August 05 Babies!!!

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I thought i might be the first one ....

Name: Charlotte
Birth date: 7 July 2005 (@ 37.5wks)
Time: 4.41pm
Weight & length: 3.2kg, 47 cms
Where: Sainte Felicitie, Paris
Experience: Very quick labour, had epidural, no tearing or cutting, no stitches, baby and mother doing really well ...

can't wait to hear from everyone else ...

Wow the 11th of August is a popular birthday Azure I tend to try ds with a dummy the first couple of times he cries during the night sometimes this settles him back to sleep nicely for a couple of hours other times he just wakes up crying again so then I feed him,I think from what I have read if you are going to do the dummy trick it needs to be in a really deliberate way so taking him out of the cot and holding him while he sucks the dummy for the amount of time he usually feeds the first day and then leaving him in his cot to suck the dummy the next day and removing it from the cot when he spits it out, in theory gradually he should want to suck the dummy for shorter periods of time and then not wake up. I haven't actually tried doing this properly myself yet too convenient to shove the dummy in his mouth, cross my fingers and go back to bed!. My ds doesn't feed well during the day (either from breast or bottle) he often arches his back and cries and can't seem to latch on, I don't think it's wind because sometimes this happens before he even starts feeding but it means he doesn't take as much as he probably should. I am hoping a routine during the day might help somehow as i am a bit haphazard and possibly don't leave a long enough gap between feeds? Good luck with the bottle feeds my DS had to bottle feed for a week while I was on antibiotics and he woud root at the breast and get upset but he would take the bottle when hungry enough and had stopped rooting by the end of the week (he did loose a little weight though as often wouldn't take the full bottle). I feel silly giving any kind of suggestions/advice as I am finding I am not very good at the mummy thing particularly around feeds and sleep!

pookey.......i was waiting for the clocks to go back.....but still haven't started a proper routine because a)i'm too tired myself to stick to it right now! and b) ds has found his own rythmn.

he feeds roughly every 3 hours and the only thing i do as habit is give him a feed at 10pm to see him through the night....sometimes at this feed he'll only take 2oz others he'll have 6oz. he is sleeping through till about 3.30am when i see if i can get him back to sleep, which if i can't within 20 mins means he definitely wants a feed...otherwise he'll go back to sleep for at least another hour.

i'm tired because my brain still thinks i need to wake at 2am, it hasn't realised yet that ds has dropped that feed. typically i get back to sleep just before ds wakes at 3.30!

pookey......is your ds sicky? having read up on reflux (my ds is displaying some of the symptoms) it sounds like he has some of the symptoms described..........

i got out the chair part for our pushchair today.....the car seat that came with it looks too small and uncomfortable for ds to be sat in for long periods, i think it'll take him some getting used to but he is more upright in the chair so he seemed to like that aspect of it!

i'm feeling quite worn down today...it took three attempts to dress ds and in the end i gave up so he is smelling of sick already. he goes for his second round of jabs tomorrow too so i'm anticipating a nightmare weekend.

i went into the local town yesterday for a walk round......i'd never realised how badly laid out most shops are....even Mackays had the baby clothes right at the back and the rails are so close i had no hope of getting the pushcair in, so i couldn't look at anything anyway. and how do you go to the loo? we have to pay to use our local toilets and can't get the pushchair through the barrier, the baby changing rooms aren't much better.......the only way i can see to do it is to leave the toilet door open so i can see the pushchair, but it's not ideal is it? i'm resigned to only going into town with dp from now on.

i'm feeling a bit blue i guess........motherhood is not quite what i expected, i love my son sooooooooo much but i don't seem to be enjoying being a mummy as much as i thought i would

Hi Moschops

You poor thing, sorry you had a rough day, I know how you feel, its actually really hardwork being a mum, sometimes I daydream about going back to my awful admin job in the council because it is much easier in comparison! I just keep reminding myself its because I am tired that things seem hard some days but to be honest you sound really patient and like you are coping really well with it all.

DS isn't really sick too much, just normal posseting I think, but after reading your message I thought i better ring the health visitor about the feeding problem, she didn't know what it could be but I asked if seeing a breastfeeding counsellor might be a good idea and she agreed. Just waiting for the BFC to ring me back.

Pookey and Moschops, you sound exactl;y like i did when ds1 was a baby. Everything just seems so difficult, I used to drive myself mad as I was used to hearing people talk all day, even if it was slightly batty 5 year olds and I couldn't get used to the quiet. I used to constantly worry that I was doing the right things and always thought I was getting it wrong, which of course I wasn't and I'm sure you aren't either. Have you joined any baby groups? They get you out of the house and talking to people and you'll soon realise that they all feel the same way that you do. If you feel really bad, tell your HV or GP they might be able to help.

