January 2009- Help! A toddler ate my baby!

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I told you it was a lame title.....

Happy burpday 120

Happy Birthday 120!

Night from hell here last night, DD screaming for DH until 1.30am, literally screaming, was awful and very and then 10 minutes to lie down before DS woke for 1.5 hours. Got to sleep by about 4am and they are both up bright as buttons at 6.30 this morning, but of course moaning like crazy from 10am onwards as both so flipping exhausted. I have really had it with no sleep now. I've just reached breaking point, they have got to sleep tonight or I will just curl up in the corner of the room and begin rocking. I am hauling doctors over the coals about DS's chest on Monday, it has gone on 6 months now and he is still coughing and chesty/wheezing and they still haven't sorted out any kind of treatment plan/diagnosis/anything - no wonder he can't sleep when he's coughing all night!

Sorry to vent, am tired and (hopefully - getting a little twitchy over this) pre-menstrual.

HKZ - I felt exactly like this over my first bit of research so don't worry about feeling overwhelmed, you learn strategies and technique so quickly that although it feels like a steep learning curve now, you'll be okay as soon as you get a topic sorted and get going. I think the problem (well my one anyway) is a crisis of confidence as much as anything, I really don't feel academically equipped for this. It is also a big deal to go from being a SAHM and student on the side to effectively a full time employee of the university. I don't think I have really had chance to think through all the implications yet, I think realistically I'm going to need 3.5-4 days a week of childcare for a start. I may not get the funding, I'm beginning to wonder if that would be a relief

Flypast ...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY 120!

Books, cake photos purrrlease.

Lenni, huge hugs and lots of sleep dust for you and your little ones. Hope you have a better night tonight.

Right am off again. We seem to be on the recovery path here, ds still looks awful and his tongue is frankly, scary, but judging by the amount of energy he has had to be naughty, cheeky and tease his brother today, he is most definitely feeling better.

Oh and Tree, have been missing you on here and thinking of you lots. Hope all is well, sending hugs just in case you need fortifying.

thoughts ladies?

dd2 still has bad nappy rash pharmacist gave us thrush cream seems to be helping
is it best thjat i miss her swimming lesson tom?

Morning...I have drawn the short straw today....we were at a wedding yesterday and DH won the toss for the lie in...my head is pounding.

tink- I'm not sure what you should do. I guess nappy rash is best kept dry, so swimming might not help it clear up so quickly.

mosse, glad ds is on the mend. hope you're havign a lovely weekend.

Lenni hope you have had a better night. No sleep is a killer. What are you thinking of doing your PHD research on? Can the university provide childcare? I think you are right about the confidence...and the fact that I just need to get started!

Am trying to listen to the archers....but can't for all the noise...grrrr...children.

Hello all.

Tink- did you go swimming? I tried to keep DD very dry the only time she had a ery bad case and we used a cream that began with an M................forgotten it now!

HZ- feeling better? Was the wedding good?

moose- sounds like you are all finally on the road to recovery, good news.

Lenni- hope sleep was better last night. We are not so bad here but still feeling quite desperate. We generally have 1-2 full nights sleep a week and then the rest range from fairly decent (2 quick gettings up) to the diabolical (last night where we were tag-teamed from 3am onwards). Absolutely no pattern, rhyme or reason for it.
3.5-4 days of childcare is what i pay for ter-time. Its bloody expensive so if the uni can help at all its worth looking into.

So...........friday went to see my friends new baby girl. She is very sweet and almost made me yearn for another, then I remembered THE PACT (Lenni, books).

Lovely weekend, breakfast out on sat, then shopping then came back in the afternoon to build my dresser (opted for IKEA in the end after months of looking). Took DD for a bike-ride as it was lovely. today has been even lovlier, went to the park where they have a lake and small animals for a picnic this morning then strolled into Cheltenham for a look round the shops. Visited FIL and step-MIL for a bit (only fly in the ointment) and then came back and made a lush toad-in-the-hole. Z was clearly ravenous as whilst I was cooking him and DD were playing with some playdough and when I next looked he had munched about half a pot! It wasn't homemade stuff but Crayola mini-kids, god knows what is in it!

Disclaimer: I am obviously very vigilant normally but whilst making gravy you can't have eyes everywhere

evening all. Lenni, hope you've managed to get some sleep. HZ hope you're beating the hangover.

I'm shattered after two nights out (with a bit too much booze), and an NCT sale in between. Twas good; managed to sell a few posters and buy even more stuff for the little ones.

I'm very worried about DD now. She has had a high temp for 3 days running (38-40) and tonight she had a puffy face. Bit odd. Was desperate to go to sleep so we shall see, but I'm thinking it's going to be a bit of a difficult first day back at work with a very poorly child. We had thought she was getting better too, as she was chatty today, and eating etc, after two days of lethargy. who knows.

meant to say thanks for the birthday wishes too!!

I'm getting a little twitchy about THE PACT Pat, I'm late, am never late. I do feel totally pre-menstrual though and so not up for being pregnant. Am going to give it until end of week and then start to panic. Yay for lush toad in the hole - vigilence whilst cooking is complex level multi tasking and therefore beyond me.

PhD topic is a little specific for posting on here but is in same area as my recent stuff i.e. multi-agency working and extended services type of thing.

We had better sleep last night, it is so unpredictable, sounds much like Z's pattern. DD isn't helping at the moment, normally she is very reliable for 12 hours but she's missing her Dad.

I hate those high temp viruses 120, I always get so worried and then when I finally take them to the GP it is passed and I end up feeling like I've made a fuss. You can't win. I hope she is better soon and good luck for tomorrow.

