May 2009 - Don't forget to wear your good shoes...

[belgina]

Right, new thread...

Sorry about the title

Cocktail anyone?

tumm flip No idea what you two are talking about Is it some biking thing with your DH's

tumm Thanks for asking. My 1st proper shift is on Monday. A late. I'm a bit nervous about it + obviously it'll be the first time C gets put to bed with a bottle, so will be thinking about her too.

flip excercise sounds like a great idea.

fi great about your lion pattern having some attention

jael Like the others said: be careful. Dandy isn't on F/B at all at the moment, I checked. I have noticed you are sometimes quick to jump to conclusions when you get taken of friends lists etc... Errors are easy to make when doing some friends house keeping, I've done it before too. It's not always an attack on you.

febes great news about the sleeping.

We're going out doing some last minute uniform shoe shopping. (Going to clarks for those Un Lady like shoes) Hope you'll all have a great day today.

Morning!
Sneaky post whilst at work

tummum - thanks for your well worded post earlier.

Jael - I can confirm Dandy is no longer on FB. I hope she's ok

flippin - quite the adventurer your A isn't she?!
Gym sounds like a good plan. I always put off taking any form of exercise but always feel better afterwards.

Right, it's taken me over 2hrs to write this post. That's work for you! Apologies if my post is out of date as a result and hello to anyone I've missed in that time.

Just a quickie - Jael as I've said to you on FB, Dandy has disappeared from my FB too, and her comment is no longer visible to me either. You've not been singled out.

Dandy hope you're ok. Thank you for your lovely comments about H.

flippin clever A! But scary for you.

Better go - H is due to wake up any moment.

Morning all!

I hope everyone's ok. I'm going to carefully skirt round the Dandy/jael thing, I can't face any confrontation at the mo.

Flip You're not wallowing at all. You're having a rough time, I know how you feel. Please come on here and offload, 'tis good for the soul

younger Fasting gah! I have to fast next week for an ultrasound........no, calm down. It's for gallstones . But I only have to skip breakfast. Still, I'm annoyed. I hope it goes ok for you.

fi mwah mwah welcome back!

saus S is wearing the Gap top'n'trews combo today! How is the head this morning after el vino?

Back at work peoples I hope you're all ok and not too stressed out.

Dandy where are you?

Belg Huge pat on back to your clever, clever DS . Shall we start a SmugMums club?

Well, DD2 is spending the day with her friend and then she is going to her friend's grandparents tonight. These are the parents of my friend that died. They rang me and asked if DD2 could go over (she's been there loads of times before), to keep DD2 friend company. I was very unsure, I mean they've just lost their daughter, but they pleaded for her to go. Bless them. I said ok in the end but must admit I'm a bit worried. They are truly lovely people, they're having all the grandkids over and their dad (he said to me that he wasn't sure whether it was because they thought he couldn't cope on his own). So, I'm very unsure but we'll see. They are a bit like my mum - their grandkids are everything. Lovely, lovely people

The funeral is Thursday am. It'll be standing room only.

I'm getting maudlin again. I'm going to drink some coffee and contemplate my make-up box. Small, petty, shallow things make me happy.

OK, self-absorbed chuntering over. Now then, everyone tell me your news (since last night )

Oh and radio 1 here and 6 Music when I had a digital radio. I am 37 but pretend I'm a LOT younger

I forgot to thank you all for letting me drivel on. I needed to offload. Thank you all so much for your support. I know she's not family but she was a great friend and I miss her terribly.

quick post.
Am worried now about Dandy.... if you're reading, I really hope you're ok. xx

hope everyone else is fine, might post back later.

oh, and Singin, thinking of you. drivel away, it helps so much to offload. we allneed to do it.

(warning: I may be doing loads of offloading tomorrow as I worry, worry, worry about mon)

Hellooo!

Head is FINE today, I actually stopped slurping for a while, as I had a few calls to make and had to watch True Blood. Oooh I want to be a vampire

I spoke to Dandy last night, and I can 100% confirm she is not on facebook right now. And I agree with the others, Jael - and also to anyone else - this thread is not the place for confrontation - gentle teasing and giggling about stuff, support and general chit chat is how I see it. Can I also just say that a lot can be miscontrued over email and can only be understood properly in a face to face conversation, unless you know that person's writing style and manner of 'speaking'. Also, every now and again, I think it's good to get away from MN or facebook for a while - or even for good - and concentrate on matters in real life, good or bad - I know I've done it, and I'm sure many of you have too. This is what Dandy is doing right now, and I know everyone's kind thoughts on here (and also on that mini thread going on fb) would mean a lot to her.

Hope that's ok. Soz to lecture / rant / moan.

On that note I am going to go and feed my naughty little baby (who is not wearing the babygap combo today but is looking all nice and posh as my parents are coming.) Why are they coming?

BECAUSE WE ARE GOING OUT!!!!!!!! Dinner in Marylebone High Street. Then off to see the ukulele gang! I'm so excited! I might even wear lipstick.....

saus I meant to send a big aimed at your Dettoling friend and her pfb. It'll wear off soon. have a really, really good night out. Please send dandy my love when you next speak to her.