I know exactly what you mean about shops being badly laid out, try it with a double buggy that has a toddler hanging out of the side of it!! Impossible! I don't have the problem with the toilets as I only live a 2 minute walk from the town centre, so if I need to go I go home. We're back to the buggy board now and I'm not so sure it was a wise move as DS1 managed to tip up the pram and nearly fired ds2 out of it. He was asleep and got quite a rude awakening.

Going swimming this afternoon, can't wait, love being in the water with my boys, hope that ds2 loves it as much as the rest of us.

Hi ladies I was exactly the same, going to the loo whilst out and about seemed impossible but I now Know where all the best loos are including disabled and at the doctors which is near to the local shopping centre. Kate Dd is exactly the same in the double buggy one of these days we are going to get done for shop lifting as she collects things around the shop without me knowing!

Moschops and Pookie I can also relate to how you feel - I had a tough time when I had DS1. Today I just wish DS2 would have slept for more than 20 minutes at a stretch to enable me to spend some time with DS1 (he has a half-day on Wednesdays) - poor DS1. I've a headache and am off to bed.

Hi and welcome, Pookey.

I'm going to agree with everyone else and say I know just how you are feeling moschops and pookey. I had such a hard time with DS, and can't say I enjoyed the first few months as much as I could or should have. I know it isn't probably a popular view, but as much as new babies were my favorite when they were someone elses, I enjoyed Colin so much more after he was 6 mo. old or so and starting to be able to do more things, and I started to finally feel like I got the hang of being a mom.

Caitlin's doing pretty well, she sleeps from 9-4:30 or 5ish on a regular basis. We had a slight hiccup with the time change, but she seems to have adjusted. She has drastically cut down on her crying, and will even let me put her down for short periods of time without crying.

I had so much fun this weekend with my friends going out for spa day. DH watched the kids all day and I finally got a great haircut and color. I now have blond and red and chestnut streaks throughout my short, spikey hair. It was kind of expensive, but it makes me feel much better about myself.

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hello candcmommy

Hi Miaou. I had to go, a loud tow truck came to get our neighbor's truck and all the noise woke up both kids. You sure were up late. Hope DS is sleeping better.

I definitely enjoyed DS1 when he could do more, I always looked back and thought I'm enjoying this more then the last stage we were at. Having said that I'm enjoying ds2 more as I know that things change so quickly and I have a bit more of an idea what I'm doing!!

I think that ds2 loves christmas as much as me, we went and bought tinsel for dh's shop yesterday and when I looked down at ds2 he was eating it!!! The he wouldn't let go of it so Icould pay, he had it gripped in his little hand with a big grin on his face.

Took the boys swimming yesterday, ds2 didn't cry the whole time which was great as though ds1 loves swimming now he cried all the time the first few times we took him. Only problem was the changing room was freezing, really had to snuggle the boys to keep them warm, not pleased

no he isn't sleeping better! 1.40am when I got to bed last night!!

He goes down fine during the day, it's just after his night feed (around 11pm) that I have problems. I would just let him cry, but he shares a room with us and would cry for 40 mins or so, which just isn't fair on dh. Ds knows it too, and won't settle - grr. Dh is away for a couple of nights this weekend, so I might see if we can break the habit (or at least begin to) as it's starting to have a detrimental effect on me! I feel like death atm. The upside is that he is sleeping through once he goes down, at least 4 nights out of 7, and when he needs a night feed he goes straight back to sleep.

Hi all thanks for messages, it helps to have a moan without feeling like you will be judged. Injections to day (oh oh), i was bottle feeding when he had his last injections but I am debating whether or not to feed him during this one as it is supposed to help reduce the discomfort - but what if he associated bf with the horrible feeling? will see what the nurse thinks.

Hi Ladies. any tips for cradle cap? We've tried olive oil but it doesn't seem to help!

Logan is now 3 months and is 12lb 13oz. He's generally sleeping well at night - 9:30 - 4am then 5 - 8. But like to adjust the pattern now and then to let us know we haven't6 cracked it!

He also haves being on his tummy - so his head/back strength isn't as good as it perhaps should be. Any ideas how to help him on his tum?

ds had his second lot of jabs yesterday and fingers crossed he is much better this time round.......he even missed his 4am feed. he woke at 3am and i coaxed him back to sleep thinking he would wake in an hour but he slept till 6.10 and then i amused him till 6.40 before giving him a bottle, as we are trying to keep his feeds to a routine now. wasn't sure if he would go till 10 before demanding his next bottle but he did so i am back on track.

ds doesn't like being on his tummy either......except when i cuddle him like that then he will fall asleep almost instantly. we have been playing with him on a rug hoping he will start to think about rolling over but he shows no sign of doing so yet.

am feeling a bit brighter today

Hi my DS hates being on his tummy too but it doesn't seem to affect his back strength and he can stand on my lap sometimes when held upright (12 wks), I am going to wait until he rolls over for himself and realises he can turn back onto his back if he wants, hopefully then he will be ok?