Hi everyone. Too tired for proper catch up. Am so soooo fed up with being the only one that can get N to sleep, so have left DH upstairs with him to try. There is no reason for him not to sleep. He was up at 7.30am, 2 nice long naps, awake after 3.45pm, outside, lots of fresh air, running around, nice dinner, warm bath, loads of milk.... and STILL he won't sleep? I don't get it.... sometimes wish I could do CC but there is no way. He just has no other way of comforting himself - he can sleep either in buggy, car or suckling - but now suckling isn't enough, and he gets bored and starts biting me... so now I am lying there tense rather than relaxed and enjoying snuggles like we used to. Aaaaah!!!!! (loud scream) Feel like I have got it so wrong. So, so sorry for selfish rant.

Lenni OMG, you are LATE?! Hello? Wow, that's exciting... but from a purely selfish point of view, I am worried that with 3, you would never have time to post .

120 am knackered just reading about your weekend. Hope you made loads of dosh at the sale.

pat sounds like a lovely weekend. I was in Bristol today visiting my brother and dad - it was such gorgeous weather. I was actually tempted to call you and drop in for tea! But decided N had enough excitement for one day.

hkz ouch for hangover... Archers is good at the mo, isn't it? I am loving Helen and her baby storyline.

Sis was here over the weekend - we had lots of fun. Need to rant about my MIL but not the place really... .

have you tried singing lullabys? I'm going through the same thing at the moment and I try and sing the same couple of songs to him gently whilst feeding. Then on the evening when he is fed up of feeding and still not asleep, I hold him in the same position and sing to him. Seems to work provided he is actually tired.

Yes, that has been my theory all along - I have always sung the same 2 songs, and said 'shhhhh it's sleepytime' over and over again, in an attempt to 'condition' him for sleep! But no joy... I know he is super tired and ready for sleep, but he just doesn't give in.
BUT all is quiet upstairs now, and I barely heard crying, so maybe OH had success after all! I think I just need to leave them to it every night for a week or so, however long it takes and however loud it gets. I really don't think crying in OH's arms is going to hurt him? He's just cross, not distressed or abandoned.

nope, I reckon it sounds a perfect solution. Good luck.

Have only just got DD down again so am off to bed before the next episode starts! We'll be running out of drugs shortly..

Poor dd. Hope you all get a good night. N and oh asleep together so I am now in spare room, whole double bed to myself, what bliss.

MissJ, I've had plenty of totally useless sleep advice in my time but the one thing that always stuck was someone saying to me "If you want something to change, you have to change something." It was this buxom and very strict sleep advisor who was basically tell me that if I didn't want DD to co sleep then I needed to stop putting her in my bed. Well, she had a point

CC is a very effective and quick method to improving sleep but you have to be commited to it and prepared to do it more than once. I personally couldn't/wouldn't do it, but I do think some of the debate surrounding it has totally lost perspective and on here especially is just horrendous scaremongering.

FWIW that same sleep advisor told me that for most babies who haven't learnt to sleep around 3-6 months the next window of opportunity is usually exactly a year later at 15-18months. I remember being terrified as DD was 15mo at the time and thinking I have 3 months to make it work or I'm going to be stuck with a non-sleeper forever she did sleep by 18mo.

books.. hair photo please, on fb if necessary! The cake is amazing!!!

Sale went really well, and those who took my card came and bought online after, so all good! Most content. DD still really poorly so am working from home, DP working from home looking after her.

HZ, I owe you £12. Do you want me to charity the rest of the 50p stuff or do you want it back? I have a box of stuff I don't want, so am happy to do either for you.

By the way, I stuck to my guns and got you a fiver for those little boots! And yes, I never got round to cleaning or polishing them.

boikks - ur hair looks great nad wow with the cakes you are very talented lady

miss j -good luck with nyes sleeping.
bracken i same age and gave her morning nap up a while ago does he still seem to need it.
wondered if stopping morning nap would help
she just sleeps 12-2:30pm

hi to everone else

my mum over today
and me and bracken enjoyed swimming

wow. did you do the fringe too? Using the ponytail technique, or was that another one! Amazing to do it with straight hair, mine is messy/curly so it doesn't matter much if it is really wonky!

Yes, I have a part time day job doing IT database stuff, and do the baby massage poster site for fun and to learn new skills. Crazy, I know, but it is really more of a hobby as I haven't invested much, just the stock really.

He has had to go in for a meeting now, so my friend is looking after her while I try and get some online training done. Aggh. Called the doctors this morning and they told me not to bring her in as she has a temperature. WTF???? Gave the doc a piece of my mind and now have an appt. Thank God. She looks really puffy faced, white and unwell. Can still talk the hind legs off a donkey, so not at death's door, but still.

tink... you snuck in!

Where's the party? Is this a TV thing again?

Took DD to the doctor and apparently it's a UTI so now have a week of 3 meds a day for her. Glad I know what it is though.

Books...totally amazing cake...and haircut...where do I find this MN haircut...I seriously need to do it.

120..thank you for doing that...charity the left over stuff for sure. Much appreciated. How is L this evening? Glad she's still chatty

MissJ..hope the sleeping went well. Have no advice...DD just slept...and DS is ok, just wakes when hungry and goes back to sleep again. I left him to settle himself from about 6 months and that seemed to help. But I still dream of him sleeping 7-7....mmm...a full nights sleep...

Lenni any sign of AF yet? When will you hear if you have funding? Hope your DD had a better nights sleep too, when is your DH back?

had work this a.m. and J had blood tests at GOSH this afternoon....then in for biopsy number three tomorrow. met some more parents today who were all very friendly and old hands at being on the ward.

DH and I are still suffering from hangovers.... we are seriously out of practice...right, must recline upon the sofa and watch Desperate Housewives on catch up.