S is eating some Roast Beef Monster Munch. A good, healthy snack.

Lots of chat since this morning!

I've had a lovely morning with DS1. We went out for a hot chocolate and some one to tone time and it was great to spend some time alone.

We popped into a clothes shop and he was very good at telling me how I looked in various outfits and even better at encouraging me to spend money on lots of new clothes. So I did! I am now the proud owner of some lovely new outfits that will do for work (boo) and some other things I have coming up. I just need some shoes now! The woman working in the shop was very good at selling clothes and I could have spent a fortune. I shall definitely go shopping with DS1 again; he was an excellent shopping companion! I'm so pleased with my new clothes...and finally I have bought a pair of size 12 jeans

We also went to the book shop to spend his world book day token. I couldn't believe it but he chose a bloody Biff and Chip book. About nits. He then wanted me to read the thing to him in the coffee shop and then asked very loud questions about nits and how you get them. I'm sure the people on the next table thought I'd bought the book because of a nit infestation because they edged slowly away from us.

llare, you just made me re: book token and Biff and Chip book about nits...

dandy, just quickly post to you because I'm afraid I'll have missed you on here as well as FB.

I'm so sorry for whatever your going through in RL. I really hope it gets better for you.

I'm a bit a wimp when it comes to confrontation so have tried to steer clear but I do want you to know that you can count on my friendship and support in whatever form (RL or virtual).

You've given me a lot of good advice for at least a year and a half and have made me laugh when feeling low as well. I would be really sorry to not be in touch with you again. Please look me up again here, on FB, when you're in York, etc. I hope this isn't goodbye and I hope you're reading this. sending you all best wishes in any case.

this thread has been very the past couple of days. I hope we can change this around [hopeful emoticon].

I've just popped on here, because I've just seen jael's f/b thread. dandy I hope you will feel like you can come back to us once the problems in your rl have settled down. I have enjoyed your posts in the year and a bit I've been on here and have found you're always the one who comes along with sensible advice. I've been loving your humour too.

jael I think you're a very insecure woman coming from a difficult background who has done a lot to rise above it. I think this might explain in many ways why you react to criticism, no matter how justified it is.

singing glad to see you. Hope your dd2 will be OK with her little friend.

Well, I also spent far too much today, but do have some unladylike shoes. C didn't nap at all today. She's just such a bad pram napper. I bought ds some new trainers and promptly lost one of the school shoes he went out with, so will now have to go out and buy some new shoes

can we have a nice thread again now. I don't like arguing

dandy you will be most sorely missed by me on here. I'm sorry rl is giving you a hard time atm & hope H is better soon.. I was quite worried about you after this am's fb/MN stuff. i'm still on my phone atm and have to admit i've not yet read all the pages i've missed but can see from your post how upset you are. You have such a great way with words and always hit the nail on the head wrt advice.. and I thank you for all you've given me. If you're not back here please keep in touch on FB if you go back on there as i'll miss you! Right my eyes are welling up so before I start blubbering i'm just sending you & yours xoxox

as soon as the dc's are in bed asleep i'll be catching up on the pages i've missed and hopefully even manage a decent NC.. which I think will be my first since the germs hit! then after a proper NC i'll fill you in on our latest NS decisions! so see you back here later x

Not much time as still looking after ill A and DH (guess which is harder )

Like others am not one for confrontation and so I feel a bit about the events of the last day. I agree with others about the nature of the support, advice and general loveliness on here over the last year and a bit and hope business resumes as usual soon.

Dandy I am v sorry for whatever has happened in rl and hope to see you at some point here or on fb. you have my email if you want to chat privately, although I hope that you are getting support and help from your rl friends and family. I do want to say that I have appreciated your advice, your direct and to the point manner and those stories about muffin man. In particular you said some v wise words during our pregnancies re my MIL which at the time made me but then on reflection helped me to see how she may be feeling and it helped me be a little less stressed out by her.

Jael I am sorry you feel that you have been picked on/singled out but as you can clearly see it has not been the case. Typed words are very easy to misconstrue as it is sometimes v easy to read or think something in a manner in which it was not intended (it has happened to me recently in fact with an email from a friend). I have enjoyed hearing about your little family and you and hope you continue to share that with us in the future. I hope you will not be offended but I will not be replying to your fb thread.

One last namecheck hinny my thoughts are with you and your dd and her friend and her friend's family.

Right, I must go look after my snotty little family, hope everyone is having a nice weekend.

Wondered what on earth was going on, having just come from my emails via Facebook. Bloody FB. Febes I agree with everything you said over there.

Dandy I really hope you're ok. Actually, I am confident you will cope well with whatever life throws at you. I will really miss you - you are eloquent and witty - and I hope you return when things settle down in rl.

Jael everyone is here to support you. We (as in all the people on the thread) may not always agree with each other, but we are supportive of each others views. I feel respect for all people on this thread, but am saddened that this respect is not mutual. You have had a tough life and rotten few months and perhaps given your youth I can understand you jumping in, however, I do think D deserves an apology.

