With most things, though, the most important thing is being able to actually admit there is a problem - there is so much pressure to keep up the pretence that life is great (I'm sure, as mums, we can all agree on that!).. I think men find it even harder, cos even when they DO meet up, it's all about how business is going and who's doing best etc., etc.,

Good friends for women are important, but for men... I think are imperative. Thankfully, my DH has 1 good friend (was his first best man, actually) who he can really TALK to. They have been such wonderful friends to us both over the years.

Not much else happening here. Haribo in good form. Still not speaking . I took him to the Paed at The Portland who said 'no problem'. I took him to the GP who said 'no problem' and I talked to DH who said 'no problem'... but, I dunno... maybe he really IS one of those children who understands but doesn't speak... but I'm not prepared to take any chances so I've booked an assessment with a private SALT. I know it may seem to be a bit PFB, but his speech is basically on a par with Mims...

All the standard things have been ruled out - his comprehension is first rate, so hearing not a rpoblem. He's extremely clever with jigsaws, numbers, shape sorters etc.,

But no real words

Ho hum...

x

HM I don't remember exactly but DS1 was much slower to speak than DS2 has been. Hope the SALT puts your mind at rest.

Thanks WW, I hope that it will and do feel I'm possibly being a bit precious, given no one else actually feels it's a problem.

Haribo is currently watching 'The steam trains of GWR' - only 2yo I know who eschews cartoons / kids programmes for listening to a reasonably serious narrative of the Great Western Railway!! haha!!

We are off to the zoo today... looking forward to that!!

LM - I will give you a shout if we go over to Knebworth again... I actually went because there was a fair on, but I was pleasantly surprised by the kids play area and there is a minature train ride

HM x

I hope you get the answers your looking for from SALT HM.
Dd has only just started regularly stringing 2 words together recently. Her speak development was really quite static for months, but just recently she's finding lots of new words and using them correctly.She's really just turned a corner in the last few weeks.
Dp was concerned for a while regarding her speech, especially due to the fact that my neice (7m dd's jr)can name every member of her family, her speech and understanding is really quite amazing. BUT dp soon realised that dd was miles ahead in her development than her cousin was at the same age.
The all grow at very different rates and reach their individual milestones at different rates. The most importnant thing is to make sure that they are getting the correct support and thats what your trying to do HM

Thanks... I was at Whipsnade again today with the two kids (alone... that's another story completely ) and I met a lovely (older) woman who, I dunno, I got talking to.. and she was saying just what everyone else had said, pointing out all the positives.. (why is it that it's easier to hear it from a stranger??????) - and you know, today, I don't think there is a problem. His speech IS improving but (and Sho it IS because I'm comparing) Mims is so advanced when it comes to speech.

I can't help think that Haribo should be 'more advanced' but even this woman today said to me 'Oh, his little sister will shame him into talking' - wise words from a nice old bird!!

I'm feeling a bit 'taken for granted' today. I ended up alone again today with the kids... Not really a problem, but then this afternoon, DSD2 noticed that I'm quite tanned and I just said 'yeah, this SAHM lark has it's benefits' and DH replied 'Yes you do nothing' ... He actually said 'Only me, DSD1 and DSD2 do anything around here'. I've called him on it and he's now being super defensive and gone to bed with his laptop and a cuppa (didn't even ask if I wanted one!!) GRRR. men, I ASK you!!!

I'm NOT (In any way shape or form) complaining about my life or lifestyle.. but SHIT... would it HURT to acknowledge that the majority of people COULD NOT DO what I do on a day to day, week to week, month to month basis.

End of rant!!!

Hm x

they all deserve a good slap IMO!

The other day I got fed up with all the washing so I stopped doing it. It built up and DH had to do some, result!

Have a good Sunday x

WW you go girl!!! Did you burn your bra the same day too? .

Could never burn my bras, have to keep my mammouth boobs under control .

Hey girls

LM sorry to hear about your DH. It's a coincidence as I've heard from two close girlfriends recently that their dhs are both suffering a bit too. Maybe it is also related to the current world climate (financial not weather) and they're worrying more about the future. Whatever, I hope he's feeling brighter soon and that you're happy too.

HM my best mate's LO is 2 months older than our gang and says four words. Glad to hear you're really enjoying having 2 LOs.

On that note, how're you Bayiu? I've forgotten when you're due.

All fine here. Looking for nurseries for dd as she asks everyday if she can go to school tomorrow and "play with other childrens" .

We've been talking a lot about ttc number 2. We always said we wanted a few kids but recently dp has started to say that he's happy with just dd and doesn't want to return to sleepless nights etc. We had a sit down chat about it on Sunday and he flipped totally to the other side then and said my suggestion of starting trying at Christmas is too far away. Men are very odd aren't they. I've only not been bfing for a few months and want to give my body another few to just be me before I am pg again I think.

I have to share this story re ILs. My ILs were here with mil's mum yesterday for around 12 hours. During dinner mil said she was planning a surprise for my birthday . I hate surprises. She continued that we should keep the day of my birthday and indeed weekend of my birthday (it's on a Friday) free. Even dp started to look worried. She then, very excitedly said she'd booked for pil, great nan and dp's sister and kids (wtf) to have lunch on my birthday and for us to stay with them that evening and go to the zoo the next day then for all the family to come over on the Sunday for a bbq to celebrate. It really was a jaw hitting floor moment and I admit I reacted immediately and honestly with a loud and pained "noooo". I then said "I would like to see my family. And it's likely my mum will have planned something". Her response was rather bizzare "why didn't your mum check if I'd planned anything". Ummm, I'm 34 not 2 and how odd it would be for my mum to be asking my not-even-mil if it was ok to take me out on the day she gave birth to me. Even now I am feeling slightly stunned.

Off to the library this afternoon when dd wakes up for her nap. Hopefully she'll be asleep for another hour or so and I might get a quick sleep myself.

Big waves to everyone. Take care all .

MM - that is a bit shocking... My MIL is so lovely - she will be my role model when DS is married!!! - so I can't really understand how your MIL (to be!) would think that was OK!! Can you get out of it???

LM - How is your DH now?

WW - Lol at not burning your bra! Even feminists have got to be practical!!

Well, I took Haribo to the SALT and it was lovely. She did a full assessment (which, to be fair, was very similar to the one my Paed did) but this one concentrated on speach and sounds and seeing what the problem might be. Anyway, the SALT was great, and while she too, largely, said 'no problem' (I'm but pleased!), she did also agree that his speech is on the slow side and that it's not too soon to start addressing that... so, while he doesn't need formal therapy, she has given me some strategies, to make sure Haribo exercises his mouth muscles... One of the first is to get him to stick his tounge out and wiggle it about - strangely, he's enjoying that!! haha!! I know it seems a bit PFB, but I'm of the opinion that if either of the kids had a temp or a rash, I wouldn't wait 'to see how it developed' IYSWIM...

Sho - the SALT said exactly what you had said: Like growth, they will have periods when they shoot up and other times when nothing seems to be happening.

My MIL is also in the wars ATM... DH's stepdad has parkinsons and is now in hospital as MIL can not cope with him at home. So sad, but I really don't think he's going to come home again... I think a care home is really the only option going forward. We have offered to pay for private home care, but MIL doesn't think this will work.

HM X