Moschops - my Gina Ford routine has gone right out the window, this morning he had had three naps by 11:30 doh. Injection not too bad though he only cried for the second jab.

ds has his own ideas about naps.....predictably falls asleep about an hour and a quarter after his feed but the duration is erratic....sometimes he'll sleep till his next feed sometimes he'll wake again after 10 mins. he is nearly always playful and giggly when awake though so i don't mind too much. as long as he is in a feeding routine, and sleeps well at night i'm not too bothered about the rest of the day. to be honest the routine is proving quite hard for me, i'm quite spontaneous and so i'm adjusting as much as ds is. i do think some kind of routine is good for them though, seems to stop them getting frustrated about things.

Hello all Been nudged onto here by CandC's mommy - I only came onto the antenatal threads towards the end of my pg. Chloe is now about 12lb and still gets up twice in the night but we've got our evenings back as she goes from about 7.30 to 1 or 2 in the morning. Never could cope with waking them up to dreamfeed so haven't bothered trying. Left it too late to give her a bottle so now she is NOT interested so I've made a large rod for my back for later when she needs to go to nursery William is very affectionate towards his little sister but is going through a really naughty phase with us, which is not fun. Have to choose carefully what is ignored and what is punished but he's definitely confused about not being no1 anymore which is hard.

Hope everyone is ok. Kate100 William had reflux and didn't gain weight for 5 weeks but was happy. It only really went when he started on solids. If your lo is happy and putting on weight don't worry about it but you might want to think about gaviscon etc if he needs help putting on the pounds.

Hi Em32 my sort of nephew's two LOs (does that mean little one?) are both called William and Chloe! sweet names - congratulations on chloe

Em32, my eldest had reflux, this one doesn't and it shows, he's huge, people keep stopping me and saying what a big baby!! Was a huge fan of gaviscon this time 2 years ago. DS1 is also going through a naughty phase, he had a full on tantrum this morming at my mums. Lay on the floor and kicked his arms and legs, the full monty, little monster. I'm trying to be understanding as he's been through a lot recently, but he's really trying my patience.

DS2 doesn't really like being on his tummy either he just flops down and chews the blanket. Don't worry too much about it, a little bit of time each day is all they need.

Wow, everyone's on today. Glad to see you Em32!

Caitlin hates tummy time. She curls up and cries whenever she's put down. DS was like that too, but he is one strong little boy.

I'm glad that it isn't just my 2 year old that's been trying my patience. It doesn't help that Caitlin has a cold and has been up 5 times a night because she can't breathe, and I'm incredibly tired.

Hi folks. Dd is 7 today, we had her party yesterday and it went really well. Ds obligingly fed 20mins before everyone arrived then again at teatime! We had 5 kids round (plus my 2)which was enough in my little house. They all made a fuss of ds and brought his bouncy chair into the circle to play pass the parcel! Dh is away but my lovely mum was on hand to help out. I am shattered today though - the dds are watching Narnia on DVD (the old bbc version - remember that??) and ds is asleep -bliss. We are out at a bonfire tonight.

The last couple of nights ds has slept better - well, gone down at night better, though he has gone back to feeding at night instead of sleeping though. That is preferable to being up until 1.30am though!

(And dh and I have decided to try for no. 4 after christmas - you can tell me we're mad if you want )

Miaou, I can't believe you are thinking of another when the one you already have is still so small!!!! I think you are mad!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Off to a firework party tonight at my parents, hope it doesn't rain. DS1 staying at my parents tonight, so he can stay up a bit later. It will be nice to have some time with DS2 on our own.

Miaou you sound like my aunty she has seven kids and each time she was pregnant she was hoping for twins! It's lovely being pregnant - but I am def not ready to cope with two young babies!

Just had a bad feed with DS I have one incredibly painful nipple and one that is fine (will speak to someone about it). He had a good long suck on sore nipple at 4:30 so it was time for him to have the good breast at 6:30 but he kept crying and refusing that breast so I got him a bottle but he only drank 60 ml before he started rooting at the sore breast and refusing the bottle (he even cried if I tried to give him the bottle on good breast arm). I couldn't give in so he gave up crying and went really still with his eyes half closed. Think he is ignoring me poor little thing!

Miaou you are mad but I understand (see thread in parenting about when to have third baby - I'll be around 36) NOT thinking about trying after Christmas though!