I will say no more on the matter.

Running sounds like your weekend is not much fun. Dh got man flu then?

Fi looking forward to hearing the progress report about NS.

Belgina am most intrigued by 'unladylike' shoes. I don't do shoes - am a comfort gal - and comfort does not equate to ladylike. So, tell me more....

Muddled Younger and all - in my (poor) attempt to cheer up the thread, I would like to know everyone's favourite joke. Mine is:

A seal walks into a bar and says:
"My usual please"
The barman replies "What's that? A pint"
"Arf arf arf"

Hilarious. Hope there are no faces. It's the way I tell 'em.

llare I have to say your ds choosing to buy not only a Biff & Chip book, but one about nits, had my rofl. (Well done on the jeans btw )

Hinny I haven't had Monster Munch for years. Do they still do pickled onion flavour. Ideal sized finger food .
Hope you're doing ok this weekend.

Saus Lipstick . Going out . You think you're having a good evening? I'm currently watching dh play a demo he's just downloaded on his playstation and he is playing one of those 'grabby' games you find at the seaside - you know, the ones with the mechanical arm that you move to pick up a shoddy soft toy, but you just have to have it. This is where it's happening folks!

On that note, I'm off to have a beer.

Well what a sorry mess

Jael - I do enjoy hearing about you and your LOs and feel for you and your past experiences.
I'm not sure that I've ever spoken much about my childhood but alcoholic father who was sectioned one year over Christmas and controlling mother who even at the age of 16yo sent me to school bruised because I'd worn jewellery when she didn't want me too. I say this just because looking back I know this made me expect others to behave in a negative way towards me and I was (and still can be) v insecure behind the front I put on.
I can therefore totally understand you making a mistake in thinking Dandy had blocked you. Tbh, I'd have probably just accepted it and not said anything on here.
However , it is clear that you got the wrong end of the stick and surely the sensible thing to have done would have been just to come on here and apologise??!

Dandy - I really hope you will come back and join us but understand your reasons if you don't. Your wit, advice and friendship will be missed.
I hope your RL stuff calms down, H gets well soon and your DH's job situation works out.

I felt I had to add my own post on here as this has affected everyone on this thread and didn't want to send "hidden" FB messages.

Just caught up with the last 24 hours.

jael I'm not going to add too much to what everyone else has said but I agree that you do owe dandy an apology for your little rant on here at her. I also echo reggiee and saus's comments about this thread. Nuff said.

dandy just in case you are lurking, I hope you are ok with whatever is going on in RL and hoping H gets better soon. I will miss you.

younger hope all goes well for you on Monday. Am sure its nothing to be worried about.

hinny just to let you know, am thinking about you and your friend's family.

Signing off for the night as a bit confused by the last 24 hours TBH and hope that we can continue in our happy supportive thread.

Dandy I am very sorry for jumping to conclusions. Really I truly am. It was easily done...it was just you hadn't been my FB friend for so long,and then last night I couldn't see a post of yours on Spangles and I thought oh my gosh,she's blocked me now, why? I am a truly insecure person, as Belgian suggested. I am always looking for other peoples approval. I'm crying as I'm writing this and I don't know why, I feel so stupid. I'm sorry. I did accidently remove you from my friends, I knew your first name, and wanted to remove a school friend of the same name. And then I didn't add you back on because around the same time you must have said something which upset me, so I didn't add you back. A couple of times you've sad things which have upset me, and I know you don't mean it, you're just giving advice/your opinion. I just hurt really easily..
I updated my FB status earlier around 12pm I think. And hand on heart I havn't been able to get on since, site maintenance or something. Or I would have tried to send this via a facebook message.
If you would like I will leave MN, You have more friends than me here!

DP is going to see my panda eyes in a min when I come down with the laptop, must get DD to bed. Sorry everyone. Bye X

Feel free someone to send this to Dandy

reggie thanks for cheering us up with your joke.

ses So sorry to hear about your own youth. I can imagine that this makes one insecure as a person and I'm pretty sure that's why jael jumped to her conclusion like she did. I also didn't reply to the f/b thread as I can't see the point. Anything I've got to say I want to be out in the open where everyone can see it. Saying that, this will be the last I say on the matter. I hope we can get back to our old fun, supportive thread.

saus Hope you're having a great evening

llare @ the Biff and Chip book choice.

Talking about books, I must have one of the few 8yo boys who nag their mum to go into Waterstones, lol.

Following reggie's attempt at cheerfulness I'm going to add one of my favourite jokes.

A man walks into a bar and at the bar the peanuts (yes, peanuts, work with me here ) say to him: "That's a really nice tie you're wearing there, Sir".
The man's very pleased and thanks them. He orders his drink and moves away. He sits down near the cigarette machine.
The machine (I told you to work with me) says to him: "Move away you ugly man. I can't stand the sight of you".
The man feels a bit upset by the machine and so he goes back to the bar and asks the landlord what's going on. Upon which the landlord says:"Well, the thing is; the peanuts are complementary and the machine is out of order" It's my DH's best joke. Much funnier when he tells it though